Sounds toxic, but doesn't necessarily have anything to do with monogamy specifically.

This is a very creative attempt to mis-identify the problem with relationships as monogamy. The actual problem, is people.

If you're looking to avoid unwanted drama and jealousy, by all accounts polygamy / polyamory is not the way to do that. Buy 100 acres somewhere very far from the nearest town and live by yourself, if that's what you're after.

Monogamy is not the problem, at least not by itself. This list seems to be more about obsession, rigidity, unrealistic or extreme beliefs, and narrow-mindedness on the part of one of the partners, which are problems in any relationship, even friendship.

Sounds reasonable to me.

no i do not agree with these at all. i think the word toxic says it all.

This is not monogamy, this obsessiveness, this treating a partner as a slave, a chattel, a drudge and "whipping boy" for want of a better term.

As one who has never been married, but raised two children, partly on my own I go along with that

For the most part i agree. I will add, though, that being of value to my partner immesurably increases how I value myself - I've gotta be pretty terriffic to add value to such a wonderful persons life.

My main disagreement is with "what say you". Sounds as condescending as the one word paragraph "discuss" - it's pretty much why were here, after all, and don't need reminding or permission. and thus endeth my pet peeve rant for the day. Well, hopefully.

Yes, that describes toxic monogamy. That does not mean there is no such thing as a healthy monogamy.

Lots of human frailty & failures listed.
But I disagree that monogamy is toxic.