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Hi friends. My mom passed away yesterday. I was by her side when she went, with my brother and 2 of his daughters. I've lost my best friend but am okay because she is no longer battling dementia. She was a incredible woman and I am proud to have been her daughter.

Presley1209 7 Apr 20
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My condolences to you and your family. Celebrate her life and not her death. It's a time of mouring and grieving. RIP.

You are right on! Thank you!

@Presley1209 Thanks.

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A little relieved?

Yes, very much so actually. She was gone a long time ago, if you know what I mean.

@Presley1209 yes

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Sorry for your loss, l lost my father who had Alzheimer's on the 18 of December last year and my mother has dementia. I took care of them for a year before we placed them in a home. Hardest decision I've ever made. Hang in there it gets easier but you'll get these memories of them when you hear phrase or see something they liked. Beautiful memories.

Yes, it was so hard watching her decline. Thank you for your kind words.

I don’t know how you did it ... not one but both parents you earned your stripes

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Best Wishes during your mourning times. My mom is 91 I think we are prepared but then again... is our Mom. My Sympathy.

Its hard but she needed to pass. No quality of life. Thank you.

@Presley1209 Quality of Life is Very Important, my grandmother passed on a Saturday when she wss scheduled to have a leg removed on a Monday. And I understood it was her choice.

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I'm sorry for your loss. Proud of how you are handling yourself through a very difficult event.

Aww, thank you. I got my strength from her!

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I am very sorry. I hope the good memories of time shared with your mom will bring you comfort as you learn to cope with the loss of her.

Deb57 Level 8 Apr 21, 2018

I have many but am trying to erase the last few years since it was so bad, its difficult. Thank you.

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I'm sorry for your loss. The loss of a parent is heartbreaking and when that parent is also your best friend it crumbles it.

My mom also had dementia and she passed away seven years ago. There isn’t a day that goes by that she isn’t in my thoughts. Dementia changed everything, a thief that took the best part of her. All I have left are the memories and there are many. I talk about her as often as I can, it keeps her close to me. Maybe it will for you too.

Betty Level 8 Apr 21, 2018

It robbs you of your dignity! Its heartbreaking. Thank you.

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So sorry for your loss. Nothing is quite like losing your mama. May the time come quickly that thoughts of her bring more laughter than tears.

Essie Level 6 Apr 21, 2018

Thank you, yes I am trying to focus on the good years and not the last ones of her life.

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So sorry for your loss. What a lovely tribute to your mom.

Thank you, she was the best woman I have ever known.

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Very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad last year after a brief illness, and I am now just a year later about to accept the fact, that he is no more.
I wish you a speedy recovery from your loss!

Thank you. I don't know what I will do with my spare time now!

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Thinking of you. Take care of yourself too. 🙂

Thank you and I will now.

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So difficult when the mind slips between realities.

Its mind blowing!

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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I think you're looking at it the right way - my grandmother, having spent most of her life alone after her husband died when she was still young, was fiercely independent and proud of it; in her last few years her health prevented that and she hated it, so it was in a way a relief when she went.

Jnei Level 8 Apr 21, 2018

Yes it is a relief. Many years of heartbreak watching her decline. Thank you.

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Condolences on the loss of your mother. Dementia is horrible. My Dad's currently in the late stage of this despicable disease

Oh, I feel for you, truly. Its not an easy road. I wish you strength to get thru it. Thanks for your kind words.

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I ran a dementia support group for years so know the heartbreak you have been thru. She will always be no further away than your heart, cherish only her good memories and let the rest go. Take care!

ToniS Level 2 Apr 21, 2018

Thank you and we are. I had a hard time remembering old memories cuz the last 6 years have been so difficult. You give good advice and I thank you.

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Wow, what a loss! Moms can be such a huge part of our entire lives. I am sorry that you had to walk the dementia path with her and that she is now gone. I wish you strength as you learn a new way, moving forward.

Zster Level 8 Apr 21, 2018

Aww, thank you! She's finally at peace now so I am happy for her.

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I wish I could say something that would lessen this loss. My condolences to you.

You are very kind. Thank you.

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I am sorry for your loss.

Thank you.

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So very sorry for your loss.

Thank you.

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

Thank you.

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Farewell to your mom. She sounds like a wonderful person, who raised a wonderful daughter. She left her legacy in you. I'm sure she was incredibly proud of you. I'm sorry she had to live with dementia. It is a hard disease to battle.

Awww, thank you. Its a horrible disease and no one should have to "live" like that.

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So sorry for your loss. Also a bit jealous that you had a wonderful relationship with your mom. Those memories will stay with you and keep her alive in you.
Condolences to you and your family.

Irene Level 4 Apr 21, 2018

Thank you. My mom was the best woman I have ever known. We had many kids live with us cuz their home life sucked.

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So sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a wonderful relationship with your mom.

I did, we shared everything! Thank you.

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I'm very sorry about your mom. When mine passed several years ago, one thing I was told that has stuck with me and proven itself to be true is, "you'll never get over it, but you will get through it." I think you have a great support group here, don't be afraid to use it if you need it.

I love that line! Thank you for sharing it, its very profound.

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It's sad to know that your beloved mother is no longer with you. I know the pain you feel, since I lost mine many years ago, (she was only 40..) but you know what? Count on me, if you need me...! Quetiendote

Thank you so much!

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