10
10 Like Show
32
32 Like Show
15
15 Like Show
17
17 Like Show
View more

To paraphrase another crooked president, let me make something perfectly clear: If you are a Trump supporter, do not both sending a PM to me.

I lived on the north coast of California for 40 years. In those four decades, I rarely lived out of hearing range of the ocean. I could not see it, but I could hear it. On calm days, it was a subtle undertone; if you have ever held a seashell to your ear, you know what I mean. On days of extreme wind, it was a booming roar, assertive and powerful. Sometimes, the wind was not even local, but it still pushed waves from far out at sea, huge waves, big enough to lift tree trunks and throw them to the beach.

Full Bio

Comments

"what if you're wrong" argument response
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Dec 5, 2018:
Addendum: When I ask, "But what if I am right?" and the person counters with, "But what if I am right?" I then say, "But what if you are wrong?" Finally, he/she gets tired of it and moves on.
LOVE? The Ancient Greeks saw LOVE as a form of divine madness, a gift bestowed by Aphrodite. ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Dec 5, 2018:
The Greeks would have called love a form of divine madness because they valued logic. When a person is in love/infatuation, logic is often abandoned.
"what if you're wrong" argument response
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Dec 5, 2018:
My reply is, "And what if I am right?"
My girlfriend dosent understand electricity she just complained that she spent £99 for an idiot to ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Dec 5, 2018:
Are men so illogical that they think all women are the same? And did you provide evidence/proof of your diagnosis? Did you find the chewed wires? By the way, it is "doesn't" and "biting." Learn how to use quotation marks and correct punctuation. Do men not know how to write a grammatically correct sentence?
Hating a God that doesn't exist.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Dec 5, 2018:
Liver--doesn't matter how it's cooked, it is horrible.
If you think a thesaurus is a prehistoric lizard, you might not be smarter than a 5th grader
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Dec 5, 2018:
Your point?
For the people who think I flirt too much, or "lay it on too thick", or frankly am being a smarmy ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Dec 4, 2018:
Of course "I" can argue with your opinions, but it will do no good. An opinion is just an opinion and unless they are based on fact and empirical evidence, arguing is useless. Someone can say, "It is my opinion that pink unicorns live on the moon" and arguing against that will do no good. However, if someone says, "It is a fact that pink unicorns live on the moon," I can ask for proof from reputable, credible sources (and the burden of proof falls on the person making the claim). So, what was your point?
I look like Jeff Daniels from dumb and dumber
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Dec 4, 2018:
Thanks for sharing that. I had been wondering if anyone looked like him.
So, she says, "I love you. . . . Just saying." How could she not?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Dec 4, 2018:
She could easily NOT say it.
There was a question about women and why we pay more attention to them in an accident or at war as ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 30, 2018:
I would venture to say that women get mentioned more in accidents/wars because it goes back to the idea of women and children first. This was not true chivalry as it might sound, but because women and children were/are the future. The more women who survived in times of danger meant more of a chance to repopulate. One woman and five men would not be productive: five women and one man means five times the children. The idea that women must be protected is still prevalent--or at least white, privileged women need to be protected. Years ago, when a Muslim woman strapped a bomb to herself and blew up herself and other people, I asked my college students if it were worse when a woman committed such an act than if it were a man doing it. They unanimously said, "Yes." I am not sure what the answer would be today.
My natural sleep cycle doesn't seem to conveniently fit into a 24-hour day. If I go to bed when I'm...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 30, 2018:
I used to be a night owl and loved staying up late. My mother said I was born that way. Getting up for school was a nightmare and in college, I did not take a morning class unless I had to. I was married young and did not work outside the home. However, when I had children, I had to adjust my sleeping hours to get them to school--parental responsibility and all that. Ironically, I work online now and I can stay up all night and sleep all day, but my body/mind have now aligned with daytime. I have no alarm but usually wake up between 7-7:30 AM. Go figure.
Heres a little riddle. Your friend bangs on your front door one morning at 7am. and wakes you ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 30, 2018:
I don't have any friends who would knock at my door at 7 AM.
FOR MANY PEOPLE, SELF-DETERMINATION, PERSISTENCE, AND PATIENCE LEAD TO SUCCESS Many of us don't ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 30, 2018:
Those things do not lead to success for all people--perhaps, not even most people. There are many factors involved, including intelligence. In fact, I even made video about this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dD2fHU7-OWE
Why do we pretend that equality exists for women or people of color when the power is owned by 79% ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 30, 2018:
A man on a dating site sent me an email today saying that people were not "equal." I agreed with him on several levels saying that we are not born with the same level of intelligence and other factors BUT ostensibly we are equal under the law (which is cultural lip service as, of course, as we are not). He was an avid Trumpass supporter and said that feminists--and, I assume, people of color--have made men align with a strong man like Trump. He also said that he was "glad" (his word) to hear several women question whether women should be allowed to vote. Equal? Not as long as men like this are in charge of the government.
Some "ugly" people make excellent mates; sometimes it's because they have to try harder to get a ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 30, 2018:
Demeaning. And if "ugly" people marry other "ugly" people, they don't have to work harder at all. This also assumes that good-looking people do not have to work at relationships. Right.
What's your favorite brand of watch?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 30, 2018:
Do people still wear watches?
It's so nice to find a space where I don't have to feel trepidation when somebody replies to my ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 29, 2018:
Wooo boy, you obviously have not encountered some of the people on this site whom I have encountered if you think that.
Have you ever sat at a red light for so long you begin to feel like you know the people sitting in ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 29, 2018:
No.
::::::::::facepalm::::::: Just when I think Trump can't be any more stupid.... ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 29, 2018:
I do not think that there is a floor to his stupidity. I would say "no ceiling," but he consistently sinks down.
Arizona Man Accidentally Shoots Himself in Groin in Walmart
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 29, 2018:
Trying not to laugh and losing the battle.
I think the peace symbol is offensive. It’s not inclusive enough. I mean does it even acknowledge ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 28, 2018:
What the hell are you talking about? Is this sarcasm?
Free tuition at 2 year college should be everybody. How would research support this as an advantage...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 28, 2018:
One more thing . . . the assumption that an AA, BA, MA, or PhD guarantees a job on graduating is a thing of the past.
Any ideas about how to overcome fear in public speaking? Are there any people that improved this ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 28, 2018:
Remember that many, if not most, of the people in the audience fear public speaking and empathize with you--of course, some audiences can be brutal, so consider the venue. If you make a mistake or misspeak, instead of trying to ignore it, bring to the audience's attention and laugh about it. If there is no mic, adjust your voice to speak to the back row and everyone will be able to hear you. As hard as it might be, do not stare at the podium. Look up and make eye contact. Making eye contact will establish rapport with the audience. Walk across the stage or in the space where you stand--do not stand in one spot. The old adage about imagining the audience naked never worked for me--eww, just ewww. It is all about projection. When I was in community college, my speech instructor said that I had one of the most powerful deliveries he had heard. He also said the if I ever let go of the podium during a speech, that I would fall over. I got over the last part.
What If the Earth Does Not Exist? - YouTube
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 28, 2018:
Can someone recap this for me so I do not have to spend 22 minutes of my life watching it only to determine it is BS?
Makes me laugh everytime! Pastor Jim Bakker helps you stay alive during the apocalypse. ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 28, 2018:
One more thing--shouldn't they be yelling "bastard" instead of "basta"?
Free tuition at 2 year college should be everybody. How would research support this as an advantage...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 27, 2018:
I have been teaching at a community college for 16 years; I would be on board for this with caveats. One is that unlike high schools, students have to maintain at least a C average to stay in school. Not everyone is college material and community college are about more than earning a technical degree: students must take composition and math classes to graduate. I think that have more strictly technical schools would benefit many students. Every term, I have students who fail because: 1. They have been passed along without earning their grades. Then, they run into me who requires them to meet basic standards. 2. They will not or cannot meet those basic standards, but it has been drilled into them that a college degree with get them a job. It won't. 3. They are there for the loans and when they fail enough classes and get booted, they will default.
Makes me laugh everytime! Pastor Jim Bakker helps you stay alive during the apocalypse. ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 27, 2018:
Back when I had a TV, over ten years ago, I channel surfed into Jim's show out of Branson wherein he said there were ivory tusks in Alaska because a meteorite hit the edge of a tectonic plate, making it tilt. This caused all of the elephants in North America to slide into Alaska where they immediately froze. The Eskimos then carved the tusks of the frozen elephants. I kid you not--I couldn't make up this story.
Do you believe in "soul mates/true love/the one?"
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 26, 2018:
The divorce rate indicates that soul mates do not exist. Humans tend to have several loves in their lives.
Every Cracker Barrel is really the same one. When you pass through the double doors, you are ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 26, 2018:
Is that why it has a history of racist behavior? https://rollingout.com/2018/04/24/racism-at-cracker-barrel-black-veteran-kicked-out-by-manager/
Anyone want to date me
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 26, 2018:
No, but thanks for asking.
Finish something.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 24, 2018:
Um, I just finished knitting a hat and scarf for a sock monkey. Does that count?
Talks like and idiot: “I hollered, ‘My name is John, I love you and Jesus loves you,’ ” ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 24, 2018:
Arrogance--sheer and utter arrogance.
Liberals Are from Mars, Conservatives Are from Venus - Scientific American
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 21, 2018:
Actually, I am from the moon.
Beware of unintended consequences.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 20, 2018:
The butterfly effect.
My family goes through so many napkins! Does anybody have a recommendation for high quality cloth ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 20, 2018:
Buy some muslin and make your own.
Meat suits on bone. How much are we defined by our physical presence?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 20, 2018:
Do you mean self-defined or defined by others? Or biologically?
Have you noticed this common logical fallacy?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 20, 2018:
People use this logical fallacy to justify their actions. I hear it fairly often. A related LF is "Everybody's doing it, so it's ok."
Wal-Mart does something - Walmart Drops Mississippi GOP Senator After Joking About Public Hangings ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 20, 2018:
Be still, my heart.
Vegans Are Traumatised and Need Help, Says Vegan Psychologist - VICE
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 20, 2018:
I was a vegan for three months and a vegetarian for three years--both for humanitarian and health reasons. I finally resumed eating fowl and fish, but I still do not eat cows or pigs. However, I also remember my mother wringing the necks of chickens in order to put food on the table. We lived in backwoods Oklahoma and were dirt poor. While I know that wringing the necks of chickens is cruel, when push comes to shove, people do what they need to do to stay alive, including eating other people. Heck, I eat meat and am a misanthrope.
Are there any Christian Atheists out there?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 19, 2018:
It is not amazing that so many people jumped straight to being mean, rude, and insulting to the OP without considering what he might have meant. I have heard this term before but apparently, some of the posters here are not well read: "Christian atheism is a philosophical stance in which beliefs in conventional Christian notions of God are absent, strongly doubted or rejected, but the moral teachings of Jesus are followed." https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Christian_atheism Does it make you mean people happy to be mean or does it just make you feel superior?
Do you proofread your posts and comments?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 19, 2018:
Always. Sometimes, though, I do not catch errors until I see the post a couple of days later. Proofing our own words is much more difficult than proofing the writing of others (says the English teacher).
This is NOT intended to offend.... oh never mind, I don't want to hear the backlash....
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 19, 2018:
Good choice--the Peanut Gallery would have ripped your argument to shreds.
I’m seeing a lot of women with purple hair on here and in “real life”. Is this part of a ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 19, 2018:
I think that is it amusing that women--and men--dye their hair in all colors in order to be different and yet, assume a new kind of uniformity.
Even if all humans turned into peaceful, rational humanists like Steven Pinker or Hans Rosling, our ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 18, 2018:
Science and technology caused no mess: the people who use science and technology made messes.
Would like your opinion on this...there's a nurse I work with who basically hit on me at work. He's ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 18, 2018:
Regardless of the "minor" issues of what he says, the comments create an uncomfortable work situation. You have the option of reporting him to a superior. As others have said, you could tell him that you are not interested in married men--to which he might say that he was being friendly and was not hitting on you. You could also tell him that you appreciate his "friendliness," but the type of attention makes you uncomfortable. On the other hand, I have had married men who hit on me, blatantly and overtly hit on me, and I told them I was not interested in married men. At least two later divorced their wives and hit on me again, explaining that they were now "single" and there was no problem. Yeah, right: I should have said, "You are ugly and gross and even if you were not married, I would still have no interest in you." However, I did not work with these men.
Sneezing and 'bless you'?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 18, 2018:
I say, "thank you." I have bigger issues to confront and be concerned about than a "bless you." It is an automatic response with little to no thought behind it.
Just a thought about memory. On of the things I hate most is going into another room, and ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 17, 2018:
It's called the "doorway effect" and is quite common! https://www.bustle.com/articles/147188-what-is-the-doorway-effect-heres-why-you-can-never-remember-what-you-meant-to-do
Today Trump is tweeting all his best and kindest lording nationalist is sympathy for California. ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 13, 2018:
Nothing can redeem the man. Nothing.
Scienctific fact is that we r more attracted to people with extra weight because they have access to...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 13, 2018:
What are the studies that say we are more attracted to people with extra weight? And how much weight? 10 pounds? 100 pounds?
Could you forgive someone who murdered your love one??
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 13, 2018:
One of my best friends from childhood was murdered by her boyfriend in front of their three year old daughter and another toddler. After shooting her, he left her to bleed to death on the kitchen floor. That was over 30 years ago and no, I do not forgive him nor will I ever forgive him.
Sin or not, if yes, why?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 10, 2018:
The directive from Yahweh was to procreate. Procreation is necessary for the perpetuation of the species and sex is pleasurable simply because it makes people want to procreate, especially after human females evolved from having estrus cycles as do other animals (aka "in heat"). While this is applicable on a biological level (procreation IS the meaning of life), it also had religious and social intents: the more members of a religion, the more powerful it is. A man needed heirs; a woman's duty was to provide them. Having babies was the prime "responsibility" of women; hence, Abram/Abraham and Sarah's dilemma. A man could divorce a woman if she did not bear children--of course, if the next wife did not get pregnant, it was pretty obvious who was at "fault." I have more to say about that, but I will restrain myself--back to why masturbation was a sin. When a man masturbated, he was not aiming to impregnate his wife. Whether or not the Jews truly thought this was a sin or not, later religions did. Christian sects, including Catholics, said that the only reason to have sex was for procreation. There ya go.
ATARXIA = A suspended calm in which you find surprising strength.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 8, 2018:
Clam or calm?
Steve Bannon warns that women are going to 'take charge of society'
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 4, 2018:
We can only hope!
Oddly and a little sadly, the more I come here the less I find.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 2, 2018:
The same here. I stay away for days and when I come back, it is the same. The newness wore off and, well, people are people and I am a recluse for a reason.
Do you have a book you bought perhaps as a holiday read that never got read and still sits on your ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 2, 2018:
I have dozens of books that have not been read. I read dozens of student essays in a month and that burns me out. I will cut back on teaching someday, though, and the books will still be there.
The Sorites Parradox is an ancient conundrum that runs as follows; If you have a pile of sand ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 1, 2018:
And why should I care?
Aren't young people amazing? Just watching students (18+) here at university. They don't care about ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 1, 2018:
Come to the US and teach at a community college in Missouri--their views are not so liberal!
It drives my 14 year old hates when I do this... so, of course, I keep doing it!
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Nov 1, 2018:
Oh, well . . . I thought that the problem was eating while at the computer. It seems that the problem is not breaking the Kit-Kat into fingers.
When did you start drinking coffee and why?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 31, 2018:
I don't drink coffee unless it is liberally laced with chocolate; however, I have also cut out caffeine, and that means I don't drink coffee at all. When I was a girl, I thought that coffee would taste like hot cocoa. When my mother finally let me take a sip of coffee, total disappointment. I never got over it and never started drinking the stuff. Nasty.
White nationalism is as much of a threat to u. S. As isis, fbi's open investigations show
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 31, 2018:
It is.
Do you celebrate Christmas after realizing you don't believe in the reason for it? I do because ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 31, 2018:
I celebrate Solstice--the real reason for the season.
What Would You Tell Your 18-Year-Old Self?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 29, 2018:
It'll be ok . . . until Trump gets elected.
Childhood photo challenge: Post a favorite childhood photo. Here's mine. I'm the littlest one ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 29, 2018:
The first of me as a baby--my sister and brother seemed to be fighting over me. The second is from the beginning of my second childhood.
I finally gave up and blocked a couple of the resident knuckleheads here. Why put up with crap ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 26, 2018:
You shouldn't--unless it's fun and sometimes, it is.
What is holding you back in life to life out your fantasy ?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 26, 2018:
Logic and common sense.
Would u argue that all life, I mean the lives of ppl, r of equal value, regardless of their status ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 26, 2018:
Probably not.
What really needs to happen to save all of the human race.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 26, 2018:
I am not sure that we should be saved. Perhaps it is time for the next dominant species. I would, though, rather not "go out" due to an idiot like Trumpass.
Do we ever truly get over childhood hurts?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 20, 2018:
One can get over childhood hurts, but it does not mean that the memory ever goes away. We are who we are based on all of the experiences we have had. I try to use mine to help me better understand other people.
Adult children?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 20, 2018:
I have a close relationship with my youngest son and his wife; I adore my grandchildren. However, my oldest son is homeless in another state and I have not heard from him in almost three years. I have no way of contacting him. It is the hardest thing with which I have ever dealt, but I have to accept that this is his choice--nope, he would not have chosen to be homeless or have no contact with his children, but he chose every step of the path that took him to where he is. I have no real advice for you, though, except be there if and when he is ready to communicate with you. I wish that I knew if my son is even still alive.
The primary operating principle of the US constitution and government was to prevent tyrannical ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 7, 2018:
Sadly and fearfully, I am in agreement.
For All Life As We Know It: The Case for Humanist Environmentalism - TheHumanist.com
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 6, 2018:
Methinks that you are "preaching to the choir." How do we make "them" understand this?
Friends I find myself confuzzled.... I was talking to a gal on OKC and she turned me down based ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 5, 2018:
To all of you claiming that your sign is the best: you are all jealous of Scorpios and you know it. Back in my pagan days, two astrologists told me that I am the "definitive" Scorp. One explained that Scorpios obsess about sex and death. She was right in reference to me, but I tried not to obsess about them at the same time.
Question. Do you think that Organised Religion/s have a place in Society as it is now, given that ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 4, 2018:
It is not up to me to decide such a thing. If people want to be members of organized religion, it is their business. However, MY business is not their business, and the goal should be to eradicate the influence of religion from politics, not to eradicate religion. It will either die a natural death or it will continue. Inquisitions do not truly work over the long run.
Friends I find myself confuzzled.... I was talking to a gal on OKC and she turned me down based ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 4, 2018:
I agree with Pontifex who suggested that it could might have well been a ploy to let you down easy. Instead of saying she didn't like the way that you look or some other shallow reason why she was not interested, not only is she avoiding hurting your feelings, but you think she is nuts and will not pursue the matter.
Do you believe that a cure for cancer exists, but it's not available to the public because medical ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 2, 2018:
The idea is ludicrous. If medical companies had a cure for cancer, they could make twice as much money as they do now for treatments. How much money would someone pay for a surefire cure?
Plagiarism, anyone?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Oct 2, 2018:
In replying to posts, it is inevitable that people will say much the same things--I have done so, but if I see that someone else had already said something similar, I will go back to my post and edit to day, "As so and so already posted." As an English teacher, I hate any form of plagiarism. With plagiarism checkers, students are usually caught and when they are, they get no credit for the assignment and are reported for academic dishonesty. I was plagiarized by another instructor once. I will not go into the details, but she lost her job over the incident. While it might not seem much on a site such as this, it is. When our so-called president is guilty of lying and claiming the accomplishments of others for his own, it does not mean that doing so elsewhere is acceptable. What's the point? If someone wants to repeat what is said, just reference the person who wrote it. To quote Gertrude Stein, "a rose is a rose is a rose is a rose." And a liar is a liar.
What are your favorite proofs against the Bible?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 30, 2018:
In addition to the things in the article, one of the things that bothered me early on was the incident with Cain and Abel. While Cain was not justified in killing his brother, WHY was his offering rejected? Christian apologetics say it was his attitude, but Cain shows no bad attitude before the killing. The best explanation that I have read for this is that Cain's offering, grains and "fruit of the ground," were offering traditionally given to goddesses. The earth is most often classified as female, i.e. Rhea and Gaea, and offerings were of the field. Animals were sacrificed to gods; hence, the grain was an insult. Plus, where the heck did Cain find his wife in the Land of Nod? I have read the apologetics' take on this, too, and it does not hold up. Historically speaking, archaeology supports some Biblical aspects, but saying that these aspects make The Bible factual is like saying that the Trojan War and the Greek gods exist because Schliemann found Troy.
Do atheists, who find no magic in the world, live drab, boring lives, by comparison?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 29, 2018:
This is not a serious question, right?
OK - Advice needed. I intend to quit my job sometime in the next month or so and I don't currently ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 25, 2018:
No. Check out this forum: https://agnostic.com/post/186865/i-would-be-interested-to-hear-about-peoples-experiences-on-the-job-market-i-interviewed-for-a-job/newest/
I would be interested to hear about people's experiences on the job market. I interviewed for a job ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 25, 2018:
I teach part-time for three online schools, but I know other instructors who cannot get hired online. The competition is fierce, and the last school hired me five years ago because I teach mythology. The woman who interviewed me pretty much said that composition instructors are a dime a dozen. This school had 50,000 application one year and hired fewer than 1% of them. My niche (myth) finally did me some good. I have former students who got jobs straight out of school; others, not so. My son has an AA in computers and makes more money than I do. The field is also important.
Aren’t the democrats being hypocrites on their dirty war against Kavanaugh after backing Bill ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 25, 2018:
Bill Clinton was impeached for his dalliances; he was not removed from office, but he was investigated and called on the carpet for his indiscretions. There is a big difference in having an extramarital affair and trying to rape someone. If you do not already understand the differences, then there is no need for me to try to explain them. (And someone else already did.) In addition, two wrongs do not make a right and the Kavanaugh issue is not connected to the Clintons. I do not defend what Bill Clinton did and if you defend what Kavanaugh did, then you need to examine your code of ethics.
Is the human embryo sacred or something special ?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 24, 2018:
An embryo is sacred to the person who wants a child. To someone who does not, no, it is not sacred.
Any recovering Southern Baptists out there?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 24, 2018:
I was raised Southern Baptist but as an adult, attended a non-denomintional for over a decade. When I left Christianity and found paganism suited me, yeah, I still wondered if I would go to hell. Over 20 years later, as a pagan atheist, I have no fear and no wonder. There is no hell; there is no heaven. The idea of being punished forever is ludicrous. I also do not find the idea of a Christian heaven appealing. If a god needs me groveling at his feet, telling him how great he is, he has issues.
Anyone else feel isolated? How do adults even make friends? I have none. I wonder if the social ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 24, 2018:
Social aspects were what kept me in church for longer than I should have stayed. When I left, most of the congregation did not want to associate with me. I lost my social life but found another. Then, I moved to Missouri. I lived in the country for many years and my social outlet was via my teaching peers. I even arranged dinners that about a dozen people would attend. Nine years ago, I moved just outside the city limits of Springfield. Ironically, my need and desire to associate with others waned. I stopped teaching on campus and taught all online. I lost contact with the people whom I knew at school, mostly due to my changing "needs." I am very friendly and do not feel uneasy in social settings, but I no longer have the desire to have many friends. In fact, I have no close friends here. I like being alone and my need for social contact can be filled by going to Walmart and chatting with strangers. I have many casual acquaintances, but I do not "hang" with any of them. Several women have indicated they would like to foster a friendship, but I have nothing in common with most people. Most men want a relationship or they want a series of one night stands--no, thanks, to both. I can understand the need and the desire to have friends and to socialize--been there--but as I age, it has become less important. I do have my son and his family (two grandkids) nearby, so that makes a difference, as well. I would rather spend time with my five year old grandson than most other people as he is vastly more entertaining. If I moved back to California, though, I have close friends there and it would be stepping into a different culture. Sorry, this isn't much help, I know.
A Tale of Gender Bashing and a Double Standard. I've been a part of a Facebook thread today that ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 22, 2018:
Women who support bashing females are a part of the problem. I find it consistently sad and amusing that SOME men think that they are superior to women in logic and reason and yet, make illogical remarks about women that have no basis and no relation to the argument at hand. Ad hominems are all they seem to know--they cannot discredit the argument (serious or satire) so they go personal.
How would you handle this?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 21, 2018:
While wanting to read his texts is out of line, this line says it all: "I have very deep feelings for him, and I told him and he knows that I do, but I also make myself scarce when he gets girlfriends out of respect." I have remained friends with a couple of old boyfriends, including one whose present SO also became a friend of mine. I am not jealous or insecure in relationship, but if I knew that a man had a friend who "has very deep feelings" for him, I would step back, even if it were an online friendship.
Every time we glorify the cradle of our civilization... greece and rome, we fail to acknowledge how ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 21, 2018:
Early Sumeria and Egypt treated women rather fairly. Greece . . . horribly. Women had it better in Rome than in Greece; they could at least own property. Early Christianity recognized the importance of women but it soon degenerated. The killing of Hypatia by a group of rabid Christians definitely set the tone. A great series about the history of women: http://www.ascentofwoman.com/the-series/
Text protocol.
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 21, 2018:
If someone does not reply to a text or a phone call, I wait a couple of weeks and then, delete them from my phone's address book. I don't want that long to delete messages online. The ironic thing is that I have lost count of men who "got back to me" months later. They kept MY phone number and I had no idea of who they were.
Has anyone else had a religious friend ask where your sense of morality comes from? Didn’t really ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 20, 2018:
My ethics come from empathy.
Here we go again. I dated someone who made me believe (that damn word) that he was inviting me to an...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 20, 2018:
Not to sound callous, but if you consistently attract, or attracted to, men like this, you are the common denominator. Why do you think this happens?
Living alone when you're sick. How do you feed yourself?
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 20, 2018:
:( So far, since I have lived alone, I have not been sick enough not to be able to feed myself. I hope that you are soon well!
Where are you from? As a foreigner here I always get this question at bars. Some idiot asks me ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 20, 2018:
When I moved from California to Missouri, I was often asked where I was from because I did not speak "hillbilly." Since I no longer live in a rural area, I am not asked that now. However, I will often tell people that I was raised in California and they say, "Oh, so that's it." It is not just people from outside of the US who gets asked this!
How good are you at striking up conversation with a stranger? Do you allow your prejudices and ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 18, 2018:
I am an extroverted introvert or vice-versa.I live alone and I like being alone. The only people who come to my house are my relatives and one person whom I consider a friend, and he comes infrequently. This is how I choose to live. However, I have many casual acquaintances and I talk extensively to strangers. My son once asked me, "Do you HAVE to talk to everyone you meet?" No, and it is not everyone, just quite a few. Most of the people with whom I initiate conversations talk back. Some ignore me, but I do not take it personally. I do not like to engage for long with most of them because, in reality, I find most people boring, but they seldom find me boring. In part, talking to strangers satisfies my human need for contact. It suits me in that I do not have to follow up with later contact. People like to tell things to me and at times, I know that my words mean something on a dreary day--or I offer an impartial shoulder to lean on for five or ten minutes. I am fairly misanthropic, but paradoxically, empathetic and caring. Go figure.
Smearing the victim has begun! Do you know she knitted, and wore (gasp!) a pink pussy hat for a ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 18, 2018:
Does anyone remember the Clarence Thomas issue? I think that Anita Hill was telling the truth, but it did no good.
I have a master's degree I was born to my parents, in an apartment, in Tacoma, WA. The same ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 17, 2018:
I was born in backwoods Oklahoma in 1952. We were dirt poor but so was everyone else. We never went hungry, but we had no indoor plumbing. When I was six, we moved to California and things improved somewhat. It is hard to overcome the mindset of being poor and even when my dad was making decent money, the mindset persisted. I grew up, got married, got a BA in English Lit, had a couple of kids, went back to school to get a teaching credential, stuck around for about ten more years, left the marriage, moved to Missouri, and got a dual MA in British Lit and Creative Writing. I am an adjunct at three schools and make pretty good money. However, before getting the MA, I lived at the poverty level for several years. Now, even though I am financially stable and a LOT better off than many people, I have five or six jugs of clothes detergent, I don't know how many packs of toilet paper, and I stock up on other things. I have 150 or more pairs of shoes and closets full of clothes (almost all bought on sale/clearance). I also save straws and napkins from McD's. I attribute all of these actions to being poor as child and at times as an adult. God did not help me with anything. Next to losing a son or grandchild, poverty is my biggest fear. And good for you! You have truly accomplished much in your life and you will accomplish even more. I sometimes look around and am amazed at what I have accomplished--you will do the same. What YOU accomplished: you.
So I have a 2nd grade student who was sticking mini Post It notes all over the playground equipment ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 17, 2018:
By the way, I kinda doubt the kid knows what a myth is and is parroting something mom and/or dad said without understanding the issues at hand.
So I have a 2nd grade student who was sticking mini Post It notes all over the playground equipment ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 17, 2018:
I used to teach mythology in seated courses and online. I explained to the students in both venues that all religions and no religion had the same value in the course(s) and no one should even share their religious/non-religious status. I also said that I would refer to Judeo-Christian tales as "myth," and it meant no disrespect, but in comparing the tales or sacred texts, it is obvious that they are the same stories. Occasionally, a student would drop the course because of this. Some Christians HAD to mention in discussions that they were Christians. In several classes, a student or two would report on the final exam or send me an email telling me how the course had changed their outlooks on religion. Some remained Christian with new, broader outlooks and others abandoned religion. But for second graders . . . that's a hard one. I probably would have explained that people have different beliefs and that is fine. I doubt that it would have pacified very many, though.
If a woman says, "Pick a place and time and let me know," and then ignores whichever part of my ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 17, 2018:
Off topic a bit but related to allowing strangers to decide where to eat: Years ago, I had an internet date with a man who did not ask, but told, me that he was taking me to a quaint little retro place for our first meeting. I met him there and when I looked at the menu, it had beef chili, ham sandwiches, and burgers. I do not eat cows or pigs. I said, "There's nothing here that I will eat." The look in his eye said, "Oh, she's difficult," but he said, "You didn't tell me that you had dietary restrictions." I replied, "I have never been to a restaurant that did not have chicken or fish." The server said they could make a grilled cheese sandwich for me and I opted for it. It had to have been grilled alongside the ham sandwiches and was greasy as heck. I was sick for the rest of the day--stomach clenching sick. Never again did (or would) I meet someone for a meal without knowing the place and agreeing to it.
If a woman says, "Pick a place and time and let me know," and then ignores whichever part of my ...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 17, 2018:
Me and my ex-husband driving down the road to an unspecified place for dinner. Me: What would you like to eat? Him: It doesn't matter--pick a place. Me: OK, pizza. Him: No, I don't want pizza--anything but pizza. Me: Well, then, let's just get a hamburger. Him: I don't want fast food. Me: Denny's? Him: No. Me: You pick a place. Him: It really doesn't matter. Me: Pick a place or turn around and go home. Him: You don't have to get mad. True story--the names of the places might be different, but you get it. So, shut up about what "women" do.
Societal religiosity has fostered this notion that sex is this holy spiritual enactment. News Flash:...
Gwendolyn2018 comments on Sep 17, 2018:
Sex is regulated by religions because controlling sex equals control of people. Women were put at a "disadvantage" in the control aspects because monotheistic religions are patriarchal. With women, the control aspect is stronger and harsher. In part, this is because women get pregnant: a man needed to be sure that any offspring were his own. This was not the case in some early polytheistic cultures. Sumeria/Babylon were much more liberal in the early days than later when they were very controlling of women. Sacred prostitutes existed--this does not mean that they were sexually liberated, though, as they needed to "service" men who came to the temples. STDs were rampant. Compare the idea of sexual priestesses to the Vestal Virgins and Catholic nuns to whom sex was denied. Hinduism celebrated sex. Sex is not sacred: it is a means to perpetuate the species. It is pleasurable because people are more likely to procreate pleasurably than if it is blah or painful. Any sacredness is assigned by religions to control people--cultural norms were established to benefit men, not women. Rape laws are relatively new for any instances outside of the rich and noble, and our culture is shameful in the views and practices on rape. As with religion, rapists rape for power, not sex.

Photos

32
32 Like Show
15
15 Like Show
17
17 Like Show
9
9 Like Show
In addition to all my other wonderful attributes, I also quilt. Here is one of my latest projects.
10
10 Like Show
8
8 Like Show
Seasons #1
12
12 Like Show
9
9 Like Show
11
11 Like Show
2
2 Like Show
My grandsons and I.
5
5 Like Show
7
7 Like Show
Atheist
Open to meeting men and women
  • Level8 (76,567pts)
  • Posts34
  • Comments
      Replies
    1,966
    3,749
  • Followers 76
  • Fans 0
  • Following 4
  • Joined Dec 22nd, 2017
  • Last Visit Very recently
Gwendolyn2018's Groups