This can be played on both sides, but being single for a while, and on several other dating sites ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 20, 2018:

A lot of those. Also negativity is a put-off - “No liars or cheaters” just says you are bitter.

I've long made the claim that many of the qualities that make for a terrible person also make for a ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 20, 2018:

I’ve said for a while that the qualities that lead to winning most reality tv competitions (like Survivor, and the one where they race around the world) are usually qualities that make people really unlikeable.

Was letting my kids try my Nunchucks.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 19, 2018:

Yeah I grew up in the Ninja Turtles era and a lot of us whacked ourselves on the head with plastic nunchucks!

This is Lake Michigan at sunset.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 19, 2018:

Lake Michigan IS the beach!!! We call it “third coast” in Michigan. It’s beautiful and you’d be surprised how big the waves can get in high winds.

So, i just spent about 45 minutes with a guy that was trying to tell me about his.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 19, 2018:

Holy batshit crazy! Like, I co-opted the Christian deity and made up a whole new batch of super nutty shit about him batshit crazy! I would avoid him like any other religious nut/conspiracy theorist/wackado.

I'm running in the local elections and this is how I feel as an atheist surrounded by superstitious ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 19, 2018:

Ugh good luck with that. A study just a few years ago showed more Americans would vote for a pedophile than an atheist ?.

A Different Point if View?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 19, 2018:

Wait, wasn’t “42” the answer to the meaning of life in Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy?

My current situation ?who wants to join me?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 19, 2018:

Lucky you! Enjoy!

I mistakenly thought I was dealing really well with all the bullshit in my life.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 19, 2018:

Turn here. I have been divorced for 3 years and feel like I’ve pretty much exhausted how much I can complain about my abusive ex, at least unless something new comes up. I still feel really fucked up by 20 years of emotional abuse during my formative years, abuse that significantly defined who I am and is the only kind of relationship I have ever been in. I should probably be in therapy, but I post here. sometimes I write down things that happened or how I feel and that helps me to process or at least to get my thoughts out.

What does agnostic mean you?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 19, 2018:

I take agnostic to mean not taking a position about the existence or non-existence of gods. I identify as atheist because I believe that there are no gods and I live under that assumption, even though I acknowledge that I cannot prove the non-existence of gods.

Wow I never knew this, how many have known this?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 19, 2018:

I would totally kick those and smash them

Sorry for laughing Jesus but this is hilarious. He thought you would protect him?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 18, 2018:

People who don’t believe in evolution demonstrating natural selection ?

Does anyone believe you can have an immediate connection with some on the first date of a couple ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 18, 2018:

Sure. That’s chemistry. It doesn’t mean it’s the right relationship.

How many here use or have used online grocery ordering?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 18, 2018:

I like to pick my own produce! But I considered that as a back-up plan after I had surgery.

Am I the only person who doesn't seek out other people to date when already dating someone else?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 18, 2018:

I think a lot of people casually date more than one person, and everyone has different ideas about when they should narrow it down. Personally, if I go out with someone who seems like a good prospect I’m not going to pursue looking for someone else until I decide I don’t want to continue dating the first one. And I wouldn’t have sex with anyone who was also seeing anyone else.

Friendship, Partnership, Companionship & Relationship

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 18, 2018:

Does hell count?

What's with guys lying about their age to get older women to look at them?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

Yeah gross, and I’ve seen it the other way too (I know my profile says 35 but I’m really 50 but “young at heart.”) and I’m sure women often shave a few years off too.

Vatican On Sex Abuse Report: ‘Listen, No Normal Person Is Going To Sign Up To Be A Priest’ ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

That’s part of the problem, right? The priesthood gives men a legitimate reason to be (or appear to be) celibate,

Christian bumper sticker of the day.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

It’s possible that there was a person named Jesus, or not, who formed the basis of some of the stories.

Ok so life has flipped in the last week.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

Congrats on the new job and I’m glad you’ve found an ally. I can’t even imagine living in a place where prayer was imposed like that.

Yes, why?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

Animals eat other animals, and humans are animals that have always eaten animals. I think it’s more realistic to focus on humane and sustainable than telling other people not to eat meat.

So remember my grandfathers stories about during the war and priests and ministers would bless the ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

No different than asking god to help your football team.

Ok so we did the toilet seat war?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

Tears easier when it’s over the front.

Question: If you are dating someone, even if it is new and the man goes to the woman's house, should...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

Um yeah that’s rude. And it’s such a small courtesy. If someone is totally unwilling to just be polite that’s a bad sign.

I am not sure that I have ever healed from the abuse ,by my father,and at the same time I had a ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

Abuse is like a scar. It is always there, even though it fades and it hurts less and we don’t think about it as much, it is still always a part of us.

I have noticed something about abusive people - they believe they have done no wrong.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

The nature of personality disorders is to believe that everyone else in the world is the problem.

Am I the only one that is suspicious of people that don’t have at least one clear picture of ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

Agreed. cheating? Catfishing? Just really ugly? Doesn’t seem like it’s worth the risk.

is everyone in this group because of a toxic relationship with a mate?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

There are definitely people who talk about childhood abuse. And many of us ended up in toxic relationships because of toxic parents, so, no. You are welcome here.

Why is it that narcissists move on so fast?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 17, 2018:

Because they use people to get their needs met. That’s the only thing that matters. My ex told me all the time that he loved me - unless I didn’t do what he wanted, then he hated me. When he couldn’t control me enough, he lined someone else up, and when he was sure he wouldn’t be able to control me anymore he completely lost interest - after 20 years together.

Would you walk across the street, yes or no?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 16, 2018:

Sure. As long as I won’t end up spending it on bail ?

Gay tales, stories about being a father of a gay son.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 16, 2018:

Good for you! Smart to be aware of suicide risk.

FUTURE TRUMP SCANDALS - Since the Chee-toh in Chief can't go 10 mins without a scandal here's ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 16, 2018:

None of those seem beyond the realm of possibility

Are pro-life women inherently stupid?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 16, 2018:

Most of the “reasoning” is religious, yes. Some can’t fathom making such a choice so they don’t think anyone else should be allowed to. Some, I think, assume that once a baby is born it will be loved and provided for and don’t comprehend the idea that a child might live a life of neglect or abuse as a result of forcing women to bear children they don’t want.

Oh Jesus help the guy!!

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 16, 2018:

Wouldn’t be the first time, right?

If People Acted Like They Do on Dating Apps. This is spot on! [youtu.be]

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 16, 2018:

“Good morning! Here’s a picture of my dick!” ?

What makes you choose the poitics you support?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 15, 2018:

Empathy

Hi everyone.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 15, 2018:

Sorry about all that man. If it helps, we have heard lots of variations of that story, so you’re not alone.

The Catholic church knew about the molestations.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 15, 2018:

Thanks for clearing those things up!

Lately the people at my work have been extra, extra preachy.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 15, 2018:

Omg that is AMAZING!

So do any of you have issues with your adult children trying to control your life or interfere with ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 15, 2018:

Nope - my son and I have a good relationship. We both trust each other to make good decisions, and mostly we do.

Conversation at work: 'Do you watch The Bachelorette'? Me: 'On purpose? No.'

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 15, 2018:

Same for the Kardashians

I am 18 years clean today! Yay me!

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 15, 2018:

That’s awesome - your sobriety is all grown up! Congratulations!!!

Giving It Your All

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 15, 2018:

Took me too long to figure that out.

It is interesting, how woman's blue jeans used to look new when you purchased them new, and now when...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 15, 2018:

We used to have to cut, sand and batter our jeans to make them look worn. Or else, just wear them!

O.K. Ladies is this true for most of you???

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 15, 2018:

I don’t wear uncomfortable shoes!

Homophobic Marketing I never paid too much attention to this before, but I was looking at a ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 14, 2018:

A lot of that stuff comes down to misogyny- the idea that it is always bad to be “like a woman”

What do you call your mother-in-law?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 14, 2018:

It’s ok to call more than one person mom, but it’s up to you to do what feels right to you. If it’s not genuine, you shouldn’t be pressured to call her that. If there is some other nickname that you both feel comfortable with, maybe ther is a compromise to be made, but first names should be fine. I won’t say how I referred to my former MIL ?.

I am probably the most passionate, deep, and most complex person nobody has ever taken the time to ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 13, 2018:

I’m sorry you’re hurting. For me, the best advice was, be the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Make a life for yourself that is full and happy without requiring a partner to fulfill you. This both makes you a more desirable partner, and someone who doesn’t feel that you NEED one if that doesn’t happen.

Why do I think so much about my ex narc and his new supply. (who isnt all that new)?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 13, 2018:

I am 3 years out from a divorce from a narc/sociopath. We were together for 20 years and I was very habituated to thinking about him constantly. Not a day has gone by that I have not thought about him and the harm he did to me. Part of me needs to keep reminding myself that the way he treated me was not normal, that the messages he gaslighted me into believing are not true, that although I don’t have the life I though I would have, my life is far better now than it ever would have been with him. I’m sorry I don’t have better advice, just saying I understand the compulsive thinking.

My adorable gentlemen, When a lady doesn't answer your private message it doesn't necessarily ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 12, 2018:

Gee I always thought the second, angry message was to confirm your excellent judgment ?

10 sustainability ideas, number 8 is pretty interesting (a returnable fashion collection): ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 12, 2018:

The link isn’t working!

Does anyone have a strong opinion on Alex Jones recently being de-platformed on Youtube, Spotify and...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 12, 2018:

Free speech means free from censorship or punishment by the government, so not technically that. But I’m not sure I want Mark Zuckerberg’s employees deciding who gets a platform and who doesn’t. I have seen posts from admins of atheist FB groups indicating that their groups were suspended due to content that violates community standards. But they don’t tell you what content they have deemed inappropriate. And you only get one chance to remove the offending content, or the group would be shut-down.

Nice sentiments!

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 12, 2018:

Awesome!

What was your all time favorite TV show

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 12, 2018:

I love the soapy teen drama and great characters of One Tree Hill.

That About Sums It Up!

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 11, 2018:

Well that’s hard to argue with ?

Sorry, I have not been interacting with the group the last couple of days.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 11, 2018:

Geez I’m sorry man. I have ligament repair done on my right hand 3 mo the ago and I’m still healing. Good luck to you.

Got stopped in Walmart today again by a local church... Salesman?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 11, 2018:

I feel you. I often feel tongue-tied when it comes up, even when I have no reason to think the person would be hoste.

Proof of simulation

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 11, 2018:

You can’t prove a negative. You can only assume that, like the god myth, far-fetched fantasy tales are extremely unlikely.

Why do religious people believe an all powerful being gives a hoot about who they sleep with and in...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 11, 2018:

Narcissism. Their all powerful god is so interested in the minutia of the daily life of Christians that he doesn’t have time for nonesense like hunger and disease.

On dating sites, everyone says they like long walks on the beach.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 11, 2018:

Haha! I was just saying on a different thread that it’s remarkable that every single man on dating sites is so active and into the outdoors.

Christians relentlessly overstepping

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 11, 2018:

Yep. It’s definitely not my biggest concern about religious fanatics, but it is the slow chipping away of the wall between church and state.

It's my birthday today and I would love some Cat Memes.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 10, 2018:

That is a terrible cat meme. It just looks like a piece of wood ?

Alex Jones re fb et al ban has set a worrying precedent.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

Wait, you don’t think Facebook should be the arbiter of free speech? Weird ?

Starting tonight i think I'm going to do a Dexter marathon.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

Dude spoilers - that’s bad internet etiquette

Ooooh, burn baby burn!

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

No shit. Some jackass pundit lecturing a philanthropist about how/where he ought to be making his hugely generous contributions.

Cremation after my Body is being donated to Science.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

I had this conversation with my son in the last few months. “Give it all away. All of it. Organs, skin, eyes. I’ll be done with it so give it to whoever wants it.”

"Morons, unite! Almost Half Of Republicans Want To Give Trump The Power To Shut Down The Media ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

Wow that is deeply terrifying

Starting tonight i think I'm going to do a Dexter marathon.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

I’m working on season 2 on Netflix

I believe in fluid truth.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

Oh no. The earth was always round. the facts of the physical world are not changed by our beliefs or ignorance.

This twit was, I am sorry to say, from my town.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

Few people have the gall to actually demand white privileged out loud

How have your requirements in your ideal partner changed as you have aged? Has it changed at all?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

I married my high school boyfriend so I never really gave any thought to my ideal partner. One of MANY reasons he’s my ex now ?. Now I know that honest and dependable and getting my weirdness and sense of humor are important. Most importantly, he will think I’m awesome.

Baby Trump.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

I was just thinking that the White House seems to have become a day care center for one giant, unpredictable and incorrigible toddler.

Just an observation.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

I am a righty but pay attention to handedness on tv. I swear there are more left-handed actors than people in the general population.

I used to tell people that my mother was not a human, but more like a tiger that had been ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

Yes I know it well. He’s a monster. A wolf in sheep’s clothing. It is impossible to imagine that the mild-mannered loser he is in public is chronically, persistently abusive. And it is impossible to explain emotional abuse to someone who hasn’t experienced it. For one, most of the things he did would not, on its own, justify ending a relationship. In fact, he started very early telling me “you’re not going to break up with me over something that stupid.” But something stupid was part of a pattern of disregard for me, that got worse and worse until things were no longer “not that bad” they were just “not that much worse” than the last thing. But I could give a thousand examples of the abuse I lived with and still feel like I haven’t explained it.

Need some guidance.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 9, 2018:

The betrayal of an affair is extremely difficult to overcome, even if the offending party is truly remorseful. The fact that he continued it after you caught him and he promised to end it - that’s unforgivable. It demonstrates a complete lack of remorse and worse, lack of respect for you. I am very sorry - I have been there so I understand.

Why do people post pictures of their motorcycles on dating sites.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 8, 2018:

Yeah I’m always amazed at how active and outdoorsy every single guy on dating sites is.

I have a unique relationship with an old co-worker.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 8, 2018:

Well that IS weird!

I entered counseling.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 7, 2018:

Hopefully you have a skilled therapist who you can feel comfortable with, and this will start the process of working through shit. Good for you for taking care of yourself.

I've been curious about the men in my area on this site who are interested in meeting women, and so ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 7, 2018:

I am listed as “open to meeting men” but have definitely not used the site in a way that helps with that. I am enjoying the community and definitely reveal personal stuff I would not tell anyone on a dating site.

If members within this group find a conflict between them, how can we as a community help put it to ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 7, 2018:

Most people bully and badger until someone blocks them or quietly disappears. Not *recommending* that just saying.

I about had a heart attack.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 6, 2018:

Oh geez that would be bad. I had a friend who had an abortion years ago and she swore they had a baby-themed playlist on.?

In G-d we Trust I am a plaintiff in a case against the government printing “In God We Trust” on...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 6, 2018:

Thanks everyone! In case anyone is curious, the reason the case is referred to as “In G-d We Trust” is that one of the plaintiffs is a member of a Jewish sect that believes this is, essentially, taking the name of the lord in vain, that it is blasphemy to print the word “God” in secular currency.

How many days do you wait for a message before accepting the fact that "their just not that into ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 6, 2018:

If you mean on-line, once I send a message, I don’t worry about it - I do not get that invested in the interest of someone I haven’t even met. After meeting, if you don’t hear from someone for 3-4 days you probably won’t.

Octosquish?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2018:

Spider fish? Slap monster?

Racist commercial! Popeyes chicken commercial is racial.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2018:

Dude no. What you have described is not remotely racist. People being dorks is part of the human experience. No one is targeting white people to make them look bad in advertising or reinforcing harmful stereotypes against white people. And the media is not “pushing” interracial relationships. You thinking 90% of anything shows interracial relationships only says that you are hyper-aware of those examples.

My dying friend gave me his epi-pen. I guess he really wanted me to have it.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2018:

Oh geez, was he clutching his throat and swelling up at the time?

I'm new to this site.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2018:

They exist. Definitely in the minority, but there are some.

The best revenge really is living well.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2018:

Same. My ex made me feel like I needed him, in a lot of ways, including financially. But it turns out he spent more than he made! He was always secretive about what he earned, helped himself to bank accounts and racked up thousands in debt on joint accounts that he left me to pay. We never had enough of anything, I was constantly worried about paying the rent and providing for our kid. Anything I needed I put off for weeks or months. I knew we would never have a house or decent cars or vacations. I thought that was just life. Turns out it was life WITH HIM. Since our split he has been evicted and had a car repoed. He now works at Burger King (in his 40s), lives in government housing ($12/month) and I am almost done paying off debt he was supposed to be responsible for.

I'm curious, how many of you have friends and family on this site, and I'm not counting those that ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2018:

Not that I know of!

Thank you all for your great support regarding my post [agnostic.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2018:

Here’s what I told my teenage son - it’s always a risk when you give your heart to someone. Yes, you might get hurt. Or you might learn something about yourself. Or you might get a great story. Or you might get a person worth holding on to.

So, I am turning over a new leaf.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2018:

Personally I am living the “I don’t need a man in my life” line right now, but I would never tell OTHERS to feel that way. You do what’s right for you!

Singles ad

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2018:

My local humane society sometimes does cute “personal ads” especially for adult animals. Whatever gets people’s attention!

Woke up today and electricity! Yeah.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2018:

Congrats! It’s so miserable without, especially in the heat!

Long convo with my daughter today(36 years old).

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2018:

Sorry that’s frustrating. I actually recently had the opposite experience. I visited with my ex’s family and they made some comments consistent with my experience. Kids definitely see things from a different perspective- my ex didn’t bother to gaslight our son (what had he to gain from that, right?) so my kid saw his dad for what he really is long before I did.

Stupidism: The idea that all opinions are equal is nonsense – believing that gave us Trump as ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 4, 2018:

Religion loves to use that one - my dogma is just as valid as your tested, validated science ?.

What's in your garden?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 4, 2018:

Now I’m afraid to tell you because it will sound dirty ?. Tomatoes, basil, cucumbers.

Yep, had my hair cut off today.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 4, 2018:

Funny how light your head feels when you cut it off!

Have you been touched?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 4, 2018:

Giggity

What kind of people or behaviour make you really angry?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 4, 2018:

Bigotry. Willful ignorance. Arrogance and rudeness.

Pepsi or Coke?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 4, 2018:

Coffee!