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Was talking to my ex tonight about plane tickets and plans for him taking our son home with him for christmas. Eventually we talked about our upcoming divorce and if we were both sure we wanted it to happen. He brought up my atheism. My ex was always a self proclaimed christian but it wasn't until our marriage turned bad that he began to read the bible, light jesus candles, and burn incense just like his mom who is catholic. He still does this daily now. He told me that my agnosticism or atheism is making me noticeably unhappy and miserable and that I need God. He said that I had told him that when I was a kid I would secretly taunt satan to see if anything would happen. He said that something did happen. Satan had turned me into an atheist so he could have me in hell. This really got me heated up...I told him that if he was going to spout that bullshit to me then I needed to go ahead and destroy his religion. I referenced every scientific, historical, and rational fact I know that disproves christianity. I referred him to educational videos. All he did was reference the bible and tell me he had always believed in God and Jesus and that would never change. Eventually we cordially got off the phone. In his eyes our religious beliefs are the main reason we are getting a divorce. This helps him easily forget all the verbal and emotional abuse and neglect I experienced with him while I paid for everything. God really does wash all your sins away I guess 😛.

This is the bible verse he referenced to me to explain why satan turned me atheist when I taunted him...

"Now listen to the explanation of the parable about the farmer planting seeds: The seed that fell on the footpath represents those who hear the message about the Kingdom and don't understand it. Then the evil one comes and snatches away the seed that was planted in their hearts."

lauraleigh38 6 Oct 21
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Rough. He’s making it easier to be ambivalent about the divorce. Those diffferences don’t sound reconcilable. Still, it’s a huge loss. Sorry. We understand and support you. ?

Not be ambivalent

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Well, some Christians say that tornadoes and hurricanes are God's punishment for homosexuality. Your ex's blame is just as ridiculous and harmful.

Sometimes "faith" allows people to be blind to the harms they cause. You know, like the Crusade and the Inquisition.

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I had to leave my marriage as my husband found religion. My youngest son is atheist and my eldest is more agnostic. My ex began to treat us like we were less than. You need to keep moving forward with your life. We are never less than because we don’t believe in fairy tales.

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He's using your absence of belief to shift the blame to you. Don't let him. He's abusive, not you. Be glad you're rid of him.

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"This helps him easily forget all the verbal and emotional abuse and neglect I experienced with him while I paid for everything" He didn't make financial contributions?

twill Level 7 Oct 22, 2018
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Unthinking zombie religion. Find your own path and best wishes for your son. Sure you will love him no matter his choices. Just let him know he has choices and that he needs to make them through and away from the fog and smoke and mirrors of those trying to choose for him. If he knows the truth, he will make an educated choice. As I have said elsewhere, I don't begrudge those who make "a leap of faith" and choose something they understand may not be real. People like your soon to be ex, well, they upset me because they are blindly going into the unknown and doing so thoughtlessly of themselves and others. Best wishes.

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After reading your bio and imagining your present environment might you consider moving? Since you work in the medical field you can get a job anywhere.

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How did you put up with that for however long you were married? You're a much wiser person now. Enjoy your much brighter future!

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Sounds like he was making you noticeably unhappy & miserable. I hope the conversation settled any misgivings you had about divorcing him. Good luck with your new life!

Carin Level 8 Oct 22, 2018
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