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The most difficult thing for me as an agnostic or an atheist "I am between them" from an Arab country lives now in Sweden is to find a friend or a girlfriend or any one to talk to.
Most of arab people here "at least who I met in this town" are traditional religious, I can't make a deep friendship or to have a logical conversation with them.
And I can't find any Swedes to talk or even to say hello and to practice my Swedish "since I have been in Sweden for 8 months and I can speak Swedish a little bit".
I met some Swedes and they told me that usually swedes don't like to talk with the strangers.
And most of them "even if I am an atheist" they look at me as one of those Arab or Muslim people belongs to a very different culture so they don't think that they can make a good friendship with me, and there are some racist people like everywhere unfortunately.
I go to school in the morning but my relationship with all the students there are superficial for the same reasons that I talked about.
I live in a very small village and I spend most of my time alone, just study Swedish and I go out to run sometimes.
I really need to meet people and to mak friends here, but I don't find any way to do that.

Musab_Almawed 5 Apr 8
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One thing is certain; things change.

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I grew up in several small towns (we moved many times) and also found my athiesm isolating. While I am Caucasian, a couple of times we lived in predominantly African American neighborhoods, where I was the "minority" locally. Small town America was very puritanical when I was growing up and, teens being what they are, I sometimes found myself getting in physical fights and was once beaten up. So I can sympathize.
Now I live in Houston near NASA and it's a totally different world. I sometimes visit my relatives who still live in small town America, although in almost exclusively Caucasian neighborhoods/ towns. They all share that small town mindset, and many of them support Trump, who I find detestable. And I think part of what they believe about immigrants and minorities is because they are spoon fed it by politicians and don't ever meet anyone from the groups they villify. Here my 5 year old's best friend is Muslim, our neighbors are vegetarian and from South Asia (Hindu?), and my kids friend from across the street is African American. It's a middle class neighborhood with most of the houses being two story and I honestly don't know if it's predominantly Caucasian or not, although they are probably the largest single demographic.

So thank you for staying in your small town. You're probably helping those around you realize that people are people and that not everyone from Syria is Muslim, despite what they hear on the news. But I also think you could find life easier in a city. Either way, social media can help, especially here where we share something in common. But beware, there are trolls here as well as I'm sure you'll find out. Remember there's a block button. Good luck!

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Maybe move to a city in Sweden. people in small places I find are quite clicky where ever you come from especially as you are not Swedish. remember being a none believer means being in a small minority itself too.

Thank you for your advice.
I can't move until I have a Job, and I need some time because I need to study Swedish in the first

these people in the villages will eventually come around I'm sure. you will be fine.

@MusabAlmawed l agree with Leigh. Small towns are very protective of their little world and slow to warm up to strangers, especially someone of a different race and culture. This is true of most small towns in the US as well.

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