But you had one, yeah?

@Lauren I didn’t choose him. An obedient Catholic, he was not responsible for his deeds.

Mark Twain said it for me. He didn’t fear death; he’d been dead for billions and billions of years and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.

Challenge me, (grin), and I will post the rest of my short essay on the topic.

@yvilletom I'm sorry that's all he chose to be for you, and I realize how lucky I am that I had a good relationship with my father while so many did not. My husband died when my daughter was a toddler so she has no memory of having a father, something which I used to feel badly about, but I now realize that it's preferable to how very many people have lived.

Of course I would read your essay, but I would never presume to challenge you to post it. (^.^)

@Lauren Thanks, I won’t post it.

@Lauren All three of my wives had been molested as infants by their fathers.

I did not escape it but my wife left me with them for another ... who did not in fact marry her. But my children chose to go separately from both of us, I believe.

@rogerbenham I'm so sorry. It seems such a sad ending for everyone involved.

@Lauren Yes, absolutely. I have but one grandchild and I rather hope that one day he will want to visit his maternal grandfather. But at 75 and he about 8, I fear that time is running out. I no longer get thank you letters for Christmas presents. To my children, I am a dirty hippie and a run away dad, although it was their mother who chose that I should find another and when I did, to demand no further communication. She had totally ruled me.