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Would you raise your children religious just to fit in?

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Yes you need all the help you can get to raise childrenn.

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Hell no. I will raise my children to believe what they want to believe in, no matter what anyone thinks. Judgmental jerks be damned.

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Absolutely NOT!! That question is almost silly coming from an atheist...

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No, but I had no problem with my wife taking them to church as long as I was not asked to endorse or validate it, and I was free to explain my position. My son is a drug addict and believes in some cosmic uniter, my daughter is just nervous about saying she is atheist or agnostic.

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No my children fitted in fine with no god.

Sadly as I was growing up I was the only Atheist I knew

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No - that just just promotes and promulgates the group delusion. We need to raise our kids capable of critical thinking and reason along with the ability to debate issues calmly. What a poor start in life to do anything else.

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Would I give my children heroin to become prostitutes ?

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Definitely not.

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I don't have children, so this would be an academic question for me. My sister isn't religious, but neither has she identified as atheist or agnostic. I think the whole subject just really isn't on her radar. She has two children. Her in-laws are Catholic. They really wanted the kids to attend Sunday school. My sister left it up to the kids and they chose to attend. I'm not sure how long they did this, but I know they don't do it still and have not become religious kids.

vita Level 7 May 3, 2018
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Never. My kids know I'll respect their decisions however, and if they get old enough and feel that "higher calling", then I'd happily take them to wherever, drop them off, and pick them back up afterwards. I'm not one of those parents who push my beliefs (or lack thereof) on my kids like my own parents did to me. They're free to believe whatever they want and people are free to accept them as they are, or kiss their asses. 🙂

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I'd rather my children (I have one son, but let's not go there) choose for themselves whether they want to act like backwoods retards.

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I allowed it to happen and fortunately for me it turned out well, Both my children are not religious as they were raised in the catholic haze. My ex stated the kids need something meaning that my views were nothing. Catholic school and uniforms , Today they do not attend church nor do they worship. Good job dad

EMC2 Level 8 Apr 16, 2018
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I raised my children in the Unitarian Universalist Church so the were exposed to all the worlds religions in an open nonindoctrinal way.

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Not a chance.

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No way.

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I am Jewish but never was raised religiously, more a feeling about who I was than about a god. As I grew I found it to be more about heritage. That's how I raised my son. Now 30 and married to a practicing Christian, I worry for my unborn grandchildren.

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I would raise them to know how and why to fit in and its disadvantages.

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Oh hell, no!

I'm a Mémé (grandmother) now, but I raised my daughter in a Unitarian Universalist congregation for the community and their amazing religious and sex education programs. I never tried to push my lack of belief on her but insisted that she make conscious, informed choices about belief. She learned about paganism from my life partner and Christianity from her father.

She and my son-in-law are raising their daughter in a UU congregation now.

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No. That being said, I took some time deciding whether or not I was going to when I had mine.

When my ex's family (Baptist) and my family (Catholic), started a tug of war for the "souls" of my children, and after a few more instances of religious abuse by my family members, and years of finding I was an outcast no matter what church I explored, I just walked away from it all and kept my kids out of church.

My 16 year old recently told me how glad she was that I didn't force her to be religious. To be fair, though, I also didn't force them NOT to be religious. I think if one of my kids came to me now and asked, I would consider letting them go if it was something they wanted to explore.

Fortunately, that just never happened.

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No. That being said, I took some time deciding whether or not I was going to when I had mine.

When my ex's family (Baptist) and my family (Catholic), started a tug of war for the "souls" of my children, and after a few more instances of religious abuse by my family members, and years of finding I was an outcast no matter what church I explored, I just walked away from it all and kept my kids out of church.

My 16 year old recently told me how glad she was that I didn't force her to be religious. To be fair, though, I also didn't force them NOT to be religious. I think if one of my kids came to me and asked, I would consider letting them go if it was something they wanted to explore.

Fortunately, that just never happened.

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I did not, and they were just fine with it. One or two still believe in the invisible friend but none of their children are baptized either.

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That would be child abuse. But I suppose many do it.

MarqG Level 5 Feb 23, 2018
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I gave my boys the choice to believe what they want. I surely never had the right answer about that. I did however try to teach conscientious living and human compassion as best I could. I Think it’s much better that the forced religion of my childhood that alienated and devastated my family.

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I told my kids at a young age that I did not go to church because I did not believe in organized religion. I said to them that if they had an interest in church that they should seek out many churches, and not just pick one to attend. I did all that I could to raise them as open-minded, free thinking/questioning, skeptical individuals. Beyond that, I really don't have any control over their decisions now that they are adults. But I will love them regardless. And I'll also continue to be a parent and remind them that nobody likes an asshole, and that everyone should strive to be a decent human being (if and when necessary).

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