Unfortunately, from past posts I know her family is abusive regarding her sexuality and nonbelief. Would you be so kind as to give advice with this knowledge?

She is a great young person and tortured by her parents and siblings on a daily basis for being different. This infuriates me and I would like her to get other good advice aside from mine. Thank you.

@hemingwaykitten perspective is always important. I would still offer the same advice. If there truly is abuse, defiance and behaving irresponsibly is only going to escalate the problem...and don't give me that feminist bullshit about "that's blaming the victim" you weren't there and have no idea what is really going on. So don't jump to conclusions, she has a different perspective, the parents have their perspective, you have your perspective, I have my perspective. I offered advice on what I thought would HELP her situation, not make it worse. Now that being said she is free to ignore my advice and go with your advice...that should make you feel better.

I went out to my FIRST ever party and was given something that could've actually hurt me, I'm not switching from child to adult I'm asking for advice, my father threw things at my while I withered on the couch bc I felt like my entire being was being torn apart, I wasn't trying to act like an adult, I was trying to hang out with friends that I probably will not see after I graduate, I wasn't asking you to be my keeper, I know completely where I screwed up and yes I am paying for my mistakes I do not regret saying goodbye to my classmates with one final hurrah which again just happened to be my first ever hurrah, yes my father was on my mind which is why I was dressed modestly and I only took drinks from people I knew and knew (at least thought I knew) I could trust, I know very well how life functions bc I have been living the life that my mother was supposed to live the moment she had my youngest sister and decided that parenting just wasn't for her so plz if you don't have any helpful advice on the situation don't shame me bc I'm getting enough of that as it is

@Catalaya22 you need to talk to your father, I have 2 daughters they know they can tell me everything and I always will be there for them. We have our rough moments as being human will provide but they can tell me anything because always will be my little girls. You and your father need to talk. I am not trying to shame you or taking your father side. I don't know if your father carry pain for your mother and reflected it on you. Time to talk. Remember your father knows something worst could had happen and you always going to be vulnerable so time to talk is now. Mend the fences while you can. Regardless who is wrong or right. I have never used the word shame in conversation with any blood of mine. Strange word to my lips...

@GipsyOfNewSpain I do not think her father is Anything like you.......please stop acting as if she can rely on him in any way....refusing to let her seek medical attention is not only cruel but could be criminal!

@AnneWimsey honesty, I only know her side as she puts it and been father of 2 daughters they are under my protection until they die or I die. I don't know his side so I've been giving him benefit of the doubt. Because I don't put much stake on one siders for the obvious. I had seen men (husbands, fathers) been made a monster for the sake of sympathy and future actions painted a different persona and not a monster. We can go back and ask where is the mother on this. All I know is her piece as presented. I am hard to be manipulated without all the facts.

I don't think I was raped, I don't remember any pain in that area, I have a guidance councelor at my school that I will see tomorrow and I don't think there's a hotline or planned parenthood around my area and I don't know if my dad is trying to save his ego or just trying to teach me a lesson in the most brutal way he can. Thank you for your advice tho.

@Catalaya22 Sexual assault doesn't have to be painful or violent. At the very least you need to discuss with a health professional and follow up with testing. Since you have no memory and suspect being drugged, it is a major possibility and concern.

I will try as soon as I can/ as soon as I can get transportation to an er thank you for your kindness

Thank you so much for this, I actually graduate in a month which is really good, thank you for not judging me

@Catalaya22 Got your back! That Nomack is a real pisser, ain't he? Hell of a site for someone who thinks he walks on water! Be safe, trust someone and get help ASAP!

I will thank you!

@hemingwaykitten I've seen enough of his posts over the last day to know that I don't care to see anymore. Blocked. No f*cks given!!

I disagree, its been about 20 for me and I am still pissed that someone thought it was perfectly ok to drug me. She was drugged and assauted against her will and that will never be something she laughs about 20 years down the road. Men seem to have a different attitude than women about this, what if she had become pregnant? And what if she were to seek an abortion? Never mind the emotional and physical trauma from that decision alone, add in the religious nutcases that would then criminalize her and let the guy off with a "boys will be boys" attitude and a good natured slap on the ass. She was lucky she didnt suffer the consequences of someone elses selfishness for their one gratification at her expense.

wow carry much anger with you? you should see someone about that...
also no where in that post did I see she was drugged and raped....think you need to check yourself before you go off on someone lady

Yeah see I wasnt sure if they were on the market yet or not but I do know the nail polish was developed.