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How to deal with religious family and friends?

Being an agnostic is especially challenging when you're surrounded with religion family and friends. Often they will try to convert you to their religion, become hostile towards you or even disown you. What are your thoughts on how to retain a good relationship with religion people?

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As long as they do not insist upon themselves, just let them be...but more often than not, religious ppl have a superiority complex....family or not, shut them down if they go too far.

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I have one friend who is born again. At first he didn't try to push his religion on me but it has been awhile since we've seen each other. I respect their decision to put their faith in something bigger than themselves, his reason was his mother's passing. But I have met others who have tried to impose there beliefs on me and I'm well versed in various religions that I can make a strong argument against them. It has gotten to the point that I will either argue against them but most of the time I will either try to change the subject, inform them that I believe in myself, or just leave. Why waste time with people who want to believe in a higher, omnipotent power that can decide if they are good or evil.

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I have clearly stated boundaries. When the conversation heads towards "spirituality" I focus on logical continuity. I don't even need to have an opposing view when I let their claims of whatever cannibalize themselves. I also don't hide my vitriol towards religion. So far, no one in my family seems to be upset that the bible says horrible things or that religion has been used throughout history to justify atrocities, they're only upset that I'm pointing it out. Which I then make sure to bring up and that ends the conversation.

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My familly is muslim , so the best thing to do is not talking about religion

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I just act, improve my acting skills.

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I don't inquire about their religion, if they ask about my religion I simply tell them I do not engage myself in any form of religion. Following up with "I consider myself to be a Spiritual being". What I will not do is judge nor allow anyone to try and past judgement on me. You don't try to convert me I won't try to convert you.

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I have friends who are totally immersed in their religion, yet we get along fine, once they realize I will not bother to argue with them. Its ok for them to be followers, but if they try to force their beliefs on me, it ends the friendship. I have dozens of Muslim friends and they are undisturbed by my lack of religion. A few tried to convince me that the Koran has all the answers. Those people are not my friends now. I will not tolerate anyone pushing me to believe as they do.

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They believe what they ant, I believe what I want.

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we just don't talk about it much, just talk about other topics instead

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I just smile and tell them I love them. What else would you do? My personal beliefs are my own, and I value their right to believe what they want.

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I was slightly bothered recently to find out my mother purposely excludes me from some facebook posts, as I never respond rudely or anything to her beliefs. It's probably best though, I try to just not bring it up, but there are times I just cannot sit idly by either. It's a tough road to walk sometimes.

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I have clearly stated my positions on belief and religion. Family and friends know that I can give as well as I take. Some relationships deserve to die on principle. I'm comfortable with that.

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Tell them the truth. When religion comes up most of them are like, "I know you don't believe, but I do type of thing and then we discuss topic.' I have an awesome family who believe you should not push religion on others because it's rude.

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My family is a very mixed group of Christians, Jew's, Atheist, and Nones. We all accept each other and get along no fight's about religion.

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I don't speak to my family anymore. I do have friends that are religious but they don't push their beliefs on me. They accept that we can have different beliefs and we still get along fine. They are good human beings and we have things in common besides religion. I don't condemn anyone for their beliefs. I can find enough in common with other humans and don't engage in debates about religion.

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ignored them

tonia Level 5 Sep 25, 2017
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I've learned the best way to deal with religious family members or friends. It's too laugh at them because to me it's fun to watch them getting flustered when I talk about how there is no God or how aliens exist or how there's a possibility for extra-dimensional beings or places

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My wife and all her family are all hardcore bible thumping Christians. Yes, I said my wife too, she wasn't when I married her. They all know I don't believe and they all know I don't, I'll repeat it I DO NOT respect their beliefs. I think they're damaging to them and society. They also know I love them and I would take a bullet for my wife without a second thought. It's hard, but I'm done sitting in the closet. If they debate me as they do every time they come over to visit, I point out the flaws of their beliefs, but I make sure we hug it out before they leave. I love my mother in law she's a good lady with a ton of spunk. She greats me, calling me a demon child. She'll say Demon child help me out of my chair. Then before she leaves, she says, Demon child, come give me a kiss goodbye and tell that devil friend of yours I'm coming for him. She'll swat her walking stick against my leg and I'll be coming for you too. Then she'll wink at me and smile. This isn't just one account this is every time I see her.

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I politely explain to them that while our views may be different , I don't respect theirs any less. If they are persistent and/or inquisitive, I may discuss the reasoning (questioning and considering other possibilities) behind my views, but not in a way that attacks what they believe. I may even share a story, because they help people visualize and empathize better, and they don't usually cause people to feel personally attacked or insulted.

I'm not trying to be disrespectful. I'm just asking, do you really respect their beliefs or are you just telling them that not to cause friction? My extended family knows I don't disrespect them as people, they know I love them, but they also know I have no respect for their beliefs. They sure don't have respect for mine, and I feel no obligation to hide my dislike of theirs.

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I let people believe as they choose, however, if they begin imposing their views on me, I politely explain to them that while our views may be different , I don't respect theirs any less. If they are persistent and/or inquisitive, I may discuss the reasoning (questioning and considering other possibilities) behind my views, but not in a way that attacks what they believe. I may even share a story, because they help people visualize and empathize better, and they don't usually cause people to feel personally attacked or insulted.

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We always have a certain degree of respect or maybe even just tolerance and civility

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I just listen . I am always open to others opinions .

Even when you know those opinions are stupid?

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Respect is a way to get along with others. If they preach their beliefs to me, I kindly explain I have no interest. I don't try to convert religious folks but am willing to explain why I am not.

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They have a right to believe what they want, just like I do. As long as they don't push their religious beliefs onto me, we will all get along fine

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Do not argue with them.

You just got tired let them do whatever they want. Let them belive whatever

To some degree, a status quo behavior stifles medicinal and scientific progress and humanity’s...look at the current political and climatological predicament we are in. I heavily blame religion, it primes people to believe unfounded and non-factual things. Typically with dire consequences.

I'm not going to let them "do whatever they want" because it's going to affect me and you.

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