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I grew up in a fundamentalist home… at ten I was baptized into the Seventh-Day-Adventist church. In my early twenties I was baptized into the Assemblies of church, and then in my later twenties I became a member of the Foursquare denomination. The one thing all of those groups have in common is that they are terrified of ME!

Because of my gayness, according to fundamentalists, I can:
~ Single-handedly incur the wrath of to bring down civilizations.
~ Cause earthquakes, hurricanes, tornadoes, flooding and famine.
~ And apparently my powers are growing as I'm creating bigger hurricanes.
~ Just by being gay I can destroy straight marriages and obliterate the institution of marriage altogether.

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Ok this is coming from a non religious person not steeped in bible things....I but have always been ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 13, 2018:
Like most of our Christian traditions, they have their roots in Greek and Roman mythology. The Halo https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_(religious_iconography)
Dream interpretation...
Benthoven comments on Sep 13, 2018:
Yes and no. I think dreams are extracts from our day, sometimes tied up in other issues that may be older than that, and to that end, looking at them will probably give us an idea what's going on in our psyche. For instance, there's a friend of mine whom I love very much, but for several months every time I saw her in my dreams I was screaming at her... about nothing... about stupid stuff... so I started looking into what might be going on, and I noticed that it felt often as if she was dismissive of my hopes and goals, and that made me angry though I didn't know it. So yes, it can give us insight into what's going on in our own minds, and even open up a little of our blind spots. But I don't think there's any mystical value to it.
What to say in response for being prayed for (expect fireworks thereafter)
Benthoven comments on Sep 13, 2018:
Just don't get any in my cereal.
Given the challenges facing Earth (climate change, pollution, overpopulation etc) should we avoid ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 13, 2018:
I personally don't see the need to bring children into the world when our very existence is still in question. However, there are thousands of children already here who would love to have a family. I wish we could find ways to get those children into good families.
A day of remembrance of one of the most significant events in the history of the Unites States of ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
My sister was a flight attendant based out of Boston when that happened. She worked with, partied with, broke bread with everyone on flight 11. Her best friend worked that flight. He had called her the day before complaining that he didn't feel well and wondered if he should call out sick. I go to the memorial often. It's a sacred place for me. A place where such profound evil gleefully snuffed out the lives of thousands, and and destroyed families and friends... and in this place we can honor them. Their names on the walls, their pictures are in the museums, their lives are honored.
Does somebody have some spare time? I'm asking because I really need some
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
I have some spare change, and some spare time, and I can spare a dime... but I'm not sure I can do all three.
Whenever I go to the city (not a big city mind you), I see many homeless people on every corner ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
I pray every day that God does bless. If there's a force for good, I pray that I find it and learn how to use it through wisdom. If there is love in the universe, I pray that I find it and learn how to use it, and when to recognize that I'm NOT using it. Maybe communities can come together to help those suffering. God is a generic term we entertain, wondering if there isn't something at least walking alongside of us... That is usually the meaning of God bless on these signs. They're everywhere on the streets of New York, and they're very much aware that Jehovah God has done nothing for them. But they're hoping that "I" will... And sometimes it "feels" right to give to them, and so I give what I have. Even if I know they're just going to buy booze. Life would suck if I were denied Vodka.
Why they banned Alex Jones from all the social platforms ? They are normalizing the idea of banning....
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
I think you're viewing this as the 'slippery slope' which, while possible, may not be inevitable. At least I hope it's not inevitable.
A big thank you ??
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
You completely omitted those who bring you vodka. Surely there's a special place in your heart for them, too?
While in your teens did you see your current age as old?
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
Absolutely not. Growing up Fundamentalist, I always thought Jesus was going to come before I was even old enough to drink. When that didn't happen, I thought it would be soon enough that I didn't grow old. Bottom line, Jesus is lost, and won't stop and ask for directions, and I'm still waiting here for him to pick me up and introduce me to his dad.
Sleeping pattern ???
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
But then I wouldn't know what to do with the rest of my day.
Conversation Starter... Describe yourself!
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
"I am no one of consequence."
Plain and simple.
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
What a world that would be.
Gay Frogs.
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
I think it's the gay frogs... who DON'T turn into princes when you kiss them... Or so I'm told.
Should Pluto be renamed as a planet? What are your thoughts? [nydailynews.com]
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
I think it's up to Pluto what it would like to be called.
Unicorns exist... they’re called rhinoceroses.
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
But... But... where are the rainbow farts?
Some atheists I have come across who call themselves agnostic, when pressed, argue that an assertion...
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
God's a big word... fairies are much more specific. God has a myriad of connotations, meaning that when we speak of God we really don't agree on what we're talking about. I think most atheists would agree that Christian God/Bible God/Jehovah is a myth. The same would be true with Allah and Yahweh. When most agnostics debate God, they're talking about some force in the universe that may or may not be conscious... that may or may not know of our existence... that may or may not care about how things end up in the long run... whether that god is a supercomputer, the universe itself, intelligence... that's where the disagreements are. We just don't have a good definition of God. Fairies, on the other hand, just have that one meaning... okay that other meaning, and we have empirical evidence that the second type of fairies do exist, only nobody's allowed to call us that but us and our friends.
Really great article about raising and training dogs. Good dogs don't just "happen". ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
I used to watch the dog whisperer all the time. But since I don't have a dog, I didn't have any way to practice what I learned.
So... since getting here I have been trying to get active with the progressive Dem movement ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
Who knows, though. You may actually like his mom... even though you're not dating. Friends like that are few and far between, so if the opportunity comes up, it might be worthwhile to at least see where it leads.
There's someone in my head and it's not me
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
Quick! Get to your nearest pub. If you're to far away, call someone to come get you.
Ok, am I the only one who is tired of being reminded of 9/11 every year? I nearly lost my dad on ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 11, 2018:
My sister was a flight attendant for American Airlines, based out of Boston. She was friends with everyone on Flight 11... including the pilots. Jeff was her best friend, and she kept the voicemail he sent the day before complaining that he was sick and wondered if he should call out. That was the last time she ever heard from him. It's important to THEM that we remember.
Out campaigning for republican candidates, Trump has stated tht if Democrats get a majority they ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 10, 2018:
And, ironically, they don't care that he's committed the crimes. They just don't want to see Democrats in office. I saw a shirt that read: "I'd rather be Russian than Democrat." That says what type of people these Trumpian "creatures" are... They could care less about the country... it's ideology that matters... If the Constitution gets in their way... trample it. It seems the Empire has rebuilt the Death Star.
So my boyfriend and I who have been dating for about a year moved in together and the other night we...
Benthoven comments on Sep 10, 2018:
There's really no way to answer that, but it might help to say, "God and I talked about it, and we both felt this was best..." Don't give her the "moral high ground" because it isn't hers anyway.
Seen on a bumper sticker this morning: To stupid to understand science? Try religion!
Benthoven comments on Sep 10, 2018:
Only after a while, all that paranoia and fear and anger just gets exhausting.
National Hurricane Center
Benthoven comments on Sep 10, 2018:
Looks like they're all cued up.
Pink Stops Concert To Give Grieving Teen A 'Hug From Heaven'
Benthoven comments on Sep 10, 2018:
While I've never been much of a fan of her music, I'm always delighted by the myriad of stories about here that show how generous and compassionate she is.
'Charlie's Cooler' Goes Viral As Woman Honors Late Husband's Annual Act Of Kindness
Benthoven comments on Sep 10, 2018:
Truly there are some generous people in the world.
Posting photos
Benthoven comments on Sep 10, 2018:
What size is the image you're uploading?
Dating. I know several people already have this in their bio, but I'm asking everyone here. Would ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 7, 2018:
Dating a Trumpite would be like taking a five-year-old to a seminar... it's just going to end badly... with a temper tantrum.
So that's why there's been no 2nd Coming! [theonion.com]
Benthoven comments on Sep 7, 2018:
I thought maybe his followers shot him thinking he was an immigrant trying to get food stamps.
I rent a condo here. I'm dressed in shorts and an anime shirt. I have a hat with shades on top. To ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 7, 2018:
I'd ask, "Are you with AARP?"
True True, the big Truth Regardless of what happens after we die, every second we are alive takes...
Benthoven comments on Sep 7, 2018:
Drinking.
Scenario: exercise class with a group of women, they start talking about Nike, atheism, and the sad...
Benthoven comments on Sep 7, 2018:
Could be fun.
?????????? Update ::: it's a hoax and he soo got us all lol [percolately.com]
Benthoven comments on Sep 5, 2018:
Well, if they take themselves out of the gene pool, we're more likely to be successful as a species.
Agnostic Universe
Benthoven comments on Sep 5, 2018:
Won't matter to me.
Prediction is very difficult, especially about the future!..
Benthoven comments on Sep 5, 2018:
It depends on what you're predicting. If you're about to step off the Empire State Building, I can make a pretty accurate prediction about what's going to happen next. But if you're asking me if I see "love" in your future... well, I don't even see it in mine.
Pick your Superpower. If you could have any Superpower, what would it be?
Benthoven comments on Sep 5, 2018:
The power of Hotness... The ability to be so stinking hot that they can't help but stop and look.
Who thinks bisexual men are sexy?
Benthoven comments on Sep 5, 2018:
I think "men" are sexy... in all shapes, sizes, colors... But if your over six-feet tall, with long hair, I'm likely to start drooling uncontrollably.
If you could have a cup of coffee with anyone, living or dead who would it be?
Benthoven comments on Sep 5, 2018:
Myself at 17.
I am really missing a caption for that one
Benthoven comments on Sep 3, 2018:
Build that wall!
What has been your favorite travel destination and why?
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
A little island in the Philippines called Boracay. It was warm weather, white-sand beaches, bungalows, blue water, and colorful fish. It was just like Hawaii, but not as well known, so there weren't that many people there. It was awesome.
In general, and very simply put, do you think people are basically good but are capable of doing ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
I think we're 'born' innocent. But based on society, family structure, abuse, ideology, and a whole plethora of social cues, affect how we turn out as we grow up. I also know there's a genetic component, but they also start to turn on and off as we grow. Even mental issues don't start to manifest right away, though we start to see evidence of some of them very early. Others don't take hold until much later. I think the idea of a "good" and "bad" or "black" and "white" is something we should probably start to rethink. Someone who is riddled with mental illness can't necessarily rise above villain to become saint, and saints also have some pretty significant flaws. So we're "people..." for better or worse.
And I think its gonna be a long long time Till level 8 brings me round to find A free T-Shirt in ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
I think I'm in the cell next to you.
Pluviophile: is so me? how about you?
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
I'm from Seattle, so I've seen my fair share. And this year in New York has also been wet... with rain falling so hard that I swear I saw a duck carrying an umbrella. https://www.youtube./watch?v=8D6pPgwafq0
This is a trinity I can appreciate!
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
Or as I like to call it: Father, Son, and Holy Spigot.
I have an absolute rule for dieting
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
I think I'll stay away from anything that isn't salted and stuffed into a sealed bag if I go to a place like that.
Are most people willing to say anything to cover their mistakes?
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
Wait... Why... What did you hear? He told you? Is there video?
Absolutely ?
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
You say that now... but wait until I accidentally spill coffee all down your shirt.
With literally everyone!
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
While I love those conversations, they can get exhausting. Sometimes idle prater can be a welcome relief.
Butt Butt Butter!
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
I feel like you're trying to butter me up...
Funny How The Republican Atheist Comments on The Queen of Soul's Funeral With Negative Remarks About...
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
I think that's the nature of Conservatism as it has evolved to be of late... They went nuts when Stephen Hawking died. A man who changed our understanding of the world. The bottom line is, they can't like anybody. They'll even turn on their own if you give them enough reason.
Do you make the distinction between being skeptical vs. cynical?
Benthoven comments on Sep 2, 2018:
While I make the distinction, I find that there are times... especially in this political climate... when I can be more cynical than I am skeptical.
Religious Dirty Talk (Humor Edit) [facebook.com]
Benthoven comments on Sep 1, 2018:
I want Jesus inside of me.
Those few of you that have taken the time to get to know me, and the one that knew me long before ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 1, 2018:
I've been trying to get that shirt for over a year now... hope it's faster for you. And if you could have Brad Pitt hand deliver that to me, I would be very happy.
Zelda the spider was having quite the feast early this morning. Looks like she caught a ...
Benthoven comments on Sep 1, 2018:
She's got enough for left overs.
I saw this photo of a sign taken at the Burning Man event and had to share.
Benthoven comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Might as well get our money's worth.
Where was this guy when I was a kid? Probably already fired.
Benthoven comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Another zombie on the barbie...
Troubles putting your duvet cover on? Some helpful tips.
Benthoven comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Brilliant.
I've been alone for a year. I'm open to dating. Where do I find singles locally and where do singles...
Benthoven comments on Sep 1, 2018:
In my case, I usually hang out around the waist... depending on how tight my pants are. I've heard the term "Muffin Top" bandied about of late.
Cross fit
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Nice shirt. Notice how it fits her? If I tried to wear that shirty the letters would be so stretched you wouldn't even be able to read them. ;)
Women are bi
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
I've met a few men who would fit that bill as well. ;)
I recently joined a couple of other free dating sites, and I am quite open about being atheist. When...
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Probably just being frugal.
Going to hit Level 8 today! How the heck did that happen?
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Woo Hoo! Totes jelly!
Mike Pence believes that God has called him to be president of the U.S., according to a new ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
"Think Iran and Saudi Arabia. This is what life in America could be like." Alas, I think we're already headed in that direction.
Is it worrying that there is a ProGunRights in this forum?
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
It's not the "pro-gun rights" per se that worry me... it's that they're the same pro-gun ideologies we see on the Evangelical side. Their ideologies are hyper-critical of reason and logic, they're focused on the constant fear brought about by conspiracy theory--which they embrace without question, and they cannot have a logical or reasoned debate. Ammosexuals in general are a difficult batch to understand, but to see them on a a site that's dedicated to logic and reason, I have to wonder... why are they here at all?
So here is a question. i believe in the idea that everything is explainable logically and through ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
This is why I call myself Agnostic... I see a lot of mystery out in the universe, and I have no desire to "squelch that with logic." Especially since I can't. So I like to play with the mystery, careful not to allow myself to become committed to any "belief" so as to keep my mind open for facts and data as it shows up.
After this life
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
I suspect that family and friends will come to my funeral, cry for a couple of days, and then go on with their lives as if nothing happened.
Aliens are they for real or...
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Well, we certainly haven't seen anything out there to indicate they do.
What do you guys say to people at funerals?
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
I'm sorry...
Question that goes back to the first cave men that rode mastadons....it's 3 in the ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Stop... at least for a second to look around. First of all, you never quite know... some drunk who forgot to put his lights on... but it's not just cars, but deer, cats, dogs...
Who would make the best US president
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Principal Skinner from the Simpsons.
Well, I hope this is the stupidest person I come across today. I can't really wrap my brain around ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
O...M...G... You have to TRY to be that stupid... Seriously.
Maybe it's time to start picketing outside churches, especially on Sundays. Maybe it's time to take ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I think it depends on the church. If it's a church that pickets Pride parades, Abortion Clinics, things like that, then "maybe..." Maybe if you handed out science literature... But it's something that could backfire bigly...
MIZ!!! College Football is right around the corner. What is your favorite team? ZOU!!! GO MIZZOU ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Football's coming up? I've got to sharpen my racquet and polish my bat.
When you actually understand humanity.
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
How can we be sure of that? We honestly don't know what animals think. We share a planet with tens of thousands of species... presume that we're the more intelligent, and yet know almost nothing about their inner processes. Dogs have an alpha... pets rely upon their humans... we don't know what they think about these relationships.
Make house for homeless rather than mosque ? or church ⛪
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I would say do both...
How to keep...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
In my defense, I did try it sober first.
1001 Reasons to...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I just got the one... and it totally works for me.
How to confuse...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Oh I never confuse them... One causes drownings and flooding and erosion, and Vodka makes me happy.
How to spend...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
In my defense, he was adorable.
Genes are amazing..... my niece 6 months and me when I was 6 months.....
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
When I was in school and up through my thirties, my family was surprised at how much I looked like my dad's brother, Nick. My sister and I used to joke that we had different dads. My mom never thought it was funny, so it's something we only did among us. But now that I'm older, I'm really started to wear my dad's face... and he wants it back.
So true and so sad.
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Actually, I don't think it works that way. To the newborn, the parents ARE god... Parental responses, their touch, their tones, their talk, help wire the baby's brain as it develops. Babies and children see themselves as an extension of their parents and don't start developing "identity" until around two. By six they're starting to figure out that they're 'separate.' It's true that the newborn doesn't think "god" because they don't ration at that point. But their lives are very much in the hands of others and their survival depends on something outside of themselves, and they accept that willingly until they start to develop a stronger sense of independence.
Caption time
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I shall reveal 'Who's a good boy' through interpretive dance.
The Call-Let The Day Begin - YouTube
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
These guys were such a great band.
Now that I'm dating again, the issue of who pays comes up. I'm all for equality and had the full ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
As a gay man, that's the one advantage we've always had... it was either, for ourselves, or take turns, or sometimes one of us paid just because... but there were no expectations going in... The same goes with who does the dishes, cleans the table, vacuums (although I would do almost anything to get out of vacuuming). But wear each other's shoes without asking? That would always end badly.
Kinda funny that I found this today. I've been thinking about homeostasis, which means the tendency ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Only on the inside.
Just keep moving forward.
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Or in my case, staggering.
Don’t forget what happened to the witches when the hunt was over...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
The witches were fine... it was the poor innocent women who suffered.
You can't be honest with others until you're honest with yourself first.
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I remembered staring into the mirror, looking into the eyes of a man I barely knew...
A big thank you to everyone who helped propel me over the Level 8 mark last night! I'll try to ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
OMG, How awesome. So it actually CAN be done? I've been sitting here at 7 for almost a year. I'm thinking I'm going to have to will my profile page to my next-of-kin... I'm sure they'll be able to get it up to 8... long after I'm gone. ;)
I just read that there will be another series of Cosmos with Dr. Neil Degrasse Tyson. I can't ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Run, Fundies, RUN!
Ever forget to turn off the electric toothbrush BEFORE taking it out of your mouth and spraying the ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I mean it's never happened to me, but I know-a guy... He hates it a lot.
Is it God or Gaughd? I'm opting for the latter.
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I like "Gawd..." Or in a real crisis... GWAWD!
If you could learn one thing that you don't know yet, what would it be?
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I feel like I'd like to start learning math... I love physics, but never understood the math. I'd have to start at basic algebra I'm sure, and then work my way up... I also wouldn't mind learning another language. I've always like German, but Spanish would probably be more practical.
It seems that I resemble a skinny duck..... haha
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I walk like an Egyptian... a drunk Egyptian.
I laughed so hard at some of the posts today, I snorted. You guys have made me a snorter. You're ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
Speaking as a snorter myself... welcome to the club. ;)
How do you keep a fool in suspence?
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
This has Loony Toons written all over... I'm thinking Wily Coyote. In the meantime, can you hold my beer?
I have seen it all now. I was surfing the TV channels this morning and ran across this show called ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
This is how a know there's no God... The god they tout would never tolerate this BS... Even when he was "in one of his moods."
Religious people are members of a contemporary "Cargo Culture".
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I'm not sure what a "cargo culture" is.
My fear of death has diminished as I've gotten older and experienced more of life. Anyone else?
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
Often I simply have a sense of... "Let's just get this over with."

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