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At our cores, everyone has a set of morals, but I think most people say they “are moral” or “have morals,” they use it as a shorthand meaning that they have good intentions or see themselves as a good person. On a couple other dating sites I see people mention that they’re moral (along with their religion). I guess I just find it meaningless to state such a thing. Wouldn’t it be more effective to state what some of your most important morals are?

JDKsaysHi 3 May 18
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very few people ever question their core values.
I think atheists do it the most.
my moral precept consists of
don't hurt people.
don't take their stuff.
is war necessary?

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I feel the same way about "family values".

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Stating what your morals are could be a bit too specific for a dating site. Some people want to throw a wider net and then narrow it down

lerlo Level 8 May 19, 2019

I didn't know this was a dating site, is that why all these women are coming onto me.

@m16566 you might want to re-read the guy's question or are you just bragging? 🙂

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You are wrong. Some people are truly amoral. Others express morality, but their behavior says otherwise.

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MY morals?!? Well,
if I do something wrong I feel bad about it.
I don't enjoy feeling bad.
*I make a mental note not to do it again.
Next question.

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“Friendly” would be a better term. Friendly people don’t try to harm others, and they both give and receive. Moral sounds like a mushroom and suggests self-righteousness.

I've met several , whose friendleness , had more to do with what they figure they can weasel out of you , than any interest in sharing time with you .

@Cast1es OK, I’ll change it to sincere long-term friendliness.

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I think you are spot on. People label themselves idealistically. I am always a little surprised by those who consider themselves freethinkers and liberal in attitude when in action seem to be.. hmm.. not so much.

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If I tell you that I have morals they will be my morals and not your morals. After learning this you have to also learn that people all over the world and in other societies have different morals.

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Welcome to the asylum. Enjoy your stay.

I keep my morals to myself. They're my business.
I don't have to tell anyone about them, I just live by them.

I really don't have much use for people who like to throw that word around.
In my experience, they usually don't have much of a concept of what it
actually means, and they generally don't have very good ones.

"Morals" are NOT about your expectations of others.
They are about your expectations of yourself.

"Moralistic" I think we'd call that quality: "judging people and trying to make them behave according to standards of right and wrong that never change and may be too severe or unfair".

@mojo5501 Yeah, I have no use for those kind of people.
Most of them turn out to be real hypocrites anyway.

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I see stating that one has morals as a red flag. I feel the word has been co-opted by detestable people.

Much like the American Flag....now it's become the symbol of patriotic zealots and Trumpsters.

@mojo5501 It used to be disrespectful to wear hats, t-shirts, socks, etc., that had the American Flag pattern on it. The flag was for the flag and nothing else. Now the most "patriotic" people are wearing the flag. "Wrapping yourself in the flag" used to be metaphoric hyperbole to point out hypocrisy. No longer. The hypocrisy is hugged openly like Trump hugging the flag.

@greyeyed123 Spot on and well put. I have two little flags I put in my flower pots for Memorial Day, July 4th, and Veteran's Day....that is the extent of my flag display. Part of me is so embarrassed and sad about what DT and his followers have done to my image of our nation and any pride I used to have....my father is a Navy veteran also.

@greyeyed123 I'm old enough to remember the rage towards hippies wearing flag themed apparel. Now those hippies are all old, still wearing flag shit and voting for Trump

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