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My friend and I were having a discussion about phone privacy and if your significant other should be able to go through your phone. We differed on wether or not it should be allowed. She said she wouldn't like it but would let it happen because " What are you going to do?"

I told her to "Pop them in the nose with a fruit roll up." She was confused and asked "How the fuck do you do that?"

This was my reply:

Well.... Its easy really. First you unwrap the roll up, right. Then unroll it and take a nickel and stick it to one end. A quarter is too heavy and will bust right through. Next take the other end (opposite of the nickel) and hold it in your dominant hand. Then start, in a clock wise motion, swinging the unrolled roll up around your head like a lasso. Next you identify your target and take aim. Your target will be mesmerized by the candy lasso, so take your time and aim carefully. Then with the might of a thousand oxen swing the roll up at your target. Obvious target points on a human are face region. Eyes, nose, throat that kind of thing. With a good hit your target will drop the phone and never pick it up again. If they live through the ordeal tell them you were aiming for their mouth so they could have a tasty treat.

Yes, mostly this post was to showcase my clever roll up attack but I'm also curious on others take on if you should allow others to look through your phone. So, should they?

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McWalsoft 6 Feb 24
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If you trust your partner no need to look through phone. What would you be looking for?

lerlo Level 8 Mar 9, 2019
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I don't have anything to hide, & if there was some practical reason they needed to look at my phone I'd be fine. If I felt they were trying to check up on me, I'd be more concerned about the relationship than angry--they should not be involved with someone they don't trust, right?

& I need a video of the fruit roll-up trick. How much coordination does it take?

Carin Level 8 Feb 26, 2019
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Not a phone, computer, pin number, tax info, joint FB, etc. If you need to do that to be in a relationship, you both have trust issues, and probably should not be together. Friend of mine's ex was talking to another guy. He would always be nosy and ask who she is texting, calling, etc. They were both talking to other people.

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I also believe in trust in relationships. I was married for 8 and trusted my wife implicitly. That is until one night she fell asleep with her phone in bed and when I came in to go to sleep her phone kept buzzing, someone was texting her repeatedly I picked up the phone to turn it off when it buzzed again. The screen read hey you still there with a heart ❤️. I’m not married anyone

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I believe in privacy in relationships, which extends to phones, computer accounts, and mail. I've never cheated on a partner, but if they felt I needed to prove my fidelity, I'd be gone. I do need to say, however, that if anything that's left sitting open and out so anyone could see it, I'll probably read it. And I'd expect anyone to do the same. For me, if there isn't trust, there isn't a relationship. I think jealousy says a great deal more about the accuser than the accused. So I'll need to save the roll up attack for other situations.

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I have no aversion to anyone flipping through my phone, but DO take issue with my SO wanting or feeling the need to. I am in no way a cheater and would see all kinds of red flags if my SO doesn't know or believe that. Broken trust is almost impossible to repair. I think I would feel very differently toward anyone who so disbelieves in me and my core values.

FWIW - In my own experience, SOs who are so insecure are often hiding THEIR willingness to cheat on ME from me.

Zster Level 8 Feb 24, 2019
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I’m dead, laughed til I fell over!😂

If a partner has so little trust, he/she is done. If he/she tries to coerce, or manipulate me into allowing it: HELL no.

My phone is MINE. My privacy is MINE. My phone, fuckers, is MINE. My fave fruit roll ups are strawberry. I’m ready to roll!

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In a good (open, honest and trustworthy) relationship, one should have no objections with sharing the phone's history etc. as there should be nothing not expected on the phone

My brother recently accused me of being addicted to opioids. I don’t even TAKE pain meds. Sure, I could easily ‘prove’ I’m not a drug user and have nothing to hide...but why should I? It won’t change what others think.
Don’t trust me? It’s their problem and they need to decide whether they trust me. Or not.

@CarolinaGirl60 non sequitur

@NoMagicCookie My point is: if my partner trusts me so little, I’m not going to ‘prove’ it by giving in to them wanting in my phone. The implication is that if I won’t allow it, I have something to hide.

I’ve been unfairly accused of various things, especially from my narcissistic mother. (& brother). I quickly developed a resistant attitude about it. Life is too short for me to try changing the minds of others. Never has worked, never will work.

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If you need to look through my phone you have no trust, so go on ahead and text yourself goodbye from it.

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There's nothing on my phone that I want to hide. I wouldn't trust someone who had something I wasn't allowed to see.

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Spending the next few days practicing the fruit roll up attack. ?

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If you have a lock on the phone,why tell her the number? Would you give her your bank account number also? Sure,trust issues,even in a marriage there should be some privacy,I'd think....

My daughter trusted an ex. He used her personal info to steal $80,000 from her. He’s in prison now for identity theft.

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In a committed relationship.. if my partner asked to see my phone i would let them..
But i don't know how much longer we would be in a relationship after that.. especially if they had to ask a second time..
That level of mistrust does not belong..

Easier if both sides just communicated

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For me, it wouldn't even progress as far as deciding whether I would allow it or not - we'd be having a very serious discussion on the importance of trust and how nobody who trusts their partner would even want to do such a thing. And if that wasn't taken onboard, it'd be goodbye.

(I love the roll-up attack stuff, by the way!)

Jnei Level 8 Feb 24, 2019
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