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When did you start drinking coffee and why?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 31, 2018:

I once made my dad run me by the grocery store on the way to middle school for milk for my coffee. Now I drink it black and strong.

Hiccoughs verses dire existentialism - The cure.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 30, 2018:

Holy crap I think it I hiccoughed for 3 days I’d be ready for the loony bin!

If you could make a rule that everyone had to follow, what would it be?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 30, 2018:

Don’t be a dick.

What Would You Tell Your 18-Year-Old Self?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 29, 2018:

Thanks for that! Mine is: raise the kid alone - his dad is more trouble than he’s worth.

My unfun coworker who has no idea what humor is: Are you dressing up for halloween?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 29, 2018:

What a bitch. You could wear a sign that says “I am rude and have no sense of humor” and when she asks, tell her you decided to dress up as her instead.

I just got a call from the Red Cross dispatcher.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 29, 2018:

Be careful - thanks for your service!

For all of us Single Folks seeking "chemistry" in our next relationship. UH-OH !!?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 28, 2018:

Well crap.

Another quiet night, me an my cats they have the longevity an unconditional love laking these days ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 28, 2018:

Whoa that very suddenly got very dark

Are abusive people happy?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 28, 2018:

My experience is that abusive people are deeply unhappy. And the more unhappy they are, the more unhappy they need you to be.

Never ending growth. What are your thoughts on the need for society to keep growing?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 27, 2018:

No I do not understand the goal of continuing to expand the human population.

Trump warns of violence if GOP loses midterms - CNN Video

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 27, 2018:

... while claiming that it’s dems who are a “violent mob” ?

Ok.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 27, 2018:

It’s good to work out the immune system!

I hope this doesn’t come across whiny.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 27, 2018:

I also found myself divorced with a teenager and no friends. And I don’t drink, so bars are not for me. I highly recommend Meetup.com. You can look through groups in your area organized around activities, beliefs or just social gatherings. I found an atheist group and great friends. Good luck!

I try not to get too political on this website,.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 26, 2018:

No that was pretty clear from the list of targets. Unless you push conspiracy theories for a living.

Does telling lies really spice up relationships?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 26, 2018:

Sure, if you consider instability and distrust “spicy.”

Trump Pastor Claims Women Sexually Assault Men By Dressing Provocatively | Michael Stone

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 25, 2018:

Someone should kick him in the nards.

Republicans Vow to Make Deep Cuts to Social Security, Medicare and Medicaid if Party Retains Control...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 25, 2018:

But at least they’re telling the truth about that. Recent studies have shown that like 80% of Americans want to keep protections for people with pre-existing conditions and now Republicans are back-peddling on that like their lives depend on it.

Would you consider yourself difficult to get along with, deal with, or live with?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 25, 2018:

My (narcissistic) father once told my then-fiancé that I was “difficult.” My (sociopathic) now-ex jumped on that bandwagon and spent years telling me how unreasonable and mean I was for asking CRAZY things like that he not steal from his family. The people who find me “difficult” think that because I have this terrible habit of having my own needs and feelings and the ridiculous idea that those things should matter to people who say they love me. Sorry. You hit a nerve.

This is not a flash from the past.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 25, 2018:

HOLY CRAP PEOPLE ARE CRAZY

So many bullies are good looking and charming.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 25, 2018:

Many are. Lots of others are just master manipulators.

What are your favorite lyrics?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 24, 2018:

So, so you think you can tell Heaven from hell Blue skies from pain Can you tell a green field From a cold steel rail? A smile from a veil? Do you think you can tell? Did they get you to trade Your heroes for ghosts? Hot ashes for trees? Hot air for a cool breeze? Cold comfort for change? Did you exchange A walk on part in the wall For a lead role in a cage? How I wish, how I wish you were here We're just two lost souls Swimming in a fish bowl Year after year Running over the same old ground And how we found The same old fears Wish you were here

But... but... her emails? g

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 24, 2018:

Sure they do - if the raging baby sociopath in the White House says so, they will believe literally anything.

Please share stories about unrequited love.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 24, 2018:

I married my HS boyfriend. He said he loved me. He said it a LOT. But I don’t know what that meant because it didn’t mean that he wanted me to be happy, or have what I needed, or just be ok. It didn’t mean that he wouldn’t hurt me if it got him something he wanted. I spent many years feeling like him *really* loving me, loving me the way I loved him, was just out of reach. That if I gave a little more, sacrificed a little more, asked just a little less, THEN I would feel loved. That never happened.

There is alot that I don't tell people. So many of them wouldn't understand.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 23, 2018:

Yeah. I don’t think anyone could really understand me without knowing what I’ve been through.

Thoughts on marriage : There seems to be many in the community who are anti marriage.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 23, 2018:

Choose carefully! I wouldn’t call myself “anti” marriage but I’m a lot more skeptical about it since being in an emotionally abusive one, where the common societal beliefs about marriage were used to keep me in it.

A many splendid thing.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 22, 2018:

I second that. I made lots of youthful bad decisions based on the need to feel loved - and thinking I needed a boy to do that. I stayed in a bad marriage to that boy for a long time because I let him convince me that he loved me, even though he didn’t give a crap if I had anything I needed and was totally willing to hurt me if it got him something he wanted. Now I realize I lived that whole time without being loved the way I loved him. So now “romantic love” doesn’t seem so important anymore.

I looked a complete idiot today.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 21, 2018:

Hopefully you have some neighborhood kids a great story!

I almost bought the 5-pound bag of Reese's Minis at the store today.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 21, 2018:

Good plan!

Well friends how are you?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 21, 2018:

Whoa that’s a lot. It sounds like surgery is a well-considered choice and I hope all goes well. I had surgery in May - not major surgery but under anesthesia nonetheless. I don’t have a will or anything official, but my son would get everything. I did prep some stuff - info about accounts, insurance, “just in case.”

Has anyone else crack open thier holloween candy that was ment for the kids?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 20, 2018:

I don’t get trick-or-treaters so I don’t buy candy until it’s 50% off the day after Halloween!

Adult children?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 20, 2018:

My son and I have a great relationship now that his dad isn’t manipulating us both for control. He has decided to keep living at home with me while he is in college. He talks to me about just about everything. I can offer my opinion about his choices, and he will ask for my input, because he knows that ultimately I trust him to make decisions for himself.

Online dating, are you ladies asking for too much?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 20, 2018:

I always try to give a “maybe” a chance. But I’m still not going to waste time with someone who is clearly not a good fit. We are all entitled to our dealbreakers.

On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the highest), how afraid are you of meeting someone IRL for the first ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 20, 2018:

Probably 3-4. I am pretty careful - always meet at a public place. I wouldn’t get into someone’s car or give them my address. But I always let someone know where I am and who I’m with and have her check on me in a couple of hours, just in case.

Were we not just talking about this?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 20, 2018:

I’ll file that away for next time ?

Now that the Mega Millons is officially over 1 billion dollars for the jackpot, if any of you won ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 20, 2018:

First thing I would do is call my dad to ask him “what color?” - What color does he want his new Mustang to be. See a lawyer and investor, set up a trust for my son. New cars for myself and my son. My mom has a pretty new car so maybe I’d take her on a trip instead. Pay off all the debt my deadbeat ex left me with then call him to telll him to go f- himself. Decide which causes to support and make regular contributions.

Do you believe that alien beings exist somewhere in this vast universe?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 19, 2018:

I assume there is other life out there somewhere. Whether or not it possesses reason is another question.

This does not fit any particular secular category, but it is certainly an example of humanist ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 19, 2018:

Great idea - I have been pondering tiny home communities for the homeless, with central facilities to share access to other kinds of services and support one another.

Hey.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 19, 2018:

Yeah thats a tough area. For people who have gone through puberty as males, they will have a different physical make-up than biological females. I’m all for letting people decide how to identify themselves but not sure how the rules should apply for physical competition. It’s the same question as it is with the whole bathroom debate - who should decide? Should it depend on your drivers license? Your genitals? Your DNA?

I found a level two profile with a pic proven to be fake through reverse image.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 19, 2018:

Kill ‘em all and let admin sort it out ?

You Want a Partner Not a Project

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 19, 2018:

No kidding

Dating shouldn't be thus hard.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 19, 2018:

Sounds like you were lucky to figure it out before you met with him! What a tool!

Houston, we have a problem.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 19, 2018:

Wait is this a joke? Or did that actually happen?

Do you think men just want sex without a committed relationship more than women and women want to ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 18, 2018:

Evolution has favored this tendency - men’s genes are most likely to be successfully passed on by producing many children, women’s genes are most likely to survive by nurturing the children they have already invested much time into, and it helps to have the second caregiver/provider stick around to do so. That said, people are different, and have different needs.

This is from an obscure place Calhan, Co. The Paint mines...Gotta C for your selfs

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 18, 2018:

Mmmm looks warm!

Fall Kingdom

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 18, 2018:

Got it!

Bible Thumpers Logic

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 18, 2018:

Cuz science is hard

Ok this may be strange but I am having trouble deciding if I should trim my goatee or keep growing ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 18, 2018:

Only because you asked, I’m with most of the other ladies - I’d vote for a trim.

APNewsBreak: Georgia election server wiped after suit filed

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 16, 2018:

Wow that’s appalling.

Who's really on welfare?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 15, 2018:

Exactly. I have been saying that too. If a multi-billion dollar company pays full-time employees so little that they qualify for government food assistance, who exactly are we subsidizing?

I have found a definitive method to prove that the Earth is indeed flat.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 15, 2018:

Totally makes sense

SO .

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 15, 2018:

I also have an awesome kid. This year his dad sent him a”happy birthday” text message - the day AFTER his birthday.

Abuse is Control, Disrespect and Hurtful Words.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 15, 2018:

Yep. Spent my marriage thinking it wasn’t abuse because he didn’t hit me. He just had better ways to control me.

Supreme Court Enables Mass Disenfranchisement of North Dakota’s Native Americans | American Civil ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 14, 2018:

This is infuriating

Gobble one of my big ones.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 14, 2018:

Holy crap that is a big bird!

I'm sort of at a loss with Match.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 14, 2018:

I had terrible luck on Match too. Was on for a year. NEVER met a person face-to-face. The few guys who expressed any interest in me were completely inappropriate, and the ones I messaged didn’t respond. And then I got charged for a renewal when I shouldn’t have been. Won’t waste any more time with that.

So I always check what foxnews is Spewing and a phrase came up.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 14, 2018:

Probably the least biased thing Fox News said all day.

What if indeed..

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 14, 2018:

Pretty sure it was a test by powerful people to see if you could be separated from your common sense.

Ok.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 14, 2018:

I am extremely low maintenance. My usual morning “beauty regimen” takes less than 5 minutes. My shampoo costs less than a dollar. I have 2 pairs of shoes for work - the SAME shoe in brown and black. I don’t need anyone to give me compliments or gifts or emotional reassurance. I just need honesty and kindness.

Has anyone noticed that in recent weeks the emphasis on this forum has been more confrontation than ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 13, 2018:

I have not found that to be more true recently than in the past. I have found it to be so at other times.

And now, what next?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 13, 2018:

Yeah most people can’t see this or don’t want to use one of their very limited free views of NYT on something without knowing what it’s about

I once dated a man for a few months and told him I was falling in love with him.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 13, 2018:

I think this falls under a variation of “when people tell you who they are, listen.”

Sigh.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 13, 2018:

Trust - but verify.

Need advice/your opinions... Would you go out on a date with someone who has the same name as an ex?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 13, 2018:

I do not even look at the profiles of dudes named James.

I just got home from attending one of my best friends funeral.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 12, 2018:

Wow I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s true that we have to accept that this is all we get and do the best we can with it.

We must never forget.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 12, 2018:

No. We are not going to change history because the truth makes you uncomfortable. Not anymore than we already do, anyway.

A statement I've often heard from the Theists is that Human Morality comes only and directly from ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 12, 2018:

A good book that addressing the source of morality - The Righteous Mind. The idea is that human morality has an evolutionary basis, but those instincts are often applied now in ways that are not logical or reasonable. Also that there are, I think, 6 basic tenets of morality. One of those is “care for others” (empathy) and liberals tend to value that above all others, while conservatives tend to more equally weight all of the different types of moral values, including those rooted in loyalty and “yuck.”

Status denied

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 12, 2018:

You need to contact @admin

What do you consider a healthy relationship?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 12, 2018:

NO. CLUE. Mostly know what an UNhealthy relationship is so there are a lot of “not”s for my list.

I remember being invincible when I was a teenager, apparently that trait was not passed on.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 11, 2018:

Good sense!

Also know as a honey dipper

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 11, 2018:

?

Thank you Mr.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 11, 2018:

If only 30% of Americans didn’t interpret it as success.

this is just getting sad

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 11, 2018:

? his handle is “@goodmikepence” ?

Idaho candidate on abortion: Urges charges, death penalty | Idaho Statesman

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 10, 2018:

Let me guess - someone without a uterus?

Name the hole.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 10, 2018:

Literally nothing. Wait... nope. Nothing.

There's still a rare human part of America! Wow.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 10, 2018:

That sounds like it has a story

What are your feelings about "Friends with Benefits"?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 10, 2018:

Have always thought it was a terrible idea. It always means more to one person than the other. I have never been comfortable with “casual” sex. But now I’ve been single for 3 years. And after my marriage I am not particularly interested in a relationship. And honestly, it’s starting to seem like a better idea all the time ?

Barak Obama started a trend of confrontation which continues to this day and if we don’t get a ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 10, 2018:

Civility toward oppressors merely allows them to continue to oppress unchallenged. Women, minorities, victims, etc have been silenced for generations. And we’re not going to stand for it anymore. No one is saying commit violence. But we will not be silenced anymore.

Last week I had a terrible scare.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 9, 2018:

Ugh scary. My vet says the usual grocery store cat food is like fast food for cats.

The real Donald Trump tweet: The paid D.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 9, 2018:

He can’t fathom anyone doing anything for any reason other than money.

Do you have divorced gloves?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 9, 2018:

Yep. And why did I put unmatched gloves back into the closet? Did I think I would be happy to have ONE GLOVE later?!

I think I’ve been messaged by a scammer.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 9, 2018:

Yep scammer. And not a good one ?

I know most of you have been here, perhaps with your adult children.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 9, 2018:

I didn’t actually tell my teenaged son. When I headed out the door looking a lot more put together than I usually do at 2pm he said, “Mom... are you going on a DATE???” With that teasing, singsongy voice. I probably flipped him the bird on my way out the door.

Who Is Worthy of Your Love?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 9, 2018:

Lesson learned

What's on your pasta?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 7, 2018:

Pesto! My basil plants grew OUT OF CONTROL this year and I made, I think, 10 batches of pesto. Yum!

This idea that because white men get what they want, men in general do, is wrong and IMO, dangerous!...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 7, 2018:

You are talking about white feminism, and the ways that feminism often leaves out POC. Unquestionably, POC have it harder than white women and women of color get the shortest stick of all in today’s culture. POC are dying at the hands of the people tasked with protecting the public, and from generations of institutional racism, and some people simply ignore those realities. It is also true that many white women support white men in oppressing others because that is the best thing for them, personally, and to hell with everyone else. The Republican Party seems to be the party of “me first” and it holds power in part by stoking divisions among the various groups it would oppress - POC, women, immigrants, the working poor. But many of us voted against Trump and reject the traditional white male power structure because of its impacts on *everyone* who is oppressed by this status quo. And we need not abandon women’s rights for minority rights or vice versa. A rising tide, as they say, lifts all boats. The fury of women right now will, hopefully, lead to political shifts that will support the needs and the rights of all groups.

I just had a cool thing happen.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 7, 2018:

Wait, you mean he just acted like your personal preferences AREN’T a judgment of him personally and moved on? I wish I wasn’t astonished by this.

So I have a question. What, to you, makes a good dating profile?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 7, 2018:

I am of course looking for compatibility. But no matter what we have in common, the thing that always puts me off is negativity, especially in the form of anger. I have occasionally seen a statement like “No liars, cheaters or game-players.” Fair, right? But it screams “baggage.” You could say “I value honesty, loyalty and straight-forwardness.” It says the same thing about what they are looking for but something totally different about the speaker.

Hello! New to this group.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 7, 2018:

It sounds like you are going through a lot of adjustment. Take the opportunity to find things to do for YOURSELF. Surely there were things that you didn’t do because you were too busy “serving” your family (not judging, *RELATING*!) whatever it was, to for it. Take a class, join a club, learn a hobby or a skill or a language. Find something that makes you happy and do it!

Do idiosyncrasies annoy you or do you just let them just slide?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 6, 2018:

The toilet paper rolls these days are too big to spin on my TP holder, so I leave it on the counter until enough is used that they fit. I made sure to explain to my teenage son that this is a bad habit, that bugs a lot of people, that I only do for that particular reason, so that I don’t encourage a habit that will probably annoy a future spouse.

I'm recovering from an abusive marriage that was founded on unreliable religious ideals.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 6, 2018:

A few things: you don’t have to pay to talk to people on OKCupid. You like people, they like you, if you like each other you can send messages. Match.com is a rip-off. Plenty of Fish is terrible. Another good way to get out in the world is meetup.com. Join some groups based on interests and go to some events that interest you. It will help you to meet people outside of the church network. Last and most important, BE SAFE. Always schedule a first meeting in a public place- never give out your address or get into a car with anyone you don’t know. Tell someone where you will be and with who, and have them check on you if they haven’t heard from you by a designated time. Also there is an abuse survivors group here that you might want to join.

Imagine this world without a human being .....