If you're not emotionally comfortable in the act, that's probably a trust issue. If you have trust issues with your partner during sex, then maybe you decided to have sex too early in the relationship.

My point of view as an old fashioned in a romantic relationship is to know the personality, emotional stage and later focus on 1- a

1a - a great sexual connection is one of the sweetest of human experiences for me. I won't go there unless I am deeply connected with my partner. Any other attempt at coupling would most likely land me in category 2, but there would be no orgasm or even pleasure, which would likely = a cancelled mission, if it was even attempted to begin with.

Always strive for #1, but when dating sometimes you find out too late the # 2 showed up. When that happens, revert to #1 and let er rip

Oh gosh, number one… but the downside is, for me, to have that experience, I need to be with someone who ..checks all the boxes, and that’s not easy to find … in my neck of (fuckin) woods.. I’ve this crazy, stupid, old fashioned requirement that I be attracted to a lover. But if that criterias met ~ bliss (for all concerned )

Completely depends on the partner, and whether we're enjoying ourselves, or not.

I would consider that as just using another human as a masturbate device.

I think I’d only feel the latter if I disliked the person I was with. But then I don’t tend to sexually couple with people I dislike.

How old are you??? That's a question that would only be asked by someone who's never done it.