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Would you raise your children religious just to fit in?

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NO! The special people are the ones that don't fit their little boxes of conformity, they are the ones that will change the world, that's why they have screwed our education system up so bad, it is now just to conform the population into ignorance and mass programming. Little kids like to point out anyone different than them because that is what they have been taught but the different ones are the special ones.

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Never, and I didn't - they went to Catholic Schools and were always proud of their Atheism. In Canada a religious school cannot turn away anyone for their faith or lack of. But about 35% of the school was Atheist or Agnostic

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Definitely not. As my parents did for me, I've tried to do for my kids as well. If they are curious about religion, I made sure they have access to all the information they could possibly need to make an informed opinion, and tried very hard to make sure my own views did not flavor that. Someone's religious views are a deeply personal decision, and sometimes it can take years to make up their minds. In the end, my kids will come to that on their own just as I did.

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No. My three responsible adult children were homeschooled when it came to religion 🙂

ags2 Level 5 Dec 19, 2017
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Never.

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If fitting in meant life or death yes.

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Just to fit in? No! I have 3 children, they are 14, 10 and 5. I introduced them to religion from a young age just by having them do things with family and friends. Never forced them to learn religion nor did I " preach" my beliefs. I want them to figure it out themselves. My son who is the oldest, stopped doing anything that was related to religion a long time ago. Says the bible belongs in the fiction section and has left it at that. My middle daughter enjoyed going to church and VBS because she was with her friends. Just last year she began asking me lots of questions about things that didn't make sense to her. I told her to think really hard and she'll find the answers. She decided it wasn't for her and stopped attending even though her friends really kept on her about it. She tells them the bible is nothing more than a fairy tale like Disney movies, lol. She is very vocal about telling people how she feels, only if they bring it up first. Sometimes I have to remind her not everyone is as smart as she is. My youngest daughter is to young and still has fun doing the church thing with family, so for now we just wait. 2 down 1 to go ????

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No I did not. My ex did make sure they got baptized and joined a church and sent them to Sunday school all just because of societal pressure. I did not pretend to believe "for their sake". My kids always knew Dad did not believe in a god. My ex even taught Sunday school while telling me she did believe either. I think it was 6th grade for confirmation and all 3 of them stopped going to church after that. I think they only went along because their Mom wanted them to.

MattW Level 6 Dec 15, 2017
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No. I want critical thinkers. I would expose them to religion, but show them the bad with the good.

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no

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I'm a godparent to children with a Catholic mother who wishes me to raise them Catholic should anything tragic ever occur. If they would like to continue going to church I'll drive them, however, on the way I might mention all the other things in life they could be doing.

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Oh Hell No! My daughter used to go to sunday school with one of her friends, but it never went further than that. She is a huge star wars fan and I told her that being a Jedi is as close to being a spiritualist as I could describe.

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I raised my kids in a religious home...I'm sure sorry about that now. But all my children have left religion except for one. If I had it to do over again...no way no how. When I left the church it was so hard to see my daughters worrying over my soul.

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No, I teach then to be very cautious and wary, as those religious people tend to corner us nthinking people and attempt to burn us at the stake.

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No, but I’d be open to allow them to learn about religion and support them if that is what they wanted to believe in. However, I’d make sure I taught them critical thinking skills and to question everything so they wouldn’t be completely naive to the world.

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Fuck no. My children are their own people and they will do whatever pleases them most in life. If they wanna go to church, great. If not, great. So long as they’re happy.

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My two children were baptised when they were quite young, but not babies. This was mainly to satisfy the concerns of my in-laws, and I no special problem with it, except that in the prayer-book it was stated that it was the god-parents who were to make the vows, but on the day the vicar asked both parents and god-parents to make the vows and I felt a huge hypocrite. I was a good deal more concerned when my wife said she wanted them to go to Sunday school (I think, again, her parents had something to do with this, her mother being a Sunday school teacher in a different city). Our daughter, the older child, liked it. Our son hated it. I eventually put my foot down when I saw how much he didn't want to go. He is now a confirmed atheist. Our daughter's position is more nuanced: she went on to get confirmed and served for a time on the vestry (committee) of a different church (same denomination — Anglican/Episcopal). But she became disillusioned about organised religion, although she is an accomplished chorister and sometimes sings at special services. I don't think she now regards herself as a Christian.

So, to answer the question: no, not 'just to fit in', but perhaps yes, to avoid friction within the family. They turned out OK in spite of Sunday school!

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Absolutely not!!!

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Absolutely not, but that also doesn't mean I would try to hind them from any sort of religion. I would do my part and expose them to a wide variety and remain silent about my own beliefs until they had came to their own conclusions about what they believe, and if they have to same beliefs as me, great. And if not, that's great too.

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Not if I had a second chance. I raised my children as I was raised. Now they are raising their children the same way. I keep at them though to challenge everything they have been taught thus far.

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I wouldn't do anything just to fit in but I would make children aware of anything that matters and would answer their questions as honestly as I can.

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