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Would you raise your children religious just to fit in?

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Never.

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Never raise children in religion to fit in. Raise children to be intelligent seekers of Truth.

lecoq Level 4 Dec 19, 2017
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No. My three responsible adult children were homeschooled when it came to religion 🙂

ags2 Level 5 Dec 19, 2017
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Definitely not. As my parents did for me, I've tried to do for my kids as well. If they are curious about religion, I made sure they have access to all the information they could possibly need to make an informed opinion, and tried very hard to make sure my own views did not flavor that. Someone's religious views are a deeply personal decision, and sometimes it can take years to make up their minds. In the end, my kids will come to that on their own just as I did.

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Absolutely not. I tell them that some people have an imaginary friend and to respect that. They giggle knowing they know, kind of like Santa Claus.
They keep asking why people think there is a god and my answer is that some people need it and it makes them feel good. They have been to church when they visit family and they have no desire to become religious.

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Never. Conformity is overrated. Especially if you have to compromise your principles to do it.

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Never, and I didn't - they went to Catholic Schools and were always proud of their Atheism. In Canada a religious school cannot turn away anyone for their faith or lack of. But about 35% of the school was Atheist or Agnostic

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No, I raise them to think for themselves. I haven't even used the word atheist to describe myself, but I emphasize science and reason over emotion. My middle child has joined a youth group, and I hope she has learned enough to decide for herself if she is a believer. I'll love her either way.

Very much like my own approach. I absolutely let go of hoping she would grow up to be an atheist. I let her go to church when she wanted to, I didn't really push atheism, although I owned up to it. I told her from an early age to observe and think and figure out what she believed. That it would be wrong for me to decide for her. Well, she went through her Mormon phase. Her high school was thick with them, so go figure. And then one day she just went, Nope, and has identified as an atheist ever since. Now she's raising kids with the same philosophy. that she has to let their brains and consciences lead them to their own truth.

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NO! The special people are the ones that don't fit their little boxes of conformity, they are the ones that will change the world, that's why they have screwed our education system up so bad, it is now just to conform the population into ignorance and mass programming. Little kids like to point out anyone different than them because that is what they have been taught but the different ones are the special ones.

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NEVER! That is child abuse in the most horrific detrimental way known to mankind!~~~ Don't get me started on this subject.. but to point out.. how many of us on this site alone.. where or have been victims as children being raised like that due to parents being pressured by family/relatives, friends, etc. How sad this is, very heart breaking indeed.

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No, and no Santa either.

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I've never had any children, but if I did, I certainly wouldn't bring them up to go to church just to "fit in". Doing that can teach a child bad lessons. It would encourage a child to feel that it is good to hide what they really believe, to be untrue to their own principles and beliefs. It would teach them that pretending to be something you're not is okay.

I would teach my child that it is good to question, to doubt, to ask why when someone tells them something is true, or good or bad. But I do think that children who are in their teens or almost adults have a right to make the decision for themselves whether they will join a religion or not. However, I think parents should permit themselves to make rational arguments to try and persuade a young person not to join a fundamentalist religion (e.g Evangelical Christians). But parents must let them ultimately be allowed to make their own choice.

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Heck no. I'll teach kids about living a free hateless world.

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No, absolutely not. The area in which I grew up is close to the area in which I currently live, and with the same predominant religion. As a child, my parents held some vague notion of religion, and it didn't fit the predominant paradigm. I was raised without a specified faith, though many of my friends were profoundly religious, I did not need the religion to fit in. I believe this difference made my friends and I more respectful of difference, not less.

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No, but I would allow them to explore religion if they had peer pressure to do so. I understand that its a risk but so is forbidding it. I will have tried to give them the tools to think for themselves and try to respect their autonomy if they decide they believe. this isn't just hypothetical. I raised my child this way and she went through a brief period of conformity and belief. But her BS meter was well-developed and she grew out of that phase. So she is an atheist and is raising her children to also make their own choices about god and religion.

jmott Level 3 Dec 23, 2017
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No, but I would let them make their own decisions.

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Definitely not.

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No way

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I am already raising free thinkers even though we are surrounded by religious family and friends. I can already see how different my kids are compared to their friends being raised religiously. We cannot continue to damage our kids with religion. We are the ones to break the indoctrination process.

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Let's say the worst possible scenario happens. After this presidency, we become in the United States some sort of theocracy. I would raise them to be free thinkers, but also teach them how to act in a religious society. So no I would not raise them to be religious, but I would teach them how to act in such a surrounding.

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Hell NO!

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Absolutely not!!!!

MoniB Level 6 Dec 23, 2017
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I raised my children to think for themselves. If they wanted religion I had no problem with it.

They all chose not to be bogged down by dogma.

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