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I will NOT fight for a place in someone's life or in someone's heart...

If someone values me, they will keep a place in their heart for me.

SleeplessInTexas 8 Dec 23
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Well said! Yes! I always felt I had to fight. So I'd put my heart out there and then be grateful for whatever I got back, and I won't do that anymore. Don't have the time and energy to waste on that.

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Definitely right. If everyone knows the others value both will do their best to keep this love alive, without saying anything. At the moment where you need to fight for it, something went wrong.

Yucel Level 3 Dec 24, 2018
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If you have to fight for them, then they aren't the right person.

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It's always boggled my mind how so many people think that love is something to fight for. It's as if they are saying someone can be forced to love them, or that they can be forced to love.

That's not the way it works.

Love is an incredibly beautiful and fulfilling feeling. It's either there or it isn't. Sometimes it lasts a lifetime. Sometimes it lasts for a very brief period of time, and neither of those scenarios is less or more valid than the other.

Love fiercely, deeply, completely, and unconditionally. Begin with yourself, and others will follow.

No need to fight.

Very well said.

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My ex, who had a pregnant girlfriend at the time of our divorce, was angry at me because I didn't fight to keep him. Good riddance!

I will never compete for attention

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Same. Love, attraction, interest, respect: you either have it for me, or you don't. I have no interest in forcing--or even coaxing-- any of these. I find that disrespectful to both of us.

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My daughter's are in their early/mid twenties - and hardly ever call. Of course I know they have their lives, just as I did at that age, but I decided way back then to call my family at the first of every month. I realized then, and I tell them now - you make time in your life for the things that are important to you.

@sweetcharlotte I wouldn't say it makes me sad, just disappointed. Of course, I don't do facebook or any other social media...so part of the lack of communication can be put on my shoulders. And yes, I have told them that plenty of times. Of course, I get the I'm sorry, I'll do better, and maybe they will for a month or so....then it's back into the same routine. I'm learning to live my life and build up around me what I need to be happy. It's a big change, esp since I was the custodial parent, and put my life completely on hold (minus work and grad school) for them during that time. I really put too much focus on them, and forgot I needed to have interests and activities outside of being a dad - but missing so much at the beginning when I was int he Marines kinda pushed me to the other side of the pendulum. Again, not sad, just disappointed they don't seem willing or able to learn from my successes or mistakes. But who does, right?

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To me,it's as if blindfolded,walking barefoot through a mine field.

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If two Women you have told know about each other(no e mails or texting,yet) are vying for your heart,how does one make a choice,without breaking the others heart?

@Mike1947, I'm not gonna fight over a guy.

I almost made that dumb mistake a little while back. F××k him and his little girl! LOL!

I'm reality, she's fiction. Can't mix both.

I'm a quality woman. I deserve a quality man.

I would have regretted my decision too little too late. All the signs were there. As petty as they seemed, but they are red flags that my intuition picked up on.

They're clear as daylight even more now.

2019 is going to be different. I'm going to raise my standards.

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