I am the same person I was when I believed, just a little smarter. I don't miss anything about it. I think I was always atheist but growing up in a sheltered tiny town, I didn't even know that you could question it. I remember listening to pastors give their sermon and thinking "this is full of holes".
I miss the music more than anything else. I also miss the community, which is why I've considered re-joining a Unitarian Universalist congregation or getting involved with Sunday Assembly.
I absolutely do not miss the misogyny and anti-intellectualism of the churches of my childhood.
I have occasionally thought that it would be easier in almost every way to be a believer - fitting in more (I live in the Bible Belt), having those automatic social connections, etc. It would make my family amazingly happy if I reconverted. But I just cannot do it. It's too hypocritical.
Nope. All that sit down, stand up, kneel, sit, kneel, stand up and sad music and seriousness had to go.
Sad music. I love it. Lol.
Never was religious. ...always was an outsider studying believers inside their churches. ...like going to a neighbors house for the 1st time and there after. ...always asking how a guest should behave. ...reading signs on the walls
As we get older, my wife and I have been mildly attracted to the sense of community that is promised by church and quasi-church-like groups such as the post-Christian, atheist-accepting Unitarian-Universalists. But we keep running aground on the cliquish aspects of UU, its substitution of political dogma for religious dogma. We actually found an Episcopalean congregation more comfortable and broadly inclusive, but could not endure their 90 minute liturgical extravaganzas. Religious cruft is cruft, even when it's not dogmatic. I don't know what us two introverts are going to do long-term but it's probably not going to involve even liberal religion. In any case, it's my evolving view that liberal Christians are complicit with fundamentalists in not sufficiently calling them out for their perfidy.
Not really, when looking back on it , it was filled with individuals who based the relationship solely on me being a church member and not who I was as a person ..almost likr being a part of a work group ot business
Being religious was an easy way to feel superior to everyone else without justification or having to put in any effort to improve myself. But I don't miss it. I may not have that undeserved sense of being better than everyone else, but I'm more satisfied with who I am (I think I'm more understanding, generally kinder, less judgmental, etc.). I don't know that I'm any happier, but I don't think I'm more depressed either (at least not because of my change in worldview).
There is something about the traditions of the Jewish religion that I miss, like the davening in Temple, the flow of the reading of the Torah and Haftorah. I do miss the celebration of Passover when family would get together for our annual supper.
I wanted to be a cantor as a kid, so at one point religion was important to me. But I recently went to a friend's kid bar mitzvah and had a hard time with the religious aspect of the occasion. As atheists we do not have a celebration of becoming and adult, no bar mitzvahs, no communions, no walk abouts. We do not celebrate the coming of age when our kids turn 13, 18 or 21. I miss those traditions.
I can see that. I'm an atheist but I love going around the medieval churches of Europe and I'm also interested in devotional music. Remember this - you don't HAVE to throw out baby with the bathwater
yes traditions. as a former christian i kinda miss christmas. i'd taught my son that christmas means christ's birthday. he's 31 and also atheist. when he asks what i want for christmas, i respond by telling him what i want for a winter gift. not the same. and NO TREE! what?
I miss the networing you can do in church. I've been offered jobs just because I go to the same church as the guy that's doing the hiring. Church is heaven for the machiavellian.