Teach your daughters to be breadwinners.
It benefits the family’s finances.
I was taught to be a breadwinner and even if I make less than my future spouse it still benefits the family.
Lesser paid jobs are not necessarily less stressful or take less time. I would say one of my most stressful jobs was being a bagger at a grocery store. So might as well be paid well for your time and energy because being paid less for your time and energy doesn’t mean you will get more time and energy for yourself.
Also get rid of the stereotypes that you can’t be in a high paying field and be a great mom.
You can work from home as a chemical engineer doing design work (I know several fathers who do this). They not only get to work from home, but also get to be paid more for the hours that they do work. Pick a major that you love that is highly paid, and then find the niche that fits your lifestyle.
I would say you are more likely to have work flexibility the higher paid you are because companies will compete for your time.
Yes, that's exactly right, and conversely, it is also important to teach your sons that it is okay if their wife/girlfriend/SO is the primary source of income. The fact of the matter is that it's impossible to truly create a situation where you can create an environment for women to comfortable with being breadwinners if men, such as myself, are not supportive of women breadwinners.
Amen to all of that. I am from the generation that told girls to look for their prince, not be forward, etc. Crippling girls with low esteem is what generates teenagers having babies because they're desperate for love and self-expression. Being used by the boys around you and getting pregnant before you even know yourself is wrong. Teach your girls to be somebodies, not to be somebody's. Schools need to encourage the learning of everything across the board, no saying only boys learn this and only girls learn that. Girls and women must be taught to support themselves first and demand equal treatment in position and pay. On the same hand, boys should study anything they want without being told it's only for girls.
When we were raising our kids, we encouraged them to get some education in a field that there was a need. My youngest son and my wife who was a CPA talked a lot about business. He got a degree in Business Administration, and has done well in business. My youngest daughter and I did well in math and science. She got a degree in civil engineering, and was a summer intern with the Corp of Engineers, and got hired by them when she graduated. Her job title is Hydraulic Engineer as was mine. She also makes quite a bit more than her husband. She is a branch chief now, still with the CORP. An older daughter got a masters in counseling, and has her own business. Another daughter went to business school, and is currently a manager in a soft ware development company. As we had a fairly large family, all kids took turns cooking, house cleaning, washing their own laundry. They all got an allowance, and when in High School, used the allowance to buy their own clothes, and any entertainment, school expenses, etc.
May I offer a counter-thought? First, a woman who wants to develop a profession and a career has my support and admiration. One thing I see overlooked though is the woman who wants to be a mom and focus on family. There is a viable option that often gets overlooked. My mom always said "I can make more money at home than I can in a job." She explained a couple of points. Cooking: good planning and with good budgeting she could provide better meals cheaper and a better table experience for everyone. Knowledge: by growing bright children, helping her husband get ahead, and supporting his goals & networking. Community involvement: better schools, safer neighborhoods, more social opportunities.
Secretaries are way under paid... teachers too. You get fare treatment as a engineer at refinery and chemical plants. Even engineering in radiation for nuclear plants. Union jobs such as electrician., instrumentation, welding, pipefitter, millwright, machinist. I've been there and seen this opportunity for females. You got to know what you want to be an equal pay to a man... You do the training and you'll get the job and pay.