Remember back when sites like Facebook started and everyone was excited to reunite with friends and acquaintances from our past? Then, during and after the 2016 election, we had the "Great Unfriending" where it became increasing harder to be gracious when some of these "friends" posted their different political views. Since many have now limited their peer group to those who are politically aligned, it's rare for people to have friends from another political tribe.
What about you? How many good friends do you have that:
What do you think is the future of friendships and its political implications? Is it possible to mend bridges - perhaps when the administration changes? Do you treat these good friends with opposing views differently than you treat members here with similarly different views? If so, why?
Note: While I'm an agnostic and classically liberal, some of my views are more centrist/conservative than many here. I try, however, to treat those with different views as if we are good friends.
I have given up on the whole concept of friends, as an introvert. People do not measure up to my impossible standards & I am intolerant of that. I have found people to be mostly the same with many traits in common. The traits are undesirable characteristics but most people have them. I am beginning to think I need to find another culture in another country. I was interested in Sikkim, but they were absorbed by India. Andorra is another possibility. I must not be very good choosing people to be friends with. They always let me down. So I stick with my animal friends.
There are real friends, and there are Facebook "friends".
I have many friends who live on different political planets, social circles, intellectual plateaus.
When Suckerberg stole the idea for Facebook from his "friends" he failed to comprehend the dimensionality of relationships among people.
Don't know why this did not show up sooner on the page when I first log in. I have no good/close friends who are on the right. I have one person who is far right that I use to think of as a good friend. Mid way thru the trump presidency she became more active with her posts on FB. I did pause her onec for 30 days as the batshit crazy stuff she was posting after the pandemic hit and the first lock downs came was just TOO much to take.
Then came the George Floyd comments.
I have an identical twin, she is far right and only gets her news from fox, oann or newsmax. She is also very Christian. We are sisters, not friends.
Good friends, NONE! Friends, many.
I’ve been doing politics since 1972 and the first four years were hardball. They included one primary election candidacy and one car bomb murder. ( Don Bolles in wiki.) I’m not often surprised. Soon after DJT’s election I limited myself to saying “He’s going to educate us.”
I'm surrounded by enough family from the "other political tribe" I don't need friends as well. That said, I'm not a very social person. If I run into an old friend in public, whom I know does not share my political views, and usually views on religion, I am polite, of course; but I make no effort to socialize beyond that.
My parents and most of my sisters have completely opposing political and religious views as me. Since we still see a lot of each other, it's very difficult to avoid bringing up our perpendicular worldviews, but we all usually try to.
It feels impossible to reason with someone who doesn't value reason, whose wordview is built on faith, believing in something despite what their reasoning may tell them.
Most all my friends from high school and childhood voted for trump. I don't know where they all stood for the 2nd term because I shut down my facebook account last June. My best friend from childhood is a trumpster - but not too extreme - we don't discuss or go there. She works for the Post Office and thinks he done good for it. She's actually ex-military. I don't know where she stands since the insurrection. Most my family are trumpsters. My son is a registered Republican but is not a trumpster - he does however sympathize with them. My grandson is aligned with his grandma.
Politics did become the major wedge in my last relationship. He changed. He went from tuning in to Rachel Maddow to Rush Limbaugh. How does that happen? Both of us have conservative views in certain areas but I never thought he would go that far into the dark side. I think the gauntlet came down on the relationship when I said I was going to run off and join ANTIFA. LMAO now that I think back at it. Have to add that I've always referred to myself as a "feminazi".
Political affiliation does effect where I shop or where I put my money. I will not shop at Hobby Lobby or go to Chick-Filet. I definitely will not give my business to any entity with "Christian" or "Patriot" in it's name.
In my apartment complex, I only know of one couple that are liberal. I am otherwise surrounded by Baptists, Evangelicals, and Trumpublicans. It gets lonely for sure.
Not sure the exact number, but I have family and friends and neighbors from all walks of life. Generally speaking though I don't usually mention politics, religion or social issues to them, and if any of them bring up such topics I just act like I'm paying attention, in favor of zeroing in on the topics we all would have in common. As for political tribes, don't really feel like I belong to any tribe in particular, was always content just being myself and not be too concerned over identity politics.
I have good friends from both sides ranging from conspiracy-oriented Right-wingers to ultra-Woke Lefties.
So far they're OK with me so I'm fine with them.
I rarely engage in the political/culture war on social media so that helps maintain friendships.
Not sure what constitutes "other". Do I have any good friends that are die hard Trumpers. No. Fuck no. Do I play cards with a couple guys that voted for him. Yes. The die hards that are relatives are cut out of my life, too, but the voted for him the first time then didn't the second I still talk to. I think if you asked this question before Trump, my answer, and I suspect a lot of others would be different. Trump isn't "of" the other party. He's his own, and the Republicans just happened to follow. I can get along with people who have different views on how to attain certain goals or whatever, but I can't get on board with that vile, racist, self-obsessed, selfish pile of shit.
I have several engineer friends at work that were pro Trump. They learned to stop the snowflake shit with me early on, so I’m returning the favor despite correcting comments about all the “evidence” of voter fraud.
They were greatly distressed.
I have no further need to rub their noses in it.
So long as no lies are being spread.