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I am a lifelong Ann Arborite with a college education, a grown son, and 3 cats. I am an outgoing introvert - I love my friends and family and also like to hang out at home with a book or tv show and a cat. I have a job and hobbies and volunteer commitments but will make time for someone who enhances my life.

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I still struggle.
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 28, 2018:
I finally got there too
I think I’m being ghosted. I met this cool chick in Yellowstone and then we went to New Orleans ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 28, 2018:
I mean, “ghosted” is when someone completely freezes you out, does not respond to any messages and basically disappears. Do, not quite that but sounds like some variant that is stringing you along.
Last sat. My wife & I went to an Appleby's restaurant in Mesa, Az. We always have beer with a meal. ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 27, 2018:
A pint is a fixed amount. If they sell you a pint and bring you 10oz, they are cheating you. It’s like saying “our gallon of milk is half a gallon.” Also Applebees is terrible. You’d be appalled how much of your dinner came out of a microwave.
The handyman wants $500 to do odd jobs like hanging two curtain rods, attaching a 12-outlet strip to...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 27, 2018:
That’s what? An hour’s work? Handyman rate is maybe $20-40 an hour. Sounds like he’s taking advantage.
Do you think unhealthy families are more numerous today? Or do we just hear more about sick ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 27, 2018:
I think it’s like everything else - there aren’t any more shark attacks but everyone reads about them on-line so it feels like it is super common. We are much more aware today of what behaviors are toxic and abusive, and have more ways to communicate about them, where people used to just keep it to themselves.
I had taken my mom back to the airport yesterday. Had stopped in several places. I had noticed a ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 27, 2018:
A good answer is “don’t worry about it. It doesn’t make any difference to you. And it’s rude to call attention to another person’s appearance.”
What is everyone’s experience on Tinder, for those of you who have it?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 27, 2018:
I stay away from Tinder. Because my best friend did it for a while, and she got a LOT of dick pics.
heart melt Joshua: Out of 12 foster moms in my life, you're my favorite. Me: 12? How many were...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 26, 2018:
Wow - fostering is such a big, important job. Thanks for doing it right!
The godfather of fake news - BBC News [bbc.co.uk] I don't have words
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 26, 2018:
Aaaaagggghhhhh! Hating people a little more right now.
For men on dating sites. A woman recently posted on here that it makes her uncomfortable when men ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 26, 2018:
But we are supposed to be grateful to men for finding us attractive. He meant it as a compliment so we’re just being rude/judgmental/a bitch for not taking it as he wants us to. We don’t we just loosen up and appreciate being objectified? ?
Dating site observation...(not so much this site) Being called sexy in the first message to me ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 26, 2018:
I never respond to a message that is “Hey Sexy” or “Hello, Beautiful.” It’s weird, over-familiar and lazy.
Smartphones are surveillance tech sold to you as a social trend.
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
Saw that story today - it really is listening and feeding you ads based on offline activity and conversations.
What will historians 2000 years from now regard as a barbaric practice of the 21st century that we ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
Chemotherapy, hopefully
Just leaving this here for whomever needs it.
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
Cute!
Have this idea for a business platform. Rent a spouse. Apply for a patent for temporary marriage ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
They are doing this is some foreign country already where sex outside of marriage is illegal
No one ever tells you that making friends as an adult is awful, that you should hold on to the ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
If you haven’t held onto your friends from youth, there’s probably a reason.
A man in a Florida supermarket tried to buy half a head of lettuce. The very young produce ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
Wish I was that good thinking on my feet!
Selflessness
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
This is a dangerous topic for me. I was in a toxic marriage where I was expected/required to be completely selfless - that is to sacrifice my needs and feelings 100% of the time. That even a compromise where we could both get something we wanted was not adequate because he didn’t feel loved if I got anything I needed ever. I have literally no idea how to balance selflessness with getting my own needs met.
I think I finally get it! When conservatives use the word liberal they simply mean anything that ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
They just keep moving further to the right. Hopefully they’ll fall off the edge soon.
This is one of the most dumb ass ideas I’ve ever seen.
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
Please take a piece of junk to remind you to make a wish to nothing ?‍♀️
Munching on healthy California Raisins, friends. Then I noticed these fucking worms.
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
Blegh ?
He throws a tantrum and then calls me a cow and tells me I need permission to speak. this man has ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
Wow wtf?!
I have been single for the last 8 year's because well my ex was an arsehole. The term 'gaslighting' ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 25, 2018:
My situation is very similar. Ex was a gas lighter and basically treated me like my only reason for existing was to meet his needs. I have been single for more than 3 years and have dated some, never seriously. My life is so much better alone than it was in a relationship that it’s hard to even WANT that. I know that I deserve to actually be loved by someone. But I don’t much want to open myself up to finding it.
Anybody outhere watched or read Cool Hand Luke? It’s one of my favorite stories. I aint got the ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 24, 2018:
Did not know it was a book. Saw the movie in high school film class.
My abuser's (my father) birthday was the 24th of November. I'm from England but have been in the USA...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 23, 2018:
My abuser’s birthday was also this week. And we celebrated a lot of Thanksgivings together. So this week also has a shadow for me too. I try to focus on the family I have with me and how thankful I am that he is out of my life now.
I love a good deal as much as anyone, but Black Friday is just ridiculous.
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 23, 2018:
I don’t mess with that crap. EVER.
Yes!! Happy indigenous people's day..
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 23, 2018:
Except that Indigenous People’s Day replaces Columbus Day - not Thanksgiving.
I've recently returned from a 3 day trip that lasted several months. My father-in-law lives a ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 22, 2018:
You didn’t go for you - you went for your wife, and that was the right thing to do.
So A co-worker suggested that I get on a different dating app. It's called MeetMe. I don't know what...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 22, 2018:
Pretty sure the best thing about dating after 30 is not having to date guys in their 20s ?
What has been your experience with humanist/agnostic/athiest groups that meet in person?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 21, 2018:
My local atheist meetup is heavy on old white guys who want to argue about stuff. But also includes some 30-something folks who have become very good friends. Often, a casual meet up is planned with a book or question or topic to get the conversation rolling. A couple of my friends went to a non-religious “church” service, held in an actual church. They found it weird. They sang pop songs and there was some kind of “sermon” but I don’t remember what about.
Anyone here going to be apart of the Black Friday madness?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 21, 2018:
Hell no. Well maybe on-line. But staying the F out of the stores!
Hmm? Satanists?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 21, 2018:
Probably not out HERE, since this is a site for non-theists.
The legal drinking age
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 21, 2018:
I think no adult should be penalized for drinking or possessing alcohol. I do think that the issue caused by having 18 as the legal drinking age is that, an 18-year-old might be inclined to share with their younger classmates, where a 21 year old would rarely provide alcohol to a 14 or 15-year old. My solution would be to decriminalize consumption and possession, allow 18-year-olds to be served at bars and restaurants but keep the age to buy and take alcohol at 21.
Why are so many people so seldom persuaded by clear evidence and rational argument?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 21, 2018:
When your whole life is built around your beliefs, accepting that your belief is wrong means letting go of a lot. This is something that religions and abusers rely on.
My youngest boys are 5 & 3. My brother and I are also two years apart. Today I texted my Mom and ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 21, 2018:
Haha Mom knows exactly what you mean!
I just found out something great about tomorrow. I got an E-Mail from the councelors at the ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 21, 2018:
That’s awesome!
Today, I sat in a debate discussing the pros and cons of the American Affordable Care Act (Obama ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 20, 2018:
Yes if only we were free to die from preventable conditions and bankrupt ourselves with medical bills. Those bastards.
Today I received a second confirmation of what is wrong with my hand. This is a custom made brace...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 20, 2018:
I have one of those - just like that. And one that went up to my elbow they put on after I had surgery. I FEEL YOUR PAIN - literally. And I’m Really sorry. And I hope you are left handed (me neither). Wishing you a speedy recovery.
The little shit sleeps 15 hours a day and then gets mad when I try to take a nap
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 19, 2018:
Funny how that works ?
“Noaaaaaah!”
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 19, 2018:
And all the pieces fall into place ?
Any Family Guy fans?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 19, 2018:
Of course!
What do normal people do when they feel this sad?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 19, 2018:
Find things that bring you joy and make time for them every day. focus on bringing joy to others. Failing that, seek professional mental health assistance. If you are in crisis, call 1-800-273-TALK or text 741-741. Good luck!
I am a security guard in a pub. I get so many guys there acting inappropriately and asking me out ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 19, 2018:
That is really frustrating that men have more respect for another man’s “property” than they do for a woman who says she isn’t interested.
How do you deal with bad dreams about the bullies who tormented you in childhood (and also ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 19, 2018:
I still dream about my abusive ex. I always wake up hurt and frustrated - same as I spent years of my marriage feeling. All I can do is think - “at least it’s just a dream and not my life anymore.”
So I got a tetanus shot 5 days ago and my arm is hot, red and hard. plus the redness has spread. ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 18, 2018:
That sounds like a serious infection. You should get that checked ASAP.
Note to self, when buying an insurance for my flight..... make sure that it actually will give a ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 18, 2018:
That would be the purpose of travel insurance.
Should we implement ranked choice voting? For those who don't know, ranked choice is a system of ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 18, 2018:
I agree - that would be an improvement.
So the other day the food bank gave me like a 60 oz. Fajita seasoned flank steak and a huge ribeye ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 18, 2018:
Pretty sure that’s fajitas
For those that have come into contact with scammers and probable “dating “ scammers on apps and ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 18, 2018:
Terrible grammar
Have been thinking of a possible trip for summer. There are only 2 states where I have not been ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 18, 2018:
I had a stopover in Seattle on my way to Alaska, so you might check off both in one trip. I went to Alaska for a conference last spring and it was AMAZING. I would definitely be interested in getting to see more of Seattle, but Alask was beautiful and awe-inspiring.
I need to clam up.
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 16, 2018:
BOOOOOO!
When white folks say President Obama was "an embarrassment," here's what you say
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 16, 2018:
Yes, how embarrassing to have a brilliant, thoughtful, articulate, respectful and compassionate leader.
Can anyone help me phrase a note to my tenants in order to contribute to snow removal?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 16, 2018:
Dear neighbors - with the start of the snowy season, this is a friendly reminder that we all need to be contributing to promptly removing snow from (walkways, parking spaces, common areas). Many hands make light work!
Well..............it could happen.
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 16, 2018:
Tell me about it ?
New game. Mental health hampered my sprint at Level 8. Reaching Level 7.9. New game, since I have ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 16, 2018:
I make the BEST triple chocolate cookies.
Bootsie Made It to the Top of Her Cat Tree on Her Own!
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 16, 2018:
This is what happened when I got a new cat tree ?
So while we're on the topic of accents, how do you feel about British accents?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 16, 2018:
Meh. My son had to do a British accent for a play, so he switched Siri to British and talked to her for weeks.
Megachurch Pastor: ‘Woman Has No Right Over Her Own Body – It Belongs To God’ | Michael Stone
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 15, 2018:
There are not enough derogatory terms to describe this cock waffle.
Zooey Deschanel an in conventionally pretty woman but oh so desirable😀.
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 15, 2018:
I thought pretty, petite, big-eyed white girls were the definition of “conventionally pretty.”
You know what's ironic about Thanksgiving?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 14, 2018:
The whole narrative is BS.
Donald Trump after several health scares was advised to go on a diet and lose two stone of useless ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 14, 2018:
It doesn’t seem to have made a difference
Photo of new House members shows big gap in diversity between parties | US news | The Guardian
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 14, 2018:
Same when they show the interns in Washington. Repubs do include more women than this (just ONE?!?!) but almost no racial diversity. Dems’ interns are a highly diverse group.
A question for all those that are looking for a date/mate/lover ... If you see a profile you ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 13, 2018:
Ok since most of these responses are from bi- folks, I’ll offer a different perspective. Honestly, when I see a man identifies as bi, I usually “left-swipe.” I can’t even articulate why that is. I completely understand that bisexual people are just as capable of being faithful.
I’ve just realized how difficult it is to date when you work till 6 but you go to bed between 8 ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 13, 2018:
I feel that - who has the time?
It's looking like I am going to remain single through the winter. LOL Oh well, maybe I'll meet ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 13, 2018:
Oh, dude. Gotta know when to stop ?
I am very interested in the idea of co-ops as an alternative to capitalist business models. How are ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 13, 2018:
My neighborhood is a cooperative. All of the residents buy a membership which allows them to live in a unit. We elect a board of 5 people who make the budget and policies and oversee the management, who run the cooperative on a day-to-day basis.
Political correctness was not even the original term it was called Alternate insert target here. ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 11, 2018:
Do you really believe that racism and misogyny and bigotry and homo-“phobia” simply disappeared after a few years of people saying that it is not nice to use derogatory terms for them? Yes, you start a movement by addressing the most egregious harms. Then when people begin to accept that even those who are different from you deserve to be treated as human beings, then you begin to educate people about the ways that smaller acts can hurt others. Surely even if you believed that most racism was in the past, the events of the last 2 years would’ve disabused you of that notion.
Snicker........
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 11, 2018:
I love this!
So I have separate from my wife after being together for over twenty years. We will be getting a ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 11, 2018:
Ugh I’m sorry. Your life will change hugely, of course, but there will most likely be plenty of good to come out of it. Good luck.
That escalated quickly.
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 11, 2018:
Notice the LACK of response to that.
This is what I woke up too...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 11, 2018:
Yep. It been doing that cold wet thing in michigan too.
Up a little early, so still groggy while I wait for my coffee to brew. Just want to say to every ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 11, 2018:
This picture of spilled coffee beans makes me anxious
I'm curious as to whether people here actually find someone on this site to date. I like the shared ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 10, 2018:
I have heard about a few couples, but for the most part there are not enough people concentrated in an area to make a good dating pool.
I most recently have left an a toxic relationship of 2 years. i’ve never let myself get into that ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 10, 2018:
Been there. Good for you for getting out. It will take a while to un-fuck your head. We’re here for you. I keep saying this to different people for different reasons, but, check-out Meetup.com. I found an atheist group where I met my best friends. You can often often free or cheap activities to meet people. You might also find a support group.
"In 2009 the Obama administration tried to exclude Fox News from the press pool. They backed down ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
If this continues, Fox News will be the only one left and it will be completely controlled by the White House.
What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
“Purity”/chastity, particularly when it’s thought to represent the *only* value of women. By a subset of the population but to an extreme and highly toxic degree.
"If there is a just God in heaven how can babies be born with brain cancer." Marquis DeSade
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
You could end that sentence in a thousand different ways.
How much longer are they going to do this?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
Yeah it’s not fun.
So this is happening....
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
AAhhhhh WTF it’s not even thanksgiving yet!
GOP Senator Opposes Medicaid Expansion Because It Prevents People From Finding God | Michael Stone
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
More people would believe in god if they were dying. What a miserable POS.
USA ranked 27th in the world in education and healthcare
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
And we spend more on health care than any other wealthy country. Seems like maybe we are spending WRONG, no?
Reincarnation
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
For me, it’s kind of like the idea of heaven. Like, it would be nice if good people got reincarnated as house cats and my ex got reincarnated as kitty litter. Or maybe as a parasite. That would be appropriate. Too bad it’s fantasy.
So I'm driving 40 ft 15 ton yellow vehicle and I get cut off in morning rush traffic by a SUV with a...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
Laugh or else you’d cry. People suck.
Hmmmm... Do you think that anyone will still want to compromise when it comes to behavior changes in...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
I think there’s a difference between changing who you are to accommodate another person, and changing some behaviors or habits in order to make room for another person in your life/home. I am past the days of diminishing who I am for anyone.
Hello all. Just wanted to introduce myself. I’m new to the group. Looking for community of other ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
Wow. I’m sorry for what you’re going through. Luckily, you’ve found a place that will offer support, with no “prayers.” When it comes, embrace the opportunity to make choices to put yourself first.
Pets in the bedroom. Yes, No?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 9, 2018:
Yep. 3 cats take up as much space as I do.
Ted Nugent disses his home state of Michigan - such a prince is he - NOT. For your background, after...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 8, 2018:
From a true Michigander, I’d like to say: FUCK that guy.
Intrusive thoughts smh Me: boy there's a lot of snow on my sunroof Brain: open it Me: no ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 8, 2018:
HOW DOES IT END?!!!
Do you prefer home-ownership or renting? I own my own home, mortgage-free, but now that I'm a widow...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 8, 2018:
My living situation is less common - I live in a cooperative, where members buy a “share,” like investing in a company. I have a 2-bedroom townhouse and pay less than half what it would cost at market rate. The monthly charge includes gas and water, repairs large and small, lawn care and snow plowing and garbage removal and property taxes. and if my toilet stops working on Thanksgiving day I don’t have to pay a plumber 3X his usual rate to come fix it! Your needs change through your life, and you may be just *assuming* that your kids want the house. Or you might actually have more to leave them if you downsize. And you need to take care of yourself. I hope you will talk with them about it and take care of yourself.
So, been seeing a commercial for "Miracle Spring Water". Apparently, God gives you money if you chug...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 8, 2018:
I’ve seen that. People really will buy anything 😂
Just curious on members belief in extraterrestrial life.
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 8, 2018:
The odds are high that there is other life in the millions of planets in the universe.
Posting this here because I'd like to get different perspectives. Do I have the right attitude, or ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 8, 2018:
Chivalry was “being a good man” in a time when women were property and incapable of taking care of themselves. What women need today is different. Good for her for seeing that isn’t what she wants. And good for you for reinforcing her self-sufficiency.
Hyothetically: Would you move to a place that you find too cold to live close to someone you love? ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 8, 2018:
I would definitely NOT move to be with someone who still wanted to see other people. If you’re giving up your home, your job, your network for someone, you’d better be sure they’re in it.
Putting this post in this group because I know people here have been very supportive. I have a ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 8, 2018:
I’m sorry you are losing your friend. Maybe something to take with you is a board game? Something fun to do together while you visit without feeling totally focused on her illness.
I'm confused! As non believers, why are people talking about celebrating Christmas? Hmmm
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 8, 2018:
Most “Christians” don’t celebrate religious Christmas either. Call me a “cultural Christian” if you want. It’s a good excuse to spend time with people I care about, exchange gifts, eat good food.
After the 2016 vote I remember feeling like I had been punched in the gut. Many people in online ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 7, 2018:
No you are definitely not.
Kim Davis, Anti-Gay Clerk from Rowan County (KY), Has Lost Her Re-Election Race | Hemant Mehta | ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 7, 2018:
Awesome. She is a terrible person who used her small amount of power to bully others. Good riddance.
What's the right thing to do when you do all the right things for a good period of time but don't ...
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 7, 2018:
Life is complicated. There is no formula for “Do x get y.”
What are the biggest things you’ve learned in life to date?
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 7, 2018:
That it’s ok, IMPORTANT, to set boundaries and stick to them or some people will take advantage of you. I learned the hard way.
President Trump's Job Performance
A2Jennifer comments on Nov 7, 2018:
I regularly get polls about Trump’s performance from his administration. But the response choices are: Great, Good, Ok and Other. (To guarantee that there is no systematic collection of disapproval, even from their own mailing list.) I let them keep me on the mailing list so that I can give feedback in the “explain” box.

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