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I grew up in a fundamentalist home… at ten I was baptized into the Seventh-Day-Adventist church. In my early twenties I was baptized into the Assemblies of church, and then in my later twenties I became a member of the Foursquare denomination. The one thing all of those groups have in common is that they are terrified of ME!

Because of my gayness, according to fundamentalists, I can:
~ Single-handedly incur the wrath of to bring down civilizations.
~ Cause earthquakes, hurricanes, tornadoes, flooding and famine.
~ And apparently my powers are growing as I'm creating bigger hurricanes.
~ Just by being gay I can destroy straight marriages and obliterate the institution of marriage altogether.

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I recently joined a couple of other free dating sites, and I am quite open about being atheist. When...
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Probably just being frugal.
Going to hit Level 8 today! How the heck did that happen?
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Woo Hoo! Totes jelly!
Mike Pence believes that God has called him to be president of the U.S., according to a new ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
"Think Iran and Saudi Arabia. This is what life in America could be like." Alas, I think we're already headed in that direction.
Is it worrying that there is a ProGunRights in this forum?
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
It's not the "pro-gun rights" per se that worry me... it's that they're the same pro-gun ideologies we see on the Evangelical side. Their ideologies are hyper-critical of reason and logic, they're focused on the constant fear brought about by conspiracy theory--which they embrace without question, and they cannot have a logical or reasoned debate. Ammosexuals in general are a difficult batch to understand, but to see them on a a site that's dedicated to logic and reason, I have to wonder... why are they here at all?
So here is a question. i believe in the idea that everything is explainable logically and through ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
This is why I call myself Agnostic... I see a lot of mystery out in the universe, and I have no desire to "squelch that with logic." Especially since I can't. So I like to play with the mystery, careful not to allow myself to become committed to any "belief" so as to keep my mind open for facts and data as it shows up.
After this life
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
I suspect that family and friends will come to my funeral, cry for a couple of days, and then go on with their lives as if nothing happened.
Aliens are they for real or...
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Well, we certainly haven't seen anything out there to indicate they do.
What do you guys say to people at funerals?
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
I'm sorry...
Question that goes back to the first cave men that rode mastadons....it's 3 in the ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Stop... at least for a second to look around. First of all, you never quite know... some drunk who forgot to put his lights on... but it's not just cars, but deer, cats, dogs...
Who would make the best US president
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Principal Skinner from the Simpsons.
Well, I hope this is the stupidest person I come across today. I can't really wrap my brain around ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
O...M...G... You have to TRY to be that stupid... Seriously.
Maybe it's time to start picketing outside churches, especially on Sundays. Maybe it's time to take ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I think it depends on the church. If it's a church that pickets Pride parades, Abortion Clinics, things like that, then "maybe..." Maybe if you handed out science literature... But it's something that could backfire bigly...
MIZ!!! College Football is right around the corner. What is your favorite team? ZOU!!! GO MIZZOU ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Football's coming up? I've got to sharpen my racquet and polish my bat.
When you actually understand humanity.
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
How can we be sure of that? We honestly don't know what animals think. We share a planet with tens of thousands of species... presume that we're the more intelligent, and yet know almost nothing about their inner processes. Dogs have an alpha... pets rely upon their humans... we don't know what they think about these relationships.
Make house for homeless rather than mosque ? or church ⛪
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I would say do both...
How to keep...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
In my defense, I did try it sober first.
1001 Reasons to...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I just got the one... and it totally works for me.
How to confuse...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Oh I never confuse them... One causes drownings and flooding and erosion, and Vodka makes me happy.
How to spend...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
In my defense, he was adorable.
Genes are amazing..... my niece 6 months and me when I was 6 months.....
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
When I was in school and up through my thirties, my family was surprised at how much I looked like my dad's brother, Nick. My sister and I used to joke that we had different dads. My mom never thought it was funny, so it's something we only did among us. But now that I'm older, I'm really started to wear my dad's face... and he wants it back.
So true and so sad.
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Actually, I don't think it works that way. To the newborn, the parents ARE god... Parental responses, their touch, their tones, their talk, help wire the baby's brain as it develops. Babies and children see themselves as an extension of their parents and don't start developing "identity" until around two. By six they're starting to figure out that they're 'separate.' It's true that the newborn doesn't think "god" because they don't ration at that point. But their lives are very much in the hands of others and their survival depends on something outside of themselves, and they accept that willingly until they start to develop a stronger sense of independence.
Caption time
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I shall reveal 'Who's a good boy' through interpretive dance.
The Call-Let The Day Begin - YouTube
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
These guys were such a great band.
Now that I'm dating again, the issue of who pays comes up. I'm all for equality and had the full ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
As a gay man, that's the one advantage we've always had... it was either, for ourselves, or take turns, or sometimes one of us paid just because... but there were no expectations going in... The same goes with who does the dishes, cleans the table, vacuums (although I would do almost anything to get out of vacuuming). But wear each other's shoes without asking? That would always end badly.
Kinda funny that I found this today. I've been thinking about homeostasis, which means the tendency ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Only on the inside.
Just keep moving forward.
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Or in my case, staggering.
Don’t forget what happened to the witches when the hunt was over...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
The witches were fine... it was the poor innocent women who suffered.
You can't be honest with others until you're honest with yourself first.
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I remembered staring into the mirror, looking into the eyes of a man I barely knew...
A big thank you to everyone who helped propel me over the Level 8 mark last night! I'll try to ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
OMG, How awesome. So it actually CAN be done? I've been sitting here at 7 for almost a year. I'm thinking I'm going to have to will my profile page to my next-of-kin... I'm sure they'll be able to get it up to 8... long after I'm gone. ;)
I just read that there will be another series of Cosmos with Dr. Neil Degrasse Tyson. I can't ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
Run, Fundies, RUN!
Ever forget to turn off the electric toothbrush BEFORE taking it out of your mouth and spraying the ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I mean it's never happened to me, but I know-a guy... He hates it a lot.
Is it God or Gaughd? I'm opting for the latter.
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I like "Gawd..." Or in a real crisis... GWAWD!
If you could learn one thing that you don't know yet, what would it be?
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I feel like I'd like to start learning math... I love physics, but never understood the math. I'd have to start at basic algebra I'm sure, and then work my way up... I also wouldn't mind learning another language. I've always like German, but Spanish would probably be more practical.
It seems that I resemble a skinny duck..... haha
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I walk like an Egyptian... a drunk Egyptian.
I laughed so hard at some of the posts today, I snorted. You guys have made me a snorter. You're ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
Speaking as a snorter myself... welcome to the club. ;)
How do you keep a fool in suspence?
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
This has Loony Toons written all over... I'm thinking Wily Coyote. In the meantime, can you hold my beer?
I have seen it all now. I was surfing the TV channels this morning and ran across this show called ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
This is how a know there's no God... The god they tout would never tolerate this BS... Even when he was "in one of his moods."
Religious people are members of a contemporary "Cargo Culture".
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I'm not sure what a "cargo culture" is.
My fear of death has diminished as I've gotten older and experienced more of life. Anyone else?
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
Often I simply have a sense of... "Let's just get this over with."
So, doesn't our belief in a god depend on our own definition of god? Thoughts?
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I think it's a lot more complicated/complex than that... There's the history of god through the generations. The societal version of god, the familial version of god, what we were "taught" as we grew up, and then the spin we put on it as we grow and our personalities adapt. And that's just surface stuff.
This is how life treats me most days :P
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
Alas, he's got an excuse. He's young... I still haven't learned the lesson of getting the hell out of the way before I get creamed.
Walk on Water....
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
Jesus is the only guy I know who can bring water to a party and everybody welcomes him in.
Sooo, open question: Does religion (or supernatural beliefs) create, exacerbate or are the result ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
OR... does fundamentalism tend to draw people that are more disturbed and mentally unstable. It's kind of a 'chicken or the egg' scenario (although we know the egg came first). Mythology (which all religion falls under) has given us some amazing stories, while at the same time allowing us to look deep into the human psyche. These stories give us perspective amid the chaos that constantly surrounds us, and help us find a place to step when all we have are dark nights. It's been suggested by sociologists that "religion" is our default program since we've been chasing after the gods since we first became conscious. Evolutionary, it was a way to... well... make sense of the chaos. It was the mind's way of giving us a reason to keep pushing forward even in the face of adversity. Without it, the species probably would have died out long ago. It's one of the side-effects of consciousness.
Can you find an issue on your life that you treat in a religious way? Something that despite ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I still fully embrace the stories and myths that have brought us to this day. I love mythology. I love TV shows like Supernatural, I like studying the historical Jesus (at least as close as we can get), I grew up on Lord of the Rings, and still like Harry Potter. And it has nothing to do with belief. It's the power that the stories convey. We live in a world where there are powerful forces at work, sometimes for our benefit, and sometimes at our destruction. We live in a world where chaos completely surrounds us, and we know it. We live in a world where very little around us makes sense... and so we tell stories about it. As long as we don't take those stories seriously, they help us navigate our way through the chaos simply by providing perspective... in an abstract way, which is how our minds find it easiest to relate to the world around us. So I embrace the stories...
My friend gave me some beard cream that smells like cinnamon rolls. I can't stop licking my own ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I know a puppy who really likes licking faces. Can he get in on this action too?
Good morning, for those of us on the other side of the tracks.
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I love a good tea... which makes me pee... giving me a good teapee!
Wow...this site just doesnt offer a guy nothing ! I wish it did ...its a good idea . There are arent...
Benthoven comments on Aug 21, 2018:
I would say it's the other way around... It doesn't appear as if YOU have much to offer.
Suddenly and without warning, my computer screen is splattered with coffee EDIT: For those of ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 20, 2018:
You gotta love Fox "news".
Are you a dog person or a cat person? (I'm a cat person)
Benthoven comments on Aug 20, 2018:
This is just an observation, but it seems that when you ask a cat person that question, they'll usually say, "I'm a cat person, but I like dogs too... Dogs are really nice." But when you ask a dog person that question, they say, "I hate cats. Cats are assholes." ;)
It certainly looks that way.
Benthoven comments on Aug 20, 2018:
That being said, entrails make me squeamish, so if you would do the strangling, I'd appreciate that.
Maybe they're just going to work? But dressed like that, on a Sunday morning too? And full ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 20, 2018:
I'm going to take that as a "no"!
I think I made a big mistake Friday night.
Benthoven comments on Aug 20, 2018:
I'll keep that in mind... Until the next time I'm drunk.
We are a simple people, able to convey so many different thoughts with just two words. Do y'all ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 20, 2018:
Means you really gotta learn to rely on subtext.
Peter gets philosophical....
Benthoven comments on Aug 20, 2018:
That could portend the end of the world.
Surprisingly there are a great number of people who are not aware of this even though they recite ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 20, 2018:
Imagine that.
Coffee makes everything better
Benthoven comments on Aug 20, 2018:
That's what makes coffee so beautiful.
Why do I get attracted by religious girls?
Benthoven comments on Aug 20, 2018:
Maybe it's because the religious girls are wild in the sack.
The world contains.
Benthoven comments on Aug 18, 2018:
And morons we can see...
Is it just me? I tend to have a small filter when it comes to other people's bull shit. So I tend to...
Benthoven comments on Aug 18, 2018:
It's been my experience that those who feel the need to go around telling everyone they're "wrong" are more ideologically motivated than anything else. There's no way of really knowing what's "right" or "wrong..." We live in a universe that expects us to figure it out for ourselves if we're to know anything, and sometimes it takes years, centuries, generations even to know how stable our ideas are.
There are literally more stars in the Universe then grains of sand on all of the beaches of earth. ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I think I'd still demand a recount.
Hiking at Mt Rainier last weekend, a marmot rock party included!
Benthoven comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I used to live in the shadow of that mountain. I could see it from just about everywhere I went. I loved that mountain...
Newt Gingrich: Democrats better be ‘careful about the demons they’re unleashing’ Conservative ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 18, 2018:
S'okay, we got Sam and Dean Winchester on the case.
Religious affiliations of superheroes and other comic book characters... I posted this in a ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 18, 2018:
Fascinating.
When I was in high school my biology teacher was about to retire and he was so scared that his ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 18, 2018:
It's amazing when "telling the truth" can carry such heavy consequences.
I have a tremendous fear that a religious fanatic will gain access to a weapon of mass destruction ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 18, 2018:
It a very real possibility, so we all hope that those assigned to protect us are on their toes. As to the Fundamentalists... I don't know what to do about them. You can't reason with them, they don't do facts, and violence is the only language they know (or want to know). But if help is going to come, it's going to come through us, so we need to be looking for ways to protect all of us...
Enjoy your Saturday.
Benthoven comments on Aug 18, 2018:
Or as I like to call it, "Stupid-Thirty."
August 18: Dream Diary
Benthoven comments on Aug 18, 2018:
Last night was a strange one. I was a vampire, in the hospital to have my blood replaced, but they could only do it after midnight.
Only 22 more points to go until I reach level 6... then I will likely be stuck there as it takes so ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 17, 2018:
I've been stuck on level 7 for almost a year.
After Trump is gone, and things settle down, the US should fund massive PTSD therapy. We are all ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 16, 2018:
I know I will definitely need it.
Atheists, we're so terrible! lol atheist gods secular Religious wacko’s should all require a ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 16, 2018:
Alas, this particular letter isn't what it appears to be. https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/stomp-out-atheists/
We recently lost my oldest brother B at 59 yrs old. He was non-religious as were his kids. His kids ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 16, 2018:
That's the irony of religion... I cannot see beyond its own blindness and therefore assumes that everyone else is as blind as they are.
Real factor
Benthoven comments on Aug 16, 2018:
Oh science... It's such a party pooper.
I feel a little bit like Larry the Cable Guy --- I don't care who you are, that there is funny.
Benthoven comments on Aug 16, 2018:
Took me a minute... but then... I'm Twix white! ;)
Hahahahaha. So accurate!
Benthoven comments on Aug 16, 2018:
The ability to think like a Conservative.
Naughty Jesus
Benthoven comments on Aug 16, 2018:
Yes Please!
Exactly how i feel right now!! LOL good morning!
Benthoven comments on Aug 14, 2018:
Usually there's Vodka involved.
Ok. Something that's bugging me a little. I don't understand why all these dudes, old dudes keep ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 14, 2018:
So now I'm confused. Occasionally, I'll want to read more about a person after they've posted something. I'm taking it that this is not cool. I'm pretty sure I've not been to this page... but now I've got to purposefully avoid it.
I love these under shorts !
Benthoven comments on Aug 14, 2018:
Intriguing.
Fortune cookie wisdom...
Benthoven comments on Aug 14, 2018:
Ain't nothing to forgive if you can't remember.
So wrong. But funny.
Benthoven comments on Aug 14, 2018:
No more water-to-wine for that guy.
Another fine, upstanding republican. "In an email sent to Florida news outlets, Miami University ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 14, 2018:
I thought NOT having an education was the pride of most Republicans. What's got them changing their minds now?
Math scholars
Benthoven comments on Aug 14, 2018:
Oh man... I didn't study for this post.
Just was posting something on Facebook! But was in mode and wrote Vote True, Vote Blue! Sounds good,...
Benthoven comments on Aug 11, 2018:
And we got lots of them.
What would you do, and would you confess?
Benthoven comments on Aug 11, 2018:
I thought that was privileged information.
I found this article really interesting and thought I would share for those interested in the ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
I've posted this before, but it's fascinating... It's a scientific look at dreaming with Michio Kaku. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h7eYt4ZmkR8 This article is the same thing, but it sometimes help to see it written out. https://bigthink.com/think-tank/this-is-your-brain-on-dreams-with-michio-kaku
If life is a journey, I think my bus is late.
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
Knowing my luck, when my ship comes in, I'll be at the airport.
I woke up before the birds this morning. Went out and screamed at them for a change.
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
Just be careful. They're spot-on poop aim when they want to be.
Do they know the meaning of the word unconditional?
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
The farce is strong with this one.
A wise woman told me once that she has room for GOD in her life, but only when she thinks of GOD as ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
Scooby Doo: Let go let dog...
Do ever think to yourself, Self, I wish there was a site where there was no discussion of religion ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
Well, the name "Agnostic.com" suggest that it's tied to thoughts and ideas about reality or spirituality. Neil DeGrasse Tyson has a great Facebook page where that's exactly what people do, get together and talk science. It's pretty interesting. Its nice to see that there are some pretty smart people out there.
THE AFTERLIFE SALAD BAR IS OPEN! All religions offer their believers an afterlife. Eternal life...
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
Actually, Christianity does make some references to reincarnation. John the Baptist was thought to be Elijah... In John 9, the story of the blind man coming to Jesus to be healed, his apostles ask: "Who sinned, the man or his parents that he was born blind..." suggesting he was suffering for some past wrongs. Again, in the book of John, Jesus talks about his 'father's house' and many mansions. This COULD be a reference to the idea of various "astral planes" sometimes taught in the more extreme religions such as Zoroastrianism. Hell, Jesus himself is an 'incarnation' of God. Plato believed in an immortal soul that frequently incarnated, so those ideas were not new to the early Christians. What has likely happened is that at some point before the New Testament was canonized during the Second Council of Trullan of 692 the books were scrubbed to remove all traces of the idea.
I doubt if anyone here is surprised ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
Did I mention that it's 198 feet of steel?
Another in vogue p/c term is “people of color” that I find abhorrent, as it is used to denigrate...
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
So you're a troll?
Every time I go out to the parking lot behind my office I feel like I'm being stared at.
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
Even gawked at a little.
Your first car . . .
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
My first car was an Acura Integra LS... I LOOOOOOOOVED that car. I had for almost a decade before I bought my Honda CRV.
Oh, I'd NEVER do that!!!
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
Shop at Wal*Mart!
Tribune Media calls off its merger with Sinclair Group. This is enough to make many of us stand up ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
Not to mention breathe a sigh of relief.
Happy bubble bath day
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
They're way more fun if you have someone to share them with. ;)
I want one of these "Joe Manganiello"s. He is light speed sexy, and a GIGANTIC NERD, seen here, ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
Since light speed is a measure of distance, does "light speed sexy" mean "far out sexy"? ;)
Interesting start to my day. Not my building. No one was hurt, apparently. I'm sure all my FB ...
Benthoven comments on Aug 9, 2018:
My brother-in-law, a marine, was working a flight from Stewart Air Force Base, New York, to Cherry Point, North Carolina, then to California, and finally to Yuma... His friend and co worker had been trying to get a spot on that plane... At first there wasn't an opening... Then a seat opened up, but his wife had to go out of town and he couldn't get baby sitting. Finally, at the last minute, it was looking like he could make it. But then they had to make room for more cargo... So he could not make the flight. That was Monday morning, 10 July, 2017. At five in the afternoon, that KC-130 blew apart over Mississippi and all sixteen men, 15 Marines and one Navy (including my brother-in-law) were lost to history. I tell that story often, because it intrigues me. I remember him standing in my sister's kitchen talking shortly after the accident saying, "It should have been me..." But my only response was, "No it shouldn't have. You tried... something kept you off that plane." I don't call it god, I don't call it providence... I don't even call it coincidence... I don't know what it was, but he's still among us... and I'm grateful. I miss the hell out of Brendan, but when I see him I'm grateful for his family that he's still with them. And I give thanks... to what I do not know. I just generically call it the "universe." Even while I'd like to kick the Universe's ass for what it did to Brendan.

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