Hello everyone! I'm a recovering ex-cult member and joined this site in an effort to learn more about life after religion.
I didn't realise I was raised in a cult until I (finally) went to a non-religious therapist, and she opened my eyes to a lot of things. Grateful to have the second half of my life to explore and learn about this gorgeous world we live in.
Since packing my suitcase and leaving home, I've sold a house, gotten divorced, lost my beloved teaching job, and learned both my parents have terminal illnesses. It's been a rollercoaster, but I'm keeping my head up and swimming along.
Looking forward to interacting with others here who have had similar experiences.
Wow . Welcome to the community . That's quite a ride you have had.
What you described is a lot...first, my heart goes out to you! I would suggest that you keep your life as simple as possible. If you keep the small things managed, that will help maintain confidence when you must tackle the bigger ones. At least as you adjust to your new life without the ‘cult,’ you will gather momentum and adjust your life in a way that nurtures and supports your nature. Be patient...you are building something different, learn to feel the ground beneath your feet and carry your head with a sense of purpose. If you error, no big deal, just do things differently, you will feel more leveled out as time passes. And, don’t forget to recognize the joy and beauty in the small things. They will be the tonic, when so many things seem to be deteriorating all at once. Make a life that fits you...that always works. My best to you.
Thank you so much! patience is a tough one for me...
@OutreDragon when your patience has warn thin...and after you may need to scream...have a talk with yourself, as you would any good friend (maybe even a stranger) be kind and supportive and remind yourself that you still have a life to live! And LIVE it! An aching heart does not indicate your life is a failure...
Welcome to the freedom that science thinking can give you. It is not as difficult as you suppose.
G'day! Any particular flavour of cult? Just asking our of idle curiosity, so please feel free to ignore.
Independent fundamental KJV-only slap-your-grandma Baptist.
@OutreDragon Oooh, nasty.
Welcome! Please don't get offended,scared or annoyed by anyone ?
It takes a heck of a lot to offend me, especially online, where IMHO the best approach is to 1) take everything with a grain of salt and 2) assume everyone has the best possible intentions
First congratulations on getting out the cult. Houses are sold everyday. Divorcing your spouse is a big step, and sometimes necessary. Regarding teaching, once you are a teacher, you will always be a teacher (is in your blood) I am sorry for your parents, it is always sad, but that's our nature. be always aware and enjoy every moment of your life
As you transition out of theism, remember… Just as you never feared the alleged afterlives of other religions, you have no reason to fear the afterlife of your former religion. -HTG
Wow this quote hit me hard. Thank you.
It's tough to wriggle out of the grasp of cultists, especially if your parents are members. I congratulate you, sympathize that you had to go through that, and welcome you to the world of reason, as well as to this site. Your mind will take you as far as you let it.
Very sorry to hear of your parents’ illness...that’s the biggie in your statement.
I offer condolences or congratulations on your divorce...please accept whichever applies.
...everything else can be replaced...enjoy the adventure.
There’s nice people here.