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WWYD: What Would You Do?

Deb57 comments on Mar 7, 2019:

If there's no spark then just be honest. If he's mature and secure, he'll appreciate that you didn't waste his time. If it turns out that he's not mature and secure, you're better off not wasting *your* time!

BBJong replies on Mar 9, 2019:

...bingo

As I plan to take a big step, I have to remind myself that what I'm afraid of doing just may be a ...

Triphid comments on Mar 8, 2019:

I try my best to step beyond my 'comfort zone' regularly which is a part of my on-going battle with Agorophobia. Since the 'suggestions' I got from the 'knowledgable' Psychologists I found were less than effective, I decided to to design my own therapy and have, over the last 18+ plus years gone ...

BBJong replies on Mar 9, 2019:

way to go; thinking outside the box gives hope to others at the same time!

Do you see the humor in life? Tell us a funny story.

Lucky57 comments on Jan 17, 2019:

Had my neck busted in a bad car accident & was paralyzed from the neck down. Lying in bed for a few days, not being able to move, was real frightening, but I somehow managed to accept it. Didn't find it funny, but I didn't feel sorry for myself or worry about the future. Anyway, finally had surgery ...

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

yeah ,I'm 58 .mom died when I was 9 ,only permanate things give me jitters. I find chit chat very boring...

Do you see the humor in life? Tell us a funny story.

Gwendolyn2018 comments on Jan 23, 2019:

Where to start? This is one of my favorites: I had a wonderful fifth grade teacher; she not only had an effect on me personally, but professionally (I am a teacher). Before I moved to Missouri 20 years ago, I used to see her occasionally in a nearby town. I saw her in Safeway one time after not...

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

image is everthing

I had the opportunity tis morning to meet with a wonderful person who does have some intellectual ...

ROARRR comments on Mar 1, 2019:

I think I've always read in learned journals that dreams don't predict anything but tend to be composed of what you're thinking about in a loose configuration that sometimes helps you understand something or can provide an insite.

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

thanks ,heard much the same in documentary.

found out that most crayons are found to contain EXPESTOS(cancer chemical).

CaroleKay comments on Feb 23, 2019:

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

?...

found out that most crayons are found to contain EXPESTOS(cancer chemical).

josh_is_exciting comments on Feb 23, 2019:

Surgeon General's Warning: Life is hazardous to your health. :p

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

@PalacinkyPDX just overjoyed that poison can be foisted on children; maybe bring lead paint back?

found out that most crayons are found to contain EXPESTOS(cancer chemical).

Sticks48 comments on Feb 23, 2019:

This is exactly why a gave up eating crayons in the 90's.

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

just happy that my tax dollars put poison in cribs

'Behind The Curve' ending: Flat earthers disprove themselves with own experiments in Netflix ...

BBJong comments on Mar 3, 2019:

Shows where the priorities are for some folks. Just heard NetFlix is helping the popularity of documentaries; New York has the biggest documentary festival...

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

@Bierbasstard ...well my CNN remote is damaged beyond repair

Have you come out as an atheist?

Silver1wun comments on Feb 27, 2019:

Many former Muslims and Christians from North Africa to Central Asia have decided that visiting home isn't an option after rejecting notions about the existence of Allah or prophets. If they wish to visit, I imagine they can meet in places like Jordan? Have you changed citizenship yet? ...

BBJong replies on Mar 3, 2019:

well put ,to keep one eye on the Big Picture is an asset in ongoing change.

this is part of the story.

AmmaRE007 comments on Feb 27, 2019:

notice that the article is dated 1955 an look back on history

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

I found the same truths, digging in my county's history. Thanks!

Are freethinkers endangered species?

Rghurst comments on Mar 2, 2019:

I see a lot of "free thinkers" on the internet. Problem is that most of them are not thinking at all. They are lured in by provocative postings, mostly starting with how the government (business, liberals, etc.) are lying to you about whatever they're selling: electricity (free if you buy this ...

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

point taken

Heroes that were ahead of the times-seen any Recently?

cava comments on Mar 2, 2019:

I met Jimmy Carter up in NH when he was running for president. He is a good man. He accomplished a lot after an especially difficult presidency.

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

...maybe clone him

For those interested, a great piece on identifying gaslighting: [everydayfeminism.

BBJong comments on Mar 2, 2019:

drama sends me alarms that I tend to heed...

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

@Deiter understood and agree : there is a saying in mental health- to save a drowning person,you have to be prepared to risk your own life and lose thier's because you may both drown. You have to have strong grounded conviction. Tricky because of emotional attachment.Sometimes the interaction allows the person comfort that they are indeed worth the effort(they aren't alone).

Anyone care to join me for some chat this fine evening?

Wildflower comments on Feb 23, 2019:

Wow. So many visitors... but no takers. What's that all about? Me or you?

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

...very popularrrrr~

Debunked: "Socialism Has Never Worked" - YouTube

WilliamFleming comments on Mar 2, 2019:

I haven’t actually heard anyone say that socialism doesn’t work. I hear them say that Marx-style communism doesn’t work, and there is a degree of truth in that sentiment I think. The video states several times that communism is not socialism, but rather is “right-wing” dictatorship created...

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

I humballly think u nailed it, Russia under Peter theGreat in 14/16 century needed change.BUT to say, as some politicians do that social security is Socialism^^^is rather scary. The definitions are ,today very convoluted. Spinning them today seems to be sport(or profit)-i cannot fathom that it's not on purpose.

I test out as an ENFP/ENTP but I have always had hypersensitivity, particularly to the emotions of ...

Wildflower comments on Feb 24, 2019:

As a therapist I have had to build strong boundaries against taking on other's emotions. I am still highly sensitive to what is going on with others and empathic to how they are feeling, I just don't allow myself to take it on. It's been a very interesting process learning how to do this and ...

BBJong replies on Mar 2, 2019:

!bingo! THANKS -for the validation...

My heart goes out to any of you (myself included) who have been hurt by rude insensitive people.

mordant comments on Feb 21, 2019:

Near is I can tell, I was bullied in middle and high school simply for existing and perhaps for being somewhat bookish. Although I didn't take it very personally because I had company. There was a culture of bullying at my school, and no effort on the part of administration to reign it in at all. In...

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

...yep well said, I learned to pity the SOB's because of the pain to others. Never helpless.

My heart goes out to any of you (myself included) who have been hurt by rude insensitive people.

Infoguy211 comments on Feb 21, 2019:

I was bullied for not being coordinated physically and for being socially awkward. It was bad at the Lutheran School I went to, it got much worse in high school.

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

...I don't think they changed- they just wear a different mask(persona).

My heart goes out to any of you (myself included) who have been hurt by rude insensitive people.

Wildflower comments on Feb 21, 2019:

I was bullied by a sibling for being fat and ugly. If only I knew then what I know now.

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

...that makes me happy,,, that u own your happiness!

These are really good.

JackPedigo comments on Feb 22, 2019:

Not asking for help and trying to make bad relationships work were my biggest time wasters. Being a jack of all trades and into self-sufficiency has made me prone to go it alone. Bad relationships include not only partners but friends. Being to willing to help can make you a patsy and I have to ...

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

I too had the benefit of a lady who would remind me if someone was taking advantage. The flip side of that coin is you are enabling the Taker to think its OK. I learned to send back "signals" that I was not to be taken advantage of. Sometimes that did it -just STAYaway otherwise.

I had a display at a Sex, Science, Rock & Roll event at the NJ Liberty science Center tonight.

Hathacat comments on Feb 22, 2019:

Nice display! Hope you had fun and met some nice people!

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

@Hathacat, @UUNJ ...sounds like 1950's

I had a display at a Sex, Science, Rock & Roll event at the NJ Liberty science Center tonight.

Emerald comments on Feb 22, 2019:

Why is it only approved up to 45? Its not like older folks are hoping to catch the warts, and condoms are no guarantee. I've seen them on patients before. It looks unpleasant.

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

@Emerald ....let the rationing of vital serves begin/ and they should be determaining peoples lives... ???

I had a display at a Sex, Science, Rock & Roll event at the NJ Liberty science Center tonight.

zesty comments on Feb 22, 2019:

It is great that you had a packed house! A few years ago I invited an HIV educator to one of my large undergraduate classes. 60 students or so. The HIV educator lady came and ZERO students. I felt so bad but she mentioned that it happens all the time...

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

@FrayedBear ?

For those who find themselves single on this day, happy international book giving day.

HippieChick58 comments on Feb 14, 2019:

I went to the library and came out with two, for free!!!

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

@HippieChick58 ...cool sometimes they (library)have a sale /I speed read / take em back. The state has hundreds of library sales. they have to warehouse them

Tis a cartoon.

Janiesuper comments on Feb 22, 2019:

they stayed together for their kids

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

...i wonder what the kids would say,can say.But i tend to agree-takes 2 incomes today!!!

May you be at peace.

motrubl4u comments on Feb 23, 2019:

I was raised by hippies but ended up taking none of that with me lol

BBJong replies on Feb 23, 2019:

...bro its quality ,not quantity ?

Atheists Are Sometimes More Religious Than Christians - The Atlantic

Triphid comments on Nov 2, 2018:

Who are they kidding, " Atheists are sometimes more religious than Christians," REAL Atheists have little or no interest in the Rituals, Rites and Superstitious ways of any religion, they seek to expose them, discuss them and , Yes, ridicule them from time to time simply because they are RIDICULOUS.

BBJong replies on Feb 20, 2019:

@Triphid I tend to agree-to make a stand and gather facts to think for oneself; precludes needing to have others proclaim a group purpose.

In the long run, none of this matters.

nicknotes comments on Feb 19, 2019:

I see your point. Eventually we all die.

BBJong replies on Feb 20, 2019:

@mordant ...YES... ...picking our battles does give me a strong humility!

In the long run, none of this matters.

Novelty comments on Feb 20, 2019:

Someone told John Adams that "in the long run, none of this matters," once because this friend was a Torry and disapproved of the colonies rising up against the British Empire. Later this same fellow was killed by an English musket ball. What we do now will be legacy in the future. Everything is...

BBJong replies on Feb 20, 2019:

...yeah , in many ways _ helps be phsycologiclly stronger to face adversity. The opposite is chaos & helplessness , which some say is learned.

Left/Right experiment.

Ron_R comments on Feb 20, 2019:

In the photo biz, we state an angelic eye vs an evil eye. If the person is turned a bit, I put the angelic eye towards the back since its a bit bigger. Leading with the squinty evil eye is also a bit sexier. I saw a lady on line who had 2 exactly the same! 1 in 500-1000. Like a Disney ...

BBJong replies on Feb 20, 2019:

...so photography IS not just chemicals In a dark room=but angelic/bad eye+DISNEY...

Posted in Love & Relationships, a member recently asked the question, "Which sex tends to be more ...

Deiter comments on Feb 14, 2019:

I'm a fan and sometime listener of Perel's podcast. Part of the problem she describes would seem to simply be one of ego. As Don Draper said: *What is happiness? It’s a moment before you need more happiness.* Once we've achieved a thing, that thing will eventually become a bore. *The story, the ...

BBJong replies on Feb 19, 2019:

@VictoriaNotes well put... the big picture doesn't really deconstruct.

Posted in Love & Relationships, a member recently asked the question, "Which sex tends to be more ...

chazwin comments on Feb 14, 2019:

We'd all be a lot happier if we were not such slaves to our evolutionary imperatives. We seem to be impelled to nail as many of the opposite sex as possible. As soon as women get fertile after lactation their bodies tell them to find another partner. For men, it is a daily pressure to spread seed as...

BBJong replies on Feb 19, 2019:

@VictoriaNotes I agree,as children we are practically programmed-for expectations/ limitations, seeing our libido as an asset to a relationship would benefit it long term.

Society teaches "Don't get raped" vs. "Don't rape."

evidentialist comments on Feb 10, 2019:

That's not quite true. What our society here in the US teaches is basically this: Always wear modest clothing, never go to bars or dance clubs. Never look at a man. Avoid going with a man to a private or distant location. In other words, don't live, be afraid, and stay in your place. If you ...

BBJong replies on Feb 17, 2019:

I have found this true; mostly among 40+ that the interaction on the street is or has to be brief or muted. In social settings with younger ladies- they are showing more independence (grocery stores ;work); currently less constraints.

Science is saying that women stay sharper longer than do men . . . [yahoo.com]

Novelty comments on Feb 5, 2019:

Exactly! Thats why we should have voted for Hillary, at least she doesn't covfefe or talk about her good brain or brag about having superior genes. Who the fuck brags about superior genes? Only Nazis brag about superior genes. Want superior genes? Look at pure breed show dogs, all kinds of ...