And: to the OP:::: This is a great question. Something we all are confronted with. Thank you for getting us to think about our behavior.

Late 90's:
There was a crash near our business. The woman and boy were unconscious. The girl was able to tell me her home phone number. I borrowed a phone. No answer.
I asked her her address.
They were just three miles from home. I found father doing yard work. Obviously enjoying his day off.
I got him in my car, and told him to call anyone using my car phone. (It was the 90's.)
He called his pastor.
We arrived at the hospital before the ambos.
The pastor arrived just after us.
The three of us were placed in a small room, with six chairs that barely fit.
I told the pastor what i knew.
We sat close. With barely space between the chairs, the pastor, holding the father's hand, went to his knees.
They reached for my hands. I responded.
I held tight. I was NOT going to give this man anything but support.
The words were what we all expect.

Just after the first ambo arrived I took my leave.

I do not know what happened to any of them.

Yeah. Who cares? The goal is to render comfort through a united sentiment. Everything else is just semantics.

I'd go out & get a different card, one that was bereft of any sentiment I didn't fully support.

Listen, Lisa. You are a self, and you have your name.

You are your own property to do what you want with yourself. That's your immutable right, and no one can ethically try to coerce you into doing stuff. Self is a sacred, invaluable thing.

Absolutely nobody should be stupid enough to assume they can tell you what to do, what to think, etc. because those people are already proving themselves as inferiors by making their filthy and base reactive assumptions.

That being said, you should never have the inclination that other people should tell you how to be, because they have one brain for one body, to start with. People who think they can extend past themselves are simply egotistical and have low intelligence.

If you want to write your name, write your name. Don't want to? That's 10000% okay, and a NON-REFLECTIVE TRUTH.

You might certainly write someone else's.

Hell, you can even write the name of the father that died. You can even use a man's handwriting if you want to. That would be funny as hell. I make jokes about people dying all the time. After all, I'm not the one sitting clueless about how to bring them back, it's the inferiors that do that with their stupid anti-science policies.

I don't care if you even draw a Hippo, you can draw one. I'm sure some of the men on this site will enjoy beating their meat to it if you posted a picture, anyway, considering some of the women they go after.

Write nothing, and pretend to write something. That's another idea.

Take a piss on the damned card, if you want to. It's called "there's a bigger picture".

Ultimately, your turnouts are going to depend on you doing the right thing, and nobody has any right to tell you what to do. Women should know this shit, it's 2019.

The men know it, and they live it much moreso than anyone else.

Why haven't you gotten with the program?

Its not about you, its about their grieving, show the sentiment

Displaying concern is not a statement of support for stupidity.

Sure I would if I cared about him and his family. I think that would be no different than going to the funeral and listening to a preacher babble on about how he's in a better place. Compromises sometime has to be made for people you care about.

Be true to yourself. Get your own card and send it.

I would. My message would be entirely godless.

I'm a non-theist. But I respect that most humans NEED a religion. It is a harmless well-wishing card to the family. As to the Bible verse, if it has no meaning to you, that's fine. Isn't it for family and friends -- how may Jews or other religious people signed? Let it be.

It doesn't hurt to sign it and the grieving loved ones of the deceased person may appreciate your condolances. SIgn it.

Sure

I would - why not? The dead can't read the damn thing anyway but it may provide comfort to the family and since it's not about me - I'm fine with that.

I'd just write my name inside.

If it is part of a group effort you can take solace that you did not choose it, and do not share the sentiment. You could probably simply sign your name with an "I am sorry for your loss", and call it good. Unless you were a close friend with the co-worker, then you might prefer to get your own card.

I'd buy one of my own and sign it.

Buy your own card.

since you did not buy it you can say something like rest in peace,

Yep. Using someone else’s grief to make a point is a dick move. It’s about them not you and doesn’t cost any karma points.

I'd send my own card.

I don't sign anything that goes against my belief system.
I've written my own card or spoke personally to them.
Follow your conscience

Yes!

Do as you please. I would.

Nothing wrong with a personal one of your own. Even if it's an email or single card. I've put about that I like doing my own thing.