Evolution of the mind

Freedompath comments on Mar 9, 2018:

Well, I was always evolving as I studied all religions and went into them for a period of time and when there seem to be nothing else for me at these places I moved on. And, then I moved completely out of all religions and I felt stronger than ever i did in my past.

Why is it there are so few "awake" and agnostic gay or open minded men near me?

Freedompath comments on Mar 9, 2018:

I am just responding as I have had many gay friends (people are dying that are near my age). But, they and the ones still here...would say, what can you expect in the Bible Belt? Maybe, you could consider moving to other areas where there are more gay people. Everyone, needs friends and especially gay people, because they are a minority and everyone needs a few like minded people around them. Best of luck...

Mountainbiking is my go to stress reliever and primary method of exercise.

Freedompath comments on Mar 9, 2018:

Wow...is all I have to say! I do flights of stairs for my excerise. Sometimes, I do my stationery bike, but I found the stairs best for my excerise! I do envy you!

I'm deeply interested in how we can effectively change the minds of those who hold sharply ...

Freedompath comments on Mar 9, 2018:

I believe that to start you should read, 'The Authoritarians, by Bob Altemeyer. This book is available for free, www.theauthoritarians.com. this is a psychology professor at the University of Manitoba. Last week I learned (from another source) that 30% of the population has an IQ, below 90. And, that the military will not take a person with an IQ below 83. So, it struck me that there is a great possibility selling some people on complex ideas is going to be an up hill battle! We may need to learn a whole new set of skills for persuasion? I plan to back off, as the low IQ people, could possibly stay frozen in their position because they can't grasp the whole of an issue. I am going to see where this new revelation takes me. Note: IQ cannot be changed much, even though people can perform certain task.

Who are your athiest/agnostic heros?

Freedompath comments on Mar 8, 2018:

I have but a few, but at the top of my short list, is...Thomas Pain. He faught in the war with George Washington and in the French Revolution and nearly perished in prison and stood against all manner of resistance in the Congress. And, unto his dying day, he professed his non-belief.

Does anybody else hate the over use of the word super.

Freedompath comments on Mar 8, 2018:

...it sounds like 'canned expressions'...or even 'talking points'! Us, creative people, do love original thoughts, but maybe people are too tired to think...sometimes!?

I often wonder if life for most people is pleasant.

Freedompath comments on Mar 8, 2018:

I think that you would be very surprised, at the struggles most people have...a lot of the time! They do not happen very minute...so most people put on their 'public face,' when they go out into society. I have tried to not put onto society...my suffering! But, there have been times, when I was out and about and expressing my frustration and anger. I would say most people try to forget their troubles when they go out into society. They need that relief, in order to keep their sanity! I have had long periods of time, that things went smoothly. But, I simply don't know anybody, who have had a perfectly charmed life! I do know people, who could handle their frustration and calamities better than others. I myself have gotten better with handling my heartaches and physical/emotional pains. But, there are always challenges.

BIRMINGHAM, Ala.

Freedompath comments on Mar 8, 2018:

Guns, are just not treated as serious as they should be...they can be deadly accidentally! It is just sad that our country can't be serious about deadly toys.

Atheist that admire Churches and other religious architecture?

Freedompath comments on Mar 7, 2018:

I have always love the beautiful, churches...even the tiny ones, with their architectural charm! Maybe, this was created out of the idea to suduce people, into the church? And, maybe, they built special churches, as their gift back to God? There are some beautiful church buildings and I found it to be the most special, to be in them when there were no services!

If "the meaning of life is to make life meaningful," how are you making your life meaningful today?

Freedompath comments on Mar 7, 2018:

Keeping things 'close to the chest,' when I am not feeling all that strong and competent! And giving out more of myself, when I feel strong and focused. Always, keeping 'for the better good,' in my minds eye! Welcome to this group of 'heavy thinking' people (some on the lighter side, too)!

What is one truth you have learned that you wish you had never found out?

Freedompath comments on Mar 7, 2018:

Don't you mean, that love evolves into a different form? I have never found love to die, it changed from infatuation or lust...into the reality of responsibility! I learned that love was work! And, maybe it was a good thing that I did not have a full concept of what it was, early on, because I might have passed it by or avoided it! Because, love can cut us, like a knife! And, I do agree, that nothing is forever, everything is always changing...our bodies, nature and for sure relationships! So, go with the flow...really does have a deep meaning!

How do you get rid of mental exhaustion?

Freedompath comments on Mar 7, 2018:

In addition to rest, it is most helpful to get some kind of enjoyment into your life, especially laughter. Even a little goes a long way!

Duck Dynasty Dad: The Bible is Enough to “Stop Human Beings from Murdering” – Friendly Atheist

Freedompath comments on Mar 6, 2018:

I know better than this and have proof right out of my own family...the Bible or it's indoctrination did not stop murder!

Do zodiac signs (star signs) have a significant role in your life?

Freedompath comments on Mar 6, 2018:

I have always found the zodiac signs to be interesting concerning certain aspects of myself personality. But, I would just make a note of certain aspects and watch how they pan out.

Well, friends, I had a very scary experience the other day, and I wanted to share just in case ...

Freedompath comments on Mar 6, 2018:

Thanks, that is indeed concerning. But, a person could be caught off guard, before they had time to do something to protect themselves. Makes me want to stay away from my phone (as my computer is down). I want open things that I don't know.

Guns.

Freedompath comments on Mar 6, 2018:

I can remember back in my 20-30s, gun violence was rare and police shootings were even rarer (around the Atlanta area). So less guns brings a lot less problems. It want ever be perfect, regardless...but, it can sure be better! I think, for me personally, I feel afraid of a person, that 'loves' his guns...it reminds me of people who love their alcohol and drugs! I don't feel perfectly safe around those people, either! I know that if it comes down to it, they will choose their other 'love' over me! So we aren't just discussing a person with a high powered gun, that goes into a public place and shoots up a bunch of people! I have witnessed people who go 'off'...they are not in their right mind! And, other people can get hurt, even when there isn't a gun...but, a gun is deadly and final (most of the time). I don't wished to die from a gun shot!

Would you accept a job or position within a company that was built around religious beliefs?

Freedompath comments on Mar 6, 2018:

I know that I couldn't...I was envolved with a group of artist who were Religious and I had to leave, because I could not create a thing! In fact, I kept feeling ill!

I have to do this again, just because it is weighing on my mind after a conversation I had a bit ...

Freedompath comments on Mar 6, 2018:

I watched that Jefferies, skit a few days ago. Spot on! I see guns, the same way that you stated. I would never shoot someone, even to defend myself. It is not that I would rather die, I could not stand the sight of a person bleeding or suffering, if I shot them! And...I have been exposed to enough irrational people who, if they had a gun handy...could possibly shoot somebody! I do believe, that I would be able to sacrifice something that I considered dear to my heart, if it was for the common good! I would not want my fellow citizens to be 'on edge,' (trying to make a life in this world)...because, I possessed a dangerous something that could mame or kill them or a family member! I do care about my humankind!

There seems like a lot of wonder about meeting people.

Freedompath comments on Mar 6, 2018:

I think that you will need time, especially if you want to meet agnostic type people. They are the minority, the real minority! More and more people are showing up in my area, but I am moving. So there you go! When I get back to New Mexico, I hope to find some agnostics there. I have made some friends back in NM, but they are not agnostics, but neither are they real religious, compared to this area.

Silence In Court These are from a book called Disorder in the American Courts, and are things ...

Freedompath comments on Mar 6, 2018:

That was delightful...thanks!

Newt Gingirch is claiming that athiests pose a bigger threat to American than does ISIS.

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

...hypocrite in the distant past and now in the present...and that will be true as long as we must be subjected to his superiority attitude toward his fellowman!

Do you ever feel alone.

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

You may be feeling more vulnerable than usual. When I am not clearly connected to myself, I can feel that way. The only way that I have found to get a better understanding of my feelings, is first to name them and then challenge their truth. Are they reasonable, or have I allowed my feelings to run amuck? Even when they are reasonable, we must take some action to nurture us...people hurt...sometimes a hurt comes out of the past and gives us a run for our money. Be with the hurt, and look at it in a new light, because at one time we were hurt by whatever it was. It will loose it's hold on us, if we accept it and realize that we are stronger now and can let it go. We can love ourselves, no matter what has happened to us and we can respect ourselves, when we make amends for our own errors. You are not alone, with your challenge, you can plant your concerns here. Because, some of us have stood in your spot and do have some notion about how to move forward! I care that you are hurting...

Here for dating?

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

Maybe, you have the right idea about dating. You are giving yourself a chance to get past first impressions and I would have to agree, you must give of yourself into an unknown sitution and not loose yourself either! Best of luck to you...

I learned how to get along and love the woman that I love the best nowadays.

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

Sounds like you see each other as a person, that holds certain beliefs. Not requiring each other to think alike! I would like to hope that I do the same, with all people that I love! But, I may not be perfect at that, yet! I applaud you both and may you have a long life together!

Being there - that thing you do Life is tough.

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

Keeping your word and owning your feelings, and not dumping on others, when things go wrong for you.

Feeling the isolation.

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

I believe your post is pretty close to 'a truth!' We must accept our differentness and continue on, anyway! It is easy to get distressed over present conditions in our social order! Somedays, I feel like taking on a 'situation,' with my bare hands...then i remember I don't have god, qualities! The next week, I am taking myself, into my own hands and figuring out just what will give me a sense of purpose and what I can do that will add something toward the 'good'...and I realize that is within my reach. We seem to be alone...in the mist of a very crowded society!

I will try my best to keep this brief but I must vent.

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

It sounds like you are feeling very alone, just now. Since you can do very little about what most of your family and society believes...bring your focus back to your inner nature. Are you equalling up to your own expectations? If not, what do you need to do, that keeps you connected to your evolving 'self?' I do have some experience with gay people and you do have a specific challege! But, you have every right to be on this earth and the sooner you claim that on a psychic level, the better you will manage your own life! Some of my own children, are on the 'other side' (GOP, evangelicals). And, I have to tell you, it hurts...A LOT! But, even my own children, do not belong to me...they belong to life! I believe that I need to be kind, respectful and tolerate (and sometimes keep a distance, too), for their choices. So, I will work for my own better good and happiness...no matter what my family and society is doing! I have some influence in that area. On the death issue...it has been my experience, when you loose the fear of living, the fear of dying takes care of itself!

I'm trying to figure out my purpose.

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

I have stood where you are (except that I had 5 children), and it is indeed confusing and painful! You must stay strong with your teen...ofcourse, your teen is angry, their very security is threatened, to their way of thinking! Your child, needs whatever little support that you have in you right now ...reassure your child that the two of you will come out of this 'change'...stronger and smarter (I know this is hard to believe, at this moment). And, make sure that your child knows that this breakup, is not his/her fault! Their pain and your's as well, is the result of the loss of their security and that other person, in their (your) life! This knowledge, is what I was short on, back then and i regret it the most ( I have heard my grown-up children's side, now). You must take one day at a time. This is a grieving period, for what is being lost...your security, hopes and dreams and sense of purpose! Everything must be reavaluated to fit this different scenario! Just make a plan for each day and stick to you as that will give you some control in your life, no matter how bad you feel. You will get thru this and you will be stronger and smarter, because moving out of this situation, will make you smarter. You must figure out new ways of being and coping as the old ones want work here! Get an idea in your mind, of what you want your life to be like, as soon as you can make that happen...and keep that always in the back of your mind, no matter what is happening in real time. You are not alone...if you put your troubles out here, someone will answer... My best to you!

What is your own opinion about the Law of Attraction?

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

Well, I must confess that when I was part of the religious family and went to church, even sang in the choir and prayed...I cannot remember one prayer that was answered! And, I do remember, how I tried to put myself right (some mysterious something), and it never got me anywhere! In fact those were the saddest years of my life! Funny, how much better, my life has been since I am free and clear of all of it!!

I was told there is no more middle class in America now. Your opinion?

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

I think they are probably right statistically...but I also believe we should not get caught up in what pronouncements are made about living in this or any other country! We need food, water, shelter and some healthcare. Cloths can be obtained at thrift stores, if money is really tight. I feel lIke there are unknown forces, trying to squeeze us into a proverty mentality! One, where we are lacking in almost everything...and taking us hostage for Healthcare. I have this idea in my mind, from the media that in the not to distant future, people will be only able to afford healthcare and hardly anything else! I think we are being undermined. There is a way to live in this country, and by damned, we will find it!

I hear a lot of people on this site saying how lonely they are how they wish they could find ...

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

I was having some very sad feelings about all the lonely people myself! I wish I could just out stretch my wings and cover every lonely person that is on this site...and warm their heart and remind them of love, yet to be realized. I have been that lonely and I do remember how it hurts! But, I feel none of that now, myself! And, I am alone, as far as a partner goes. I think that I will make myself available, but i wonder if I can fit them in to my life. I do believe that I know what a relationship requires now! But, I wish that I had magical powers and could put all the lovely and lonely people together, to enjoy life!

Did you grow up with religion?

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

I lived out in the country and a bus came by my house on Sundays and picked my sister and me up and took us to Church. But, for some unknown reason to me even now...I felt out of place. I thought something was not quiet right! Ofcourse, I would have been shamed into next Sunday, had I ever shared my thinking, back then. It was not until my 30s that I really could take a stand for what was not right to my way of thinking. Over, the years my dissatisfaction grew and soon I felt like a whole person...without religion or a man made God!

Anybody here see the parallels between believing in and and obeying an all-powerful god, and ...

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

Somewhat, as some people are looking for a Savior! Someone, that will give them all the answers even when they haven't ask the questions. I don't see God, resembling a government, except they are higher authorities, but different! I see government, as created to keep society harmonious and fair and just. But, then certain people appointed to the government have not worked out their personal kinks, and so the society pays a price because of it. I never thought of God, as peace keeper, etc! But, then I have lost my religion!

Curious about y'alls opinions on the hive mind/collective consciousness theory.

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

I do believe in collective consciousness. But, I don't see it overriding our life. Just some kind of built in knowledge that humans share, that can be tapped into for good or bad.

To my beautiful girlfriend who I haven't met yet.

Freedompath comments on Mar 5, 2018:

I must say, I felt so sad reading your post. I was uncertain as to what exactly you were attempting to tell us. It seems that you have an ache in your heart for someone to be with, but at the same time, you were not sure that you would be excepted by the people that would come along with your love relationship? If I am right on this...this seems way beyond anyone's imagination? The love that is waiting for you could be an orphan, herself! It seems that you are inviting more sad possibilities into your life? My thinking on this matter, if I have understood it correctly...is that you need to work on your healing, now. Don't wait for some special person to come and save you...from what you must save yourself from. It sounds like you have a lot of losses that need to be grieved...so that you can move with strength and confidence toward your better good and into the arms of someone that loves you for the man that you are! You are not...all the things that you don't have...you are a man with unlimited possibilities, some may as yet to be realized! In other words you are a work in progress! Isn't that what we all are? Maybe you could be more specific, with what you want and need?

Question everything

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

I think that happiness is when you have found your 'real' inner person. Because, it changes how you see everything around you. You have the where-with-all to handle your affairs as well as most of the people around you. Life became a joy and not a job!

I just reached Level 8 !!! Only 150,000 points 'til the next level!! LOL

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

Now you either worked night and day or (cheated), or got preferencial treatment from somewhere? Now fess up? Hell! I am completely impressed!! I just don't even have that on my menu! ????to you!

I am really down about my new job.

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

I found in another of your responces a note on passed anxiety. So you have that in your makeup, to deal with. If you could get an understanding about your stressors, at least you could have a clearer understanding on whether to stay or go! If you are trying to be perfect, use that some other place, else. Give yourself a break, from your report, even your co-workers are challenged.

I am really down about my new job.

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

I think that somebody should have filled you in on what it is like to take a new job at your age! You are out of the 'detail age' and are now entering the age of the 'big picture!' Now, it will surely take you a bit longer to get the details under your belt than say 10 years ago! Just being in the learning curve, is going to create anixety, × 2 now, because you are in the 'big picture stage,'(of brain development) too! So relax, get your rest and take the pressure off and pace yourself! Even a genius couldn't come into a new job and take off like 'gang busters!' Put every thing on the back burner, for at least 6 months! Take all the help, offered to you. It is your stress level that is in question here...not your intelligence! Now, after you have taken this job on realistically for 6 months and it still feels 'disagreeable.' then you can leave. You gave it your best and things did not add up so as to keep you there. Best of luck...

I had a friend send me a message on Facebook asking me if I was an atheist and what made me this ...

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

Stay awake my friend!!! It is truely sad that we must feel the need to defend our way of being in the world! But, don't fret, before long you will not care, how/what others think about your beliefs...it will just creep up on you!

Being polite when confronted by the religious

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

I have to admit that I was rude and later on i was just plain angry when confronted by religious people (they are still here). But, once I came to terms with what I really believed and it became my whole nature...they hardly bother me now! I really don't care what other people believe now. Their words just travel on dead air...as far as i am concerned! But, if I see harm being done, I will step up.

Have you ever gotten a kick out of an enemy’s misfortune?

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

I am surely an imperfect person, however I have never gotten even a good feeling from my enemies misfortunes. I can hardly laugh at misfortunes, that are also funny! I am torn! When I attended my children's football, basketball or any other sport...I was always proud when a kid on the opposite team, made a great play! I am the least competitive person that I know.

Please indulge me in one more question about Karma

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

I am not sure I agree with that definition of Karma. I see it more as a different energy field. Using the conscious or unconscious beliefs of a person...if they send bad thoughts toward other people or they cheat and steal and are dishonest...they will likewise, get back the same in return, even disguised in other forms, of cheating, stealing and dishonesty! Can be any other, harmful traits, too! Because, their own consciousness draws back to themselves, what they believe in. It could come immediately or later on...from the original event that was 'sent out'. I don't see it as a 'willing' of anything...although it could be deliberate actions. But, it can be traced back, if one is willing to examine themselves that deelpy!

Do you feel as lonely as I do?

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

You are not going to die alone, unless you want it that way!! I looked at your profile and you are young and handsome...there is a good start! I cannot stress enough how important having friends are in this life, is. Not just because you are lonely, but because you will never know your whole self, without your reflection back to you from your friends. Now that can be both fun and hard. So find some friends that you have something in common with, too! Join a group that does something that you really enjoy, and that you feel is worth while! And, believe that you will be connected to a gal, that will be just right for you and for her as well! Best of luck!!!

Who is good enough ( my Sunday morning rant)

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

I sure like the way you think! I myself, would not date a pot smoker, unless you had some debilitating illness that it helped. But, I even stopped alcohol because, I only have one brain and it has to last me this lifetime! But, I do agree with you about exploring possibilities in this life. Sooner or later you will find what will fit who you are. And that usually works for everyone! I would leave myself free to explore, too!

One thing I am not, is a human on probation.

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

Well...you are investing in the afterlife...ashes to ashes! Nature has been moving toward eternity, since creation began!

Would You keep dating someone who felt it was necessary to keep you a secret from their kids?

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

Maybe, it means that she wants to be sure of any person she exposes her children to? If it is just a dating situation, it seems that she would be up front about the men she dates and introduce them to her children. If it is on going maybe, she is afraid her children will get attached and then the relationship will fall apart and her children will be hurt, by the loss of someone they may have had no problem with and we're fond of This would certainly be bad for children if many men, came into their life and then went away! This is a very hard situation to call.

Funeral For a Friend: (A gimps into the mind of a Christian preacher ?

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

The preacher's rant was cruel and inhumane! Hopefully, the off-set tribute helped to balance out that sick preacher! The widow may have come away with ptsd and what about the unborn child's wellbeing? This is simply beyond ignorance! I can only hope that someone at that service, spoke to the widow and assured her, that she was not being 'tested' for anything. And, that the minster was way out of line...mostly on the insanity side!

Newbie to the community writing poetry hoping someone will notice me. Hey hey hey.

Freedompath comments on Mar 4, 2018:

Welcome and I hope you find some interesting people and interesting topics, that will fire up your imagination.

Why is it so important to break someone else's faith?

Freedompath comments on Mar 3, 2018:

That does not sound like something I am interested in doing! My daughter is so deep into her religion and conspiracy theories and it hurts me, deeply! However, I will not try and break her stance on her faith or anything else! I cannot do much now, but be available should she need me...even as my heart breaks!

What does it mean when someone says 'I don't want a commitment'?

Freedompath comments on Mar 3, 2018:

It surely means they don't want to be in a relationship and if that is not what the other party has in mind...then they should not waste time, with this person! I wonder what happened to being friends with somebody. Friendships are so important toward our development as a human being. Maybe, we don't fully understand that until we are old?

Update on my health My boss is helping me out financially so that is good he is stepping up to the...

Freedompath comments on Mar 3, 2018:

Can't hurt to educate yourself on everything concerning your condition. You never know where it will come in handy! Best of luck and keep the faith...

Can I just stay at this amount of points? 666

Freedompath comments on Mar 3, 2018:

No, you need 6666, next! Keep it up and good luck.

Hello, this is my first post! I signed up a couple of days ago, still looking around to see what's ...

Freedompath comments on Mar 3, 2018:

Great introspection...I am the person that is always saying that, 'ever so often we must reinvent ourselves!' Sometimes, it is because of relationship breakup, sometimes, job loss, sometimes, a death and sometimes, an illness! These new developing ways are sometimes difficult and sometimes fun and if you play your cards, just right...always enlightening! So welcome and best of luck, in all that you may be doing.

If someone truly wants to be with you, will they say they need space or time to think about it?

Freedompath comments on Mar 3, 2018:

I have never had that experience, and I simply can't get my mind around why, a person needs a break from their relationship? A person should be making some 'me time' all along the way in his/her life. It gives a person time to be with themselves, to see who they are or what they want to be. I think by the time a person wants to take 'leave' from a relationship...he/she is trying to leave without hurting or maybe trying to let the other person down gently...but planting a little hope so it want hurt so bad. That truely makes no sense! It is just all hurtful in my book!

What is the best way to explore human nature: psychology, philosophy, or biology?

Freedompath comments on Mar 2, 2018:

First I would suguest that you study everything that comes into your life. Evaluate things, see how they work or not work. Read books lots of them, or use the Internet if you prefer, on all the subjects that you are interested in. And take classes or attend lectures...I loved lectures, best of all! And, you could always go back to school and study the subjects that interest you.

Would you rather be poor and work at a job you love or be rich and work at a job you hate? Why?

Freedompath comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Poor and work at a job I love!! Poor is only a state of mind, if you are creative with your 'little' money.

Advice for long work days?

Freedompath comments on Mar 2, 2018:

My only thought is...learn to pace yourself. Getting 'the thing' done is what is required, not going at a pace that you get so 'caught up' in it, that you have difficulty relaxing...even when you need to relax! The research says to try and maintain a schedule. Keeping your circadian rythem regular, is to your benifit. Find as much as possible to appreciate, about what you are doing. That should help to keep you from burning out. Best of luck.

Another Death with Dignity State

Freedompath comments on Mar 2, 2018:

At least that news...takes the pressure off for any person, who might feel like he is stuck in hell, because of a particular medical condition. They have more choices now.

My 12-yo daughter revealed to me yesterday that she’s gay. Should I...

Freedompath comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Every 12 year old needs to be supported by their parents. She is the same daughter that she has always been. If it happened to be something that she has misinterpreted, that will work it's way out, too! A close friend told me that he knew very early that he was gay and even his childhood friends told him later in life, that they knew he was gay, too! He was accepted and never experienced shunning as some gay children, have had to experience. If this news is a bit of a shock, It should be ok, for everyone to make an adjustment, too.

Read a great quote today: " In a world where everyone wears a mask, it is a privilege to see a ...

Freedompath comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Yes, and so true!

Im now level 6! All hugs are welcome!

Freedompath comments on Mar 2, 2018:

I am sending one your way...you deserve it!!

Does anyone think being somewhat cynical is bad?

Freedompath comments on Mar 2, 2018:

I think it will not serve you well in the long run. Being completely aware of your surroundings and the behaviors of others is one thing...but, cynical is like 'having little trust' in life! That simply does not make good sense. We face OUR experience, head on and if it is out of kilter, we make adjustments! Why be cynical about that?

Would you consider dating a boss or is it a bad idea?

Freedompath comments on Mar 2, 2018:

I think it is a bad idea. There is too much at stake. Now, maybe if you have been working for this person for a number of years and they are close to your age, then I might give it a "heads up!' To begin with, there is an imbalance of power, here. That matters, when we are establishing a relationship. To my way of thinking, a love relationship, should have balance of power, to be working well. A relationship with a boss, creates problems, if you are having a 'spat,' or possibly something goes wrong at the work place or conflicting feelings between other employees with the boss, if he/she shows preferential treatment, because of a relationship. And, the 'biggie' reason not to have a relationship, is if something happens that breaks up the relationship, you may need to be away from this person, so that you can move on...which would leave you to find a new job at a very bad time! Why set yourself up for such stress?

I'm sitting here mentally preparing myself to go to my martial arts class while in the process of ...

Freedompath comments on Mar 1, 2018:

You did not tell us why you have this disability. I have in the past been disabled, once at age 49, when I hydraplaned on wet pavement and hit a concrete driveway culvert, head on. I ruptured discs in my neck and lower back. Plus, I did not get the proper PT, after the accident and I refused to get surgery. It took way over a year to recover past that pain. Then, I had arthritis set in and for the next 15 years I was not without pain. Off and on I got some relief from PT and also, when i worked out at fitness center to build all my body muscles. I did get complete relief after I had lower back surgery, last year. It is like a miracle. But, I am an exception, not the rule and I can't say exactly why I am completely pain free now. But, what I can say, looking back...I was struggling with so many different things in my life! I was divorced, had no meaningfull work and could barely support myself. I had a few friends, but no support from my family. And, worst of all, I was in the throes of finding out who/what I really was. Because, I was not grounded in any kind reality of who I was. I was just 'acting' a part that I made up as I went along. I believe, I would have helped myself more...had I concentrated all my efforts on developing my 'inner personal self,'...my body would have been 'happier!' No one size fits all...but, know yourself, honor the needs of your body! One must not go blindly, if something does not agree with your core value, then skip that...whatever, you do, it should add to your overall strength and wellbeing, not deplete it.

Gravestones and Epitaphs

Freedompath comments on Mar 1, 2018:

I have lost interest in an 'epitaph,' on a tombstone. I just want the people who knew me in this life...to be able to say that, 'she made the world a better place, because she was in it!'

Something that happened the other day as I am leaving the grocery store I have to share.

Freedompath comments on Mar 1, 2018:

To me that is clear mental disorder...I don't know what could have been done in that case! Who to call? Do like. Aldi's though!

Working on my sanity

Freedompath comments on Mar 1, 2018:

I would like to say to you (if you are old enough), 'don't feel like the 'Long Ranger?' Most of us are working on our sanity...even into old age (at least if you know what's good for you).

One of the scariest situations I find myself in are relationships, and over the last couple of weeks...

Freedompath comments on Mar 1, 2018:

I am a bit confused? This relationship that you are describing...are you in it or not in it? What I have detected over many years about sarcasm is...that it is masking a real 'put down' of some kind. Maybe, to keep people at a distance. I have even noted 'that'...even in my self! It prevents intimacy, if that is what you desire? Ask your self, what is the worse they can happen? The person before you, says...I don't like you, I don't want to date you, I don't want to be with you? You might even end up doing the same thing in certain circumstances! What does it really matter, what the reason is, behind it? We don't have unlimited time, so spending time with anyone that we don't enjoy, is wasting time. And, it can't just work for one person...it needs to work for both people...or the relationship will be lopped-sided! Don't evaluate yourself, by weather a relationship works...we need to evaluate our selves on our actions of caring, patience, and honesty. Not on weather people like us...as we will never please everyone, no matter how hard we try!

As some of you may recall from a post I wrote a few weeks back, I have been dealing with the grief ...

Freedompath comments on Feb 28, 2018:

As a mother of 5 children, I can't imagine giving any one of them the responsibility for a sister or brother or father (tho we are not together). I feel very strongly about that. I am fairly certain they would step up if at all possible, if their sibling was in dire straights. But, to your grief...it will lesson with time. My mother has been gone more than 7 years and sometimes I yearn for just one more conversation with her. Ever so often, i will note something of a supporting nature in my self and i remember i may have gotten that from her! It may very well be true, that some of us are going to carry a sad 'spot' for the rest of our life? That is just the way we are put together. It looks like we need to learn to live with some hurt. Not cultivate it...but let it be part of us in a good way. I realize the value of all life...mine included!

Is it better to settle for a good relationship or wait for the best, even if it might never happen?

Freedompath comments on Feb 28, 2018:

You are selling yourself out, settling for anything! When you choose, do it on purpose and go from there. Look for all the wonderful and not so wonderful things in that person (or thing). And before long you will only choose what suits your nature. Everybody wins then.

Today I have heard the word "amazing" used at least ten times about the most mundane things such as ...

Freedompath comments on Feb 28, 2018:

This has irritated me for so long. In fact, there are other remarks that escape me at the moment, that people will sometimes use to elevate the mundane!

Billy Graham didn’t speak for me

Freedompath comments on Feb 28, 2018:

...same here, snake oil salesman!

I am having a time wishing for my old life back.

Freedompath comments on Feb 28, 2018:

That takes time, if you don't map out some specific things that will help you create a new life...it will take a lot longer!! That is the one thing that I wished that I had...even half-way understood, after I got divorced! But, it took me 5 more years before i could throw in the towel! Five lost years! I have made a note over the years and very few people can go back (even to the place they grew up) and make it work again! Keep your focus on your future and what you want that to be...yesterday is gone and everything with it! I am so sorry for your hurt and struggle...Best of luck.

Greetings other agnostics, humanists, skeptics, and “heretics” of all flavors - I’m new here, ...

Freedompath comments on Feb 28, 2018:

Welcome and I hope you find some things here that is worth your while! Put your 2 cents worth in! As that is what the most of us do (some may put in a BIG dollar amt).

Is Billy Graham being on display at the Capitol Rotunda a separation of church and state issue?

Freedompath comments on Feb 28, 2018:

He represents the current Political Religious mindset!! It makes me mad and sad all at once! The present administration is determined to try and force religion onto the AMERICAN people, just like a lot of other things they are attempting to force upon us. I want be there and i want applaud Graham, at all!

Anxiety

Freedompath comments on Feb 28, 2018:

Well...what I can say for sure is, if you try and avoid these feelings, you will surely cripple yourself further! First of all, you may be anxious about something specific so ask yourself what that is? Then challenge your assumptions...are they realistic? Or, are you trying to hard so as not to make a mistake? No one must be perfect and trying to do so is unrealistic! Next, make sure you are getting enough natural sunlight! Be out in nature all that you can. I myself, noticed that lately I am showing more anxiety. And we have had more cloudy days. I am in the mist of a major move and sorting out all this stuff, is causing all kinds of things to come up! What to keep, what to toss and watch out to not toss...things i will need later? And, what about throwing out things attached to my heart strings? In other words, don't screw up! I just ran an errand and it's raining and dark here at noon time and when i picked up my (heavy) purse, it ticked me off! As I walked down the Isle of a store, I felt anxious! I feel fine back here in my own space, so that tells me that I must slow down and be patient with my self. I am not up to par! I will step up my excerise as that will help, too! Best of luck and I would look your anxiety square in the 'face' and remind 'it'...that you have it's back!

How is revenge best served...?

Freedompath comments on Feb 27, 2018:

I believe that recovering our happiness in spite of anything that may befall us... is (sweet) revenge. And, I think that is a tall order, because it is often hard to pick our selves up and recover and sort out some really bad thing that has happened to us. But, if we don't...it remains like some kind of 'infection!' Separating us from our joy of simply being alive.

Im drunk and I lost my job Friday. Good thing I have 3 interviews this week.

Freedompath comments on Feb 27, 2018:

Best of luck in your new work, whatever that is! Like I have said many times...ever so often you must reinvent yourself. I guess it's your turn...

Ever had to just pack up and go, leaving everything behind, especially late in life?

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

No...but I have surely wanted to!!! I did... once pack some things and ran away, from my husband and 5 little children! But, in about a week, I realized that was not an option and went home! I am not so sure it is all that bad to leave all behind (if you are not leaving small children). Things are not worth much and some people are so toxic...that you will add years to your life by leaving them. And, then on the other hand maybe you don't know who you are? First, you would need to grieve all your losses...that might take a while! Heck, I am confronted by my children, for leaving them, here in old age! They are not taking it lightly! But, I want a life...a life that I choose (don't know why all the other parts of my life seems chosen by others). If you can make amends... if people are hurt by your actions, do so...then live your life! It is good to remember, that when one, leaves...we must give up the good and the bad! That is price you pay, if you must go!

I read a post on social media today about how the poster was putting all of their burdens on the ...

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

That is what I have heard most of my life and I am 78 years old! Here in the Bible Belt, it has been handed down from generation to generation! These, people want a 'savior' they believe in that. Apparently, they can't even see when they are being lead into the 'firey' pit, itself! It must be an honor to go down with your leader! They don't have original thoughts, if they ever do...they must surpress them!

If you could pick any historical period to live in,what would it be?

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

Funny, that you present such a question. I consider myself an innovated and hopeful person but since the 'current history' has revealed itself, I truely believe I cannot trust any period back in time! How that happened I cannot say...

What do you do about an ex who's being a bad parent?

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

My guess is, this is very painful for you. I was a divorced parent from an alcoholic husband. And, it wasn't good...no matter which a way that you look at his parenting. Hopefully, you have yourself together. much better than I had when my children were preteens. That goes a long way. First, children are more resilient than you know and if you can bring some clarity to her upbringing...it will cancel out a lot of the crazy stuff, from your ex's end. Never, underestimate the 'smarts' of a child. Ofcourse, we want to give our children all the things that we think, will help them in their grown up, life. Concentrate, on what you can give your daughter. Be sure, that you listen to all she has to say...as you can empower her to handle her situation. She will need that everywhere, she goes as you will not always be there! Her mother will be her mother for as long as they live, so search out the best and promote that. Help your daughter to have the best memories of her childhood that you possibly can. (When my children bring up their hurt and sad momeries, I see how they live on.they are 50-60yr old people) Try not to worry about what you cannot give your daughter! Any person, that has a good foundation of love, understanding and (mostly) security, will be able to make a good life for themselves...as adults. Help whereever you can, with your ex, and realize that whatever is wrong at her end...is not your fault and it could even level out, over time. For sure pointing out, all that she is doing wrong...will help no one! Just do what is best as a father. And, that will be enough. Best of luck...

So a while back I saw an article that talked about how older folks can make/save money and one was ...

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

I had to chuckle as I read your peace! I cound not qualify either! Life seems to have less value, if you aren't 'consuming!' What will the next 25 years be like?

I was active here a few months ago, then guess I got timed out.

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

Maybe, your heart is a song? I loved that 'yard' work, as well! In my condo here, I had a 20x50 ft yard and it never measured up! But, I will have a 5 acre desert, if I can get all this moving wrapped up!

I cannot call myself a theist, atheist or agnostic.

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

Reading your piece was giving me an 'out of body,' experience! I was trying to get my mind around what 'the big bang,' would be like and what was IT before the 'big bang?' And what about other Universes? We have no information on where the 'end' is? I Wonder if the answer will ever come? God...that word seems too...simplified, for the Universe-es!

Trolls just want to have fun - ScienceDirect

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

That sure seems true to me because these people have always been with us. These certain personalities always created trouble on a smaller scale...behind your back. They are cowards!

There is no such thing as 'normal'.

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

I don't care about normal at all...what I do care about is respectful behavior! I am not like others and they are not like me! But, I do hope with my whole heart that I regard them with the dignity that everyone deserves! If I should be mistreated, I will address that directly!!

Moving--embracing the chaos. Does anyone have tips on making moving less stressful?

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

I wish that I did...I would use it myself!!! I, too am moving. Thank heavens I have another month to get it done! I just keep moving...myself and stuff! It looks as if our stuff, multiplis as you start packing and sorting it! Just suck it up and keep going...

This happened just the other day.

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

This is most distressing...thank heavens, the gals were able to distract the robber and get to safety. But, this illustrates to me, how even a good guy with a gun is not always an equalizer. The mother, froze and did not go help her daughter, who was attempting to wrestle the gun out of the hands of the robber. The mother did not wound the robber enough to disable him. I am personally, sick of guns...next we will want to arm the youngest child to kill, because he will need to protect himself from the dangers of HIS society! That is where we are headed...straight into insanity!

There have been several mentions of the "political compass" in politics discussion recently.

Freedompath comments on Feb 26, 2018:

Thanks for sharing that chart...I came up Libertarian and fairly left. I was surprised. I don't see myself as belonging to any side, really. I could possibly discover new information tomorrow, that that could change my mind.

Does this country often disgust you?

Freedompath comments on Feb 25, 2018:

A great deal of the time.

Two things a person can say that will make me lose respect for them: “Let’s agree to ...

Freedompath comments on Feb 25, 2018:

That is a very hard one to swallow...a lot of people must be so fearful because they don't know how to handle facts...that changes the nature of the discussion. They have come to a conclusion and in order to change their mind, they would need toTHINK deeply and this is something that throws them off. Maybe, they really can't help it?

This week I tried to motivate a coworker.

Freedompath comments on Feb 25, 2018:

Maybe you explained it adequately. You may not have seen a 'light bulb' go off in the eyes of your co-worker. You may have gotten push back on your ideas. Ideas most offen, needs to percolate, need testing...not inserted in our brain, as in a computer. And...there is the possibility, your co-worker will come to a completely different truth in the end, anyway. Your/my job is to live and speak the truth as we know it. I am speaking a different truth than I did 20 years ago. Isn't that the nature of truth? Let it evolve...

Hey all.

Freedompath comments on Feb 25, 2018:

Welcome back...probably lots of new people with probably old and new ideas! The old timers, will have the same. So good luck...

A church I used to attend is talking about a "miracle": Several youth from the church survived, and ...

Freedompath comments on Feb 25, 2018:

I have no problem believing in a miracles. I may have made up my own illusion on the matter. If anything changes course in the middle of something that could be a miracle. If a person who's heart was bitter and hard and for some unknown reason he almost changed over night...that is a miracle in my eyes. I cannot remember specifics, but I know that I have heard of storms that came thru and spared houses in very close proximity to ones that were destroyed...that is a miracle to me! Once I was driving in a dark area and I was distracted with a young mother i was taking to get food that i had found panhandling. I made a left turn into a short cut off, that would put me onto the left road. And I did not see a car that was coming from the right, because of my passanger. If I had pulled out even 5ft we would have been hit on the passanger side! It was the closest call, that I have ever had...that was a miracle to me. Of course there are explanations for all these things! But, they are miraculous to me. The randomness of the Universe! Even that seems like a miracle to me.

This one is for all the pro-life people on here.

Freedompath comments on Feb 25, 2018:

You are so right about all, that you report in your narrative. Actually, it seemed depressing to read! Ofcourse, this from a view at the advanced end, after the children are all grown up. This may be the reason that youth don't come with wisdom, first! There would be very few people, if they knew the full story!

I still miss Carl Sagan immensely after all these years.

Freedompath comments on Feb 25, 2018:

Carlin...is timeless really! I can't about Sagan as I wasn't that much exposed to his work.

My mom has cancer.

Freedompath comments on Feb 24, 2018:

I am so sorry to hear your mom is faced with cancer. My words would be...mom, you are faced with a medical issue that needs your attention. Use your treatments...combined the love and support from people who love you...toward your healing. You are the same person, that you have always been and you will come out on the other side of this illness...just a stronger and bigger person. Feel your fear and go forward anyway...

Achieving level 6 reminds me of turning 13, 18, and 21 years old.

Freedompath comments on Feb 24, 2018:

And not only that...you crank up for the next level, with the same milestone illusion...