My two cents.... I don't consider it a waste of time. Each and everyone I have interacted with, one message exchange or the extent of long conversations for a while, it all has been a learning experience. Sometimes it is pleasant, others not so much but still a memory non the less. Sometimes the deal gets broken, interrupted or plain forgotten either way. It's actually an interesting challenge to find ways to keep acquaintances interested in the long run, let alone hoping for something else.

Very sad,but now the choice; Learn from it,or fall into a depression,the search for another like minded person is not easy,they say love will find us when we are not looking,have you tried a local meet up group,or a free thinkers gathering? Just some ideas....

I am so sorry this happened to you. We try to avoid pain. When we see someone else go through it we all feel it all over again. We're here for you of course.

If someone is out of your life, thats usually where they belong. Nice to have you back, Michael

IME, it has nothing to do with distance. My wife and I lived on opposite sides of the globe for two years while we were "dating". Finally married in '05. This is our 14th year together. It sounds like you're a busy man and I don't know you, but from the way you describe yourself, probably not "available" in the way this person wanted or felt they needed. I'm guessing of course.

Sorry this happened to you. Rejection is demoralizing!

Could it be that those two months may have been a sort of messed up version of an audition? One that she ultimately judged that you failed? She may have had a whole checklist of points that she was scoring you on. If that was the case, then she's too self absorbed to make a good companion in the long run. I know that sounds cynical but it happens enough to be a possibility.

Those two months were not completely wasted. You experienced happiness in the moment. If you were truly happy, then it was not all in vain. I'm sorry things didn't work out.

DON'T let this experience stop you from trying again. We all deserve to be loved. You will find love again.

DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE DEFEATED. She is just one person who wasn't meant for you. She's not the only woman in the world who can love you and appreciate YOU! Remember that.

While I never leave anyone hanging , without an explanation - I have given in to the fantasy of "what if" - in the case of someone far away. I wrote for a while , just like you both did . But then reality comes roaring back in - especially if both parties have deep roots down where they're living. Then - poof ! It suddenly seems like a major waste of time to continue.
Not to say distance can't be managed, because some do it. But it does present some special challenges that many are not willing to deal with. I know I'm not.

In this case, there's also a chance she met someone geographically closer.

My sympathies - truly.

Hey Michael, That sucks dude. This is part of the process of dating, sorry to say. Distance is a theoretical for a lot of people until they start doing it. Also it is a convenient excuse so I wouldn't assume that's the real reason. The reason might have nothing to do with you at all.

Check out The Four Agreements, one of which is: Don't take anything personally.

• Nothing others do is because of you
• What others say and do is a projection of their own reality
• When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering
  [psychologytoday.com]

Easier said than done. I found it helpful. I hope you do too. Good luck!

When you find another woman (and you will) - don't leave us. We are still community site not just for dating.

Are you still talking to her?

That is one of the biggest hurdles to jump is the distance thing on here. Many of us have run across this more than once. Could have been her escape route out knowing this up front. Just wasn't meant to be. It is tough, most of us have been there or dealing with it on some level knowing there is no getting around it.

Sorry about your luck man. Damned if we do, damned if we don't right?

I'm sorry Michael that's hard to take. I'd be emotionally drained too.

Hang in there. Get your feet back under you and try again.

Sorry to hear Michael. Lots of new folks in Singles/Mingle/Chatroom. Hope to see you there.

You were just getting to know her. She decided the distance was a deal breaker. This is understandable.

I refuse to get twitterpated over a man before meeting.

The quickest and surest way to ruin the good and fun times is to load them up with expectations in advance.

Repeat after me: Nothing is real until you meet.

Ouch..

My only date from here ended similarly, except she made plans for a second date with me and then suddenly decided not to and ghosted. It sucks. I hope you at least got some closure on her reasoning. Ambiguous grief is the toughest kind.

Welcome back to the asylum.

Sorry things didn't work out. Good luck moving forward.