Is it really possible to live your life and not have any regrets. I’ve heard various people say they regret nothing, but I know for me, I have many regrets.
If you have no regrets, you've made no mistakes, taken no chances, risked nothing, or thought, "damn the consequences, I'll deal with it when it comes" & done something totally stupid, possibly dangerous, & had the potential to alter your life for good or ill.
I was going to say something like this, but you said it much better.
I would say that's not quite correct. You can make mistakes without having any regrets. If we have learnt something valuable from a mistake, then we may not actually regret making that mistake.
Disagree.
It's how you look at what you've done.
I disagree as well. You only have regrets if you are not happy where you are and who you are today. Everything from your past brought you to this moment. I am happy with both. So no regrets for me ?
As much and as often as I consider mistakes I may have made … the culmination of those mistakes has been somewhat impressive.. The fact my effort did not lead to everything I’d hoped doesn't mean it didn’t lead somewhere positive. And as I’ve mentioned before, I don’t regret anything having led to my daughters, who they’ve become ..and where I’m at. Really, no regrets
@Crimson67 ...I noticed that.. If our decisions were the best we were capable of making at the time, how & what would or could we change? Had I not married the person who eventually forced the sale of my family homestead ..I’d not have two (magnificent) daughters, or have found my new home in Appalachia… Life’s not easy, or fair.. but if you keep at it, you shouldn’t have any regrets.
Regrets, I've had a few...but then again, too few to mention.
I think everyone has regrets, but what are you going to do? You can either worry about those regrets, or accept that an opportunity passed, and be prepared for the next opportunity.
The things I regret not doing, if I had done them, I would have missed out on some great opportunities and experiences.
Glad I checked the comments before posting.. you summoned it up nicely with Frank Sinatra
Yes. Not only possible, but many do.
There are things I might have done differently had I known what I do now, but I didnt, so what point reconsidering, second guessing, lamenting.
It seems more being caught by the myth of potential.
I've accepted I did what I did because at that moment I thought I had to.
Replaced in that time and space id do the same thing again.
So, yes, no regrets, no guilt, no myth of potential.
Myth of potential - the idea that 'if only this had/hadn't happened, i/they/we would be better off'. It's a common fallacy most dwell in.
There's some friends I wish I hadn't lost contact with, but otherwise I'm okay
I too must live with many regrets. my children love to throw them in my face
I think it comes down to whether you have a conscience or not. If your conscience is alive and well you will regret something's, after all you'll be an empathetic and sympathetic person. In my opinion it'll be those Machiavellian kind of people who'll have no conscience.
My biggist regret is that I have some. I should have been born perfect and stayed that way. Not. Now I'm old, fat, and ugly. I really regret the ugly part. Nothing I could have done about it barring extensive face reconstruction. I never liked looking like Sean Connery. I wanted to look like Ernest Borgnine. Or Charles Bronson. Craggy and tough, not smooth and pleasant.
I have very many regrets for the bad and 'evil' (yes) choices I've made- and now that I know the correct options, I am too old to make changes. I
If Nature provides a second life as a human, and one could remember the faults of the first life, would there be the courage to enact what was good and just? Many 'good people' die some very horrible deaths. That's why Trump will live forever- or it will, at least, seem like that.
If you treat your past mistakes as life lesson they cease to be regrets
When regret is a frame of mind, to me it's a tool of an examined life. I believe some people look back on their mistakes and think "it is what it is" and move on. I'm not one of those people and I think it affords me an opportunity to change my response. Regret can also be thought of as an aversive emotion, I can't imagine not feeling it, it's part of my emotional toolbox. Like other types of pain, it informs you that something in your environment isn't right.
If one has had no regrets, then they haven't given a f%@ about anything. Now, perhpaps they've come to the place in their lives where they've decided they cannot live with the expectations of others hanging over their heads and have decided, "f%@ it! I'm done, finished, over it...I have no regrets!"
Maybe?
I have experiences that I'm not to proud of, but I have no regrets. The reason:
Everything from my past took me to where i am, and who I am today. I learned allot on my journey so far. Even though I downright hate the crap I had to go through to get here, I'm still glad I'm here.
I find it hard to believe someone can say honestly that they have no regrets in life. Unless someone has achieved a zen-like state of pure self-acceptance (and surely that takes time and effort) then we all have made choices that in hindsight we would change. Regret shouldn’t rule us but can steer us to make better choices if we listen to it?