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Do you ever miss the religious life?

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Sure. I miss the community aspect of it, and the music.

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I miss Holy days of Observance, all the rituals, celebrating the Saints, the mass, the incense, mystagogy, all of it. But I don't miss any of it.

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At one time I celebrated most of the Christian holidays, now I do not celebrate any of them. I have not attended any worship services for at least15 years (probably longer) and I do not miss them at all.

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Sometimes. I was raised Mormon and the sense of community is really strong, losing it was a lonely experience. Also living in Iowa as I do I'm pretty much surrounded by the faithful so it's difficult to find a non-religious group of people to hang out with.

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Not the religion. When I was an always hungry teen, did love the monthly potluck. The women brought their best dishes, and I wanted to show appreciation. So, some of the community part, but have found other sources of community since.

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I miss the community of it and the vast support network sometimes.

LoriS Level 3 Oct 23, 2017
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difficult to miss something Ive never had.

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I don't miss the religion, but the community was nice most of the time. It was comforting knowing that you could always count on someone if anything came up. Events (other than church and bible study) tended to be fun. Basically, if I had to say the one thing that was hard about leaving religion, is losing all the people who locked me out of their life because they couldn't accept my lack of belief. Discovering that most of me friendships were based on such weak bonds was difficult accept.

... but liberating in it's own way?

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I miss the mulligans I used to give god.

hahaha! good one!

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There was a time when the idea of community had an appeal, but I found a different community and don't miss it at all anymore.

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When my eldest daughter died this year I felt some jealousy for those that believe they'll see their loved ones again in heaven. I just accepted their well wishes and moved on. I know that when we're gone we're gone. I can only hold her in my thoughts and try to fill the cavernous hole that was left in my psyche with loive for who she was.

Caron Level 2 Oct 26, 2017
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No. The social aspect of church was a good thing, but I now have that with the Atheist Community.

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I used to take great comfort from communion & my son (an agnostic) was very displeased when I became a lapsed Anglican, which eventually morphed into atheism. I am grateful that I had a wide-reaching culturally religious education.

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I still attend funerals and weddings many of which are held in churches so I don't miss much of the community aspect of a religious life because I still participate. When I get up on Sunday morning and realize I am facing a full day of freedom I feel very content.

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My love of music, I guess, probably originated in church when I was very young. I greatly enjoy music, but I have come to abhor most religious music.... particularly the "modern" Christian rock and can't help but think that a lot of the Christian rockstars are singing all the way to the bank because God has been so good to them.

How about on the other end of time and quality, for instance Johann Sebastian Bach? Much of his music has religious themes. I find some of it just wonderful.

It's funny because when I was a kid my religious Grandma and her friends used to say in the 1960's that rock music of any kind is devil music or the kids are possessed by satan.

When religion loses followers, they will change so they can be more modern lol.

@ZebZaman Sadly, in the Middle Ages the main employer was The Church, so artists and musicians who wanted to be paid often had to play the religious game. Some had royal or wealthy patrons, and wrote music to fulfill certain obligations. I'm grateful for whoever/whatever inspired these people to make such beautiful music and artwork.

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No way. There is absolutely nothing I miss about hanging out with the brainwashed dogmatic hypocrites that form most of the church. Church music sucks and I can get a good enough coffee and donuts at Starbucks! I definitely don't miss sitting through pointless sermons and wasting all that precious time praying for nothing. Honestly, I'm still pissed that in this finite life I had to waste so much of it on religion. I think I probably spend as much time now rallying against religion as I did participating in it due to the anger I feel at being indoctrinated and lied to in the most foundational years of my life. I don't want others to have deal with this rubbish if I can possibly help them avoid it in any way. I dream of a secular society.

While I sympathise with your sense of frustration - at being so mislead - please don't beat yourself up with such anger. Acknowledge it and just let it go...... aaaahhhhh. Just being alive is too amazing an experience to waste it in regrets or recriminations. Remember the song - 'Don't worry. Be happy'. Great advice. Cheers.

To prevent feeling angry and frustrated all the time, I learned to see the humor in it all. If you have some time ask one to clarify something from the bible you found contradictory or just wrong. Don't hound them too hard or you will get the classic "it's in the Bible. God said it so it's true " .Pointing out that the bible is not god's personal assistant's notes ,straight from the horses mouth is counterproductive . If you can keep them talking they are a wellspring of ignorant comedy gold.

Irony for you? I grew up with very little adult supervision. Heathen, Bohemian from the start. Growing up in rural Alabama I heard the shit all my life .The bible thumpers feigned concern and sympathy. I saw right through them, they had no genuine concern for me. They considered themselves above me and didn't want me influencing their daughters and sons I suppose in a different way. I laughed my ass off at the parents and felt bad for the brainwashed kids. I wonder if they will ever have a clue how sad and pitiful I have always thought them to be.

I share your take on religion, but you will eventually watch the anger dissipate. I still have remnants of it myself, and I got out more than two decades ago.

Believers will see your raw emotion, and just say that you're angry at god; their way of defusing any otherwise good arguments you may have presented.

I like Thailand, for that reason. Thai Buddhism accepts a Third Gender and is so tolerant that animals wander in and out of the glittering temples, where you are free to come and meditate. The school kids often meditate before classes, twice a day, and it makes things peaceful and calm. But nobody bothers you, preaches at you, or condemns you.

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Assuming the question means the 'Religious life' for a believer, and not simply having a reverential attitude toward nature and life itself -- NEVER had it to lose - fortunately.

Pedro Level 3 Oct 28, 2017
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For most parts of religious life there is nothing to miss. However from the social side of life it had some great times. I am an ex SDA and we had lovely after church lunch times with fellow believers. Some church music is quite good and some Gospel songs can be very uplifting just from the point of music. Words in the songs mean not much most of the time just like pop songs do not either. The collapse of friendships due to leaving the church and liberation from biblical dogma did leave some emptiness inside and in social life. But nothing is better than freedom.

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I’ve never been religious. I was born non-religious and still am.

Loren Level 2 Oct 28, 2017

I wish I had been born non-religious, you are so fortunate.

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Never and I don't miss the hypocrisy of it. A lot of religious people are such phonies which is probably one of the reasons I am so turned off by it.

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Absolutely not.

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I miss the sense of community and belonging that I had there. I feel more insecure now about how people will respond to me or embrace me, but at the same time the significant relationships I do have feel much more authentic and meaningful.

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No, not group worship. I went to Catholic schools and was forced to attend church like 3 times a week. And then there is the hypocrisy of people sitting in the front row and being not so good of a person. I have my own religion inside myself. My Bible is The Golden Rule, Treat Others and you want to be treated yourself.

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