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I deleted all my adopted family off Facebook beside my mom...they all disowned me when I came out as an atheist

MayRebel 5 Mar 17
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I’m sorry that sucks. Maybe they will come around. It took a little while for some of my family to except it. But I came out at twelve.

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Im sorry thats an awful thing, all over how they feel, ?! I wouldn't just do the best i could ,not deal with judgmental people like that

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Welcome to your new family. True family will love you no matter what.

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Sounds like they're in a cult. Congratulations on your escape! You should find new friends and a more normal life after some "growing pains". But that's just normal, right? Welcome in the outside!

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They do the same thing to people who come out as gay, trans, or who even change church affiliations.
In my family, it was for divorce; I was ostracized when my cheating ex ran off with a younger woman (to my vast relief). But according to them, somehow, I was to blame, and my religious mom would plead for me to try harder to please him!

In the 1970s, my mom didn't write me for a year after I mentioned I was attending a different church denomination

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A lot of them will come around

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Enjoy your life. Take care.

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I know it's a small consolation to have a bunch of strangers sending you messages of support. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I didn't have anything like that I'm my own life. My family didn't understand but they didn't disown me. I think the worse thing was that my mom told me that her biggest regret was not instilling God in her children at an early age. I was like, before I learned to reason you mean?
Maybe they will come around... Assuming you still want them in your life. I hope things get better for you.

JeffB Level 6 Mar 18, 2018
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I know that's tough, @MayRebel because I've been through the same. Okay, it was 60+ years ago, but the rejection is the same and I do remember it. Only my mother understood and accepted me for who I was. She was cool about the whole thing.

Bear in mind, family is not restricted to blood line (well, technically it is) and perhaps you can build a semblance of family here and in other places where we are accepted without conditions.

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Congrats on losing bullshiters..

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sounds like some serious cult behavior on their part...you will have more friends on here than you can shake an electronic stick at....haha

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You're better off without them.

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Fuck them, if they choose fairytales over reality why would you want them in your life. im friendly with a few religious people but we both know religion isnt a topic to bring up. I think if someone penly starts talking about religion knowing your beliefs there being rude . How would they feel if you brought up the subject of porn, drugs and booze?

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What a bunch of turkeys. Grrr! Can't understand being such a knucklehead. That makes me angry. Christians are so willing to hurt people, they will stop at nothing if that's what it takes to manipulate other sheeple. F*ck them! That's what I say.

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Welcome. I would reinforce what some have said here: losing your family, despite their cruelty, can be earth-shattering. Please make sure you surround yourself with supportive and emotionally healthy people in real life. You'll find plenty of people like that online here 😉 . Good luck and peace.

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Relatives and family are not always the same thing.

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I left a cult when I was 18 and was disowned by a whole community, not just my mother's family. My father's family never joined. She married outside the cult because they got together one drunk night and I was the eventual result.

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Friends are the family you get to choose.

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Thats such a shame but it shows your adopted families level of commitment to something uncertain. Truth without investigation = indoctrination. My advice leave them in the bronze age, good riddens.

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Fuck em, they're not real family or friends if they are that petty. When this sort of thing happens, it's a clear indicator who really cares about you and who is nothing more than some insincere prick.

Those that are willing to disown family or friends over such a benign thing that is no different than a thought crime were never accepting of you from the start. They only expect you fall in line and uphold tradition for its own sake. You will find out in time that you are better off without those people in your life being negative influences, so keep a strong stride and be happy you now know who truly cares about you.

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Welcome to the community, just thought I should let you know I could always use another daughter.

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It's always a shame when someone's atheism causes rifts in their family. If fact it's a shame when anything causes rifts in a family - but there does seem to be a view in some (indeed many) religious communities that 'ceasing to be a member' is a monstrous crime that cannot be forgiven.

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You will learn to live your own life

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I worry about my family & friends finding out too. They don’t know I gave up my faith. Plus I found out a few years ago my youngest sister and her husband are also closet atheist. When my parents found out my boyfriend is an open & loud atheist, I got the 3rd degree and 20 questions about it. Now 3 years later my parents call him son but we all don’t talk about reglious things out of respect.

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Yeah I blocked most of mine they were super delusional,I had a aunt say to me please stop posting science stuff it contradicts her religion,I said fine I will if you stop posting delusional religious shit,she didn't stop and I couldn't take it anymore. Lol

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