Teach your daughters to be breadwinners.
It benefits the family’s finances.
I was taught to be a breadwinner and even if I make less than my future spouse it still benefits the family.
Lesser paid jobs are not necessarily less stressful or take less time. I would say one of my most stressful jobs was being a bagger at a grocery store. So might as well be paid well for your time and energy because being paid less for your time and energy doesn’t mean you will get more time and energy for yourself.
Also get rid of the stereotypes that you can’t be in a high paying field and be a great mom.
You can work from home as a chemical engineer doing design work (I know several fathers who do this). They not only get to work from home, but also get to be paid more for the hours that they do work. Pick a major that you love that is highly paid, and then find the niche that fits your lifestyle.
I would say you are more likely to have work flexibility the higher paid you are because companies will compete for your time.