I'm finding out what my beliefs could cost me, since I'm in a vulnerable position.
I'm currently staying with my religious sister as I recover from cancer, and the rest of my wealthy siblings are also religious. I made the "mistake" of coming out to them as agnostic and nonbinary several years ago, and now I am facing the consequences.
I risk losing a place to stay, and any help my religious relatives might decide to give me, since I spit in the well by declaring myself agnostic and my support of Bernie for president.
But, come to think of it, their behavior toward me isn't much worse than it always was, since most of my life I was into health food and protecting the environment which they thought stupid.
Since I got sick, several of my siblings contributed a bit to my cause, but they are still rabid Trumpites and my left leanings are often a source of open ridicule and amusement.
Hitherto, I've been gung-ho about people "coming out" but I've already been attacked from being nonbinary on this website (I immediately blocked him..a black guy, who went on a LGBTQ-bashing, racist-like tirade when I mentioned it.)
I was WRONG.
I'm keeping my mouth shut from now on except in safe spaces. I resemble a pretty, athletic woman, so I "pass," and get plenty of attention wherever I go. Yet I am content to live as an androgynous woman.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.YOU ARE NOT WRONG!! Let's get that shit outta the way right from jump! They are insensitive, dogma programed folks unwilling to take responsibility for themselves. My twin sister sounds a lot like your trumper/religious family.
We need to pick our battles in a way that we did not when we were younger, so all ya can do is respect their position (even when they refuse to respect yours), get healthy and move on.
Sorry you found an asshole on this site, they are here but not in the quantities on fb or other sites. Be well sister.
silverotter11
Level 9
Dec 5, 2019
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Wow..thanks, and sorry about your twin sister. I guess I sort of have a "twin"; my brother is only 11 months older than me, and skipped a school year, so we ended up in the same grade at school.
Everyone thought he was my twin whenever we were on furlough in the USA (we were Haiti missionaries). And he's a rabid Trumpite, along with the rest of my siblings.
My sister I'm staying with thinks Trump is a disaster, but seems firmly religious conservative otherwise, although I NEVER ask questions and she never discusses religion or politics.
@birdingnut Circumstances sometimes dictate how we respond, if I sense there is a threat to me physically I will keep my mouth shut, there are 176 units in this complex and some have disabilities you can not see until the weird behavior blossums. I have sometimes wondered what I would do if my twin needed some invasive medical help only an identical twin might help with. Our history of sibling discord goes back to childhood.
It’s a shame you’re having to contend with this...just when you need support and love from your family. We should all be able to be accepted for who we are especially by our family and friends, if they can’t do this they are not respecting us and the people we are. Love and respect is what is lacking here with your family, and it’s a great irony that it’s those who profess to be the most religious usually are the least tolerant and understanding of others’ viewpoints. You deserve better, but perhaps being more circumspect when expressing yourself around openly right-wing religious types is wise under the circumstances. I wish you the best of luck, sometimes keeping our own company makes us happier, so be it if that’s the case.
Marionville
Level 10
Dec 5, 2019
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I hate that you feel you have to keep your mouth shut but understand why you have to for now at least. But you will always be you, be proud of yourself .
Not going through what you are but understand having judgmental religious family. I am lucky I can just cut them out of my life . I hope you recover soon and find a safe place to always feel free to be yourself.
Gypsy494
Level 7
Dec 5, 2019
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I'm so sorry you're in such a vulnerable position right now - and very, very sorry that it's so hard to find a safe space. I hope a better opportunity arises some time soon so you can breathe easier ... and/or that @dalefvictor wins that lottery soon.
Lauren
Level 8
Dec 4, 2019
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Yes, the lottery would help many people as I do not know what else to do with it. I share.
After I win the lottery I will be buying a large house where people who need a safe place can live, Really sorry to hear of your predicament.You are you and hopefully no one else, unless you like living a group wherever you go.
dalefvictor
Level 8
Dec 4, 2019
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Since saying this I wonder what would be better, a large house or several small tiny houses placed around a central core of a large kitchen and other shared utilities. Since I am in fantasy land and about to go through having my house foreclosed, I will sell it and do what I can. Thoughts?
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