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Does anyone else notice people creep your profile but never say "Hi"? And by creep I mean look at it over and over.

Jama765 7 Jan 20
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That just tells you that someone is interested in you.
Why does it bother you so much that someone's looking over your profile so much... if you feel that someone violating your personal body in some way then take your posts down or take your profile down... if you feel uncomfortable and your life is threatened in some way then you need to leave this website.
But I suspect if you get on even to Facebook or Twitter or another dating website...you're going to go through the same thing.😞

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I don't find repetitive viewing to be creepy whatsoever because I think it only natural, considerate, cautious, and smart, especially when attempting to connect with strangers via the internet, to search, re-search, get similar results numerous times, need to refresh one's memory, think and rethink, and come back again with more time availability or when one's reasons/status changes to actually initiate a connection. Lastly, secret admirers, I don't think, are problemmatic especially when from a distance; not everyone is so fortunate to be admired by anyone.

Very nice train of thought. I enjoy other peoples perceptions.Thanks!!

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???

Don't be scaring the woman now!

@Wildflower to late. Already started randomly following her, looked at her profile twice, and never left a message. ??

Maybe some unnecessary baseless paranoia everywhere, too, for some?! 😉

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I had to turn off the hover option, so that I wasn't seeing everytime someone just passed over my avatar it showed them looking at my profile. My memory is not what it used to be, and I will use whatever easy crutches are available. I have a tendency to read too fast and I will go back later to make sure what I read is what I should have read. I don't know if that helps in your case since today was my first visit to your profile. I am more concerned about followers than I am visitors, but since I encourage people to follow 2 or 3 people to lead you through the site, I take that with a grain of salt.

And, too, after reading a number of posts, one ends to forget the uniqueness of each without going back time and time again because so many overlap in various ways.

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Yes but it doesn’t really concern me. If I had illicit pics it would.. but that would explain the frequent visits. Other than that, I’m just not that fascinating.

Maybe more than you think you are. 🙂

A professional er nurse from canada, independant, strong , kind and interesting. You sell yourself short!

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i am now going to constantly check all your profiles.

I saw you looking!

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Always, I do that on purpose just to creep people out. Works everytime lol

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It could just be that someone is searching for a date or contact in your area.

I just looked at your page with an iPad and down the right hand column it shows all the women nearby to you (I’m male, so the dating engine must search your area when I view your profile. Looking to match me up with those nearby maybe.)

So it could be something as simple as the person bookmarking your page to view that list regularly. Not even interested in you.

I don’t think you need to freak. 🙂

Yes that is my search strategy geographically

You can remove ‘those nearby’ from your profile page, there’s an option in settings. Hope that helps. 🙂

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Now I'm totally curious. Looks like I've got some hovering to do!

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I agree with Lucy-Fehr a lot of it could just be accident, the profile menu is where my mouse naturally tends to go when I move it to one side, and the profiles that pop up can be annoying. At the same time I think that it is often a good idea to check the profile of a poster before commenting, as this helps you to understand the post better, and I wish that I was more disciplined and had the patience to do it more often.

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Ive noticed that people I am interacting with on the threads check my profile.
I do the same thing
I also inadvertently hover over recent visitors when I move my mouse to the right which will look like a visit. I presume that the something similar happens with my visitors.

But if you all ARE creeping my profile, feel free to message me

I do not have a mouse on my NOT SO SMART GALAXY SAMSUNG phone

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I should say I'm not referring to someone looking at a profile.once. but many many times.

It may just indicate a level of interest whether it be your bio, your pics, your details, or something else entirely. You could also just message and ask why.

I doubt that qualifies as window peepers who need binoculars or trespass to your window....geographically other people we might contact are listed below all profiles....peeping restrictions destroy community and reduces our posts to cliques and secret small groups

You are attractive and they are hesitant to communicate with you because they are shy. I used to be like that. Not on the internet, just in general.

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Yeah, I just did it to you. I think that conservative word on your profile may turn some folks off. Oh, by the way, hi!

What word is that?

@Jama765 conservative

@chucklesIII I do not have conservative on my profile. My city is Connersville. Could you have misread that?

@Jama765 Yes. I'm an idiot.

@chucklesIII You just cheeky.

@chucklesIII I felt like one trying to figure out why I'd have conservative on mine. Lol

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Doesn't bother me one bit. They could at least drop off some tacos and Coronas, but I forgot to take down the "ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK" sign. That might help.

Mmmm, tacos.

If they gave tacos they could creep me all day. I guess I find it odd someone would look at a profile multiple times and never say hi. Why keep looking. Lol

@Jama765 With all due respect and with all of the responses you've gotten thus far, I don't know why it is you continue to profess you don't understand at this point. I would think someone might have gotten through to you by now considering so many plausible and similar responses have been made to your query.

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Like I just did to you....no never noticed that ever! 🙂 Sometimes I just like (or don't like) what the person has to say, or am interested in their pics, or curious about where they live. Doesn't always mean I want or feel the need to PM every person who's profile I look at.

Do you look at the same profile 100 times over a year? I find it odd when people do that.

@Jama765 There are a few I check out multiple times, but that is b/c they really impress me. I would also add that I actually 'talk' to them via PM and/or comments to posts.

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I've had over 550 people look at my profile in less than a year. I don't think I'd want to hear from all of them... especially since much of the contact wouldn't be positive! lol The more you post the more you know.

Very true. But I'm curious why someone looks at my profile over and over.

@Jama765 ask them directly not vaguely...s/he might assume you like her/him...and a direct question might stop the peeping...it's not creeping unless it's obvious when it continues after being confronted

@Jama765 What difference does it make? Good golly, it appears you're beating a dead horse into the ground, or are you simply using this query as a ploy for more attention which I don't think a young pretty lady like you actually needs more of?

@ScrabbleQueen first of off, this post is over 6 months old. Secondly, I would get notifications when someone looked at my profile. Some users looked 3 or 4 times daily. I asked a general question just to see what others had to say. I use the app on my phone and I actually learned that using the site on a laptop can cause it to appear as though the users looked multiple times a day. So, my question to you is do you have such a problem with someone learning how the site works and if so why.

@Jama765 friends only requested should deter creeps....I must say your red hair is stunning .....however many people have noted here that frequent posting is bound to cause a blip of followers....you write well thoughtfully and you are the median age here half younger half older so I get to use a new word complimenting you "doyenne"....when I am propositioned by gays I don't get angry or run....I say thank you I am flattered but I am a virgin in your expectations and only appreciate Feminist Atheists......that leaves a tiny window of hope if they are trans post OP but most are religious so I apologize for my inability to respect faith regarding alleged gawds

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I will visit a profile if I see a comment of interest to get a feel of what might have prompted it. I don't always follow up with a comment of my own. Never once thought of it as creeping. Hi.

I don't eother if it is just one time. But I get some that look at it multiple times multiple days.

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It's really too easy to creep. Mouse just passes over.

I really do not pay attention to that.

I have the app so I didnt think if that. Thank you!

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Just creeped - Hi

Hi! And looking once isnt creeping. Lol

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I don’t bother paying attention to that. I am glad each person doesn’t feel the need to contact me. I prefer only to hear from those that take a sincere interest in contacting me.

Very true. I am just curious if anyone else notices users looking at their profile multiple times.

@Jama765 Now it sounds as though your query is intended to take a poll, but, for what purpose?! LOL!

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Since their visits get counted, it seems that a wave is not needed. But I agree it would be proper to say hi.

I just figure if they are that interested to look at my profile over and over they might as well say hi.

@Jama765 i know what you mean. Everything now is sped up and abbreviated. It's a shame in a way because, even though it's more efficient, the niceties and the formalities add a lot of fun to our interactions. You learn a lot about a person just in the way they introduce themselves.

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There, I just did it. Oh wait, I didn't. Oh well.

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It’s a catch-22.
If you “hover” or look at a profile - and discover the age differential is large or the distance is great, you have two choices:

  1. do nothing (and risk being labeled as a creeper)... or
  2. say “hi” - and potentially “creep out” someone that thinks you’re too old...

That's why I disabled that function.

PS: I’m always respectful. Many times a “hover” is accidental, you know...

@NoMagicCookie Thanks. I think I will too.

@Santanaman9 over 99% of my hovers were accidental. Wish that feature was by default disabled.

I meant when someone looks at your profile multiple times.

I use the app so that didnt even occure to me.

@Jama765 That makes a lot more sense to me now. I comprehend and acknowledge.

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Hi!!!!

Hi

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Hell...I thought saying hi was my big taboo....I always msg my interest

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