Agnostic.com

119 8

So there is a condolence card in the break room for one of my coworkers who’s dad just died. It has a bible verse on the front and may God give you peace stuff inside. I don’t really want to put my name on it. Would you?

LisaL81 7 Aug 22
Share

Enjoy being online again!

Welcome to the community of good people who base their values on evidence and appreciate civil discourse - the social network you will enjoy.

Create your free account

119 comments (26 - 50)

Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.

6

I'd either sign it or get a card of my own to give the cowerker.

I agree with either signing the card, or get your own card for them.

6

You could give them a card of your own. That would be special coming just from you.

6

Its not the co-worker's fault its a christian type card. If it were someone I really wanted to offer a moment of comfort to, I would just write something short and sweet, to the point, on the back of the card, with any type of secular condolence I was comfortable with. I've always considered honest secular condolences far more meaningful than any christian one.

6

Write your own little note next to your name. Show vompassion for your colleague's loss is more important.

meant compassion

6

I would. It's not about your beliefs, it's about the gesture of solidarity.

The card may have been chosen according to the beliefs of the purchaser. The bereaved co-worker may not be Christian.

@Carin, I can see where you come from. Still I value more the gesture of good will than anything else. If we disagree I don't take it as a big deal.

6

The card isn't about you. Either offer your condolences to the grieving or don't. Seems like a weird way to make a stand though

6

Well, while I understand and agree with the popular opinion of "this is not the time", I have a question before I can answer...

Is the person who lost their father religious?
If so, I would sign the card - it's about supporting them, not my personal beliefs (or non-beliefs).
OR
Is the person who lost their father not very religious and the person who picked up the card more religious (and pushing their beliefs)? If this is the case, I would no sign it, and would instead, pick up a card myself to show support.

Of course, if I don't know either of the people involved, I may not even bother to sign the card at all.

6

I’d absolutely sign my name to it. It doesn’t mean you agree with the religious statements, just that you are showing support during their time of grief. And I find it’s best to comfort people in the way that works for them; it’s about their comfort, not ours.

6

i would, but i would write something personal and not mention god.

g

5

That depends, do you want to be "right" or do you want to give your coworker some sympathy/empathy.

5

No, you can buy your own card. Or just write a letter--that's considered more proper anyway.

Carin Level 8 Aug 22, 2019
5

yes. it's not about you it's about them.

5

Sure. You signing it or initialing it won't hurt you.

5

Yes, I would to give that person some peace. Just don't put your name anywhere near the bible verse.

4

so basically you're being a dick then. Are you so fucking insecure to let a bunch of words hurt you so much (ie the biblical statement) or did you not really like that coworker?

4

Dear Lisa, you don't have to believe the stuff but if signing your name makes someone feel better than do it. We can co-exist with religious minded people, if we can't than we're no better than they are as far as predujice goes.
Julian.

4

This is about the one who is grieving. Since that person relates to the world via his church such a card will have meaning for him. The condolence card is about him and not you. Signing it does not mean you are untrue to your beliefs but it does mean you sympathize with his feelings at such a difficult time.

4

Their dad died. Yes!

4

I would unless I knew my coworker wasn't okay with that sort of thing.

4

The card has nothing to do with you or your beliefs.

4

sign it.. you're offering condolences, not indicating agreement with what is written.

4

I had this kind of situation before and I signed it. Do it if only you feel comfortable, Bible words are just words and maybe you should focus on your co-worker emotional pain.

4

Of course I would, condolences are for the grieving, just put some nice words that are not religious like may he rest in peace or something like that.

4
4

I would simply because it means nothing to me but I'd probably be rolling my eyes while signing it.

Write Comment
You can include a link to this post in your posts and comments by including the text q:392348
Agnostic does not evaluate or guarantee the accuracy of any content. Read full disclaimer.