I see things about people that they themselves do not know.

Buttercup comments on May 11, 2018:

She bills herself as a kind of relationship expert. It's like she can't even hear the words that are coming out of her mouth. This video and the many people who agree with it just stuns me, she has a long list of different narcissists she has "fallen for" and been the "victim" of and even speculates that she will be making a future video after she gets involved with a cerebral narcissist, which she still needs to check off her bucket list. She also goes on a long and angry rant about being cheated on after first stating it wasn't a "real relationship" and they had agreed at the outset it wasn't exclusive. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cWgF4KIIPko=share

I see things about people that they themselves do not know.

Buttercup comments on May 11, 2018:

As Vonnegut said,"Don't truth me and I won't truth you"(Sirens of Titan) We all have our blind spots and things about ourselves we'd rather not deal with. Sometimes being a friend is not reminding people about their deficits.

Girl Scouts Cookie Sales 'Promote Promiscuous Sex and Abortion' Says Kim Davis' Lawyer

Buttercup comments on May 11, 2018:

I've always wondered what she would do if a devout Catholic bureaucrat refused to give her a license because she is divorced.

Does the term cis bother you?

Buttercup comments on May 11, 2018:

Language evolves continuously, it seems silly to get offended because a word has been adapted to a new situation. Hetero- and homo- when used to describe sexual preference had similar origins. I rarely describe myself as cis but when talking about gender issues it is a useful qualifier.

Anyone using store bought pre mixed fuel?

Buttercup comments on May 10, 2018:

Seems pricy but maybe worth it for the convenience. It probably has stabilizer added for shelf life. Gas can get stale and clog small passages, I add my own but it's a problem for people who let them sit with fuel. There is a good chance this is why it ran rougher before.

So, which is MOST important, a physical attraction or a psychological attraction?

Buttercup comments on May 10, 2018:

There are some bare minimums that have to be met or I'd be celibate. But once those are met, psychological, it's not even close. If she's a jerk, no amount of beauty can offset that; once someone who has won my trust and admiration they get better looking in my mind.

CRYING! What has made you cry as an adult?

Buttercup comments on May 9, 2018:

On the lighter side, kid's movies... Toy Story 2, when they're holding hands being dragged into the trash compactor and the end of Incredible Journey, when the old dog shows up alive. Serious, my baby brother killed himself, I was maintaining okay(if numb) until I called my sister, I just choked when I said it aloud and all my grief burst out.

What do you to make yourself feel sexy?

Buttercup comments on May 9, 2018:

Not me but something that drives me nuts is a woman fresh from the shower, scrubbed with damp hair in a white terrycloth robe.

How do you want to be buried?

Buttercup comments on May 9, 2018:

Open to organ and med school donation, if that doesn't work out cremate any leftovers and spread them in the woods near my house where I bury my pets.

Should the Boy Scouts be both for boy and girls?

Buttercup comments on May 8, 2018:

Other countries have for years, I was at an international jamboree (early 2000s)and there were girls then. Sea Scouts and Explorers also have had women for many years (over 16 I think). I was a leader for years in a fairly liberal suburban scout pack and troop. We had lots of sisters accompany us on outings and mostly ignored the gay and religious stuff. The bureaucracy has to catch up.

One of my favorite musics to listen to is film scores.

Buttercup comments on May 8, 2018:

I like Barry Manilow, but I'm a manly man, I swear. One of my favorites film scores. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1PfrmCGFnk

I've been in a passionless relationship for 5 yrs.

Buttercup comments on May 8, 2018:

She breached the contract, assuming this started out as a sexually committed relationship. You don't owe her a thing. Personally, I couldn't live with the lie, so hard as it is call her out or leave would be my choices.

What is your favorite position?

Buttercup comments on May 8, 2018:

Snuggly spoon under the covers in a cold room especially sleepy. Kissing her back and neck with lazy deep slow penetration. Scissor.... her on her back and me on my side, eye contact, penetration and fondling her clit at the same time. Billow biter, doggie with her arms folded so her head is on the bed. Best when athletic, grab her hips and pound!!! Missionary, skin on skin and face to face, wrapped in my arms. Sweet and intimate.

Once either of these are severed, there is no going back. It can never be the same.

Buttercup comments on May 8, 2018:

Redemption and forgiveness are gs I consider key, everyone should have a chance to regain trust after making mistakes. My gest problem with s is the idea that these can be won back in any way but personal accountability. There is no such g as born again or being forgiven by a priest in confession. If you make a mess, you clean it up.

I’m in the process of hiring a contractor to replace the wood trim around the windows on my house.

Buttercup comments on May 6, 2018:

Ridiculous, the wood for window trim is not a big expense. I wouldn't ask for anything upfront personally. Materials is reasonable but 1/3 should cover it. This job shouldn't require any permits, which do require some time and expense before the work starts.

Who is the biggest employer in your city?

Buttercup comments on May 6, 2018:

I'm within the boundaries of a reservation, the tribe has a thriving economy(casino, pot, fireworks) Tons of civic improvements as well as immunity from some burdensome county laws and they paid for my daughter and some elementary school classmates to go to D.C. (opposite coast) Great neighbors. I would guess 1000 to 2000 people total employed by the tribe.

How do you like it?

Buttercup comments on May 6, 2018:

I'm a big, sturdy guy and I like to lead. I tend to attract women that like to be tossed around, they like strong and I love when they melt in my hands(and my mouth)

Have you ever been voted "Someone most likely to ..."?

Buttercup comments on May 6, 2018:

I was super thin and plagued with respiratory infections when I was young so I was low in the picking order at sports. I went through a huge spurt of muscle growth in my twenties and acquired some prominent scars. I was in a pickup basketball game on a tough innercity court and one team captain said," I want that Frankenstein lookin' motherfucker", nice change.

Best anti-depressants without a prescription

Buttercup comments on May 6, 2018:

Sam-E is prescription in Europe and fairly well researched (similar in action to SSRIs and I would suggest similar precautions)

Lost in Space on Netflix.

Buttercup comments on May 6, 2018:

Beyond bad I gave up after 5 minutes, tried again and regretted the loss of another 5

I don't miss church but I do miss the coming together the togetherness of worship.

Buttercup comments on May 6, 2018:

Religion has co-opted our need for community and companionship, that's why punishments like shunning and excommunication work so well. Alain be Botton has some interesting thoughts on our need for religion apart from some omnipotent administrator.

Does anyone have scars that they're self-conscious about?

Buttercup comments on May 5, 2018:

How about the reverse, I have a facial scar from a botched surgery that looks life it's from a knife fight; it was prominent in my twenties and much smaller now. I was over thin and frail in my teens but really filled out in my twenties so when I got scary looking I enjoyed it. I've had two different girlfriends that had surgery scars from scoliosis that they were very self conscious about, never bothered me. You're not shallow in the least, it's absolutely true people are averse to facial scars especially on women. Hugs

I'm feeling a wee bit melancholy this evening.

Buttercup comments on May 5, 2018:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZTIu4UbkK94

Embarrassing nickname?

Buttercup comments on May 2, 2018:

"Big Bird", I was tall and thin and about twelve when Sesame Street premiered. Our surname is Trout and my even thinner younger brother was called "Fish Stick".

Should public nudity be legal?

Buttercup comments on May 1, 2018:

Yeah, I really don't think much would change. We have a naked parade in Seattle which is fun but we don't even have many days warm enough. I was a Bay area hippie kid in the late sixties/ early seventies and we were okay with casual nudity but most people stayed clothed nearly all of the time.

Losing friends

Buttercup comments on May 1, 2018:

Case by case for me, I have some pretty good friends that are Christians, I've also jettisoned a few who think their beliefs give them some sort of superiority. Trumps election made me realize there are people I'd rather not see anymore.

Which one would you choose?

Buttercup comments on Apr 30, 2018:

I'm okay with housework, I do dishes by hand to relax, I tend to like errands too. My kids adore each other and rarely fight. So sleep is the easy one.

What's the one thing your boyfriend/girlfriend does that makes it so easy to fall in love with them?

Buttercup comments on Apr 30, 2018:

Integrity, I like someone who has principles and stands up for them. My wife has gotten in trouble many times when she felt management or customers were treating her more submissive, young or impressionable coworkers unfairly.

The Humanist Dilemma: My Husband Is Pressuring Me to Have Plastic Surgery - TheHumanist.com

Buttercup comments on Apr 30, 2018:

Just say no (seriously if he objectifies her that much I don't know why she would stay, I'm confident that this is not the whole issue)

Would you dare to have sex in a church?

Buttercup comments on Apr 29, 2018:

I have, went out with a woman who had a kink for Jesus on the cross and I'm an obliging gentleman. Courtly manners are not dead.

Weird comfort foods

Buttercup comments on Apr 29, 2018:

Canned corned beef hash, the stuff that looks like dog food.

So is this a dating site...or nah?

Buttercup comments on Apr 29, 2018:

Could be, I think a lot of real world dating starts with social situations that aren't explicitly about dating. Probably better that way, who needs the pressure of rejection or rejecting that leaves no room for other options.

Would you date a disabled person?

Buttercup comments on Apr 29, 2018:

Certainly, I did date someone with scoliosis that couldn't be completely repaired who could only walk short distances with effort.

Being Completely Honest, Is There A Bible Or Cross Anywhere In Your Home Right Now?

Buttercup comments on Apr 29, 2018:

My atheist daughter thinks tacky Jesus memorabilia are hilarious, so I may still have an expired air freshener in my car she gave me.