My mom's refrigerator!
My mom died early Wednesday morning. I've decided that offering someone your condolences misses the point. It's true I will miss her, but I'm also I'm glad she's gone. It's not a lose. She had a good life. During the last ten years she experienced some serious road 'humps', but she was determined to do as much as she could and she made the best out of it. She lived to be 89.
The magnets got re-arranged a bit, but pretty much the way they were.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Thanks for this reminder that death isn’t always a loss. Sometimes it’s just the end of pain, others the end of loneliness. Sometimes it’s just over. For your mom, it sounds like she lived and died on her own terms, and that’s great! Best wishes as you tie up the last strings to this chapter, and prepare for the next.
Justjoni
Level 8
May 9, 2019
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When someone dies about when expected without a lot of suffering and after a full, remarkable, enjoyable life, I agree that it's not a loss in the sense that the experience is (or should be) already "priced in".
I hope you know how lucky you are that your mother ticked all those boxes.
mordant
Level 8
Mar 7, 2019
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Yes, she ran the obstacle course pretty well.
Something we all will face one day or night,our last few hours of life before passing away,is there life after death? Hard to say,we believe in another phase of life, but that's not well defined,perhaps a endless void.....
Mike1947
Level 7
Mar 7, 2019
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I don't think of it is as a void. Your character doesn't exist anymore and your body begins decaying. The last 24 hours she wasn't conscious. Waited for her organs to shut down. She was already gone, just not gone.
@AstralSmoke My late wife of 27 years,died in our home in 2017, in the living room on a hospital bed,she just faded away,died with her eyes open,she was a smoker with aggressive lung cancer taking her life,quitting a number of years ago but i think when she had stomach reduction surgery and contracting Cee-Dif,the cancer became energized.
I still have my Mum's magnets.
I'm sorry for your loss.
RavenCT
Level 9
Mar 7, 2019
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Magnets can be fun.
@AstralSmoke Hey they showed places we went and places I sent them from. Plus humor and trinkets from other family members.
I was glad I got to keep them.
I was her primary caregiver so I might ha e missed her more than the others - much more friends than mother and daughter. 
you had mentioned you were caring for her. You must be relieved.
btroje
Level 9
Mar 7, 2019
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Yes and no. More free time. I've entered the second phase. The end goal is to sell the estate and house, just in time for the next chapter.
@AstralSmoke I rented out the house we called home for 15 years,too many memories,her falls,the walker she used to get around, before the cancer spread to her bones and organs.
@Mike1947 No doubt there are people who have a lot tougher time than I have or my mom had.
Looks like she enjoyed life as much as she could to me.
Jolanta
Level 9
Mar 7, 2019
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She really did.
Sorry for your loss. Take good care of yourself.
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Mar 7, 2019
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