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One for the ladies really: I’m on a dating site and there are so many photos of men looking sad, with shades on, with a beer in front of their faces. It’s kind of hilarious and makes my job as a person looking for someone lovely to spend their life with a lot easier... but here’s the question; what the hell are those guys thinking? I don’t care how handsome you are; if you can’t crack a smile I’m not going to want to date you! Does anyone go for these guys?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.i’m not a “lady,” but i’m a gay man, so i feel this is relevant lol. i don’t judge people for not smiling in pictures. i’m uncomfortable in front of a camera, and my smile always looks forced and strained, so i prefer not smiling for pictures. i just don’t see how it’s that important. “not smiling” doesn’t equal “sad.”
basher
Level 5
Nov 1, 2019
8
Not smiling often ends up looking like a mugshot.
@Wildflower i prefer a picture of someone who looks comfortable not smiling than someone with an awkward, strained expression
@basher a happy person has no problem being comfortable with a smile. To each his own.
@Wildflower lol wow. cool for you that you’re totally comfortable in pictures.
MsAl:
I don't smile well for pictures either. Very forced. I have a low opinion of to much smiling anyway. It could be from working too much customer service but to me it comes off as dishonest like they are trying to sell me something or not taking me seriously.
Smiling is good in its place. It's not nice to be around someone who is not happy to see you. Just not all the time, or in pictures if it comes off as fake.
May I add to your list....guys making a kissy/duck face, using Snapchat filters, and scantily clad pictures
Marcie1974
Level 8
Nov 1, 2019
1
Do guys actually do that on dating sites?
I'm not even "scantily clad" in the shower! I not even sure what that means.
@mentalinnuendo yes, yes they do. And it's the silliest thing I've ever seen.
@mentalinnuendo absolutely
@Marcie1974, @PondartIncbendog, @Wildflower, @ArtzyNerd, @motrubl4u I must be out of the loop then. LOL Of course, I haven’t tried the online dating thing yet.
@mentalinnuendo I assure you, young-ish guys (aka under 40, or between 20-40) do everything she has mentioned in dating bio pics.
If he’s sitting on a beautiful bike? Perhaps - but I wonder if he’s hiding bad teeth? Eh....
If I see a beer belly button full of lint, with a crappy-ass trailer park in the background, that’s a hard pass.
DallasKimmerzzz
Level 5
Nov 1, 2019
1
I'm chuckling because I have the bike, and the Dragon Queen is beautiful. I couldn't find a man who had as nice a ride, so I got and ride my own!
Oh, and yeah... men on dating sites are trolling when they use sunglasses and beers and/or hide their faces with hats and shadows. I doubt they are seriously looking for anything more than a side chick.
Hiding bad teeth? You're right.
Every single man I met with closed-mouth photos had horrid teeth. Nasty, crooked, missing, and/or rotten breath that would fell a moose. Ugh. I can't imagine kissing that.
Are you ladies ok with dentures or partials? How about implants? (I meant teeth)
JGal:
@PondartIncbendog yes!
@PondartIncbendog oh yes.
In my age bracket some guys are still trying to "look hard" aka look tough so they refuse to post any smileys pics just all trying to look like a pissed off badass pics. XD
demifeministgal
Level 8
Nov 1, 2019
3
I know this was meant for women, but I wanted to chime in a bit on that. Yes, Iv'e noticed that too. And worse, many guys post pics, like you said "with a beer in front of their faces.
I never quite got that.I would figure at the very least they would try to give a pic that was at least somewhat flattering. Or at least show in some way something that would make themselves "appealing" for lack of a better word. But I can't even count how many pic's Iv'e seen of guys in front of their 4x4, beer in hand, and think. Yeah, this will bring on the ladies.
Or maybe I'm missing something.
TristanNuvo
Level 8
Nov 1, 2019
5
Or the sports car, boat, motorcycle... give me a break!
Some men look like they want to punch the person holding the camera. They look grim, sullen and/or angry.
Nobody wants to date an angry or depressed person. Every picture tells a story whether intended or not.
What matters the most with your online dating profile? One word: Photos.
You have 5 seconds to make a good impression. If your main photo is not clear, bright and attractive, they move on. A genuine smile is inviting, warm and appealing. Women want to see your eyes and smile.
If you look happy in your photos, women will see you as a fun person they will enjoy being around.
LiterateHiker
Level 9
Nov 1, 2019
2
Heroes do not always smile. Anyone can smile for a camera, even a complete psychopath or fruitcake. All the same, everyone judges the book by its cover.
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In the photo, Vanunu Mordechai, in case you are wondering . . .
Archeus_Lore
Level 7
Nov 1, 2019
1
Some people simply have a strong persona, and it shows in pics..,however, that could still hide a flawed character!
Who would believe there are people without character flaws?
If I ever decide to use one of the dating sites, I’ll remember: to smile, no beer, show face. Got it.
mentalinnuendo
Level 5
Nov 1, 2019
2
"Hi, I'm BOB! I'm looking for someone to tell all my problems to. I only sound angry ,,,,,,all the time because,,,,,I'm BOB! ,......Dammit! I hate cameras. I hate TV! I like meat.
Anyone want to go out?,,,,,,"
PondartIncbendog
Level 8
Nov 1, 2019
5
Don't forget the ones holding dead fish with their beer bellies hanging out. Yum.
AliceDaneal
Level 7
Nov 1, 2019
7
Based on the numbers so far, as expected, hot guys can get away with anything they want. Someone posted recently, would you rather be rich or good-looking and I picked good-looking because you get whatever you want, you have a chance at anything you want and if all else fails you can be a model and make a fortune.
lerlo
Level 8
Nov 1, 2019
1
I've always been told to just be myself. Sometimes that works, most times it doesn't.
I would pick rich... then if I am deemed ugly i can pay for plastic surgery to make me prettier heh 
@demifeministgal oh because Lisa Rinna's lips are so attractive?
@lerlo googles Lisa Rinna 
Then there are the ones that have 73 photos all with the same, forced, corpselike grimace.
But that is usually women.
CapriKious
Level 7
Nov 1, 2019
2
You have a point there. And the angle is always the exact same in each. Like someone once said, "Oh, that's your good side."
Speaking for myself, I have to take my own pictures. It's hard to get a natural smile taking my own photo.
david75090
Level 7
Nov 1, 2019
2
You have a good photo on here...
I agree with that!
@Ellen-SoCal I got lucky. Took me several tries and some cropping of the photo.
I dislike overly smiley people. To me it comes of as shallow or dishonest. Mabey to many years in customer service, or just a serious personality. I'm always going to respect a serious face unless someone is addressing someone directly or just heard a joke. Beer cans, fancy cars or kids bother me, don't actually mind the fish.
MsAl
Level 8
Nov 1, 2019
2
Christians make a big deal of appearing happy, especially in photos . . . it is their sales pitch! It is certainly not a guarantee of sanity or congeniality!
Although the not smiling doesn't bother me in the slightest I do wonder why some don't use some basic editing to center their photo, and mabey retake the selfie a few times so the angle and expression looks attractive weather it be a smile or not...
I'm a very a un-photogenic person. I've never published a selfie I haven't taken at least 10-15 times and edited.
MsAl
Level 8
Nov 1, 2019
2
I guess we’re all looking for something different. Your would be man would be more techie and patient than mine 
interesting.
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Wide-angle nostril shots are disgusting.
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Making us play "Where's Wal-bro?"
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Dog photos. I don't want to date your dog!
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Forgot to clean your room. Slob.
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If you're doing something stupid or looking goofy, we conclude you're hopelessly immature.
And of course...
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No photos = hiding something. Likely married.
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Ladies in your photos = player. No thanks, Romeo.
LiterateHiker
Level 9
Nov 1, 2019
6
I would personally love a doggy photo... it's a cat or bug/insect photo (ie if someone owns a tarantula) that would skeeve me out... blegh
The pose with the car. Generally arms crossed, even legs crossed, leaning against some compensation machine with multi horsepower.
@linxminx that is an automatic left swipe!
And whats wrong with my dog?
It's not YOU.
A photo with the dog is better. "You must be in every photo" is a rule of thumb with online dating.
@LiterateHiker He's better looking!
@PondartIncbendog honestly... there have been times in the distant past where I would message a guy I was uninterested in just to tell him he had a cute doggy... I had to start blocking any guy I did that to cuz they figured me messaging them meant I wanted to date... Oops! 
@demifeministgal Yeah. I just like to remain anonymous. I don't show pictures on the internet of myself or anything that could identify. I don't like stalkers. I met an old friend from HS. She had the picture of the bar that she hangs at, the front of her house and her work schedule. From facebook, I could figure her address, the type of car she drives, her work schedule and her vacations away. Bad security.
@PondartIncbendog you take your online anonymity much further than I ever had! And people say that I am too private online... I need to start referencing you and people like you to complainers gosh darn whiny millenials
@demifeministgal Holdover from my security training in the AF. Am I paranoid?
Yes, you are paranoid.
@demifeministgal BTW, if you have to know what I look like? I'm four foot one, have a limp, back hump on one side, (moves sometimes) I have all four teeth, and several patches of hair.
@demifeministgal Air Force.
@demifeministgal, @LiterateHiker NO, I'm NOT! Are you watching me?
I was joking.
@LiterateHiker I know.
@PondartIncbendog oh my... be sure to wear a hoodie and sunglasses when running errands or all the ladies will chase you down like a celebrity... looking like that you must be quite the ladies man!
@PondartIncbendog aah.... Americans and their abbreviations.... y'all LOVE abbreviating words/terms... I've learned many over my years interacting with Americans online
@demifeministgal Yeah. All the cougars are after me in this town. Its scary.
@PondartIncbendog you may be joking.... but in case you are not, I know what that feels like... senior men IRL are into me as well. :/
@demifeministgal Y'all: A small rodent commonly found in the southern part of the USA. Identified by its beer like smell and proximity to old cars on cement blocks. Also Y'all's commonly have bad teeth and have been known to chew off their own feet. Y'all's have been known to weigh as much as six hundred pounds and eat as much as thirty hambargers an hour.
Nope. Hi I'm Bob a doctor, rich too pretty to be straight, drive a Rolls and a Ferrari, need you to be complete, please send money to my account in Nigeria. LMAO total Bullshit
bobwjr
Level 10
Nov 1, 2019
7
You're Bob? I thought I was BOB?
@PondartIncbendog LMAO ridiculous isn't i
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