WWYD: What Would You Do?

seattlepanda comments on Mar 7, 2019:

Is a first meeting enough to tell?...

BBJong replies on Mar 9, 2019:

yep...

WWYD: What Would You Do?

Deb57 comments on Mar 7, 2019:

If there's no spark then just be honest. If he's mature and secure, he'll appreciate that you didn't waste his time. If it turns out that he's not mature and secure, you're better off not wasting *your* time!

BBJong replies on Mar 9, 2019:

...bingo

As I plan to take a big step, I have to remind myself that what I'm afraid of doing just may be a ...

Triphid comments on Mar 8, 2019:

I try my best to step beyond my 'comfort zone' regularly which is a part of my on-going battle with Agorophobia. Since the 'suggestions' I got from the 'knowledgable' Psychologists I found were less than effective, I decided to to design my own therapy and have, over the last 18+ plus years gone ...

BBJong replies on Mar 9, 2019:

way to go; thinking outside the box gives hope to others at the same time!

Do you see the humor in life? Tell us a funny story.

Lucky57 comments on Jan 17, 2019:

Had my neck busted in a bad car accident & was paralyzed from the neck down. Lying in bed for a few days, not being able to move, was real frightening, but I somehow managed to accept it. Didn't find it funny, but I didn't feel sorry for myself or worry about the future. Anyway, finally had surgery ...

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

yeah ,I'm 58 .mom died when I was 9 ,only permanate things give me jitters. I find chit chat very boring...

Do you see the humor in life? Tell us a funny story.

Gwendolyn2018 comments on Jan 23, 2019:

Where to start? This is one of my favorites: I had a wonderful fifth grade teacher; she not only had an effect on me personally, but professionally (I am a teacher). Before I moved to Missouri 20 years ago, I used to see her occasionally in a nearby town. I saw her in Safeway one time after not...

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

image is everthing

I had the opportunity tis morning to meet with a wonderful person who does have some intellectual ...

ROARRR comments on Mar 1, 2019:

I think I've always read in learned journals that dreams don't predict anything but tend to be composed of what you're thinking about in a loose configuration that sometimes helps you understand something or can provide an insite.

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

thanks ,heard much the same in documentary.

found out that most crayons are found to contain EXPESTOS(cancer chemical).

CaroleKay comments on Feb 23, 2019:

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

?...

found out that most crayons are found to contain EXPESTOS(cancer chemical).

josh_is_exciting comments on Feb 23, 2019:

Surgeon General's Warning: Life is hazardous to your health. :p

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

@PalacinkyPDX just overjoyed that poison can be foisted on children; maybe bring lead paint back?

found out that most crayons are found to contain EXPESTOS(cancer chemical).

Sticks48 comments on Feb 23, 2019:

This is exactly why a gave up eating crayons in the 90's.

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

just happy that my tax dollars put poison in cribs

'Behind The Curve' ending: Flat earthers disprove themselves with own experiments in Netflix ...

BBJong comments on Mar 3, 2019:

Shows where the priorities are for some folks. Just heard NetFlix is helping the popularity of documentaries; New York has the biggest documentary festival...

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

@Bierbasstard ...well my CNN remote is damaged beyond repair

Have you come out as an atheist?

Silver1wun comments on Feb 27, 2019:

Many former Muslims and Christians from North Africa to Central Asia have decided that visiting home isn't an option after rejecting notions about the existence of Allah or prophets. If they wish to visit, I imagine they can meet in places like Jordan? Have you changed citizenship yet? ...

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

well put ,to keep one eye on the Big Picture is an asset in ongoing change.

this is part of the story.

AmmaRE007 comments on Feb 27, 2019:

notice that the article is dated 1955 an look back on history

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

I found the same truths, digging in my county's history. Thanks!

Are freethinkers endangered species?

Rghurst comments on Mar 2, 2019:

I see a lot of "free thinkers" on the internet. Problem is that most of them are not thinking at all. They are lured in by provocative postings, mostly starting with how the government (business, liberals, etc.) are lying to you about whatever they're selling: electricity (free if you buy this ...

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

point taken

Heroes that were ahead of the times-seen any Recently?

cava comments on Mar 2, 2019:

I met Jimmy Carter up in NH when he was running for president. He is a good man. He accomplished a lot after an especially difficult presidency.

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

...maybe clone him

For those interested, a great piece on identifying gaslighting: [everydayfeminism.

BBJong comments on Mar 2, 2019:

drama sends me alarms that I tend to heed...

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

@Deiter understood and agree : there is a saying in mental health- to save a drowning person,you have to be prepared to risk your own life and lose thier's because you may both drown. You have to have strong grounded conviction. Tricky because of emotional attachment.Sometimes the interaction allows the person comfort that they are indeed worth the effort(they aren't alone).

Anyone care to join me for some chat this fine evening?

Wildflower comments on Feb 23, 2019:

Wow. So many visitors... but no takers. What's that all about? Me or you?

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

...very popularrrrr~

Debunked: "Socialism Has Never Worked" - YouTube

WilliamFleming comments on Mar 2, 2019:

I haven’t actually heard anyone say that socialism doesn’t work. I hear them say that Marx-style communism doesn’t work, and there is a degree of truth in that sentiment I think. The video states several times that communism is not socialism, but rather is “right-wing” dictatorship created...

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

I humballly think u nailed it, Russia under Peter theGreat in 14/16 century needed change.BUT to say, as some politicians do that social security is Socialism^^^is rather scary. The definitions are ,today very convoluted. Spinning them today seems to be sport(or profit)-i cannot fathom that it's not on purpose.

I test out as an ENFP/ENTP but I have always had hypersensitivity, particularly to the emotions of ...

Wildflower comments on Feb 24, 2019:

As a therapist I have had to build strong boundaries against taking on other's emotions. I am still highly sensitive to what is going on with others and empathic to how they are feeling, I just don't allow myself to take it on. It's been a very interesting process learning how to do this and ...

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

!bingo! THANKS -for the validation...

My heart goes out to any of you (myself included) who have been hurt by rude insensitive people.

mordant comments on Feb 21, 2019:

Near is I can tell, I was bullied in middle and high school simply for existing and perhaps for being somewhat bookish. Although I didn't take it very personally because I had company. There was a culture of bullying at my school, and no effort on the part of administration to reign it in at all. In...

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

...yep well said, I learned to pity the SOB's because of the pain to others. Never helpless.

My heart goes out to any of you (myself included) who have been hurt by rude insensitive people.

Infoguy211 comments on Feb 21, 2019:

I was bullied for not being coordinated physically and for being socially awkward. It was bad at the Lutheran School I went to, it got much worse in high school.

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

...I don't think they changed- they just wear a different mask(persona).

My heart goes out to any of you (myself included) who have been hurt by rude insensitive people.

Wildflower comments on Feb 21, 2019:

I was bullied by a sibling for being fat and ugly. If only I knew then what I know now.

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

...that makes me happy,,, that u own your happiness!

These are really good.

JackPedigo comments on Feb 22, 2019:

Not asking for help and trying to make bad relationships work were my biggest time wasters. Being a jack of all trades and into self-sufficiency has made me prone to go it alone. Bad relationships include not only partners but friends. Being to willing to help can make you a patsy and I have to ...

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

I too had the benefit of a lady who would remind me if someone was taking advantage. The flip side of that coin is you are enabling the Taker to think its OK. I learned to send back "signals" that I was not to be taken advantage of. Sometimes that did it -just STAYaway otherwise.

I had a display at a Sex, Science, Rock & Roll event at the NJ Liberty science Center tonight.

Hathacat comments on Feb 22, 2019:

Nice display! Hope you had fun and met some nice people!

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

@Hathacat, @UUNJ ...sounds like 1950's

I had a display at a Sex, Science, Rock & Roll event at the NJ Liberty science Center tonight.

Emerald comments on Feb 22, 2019:

Why is it only approved up to 45? Its not like older folks are hoping to catch the warts, and condoms are no guarantee. I've seen them on patients before. It looks unpleasant.

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

@Emerald ....let the rationing of vital serves begin/ and they should be determaining peoples lives... ???

I had a display at a Sex, Science, Rock & Roll event at the NJ Liberty science Center tonight.

zesty comments on Feb 22, 2019:

It is great that you had a packed house! A few years ago I invited an HIV educator to one of my large undergraduate classes. 60 students or so. The HIV educator lady came and ZERO students. I felt so bad but she mentioned that it happens all the time...

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

@FrayedBear ?

For those who find themselves single on this day, happy international book giving day.

HippieChick58 comments on Feb 14, 2019:

I went to the library and came out with two, for free!!!

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

@HippieChick58 ...cool sometimes they (library)have a sale /I speed read / take em back. The state has hundreds of library sales. they have to warehouse them

Tis a cartoon.

Janiesuper comments on Feb 22, 2019:

they stayed together for their kids

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

...i wonder what the kids would say,can say.But i tend to agree-takes 2 incomes today!!!

May you be at peace.

motrubl4u comments on Feb 23, 2019:

I was raised by hippies but ended up taking none of that with me lol

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

...bro its quality ,not quantity ?

Atheists Are Sometimes More Religious Than Christians - The Atlantic

Triphid comments on Nov 2, 2018:

Who are they kidding, " Atheists are sometimes more religious than Christians," REAL Atheists have little or no interest in the Rituals, Rites and Superstitious ways of any religion, they seek to expose them, discuss them and , Yes, ridicule them from time to time simply because they are RIDICULOUS.

BBJong replies on Feb 20, 2019:

@Triphid I tend to agree-to make a stand and gather facts to think for oneself; precludes needing to have others proclaim a group purpose.

In the long run, none of this matters.

nicknotes comments on Feb 19, 2019:

I see your point. Eventually we all die.

BBJong replies on Feb 20, 2019:

@mordant ...YES... ...picking our battles does give me a strong humility!

In the long run, none of this matters.

Novelty comments on Feb 20, 2019:

Someone told John Adams that "in the long run, none of this matters," once because this friend was a Torry and disapproved of the colonies rising up against the British Empire. Later this same fellow was killed by an English musket ball. What we do now will be legacy in the future. Everything is...

BBJong replies on Feb 20, 2019:

...yeah , in many ways _ helps be phsycologiclly stronger to face adversity. The opposite is chaos & helplessness , which some say is learned.

Left/Right experiment.

Ron_R comments on Feb 20, 2019:

In the photo biz, we state an angelic eye vs an evil eye. If the person is turned a bit, I put the angelic eye towards the back since its a bit bigger. Leading with the squinty evil eye is also a bit sexier. I saw a lady on line who had 2 exactly the same! 1 in 500-1000. Like a Disney ...

BBJong replies on Feb 20, 2019:

...so photography IS not just chemicals In a dark room=but angelic/bad eye+DISNEY...

Posted in Love & Relationships, a member recently asked the question, "Which sex tends to be more ...

Deiter comments on Feb 14, 2019:

I'm a fan and sometime listener of Perel's podcast. Part of the problem she describes would seem to simply be one of ego. As Don Draper said: *What is happiness? It’s a moment before you need more happiness.* Once we've achieved a thing, that thing will eventually become a bore. *The story, the ...

BBJong replies on Feb 19, 2019:

@VictoriaNotes well put... the big picture doesn't really deconstruct.

Posted in Love & Relationships, a member recently asked the question, "Which sex tends to be more ...

chazwin comments on Feb 14, 2019:

We'd all be a lot happier if we were not such slaves to our evolutionary imperatives. We seem to be impelled to nail as many of the opposite sex as possible. As soon as women get fertile after lactation their bodies tell them to find another partner. For men, it is a daily pressure to spread seed as...

BBJong replies on Feb 19, 2019:

@VictoriaNotes I agree,as children we are practically programmed-for expectations/ limitations, seeing our libido as an asset to a relationship would benefit it long term.

Society teaches "Don't get raped" vs. "Don't rape."

evidentialist comments on Feb 10, 2019:

That's not quite true. What our society here in the US teaches is basically this: Always wear modest clothing, never go to bars or dance clubs. Never look at a man. Avoid going with a man to a private or distant location. In other words, don't live, be afraid, and stay in your place. If you ...

BBJong replies on Feb 17, 2019:

I have found this true; mostly among 40+ that the interaction on the street is or has to be brief or muted. In social settings with younger ladies- they are showing more independence (grocery stores ;work); currently less constraints.

Science is saying that women stay sharper longer than do men . . . [yahoo.com]

Novelty comments on Feb 5, 2019:

Exactly! Thats why we should have voted for Hillary, at least she doesn't covfefe or talk about her good brain or brag about having superior genes. Who the fuck brags about superior genes? Only Nazis brag about superior genes. Want superior genes? Look at pure breed show dogs, all kinds of ...

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

u still got that edge? will elect a woman;hope to watch his reaction?

How do you deal with someone you really like, have to deal with an hour or more transit and might ...

Anniemae comments on Feb 10, 2019:

Minor details! Make it happen!!!!!

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

@zorialoki good karma? cool no luck-your capable!

MEN ONLY: What is your race/ethnic origin?

Katrik comments on Jun 1, 2018:

Out of curiosity, what do you hope to learn from these results?

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

@joeymf86 my personal experiences mirror these facts; I have no agenda ; believe in the goal of the site;thanks for the source material... p.s. don't know if I income matters.

MEN ONLY: What is your race/ethnic origin?

Katrik comments on Jun 1, 2018:

Out of curiosity, what do you hope to learn from these results?

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

@joeymf86 I agree,many of my neighbors ,co workers and friends are people of color.Yet many employers ;clubs; social organizations;are pro religion.Watch the t.v. shows,radio,the elder population especially is very religious. Their exposure to the option of free thought has not been extensive enough for the information to be readily availible. This site is what? 2 years old? There is no way possible to disseminate into the cultures the knowledge of its exsistance

MEN ONLY: What is your race/ethnic origin?

josephr comments on Jun 1, 2018:

Categorizations such as this one are both inaccurate and incomplete. Nobody is just one thing, especially in our increasingly diverse world. So to be truthful, everyone should just check "other." LOL ...

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

I have believed what you expressed for ten years or so,and have acted accordingly.

Valentine's Day.

Dandewine comments on Feb 13, 2019:

My brother Rob. The only person who ever really understood me. My husband left me in a financial disaster...and there was a looming forclosue...the basement was hoarded with his shit..and my brother Ed actually went with him. I started isolating. At first I continued to work...but other than work no...

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

...yes~tears of admiration on your success over adversity... thanx

Happy valentine's ♥️ This sky writing eventually said Love u jesus Thank you jesus Im glad I...

BBJong comments on Feb 16, 2019:

...and these folks are considered rational?

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

@Doraz I do pity them , some do have a fading power in some cultural institutions...sad really

Dating Basics

CallMeDave comments on Feb 16, 2019:

If I use online sites, I state it clearly. In Colorado I never had to, but here (rural VA) I am an anomaly.

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

I agree>cause they may be in the process of freeing themselves could be a plus for relationship.

Dating Basics

coralisthree comments on Feb 16, 2019:

i make sure to check before i leave/kick them out the next morning

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

@coralisthree ....I know that'Simpossible- ?

Dating Basics

coralisthree comments on Feb 16, 2019:

i make sure to check before i leave/kick them out the next morning

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

...?you are too much?ll?2; maybe we should clone u: now:

Bloody brilliant: new emoji to symbolize menstruation welcomed [theguardian.com]

EllenDale comments on Feb 10, 2019:

When will they have one for whacking off? Wet dreams? Whiskey dick? Those are all parts of life too but not particularly necessary. SMDH

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

it seems that how we handle the new means of communicating is a hallmark of the society;loss of maps ; some kids cannot cook;write-i think we need more empathy

This should make for a spirited conversation: The following is but one dude’s experience and ...

zesty comments on Feb 15, 2019:

People just talk way too much! Have sex instead!

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

ah ,release good endorphins/not stress

This should make for a spirited conversation: The following is but one dude’s experience and ...

Hathacat comments on Feb 15, 2019:

Not my experience at all. I could look something up as proof (and to reassure myself that I WAS right) and he would still say I was wrong, or transfer it to "Well, by looking up the facts, you did it wrong". I don't, and never have yelled, which he would do as if yelling made him right. (Why I ...

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

...sounds like a power trip; emotions may just be cover

This should make for a spirited conversation: The following is but one dude’s experience and ...

DoctoralZombie comments on Feb 15, 2019:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/20855900/

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

thanx indeed~ this s**t happens in other areas like work,finance, and the results tend to be lopsided. Psychological misconceptions abound,unfortunately.

This should make for a spirited conversation: The following is but one dude’s experience and ...

bleurowz comments on Feb 15, 2019:

I'd say it's pretty equal. But it all depends on what they're apologizing for, and why. And the differences aren't gender-specific, but person-specific: generalities for me often get away from seeing what's actually going on with the individuals I'm dealing with.

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

thank ~you~for ¤bringing clarity¤

Remember, folks...

hippydog comments on Feb 16, 2019:

??

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

aquariums are peacefull... Usually...

Remember, folks...

Cabsmom comments on Feb 16, 2019:

I'd like that all wrapped up in one person, please.

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

@slydr68 fly in the...

Remember, folks...

Cutiebeauty comments on Feb 16, 2019:

What about food and wine?! Haha

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

@slydr68 fuel for the engine

Remember, folks...

TheDoubter comments on Feb 16, 2019:

i knew i was coming up short somewhere

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

ha ha HAAA REALITY can be motivational OR not; teee heeee

Happy Valentine's Day! Hope you all find your heart's desire.

WonderWartHog99 comments on Feb 14, 2019:

Mine heart's desire is a sex starved twenty year old blond who owns the deli downstairs. Meh. Like that's going to happen.

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

oh yeah ,,, nice to have goals

Would you consider yourself "romantic" in nature?

chilehead9 comments on Feb 9, 2019:

I think that's a hard to pin down definition, as it changes for most people, and is heavily dependent upon the situation. I'm a pretty logical and systematic kind of guy, but I also get obsessed with pleasing whomever I'm paired up with. Lots of people would say that my dedication to enriching my ...

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

good point: something that comes naturally-if over analyzed _does not translate. as we age- the method of expression does too,it wouldn't be APPROPRIATE to rollerskate at an elderly home*

Would you consider yourself "romantic" in nature?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 10, 2019:

Nope LOL I am not. Rose petals strew anywhere? Who's cleaning that shit up? Proposals in public? Big part of me wants them to say no (probably due to me saying yes to prevent embarrassment to someone that knew I didnt want to get married) Valentines Day? Retail scam that I gleefully refer ...

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

@Coppersmith1965 yeah,lasting

Would you consider yourself "romantic" in nature?

Coppersmith1965 comments on Feb 10, 2019:

I wish I could regain that notion of romance in my life, but being in the final throes of a marriage built with the scaffolding of religion and its accompanying grand facade I find the thought painful. Commercialized holidays, such as Valentine's day, cheapen romance and quench spontaneity....

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

Well put!!!

Would you consider yourself "romantic" in nature?

bleurowz comments on Feb 10, 2019:

Romantic gestures only mean something to me if they're coming from someone I'm seriously involved with. If it's someone I know casually or just getting to know, it can come across as pushy or desperate. It also depends on the quantity and intensity -- I appreciate something simple if it's from ...

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

...I also see the aspect of my age.We did and do different acts then our teen years.Romance could have been holding a buttercup under someone's chin;holding hands; these acts mean something different as we revisit the core emotion we wish to EXPRESS...

Are You a Demon or an Angel? I'm a Virgo so I'm an Angel.

Squirrel comments on Feb 14, 2019:

This spurs my curiosity about how many atheists follow astrology.

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

like the pictures,,,

Are You a Demon or an Angel? I'm a Virgo so I'm an Angel.

Lorajay comments on Feb 14, 2019:

I'm a scorpion demon and thankful I don't believe in this stuff otherwise I would have lots of problems.

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

me too...

Are You a Demon or an Angel? I'm a Virgo so I'm an Angel.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 15, 2019:

Damn. Says Im an angel.

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

show me your wings,I'm a bit curious ~◇♧♤♡

Hypnotism is the key to learning about Religion.

indirect76 comments on Feb 14, 2019:

I had a therapist try to hypnotize me once. It did not work.

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

@abyers1970 Very interesting_becouse I was told Some of the qualifiers at a Vetrans hosp.

Happy valentine's ♥️ This sky writing eventually said Love u jesus Thank you jesus Im glad I...

UpsideDownAgain comments on Feb 14, 2019:

Amazing how much money is poured into worshipping someone no one has actually met and that they don't know if they exist.

BBJong replies on Feb 16, 2019:

...status quo/ or in my section of the "realm"-NORMALITY. HA HA HA

Why is it that nearly all of the ladies who show up with high compatibility scores for me are in ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 9, 2019:

Don't count on it. In my local area, no new women my age have joined in the last 15 months. As far as the handful my age that are in my area, I messaged almost all of them long ago and struck out with them all. Of course, none of them were ever involved in the forums and interested in the community ...

BBJong replies on Feb 10, 2019:

@TomMcGiverin I met "compatible ladies" at places that I went to for my own enjoyment!!! That way we had a few things in common-immediately(win/win). and yes the rate of the relationship moving on further was(is) low,at least we could relate to each other! Explore your hobbies,or interests,or talents- having a partner is the goal(journey).We learn about ourselves(and grow)and others...

Greetings Agnostics! Call me Mr.

EyesThatSmile comments on Feb 8, 2019:

Hilarious! Thanks for sharing. Sorry I didn’t keep the pics of the military guys stuck on an oil platform somewhere...Hot stuff!

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

@EyesThatSmile scaryest point is they just get pushed on to other sites;there are no improvements to inter net scams-we are all more vulnerable , and internet neutrality means /if popular it grows-no matter the social value!!!

Greetings Agnostics! Call me Mr.

MrLizard comments on Feb 8, 2019:

I think every one of us should email her. Spam her mailbox. If I email her and string her along, do you think there's any harm? It's not like I'd ever send $ or open links/files or anything like that. Might be fun.

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

careful-i'd first e-mail the IRS using her e mail, with the scrutiny- she would get a lot of "personal" attention....

Why is it that nearly all of the ladies who show up with high compatibility scores for me are in ...

Triphid comments on Feb 9, 2019:

Jeez mate, you think you've got it bad, I live in Far Western N.S.W. Australia and the nearest female member to where I am is over 1,100 kms away, there are none within even cooee distance of me.

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

I would have tried a mail order bride if faced with that?

Why is it that nearly all of the ladies who show up with high compatibility scores for me are in ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 9, 2019:

Don't count on it. In my local area, no new women my age have joined in the last 15 months. As far as the handful my age that are in my area, I messaged almost all of them long ago and struck out with them all. Of course, none of them were ever involved in the forums and interested in the community ...

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

...well stated;good motivation to recommend travel in your youth-

Why is it that nearly all of the ladies who show up with high compatibility scores for me are in ...

Lorajay comments on Feb 9, 2019:

I have a fix for everyone that doesn't have someone appropriate nearby. It's so simple, move to Oklahoma and when all of you are here, it will be easy for you to find someone. Even if the person you find is not in Oklahoma at least Oklahoma is in the middle. It might be a good idea to wear some ...

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

,,,I submitted my trip ticket to the auto club

Question: If someone were ask you out, flirt or just simply chat with you.

Sticks48 comments on Feb 9, 2019:

What makes me uncomfortable is endless messaging. It is one step above smoke signals. It is such an impersonal form of communication. What makes me comfortable is talking on the phone.

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

I agree -at some mutually agreed point,improve the communication-as growth would be a cornerstone of said relationship if there is any depth...

Question: If someone were ask you out, flirt or just simply chat with you.

DoctoralZombie comments on Feb 9, 2019:

Much to the displeasure of more than one man I know, I am perfectly content to take my time getting to know them. Patience and persistence are important qualities to me. If a man gets annoyed with my pace, then he is free to go away. Be interesting, kind, concerned, and play the long term game if ...

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

both can benefit from this approach thanks

How do I get out of jury duty?

glennlab comments on Feb 9, 2019:

simply call the court, explain the situation.

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

really,try honestly thanks

How do I get out of jury duty?

Rustee comments on Feb 9, 2019:

Under your circumstances it is understandable to not wish to serve, and you will probably be granted a pass. Other than that - and as I read some of the responses below - I am appalled at what should be an eagerness to serve on a jury. If I were to ever face a trial, I would hope that responsible ...

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

...I totally agree; as in the system needs to work, if it doesn't/it should be fixed....

How do I get out of jury duty?

patchoullijulie comments on Feb 9, 2019:

I was called up three times in California. The first time I had just moved to and was living in Hawaii. The second and third times (last 12 months) I advised them that I am sole provider of me and that I worked fulltime and that my employer was not going to pay me for time off. They accepted that ...

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

I love California!!!! thanks,,,

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Cutiebeauty comments on Feb 8, 2019:

We can't...

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

...I know different

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DenoPenno comments on Feb 8, 2019:

This is a very good question but it's my opinion that if you are a female you cannot be a Boy Scout. The opposite would also apply.

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

hey Don-what about the "Explorors"- used to be all male,,, a scout is a scout

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Marionville comments on Feb 8, 2019:

The Scouts are unisex now in the U.K. Girls can still join the sister organisation Girl Guides if they wish to be in a girls only group. The younger girls and boys have separate groups...Rainbows and Brownies for the girls and Beavers and Cubs for the boys.

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

Sad,they really don't benefit young minds-just continue to distort them!

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A2Jennifer comments on Feb 8, 2019:

It’s tricky though. In mixed gender groups, girls are often ignored because they aren’t as loud and assertive as boys, so there’s value in having some spaces reserved for girls. But this issue is coming up now at Harvard - the university banned gender-restricted groups. Because traditionally ...

BBJong replies on Feb 9, 2019:

thanks,I wish we could move past this -since it distorts an objective and clear approach to thinking...

Was sex more fun when you still believed in original sin?

VictoriaNotes comments on Jan 26, 2018:

LMAO

BBJong replies on Feb 2, 2019:

@DavidLaDeau man ~i agree i avoided social media=they should have a quick chart ,,,somthing

Was sex more fun when you still believed in original sin?

David1955 comments on Jan 26, 2018:

Well I know it was more fun when I had more of it. ...I assume atheist sex is when you only believe it's good if you have evidence that it is, but agnostic sex you can never know if it good or not because it's unknowable. :-) (Sorry, couldn't resist).

BBJong replies on Feb 2, 2019:

,,,nailed it brother

Was sex more fun when you still believed in original sin?

dreamsinflux comments on Nov 22, 2018:

Not a bit. But if you want the thrill of judgment and punishment...next time your fucking dare yourself to go tell your conservative friends, in vivid detail, how "bad" you are. Lie and tell them shit that makes them want to beat you.

BBJong replies on Feb 2, 2019:

@dreamsinflux are they list in the phonebook

What people think being highly sensitive means...

BBJong comments on Jan 13, 2019:

...yep-that is a snap shot, to bad its precieved as a handicap

BBJong replies on Feb 2, 2019:

@bleurowz thanks_i work with 20somethings> not the most(male)sensitive of humanity

it's 15° ! we're being spoiled by Mother Nature!

MarvelAnn comments on Feb 1, 2019:

Its 16 with 6" of snow over night here. I sat snuggled under a blanket on the porch with tea this morning. Neighbors thought I was crazy. Just went out and shoveled both driveways and sidewalks. They are older and I want to make sure they can get in and out OK. I love this kind of weather. Can't ...

BBJong replies on Feb 2, 2019:

...realy -dont need life threating weather

it's 15° ! we're being spoiled by Mother Nature!

Boxdoc comments on Feb 1, 2019:

-10 this am, 48 on Sunday welcome to Michigan

BBJong replies on Feb 2, 2019:

...i feel u And the wind chill factor^^^^>>>><<

Off to the Coffee Shop

SkotlandSkye comments on Feb 2, 2019:

It took this post for me to realize it's Saturday. I swear it's Friday.

BBJong replies on Feb 2, 2019:

...its worse when it happens at work, and i have a log book=?get the white out from the cabniet

Women are from Venus; men are from Uranus. (My guess is some of those knobs are just for show.)

coralisthree comments on Jan 31, 2019:

women don't have knobs or buttons that are just for show. learn how to use them all.

BBJong replies on Feb 2, 2019:

@Deiter ...good point-im learning to drive a different car_in snow,,,i usually have the same vehicle10yrs

half a pot gone.....and I just came to the realization that it's Saturday???!!!! what???

Cutiebeauty comments on Feb 2, 2019:

Oh no! That's mucho coffee... You must be bouncing off the walls lol

BBJong replies on Feb 2, 2019:

...im doing it with a half a pot of BLACK TEA~still in bed

Forgiveness and Peace of mind....

Redheadedgammy comments on Jan 4, 2019:

I am slowly realizing this. DIL, in my family has been a problem for the entire 21 years she's been married to my son. After my husband past away this past June, DIL decided to be a cruel horses ass 3 weeks after his passing. I was talking to my grief counselor and she instructed me to write out ...

BBJong replies on Jan 4, 2019:

...I can appreciate the successes you have expressed,as I have experienced issues with family,though not exclusively.

Tucker Carlson Blames Higher-Earning Women For 'Men In Decline' | HuffPost

linxminx comments on Jan 3, 2019:

OMG...as a professional career woman, I'm enabling in the decline of men!!! No, no, say it isn't so!!! I know you guys are in a decline, but is there anyone with the strength out there that can take some of my hard-earned money (power and control) off my shoulders, and out of my life, so you can ...

BBJong replies on Jan 3, 2019:

nicely put; Somehow I dont picture you looking over your shoulder=where as he may need to(or the wall) ha Haaha

How to keep a relationship ❤

Xanadutoo comments on Dec 27, 2018:

I would have to write that on my hand for reference.Noway will I remember all that.

BBJong replies on Jan 1, 2019:

@MissKathleen yuk yuk? They work with people IE co workers,clerks,nieghbors-it's a skill set

How to keep a relationship ❤

UUNJ comments on Dec 27, 2018:

I’m not sure it’s reasonable to love unconditionally. Don’t we all have deal breakers? If you pledge fidelity, it would be hard to live a cheater. Or if you expect respect, it would be hard to love someone who derides you.

BBJong replies on Jan 1, 2019:

Good,valid point-there are healthy boundaries,,,1 of the 15 points. The rest are good interpersonal skills.

True intimacy

WarmFluffy comments on Dec 31, 2018:

I thought it was about respectful quality time.

BBJong replies on Jan 1, 2019:

@germangirl90439. it reveals to me how the bonding process gives me the courage to be vulneralable(without games)>>>> I can talk to co workers/neighbors only if I know their intentions for long terms :-:-: otherwise its hi/bye

Sometimes you meet a person ?

tedelliss comments on Dec 29, 2018:

My sincere condolences for the loss of your spouse. Regarding the message above, why would anyone sincerely not just be themselves when meeting someone? Honesty and acceptance of one another respectfully is what truly matters. I personally would never try to impress a woman by being ...

BBJong replies on Jan 1, 2019:

...yeah ,the process changes as the needs change- gut honest transparency is the only worthwhile foundation time is a thief otherwise^^^ also provides for peacefull resolution...

Single again.

BBJong comments on Dec 31, 2018:

I put temp tattoos just to screw with stuck up TWITS; You go Lady/his loss

BBJong replies on Dec 31, 2018:

@ProudMary we are known by our enemies as well as our friends little sis;ya gotta aim a little higher next time/them critters ain't got no speck on dare bones

Am I doomed relationship wise being a minority in a minority?

BBJong comments on Dec 31, 2018:

...I agree with your observations; across races this is a fact;my self and folks I know try to participate in social/cultural activities that appeal to us that are neutral of religious ties.Open minded people have personality traits just as the religious do! After I ...

BBJong replies on Dec 31, 2018:

@sweetcharlotte it reduces the numbers; if u go to the supermarket,10 might be comparable , the fairgrounds 100 might be compatible_ For a time I thought Plenty of Fish had all nurses on its site

Single again.

confidentrealm comments on Dec 26, 2018:

I think I have that tattoo and its invisible to me. I'm alone and have been forever. It seems.

BBJong replies on Dec 31, 2018:

@ProudMary ...quality not quantity- I'm on a 7yr quest myself

Religious fanatic-lunatic poisoning my life. What do I do?

VictoriaNotes comments on Dec 28, 2018:

I'm so sorry to hear about your hardship. He sounds hyper-religious. Did he have a sudden religious conversion? If so, it's possible that he has a mental/neurological disorder. *"Hyperreligiosity is a major feature of mania, obsessive-compulsive disorder, schizophrenia, temporal-lobe epilepsy, and ...

BBJong replies on Dec 31, 2018:

sounds very realistic advice

Anyone else feel like they can't have a normal fucking friendship because the lonliness of the label...

Sept-10th comments on Dec 4, 2018:

I have been married twice. Divorced twice. I am now single. That is the part I never understand about questionnaires, if I'm not with somebody I'm single. I'm not separated so negative word. It's the people's inability to have open minds.... It's their issue not mine. And if someone sees that I put ...

BBJong replies on Dec 4, 2018:

.yep.

Did you have trouble accepting your lack of belief in religion when you realized you were ...

SophieSquirrel comments on Nov 22, 2018:

My mother was Pentecostal and my father was Atheist. The trauma from living in a household where those two belief/non-belief systems clashed on a regular basis still reverberates throughout our family. I escaped early in adolescence, with alcohol and experimentation with drugs. I rejected ...

BBJong replies on Dec 2, 2018:

...I still do battle within my family/1siblingclergy-1practising;I just pick the extent to which I choose to exhaust my self emotionally. obligation to the truth for me doesn't mean I have to change everyone's belief system wholly?