So much for those who claimed Judaism was the least mysogynistic religion. [bbc.com]

Jolanta comments on Jan 13, 2020:

That is complete nonsense about Judaism. Very religious Jewish women are only looked at as baby makers, they have many laws, women are not allowed to show their hair, thus wear wigs, the man is the boss, education is not allowed either.

Jolanta replies on Jan 14, 2020:

@Mofo1953 As you can see I am talking about orthodox Jewish women. They don’t serve in the army.

So much for those who claimed Judaism was the least mysogynistic religion. [bbc.com]

Jolanta comments on Jan 13, 2020:

That is complete nonsense about Judaism. Very religious Jewish women are only looked at as baby makers, they have many laws, women are not allowed to show their hair, thus wear wigs, the man is the boss, education is not allowed either.

Jolanta replies on Jan 14, 2020:

@Mofo1953 true but many are orthodox

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Jolanta comments on Jan 13, 2020:

Most democrats should be republicans.

Jolanta replies on Jan 14, 2020:

@rogerbenham Yes, yes. I wonder whether one has to be from far afar to see it.

Never take love for granted. Look at all the people who did and now are alone.

rsoulliere comments on Jan 13, 2020:

I think the question of love is very complicated. First, we have to differentiate being in love with being in a relationship. One does not necessarily equal the other. My favourite Chinese proverb goes something like this: "Marriage is like the forbidden city. Everyone on the outside wants in and...

Jolanta replies on Jan 13, 2020:

Don’t take it for granted that love is only ever between people.

Here in Florida my tomato plants are up and growing in peat pots.

beenthere comments on Jan 9, 2020:

How do you treat for nematodes?

Jolanta replies on Jan 12, 2020:

@wordywalt What did you do with the squirrels? Squirrel pie maybe?

Fake News Might Have Just Stopped a War

Travler comments on Jan 9, 2020:

The only thing that prevented an all out war was thinking men in Iran and a cowardly child man in Washington. Fortunately for the world the leaders in Iran not only know how to play the game they are engaged in with the United States they know how to war a limited war against and insane adversary....

Jolanta replies on Jan 11, 2020:

@hankster Nobb.

Fake News Might Have Just Stopped a War

Travler comments on Jan 9, 2020:

The only thing that prevented an all out war was thinking men in Iran and a cowardly child man in Washington. Fortunately for the world the leaders in Iran not only know how to play the game they are engaged in with the United States they know how to war a limited war against and insane adversary....

Jolanta replies on Jan 10, 2020:

@hankster So you just say whatever comes to your mind without looking into it then.

Here in Florida my tomato plants are up and growing in peat pots.

beenthere comments on Jan 9, 2020:

How do you treat for nematodes?

Jolanta replies on Jan 10, 2020:

@wordywalt How about aquaphonics then?

Do atheists overreach?

Jolanta comments on Jan 10, 2020:

He's a nobb, don't pay any attention to him.

Jolanta replies on Jan 10, 2020:

@PondartIncbendog No nobb. It is an English put down.

Here in Florida my tomato plants are up and growing in peat pots.

beenthere comments on Jan 9, 2020:

How do you treat for nematodes?

Jolanta replies on Jan 10, 2020:

@wordywalt Isn't there an organic way to get rid of them or at least minimise?

Fake News Might Have Just Stopped a War

Travler comments on Jan 9, 2020:

The only thing that prevented an all out war was thinking men in Iran and a cowardly child man in Washington. Fortunately for the world the leaders in Iran not only know how to play the game they are engaged in with the United States they know how to war a limited war against and insane adversary....

Jolanta replies on Jan 10, 2020:

@hankster Who do you think is 'funding' it?

It'a 8:05 PM EST USA and we are now at war with Iran.

callmedubious comments on Jan 7, 2020:

How can you be at war with Iran? The US has a more powerful military than the next 10 countries combined. The US can attack Iran at will but there's no way that Iran can attack the US Homeland. The US against Iran would be like Texas declaring war on Rhode island.

Jolanta replies on Jan 10, 2020:

@callmedubious With better media and mobile phones it may not take that long though.

Considering the current redistribution of the wealth of the middle class going on isn't it time for ...

Jolanta comments on Jan 8, 2020:

Social democracy it the key to happy more fair society.

Jolanta replies on Jan 10, 2020:

@Musicmanmike Well, everything can be hijacked. Politicians get elected on something they say the will do or not and when in power that's it they no longer do what they promised. I have live in three different countries, communist, social democratic and now right wing and I can tell you that the social democratic one is the one that is best for everyone, even the rich.

Today it is going to be very hot 40C so I shall go to work with a smile on my face and enjoy the ...

ToolGuy comments on Jan 9, 2020:

Wow. I do not work well when the temperature gets that high.

Jolanta replies on Jan 9, 2020:

Yes, I don't think many do. I am always amazed when I go somewhere where it is always hot and see people toiling at menial jobs. Women in India howling bricks, etc, etc.

I find myself needing less and less social interaction I just try to avoid peoples BS IRL the ...

Lauren comments on Jan 7, 2020:

I do the introvert thing in most aspects of my life but that doesn't mean reclusive ... I mean, it does to my mother, who goes nuts if she doesn't socialize every.single.day. I can go days without physically seeing someone, but I'm still regularly in contact with other life forms. I still set up ...

Jolanta replies on Jan 9, 2020:

@Lauren No, just really, really surprised me, besides that I found American people very friendly and hospitable. Always had a lovely time, got a bit annoyed when I was in New York last time and sat on a chair where someone had left chewing gum which I did not see but that can happen everywhere in the world except in Singapore where chewing gum is not allowed in the whole country. If you bring it in you can be fined.

Fake News Might Have Just Stopped a War

Travler comments on Jan 9, 2020:

The only thing that prevented an all out war was thinking men in Iran and a cowardly child man in Washington. Fortunately for the world the leaders in Iran not only know how to play the game they are engaged in with the United States they know how to war a limited war against and insane adversary....

Jolanta replies on Jan 9, 2020:

@hankster I wonder whether that is so though or is it something the US media has made up?

BROKEN WRIST?

Jolanta comments on Jan 8, 2020:

Well you direction in life -live well and die happy- may just not be working so well for you.

Jolanta replies on Jan 9, 2020:

@ShadowAmicus Are you a nurse?

I find myself needing less and less social interaction I just try to avoid peoples BS IRL the ...

Lauren comments on Jan 7, 2020:

I do the introvert thing in most aspects of my life but that doesn't mean reclusive ... I mean, it does to my mother, who goes nuts if she doesn't socialize every.single.day. I can go days without physically seeing someone, but I'm still regularly in contact with other life forms. I still set up ...

Jolanta replies on Jan 9, 2020:

@Lauren I can understand it. I have visited the US several times and each time am so amazed about the viciousness of religious people there. I have not come upon this anywhere else in the world, not even in Islamic countries.

I really really like this quote- "If I were not an atheist, I would believe in a God who would ...

Fernapple comments on Jan 9, 2020:

Can't argue with that.

Jolanta replies on Jan 9, 2020:

I am sure there will be someone who can or just do it for the sake of arguing.

It'a 8:05 PM EST USA and we are now at war with Iran.

callmedubious comments on Jan 7, 2020:

How can you be at war with Iran? The US has a more powerful military than the next 10 countries combined. The US can attack Iran at will but there's no way that Iran can attack the US Homeland. The US against Iran would be like Texas declaring war on Rhode island.

Jolanta replies on Jan 9, 2020:

@callmedubious Yes, when it comes to weapons but not when it comes to a lot of other things. For instance I think they are spreading themselves thin, all those countries that they insist on invading, in the end it will not end well for them. Already the rest of the world cannot stand them.

Do you find Youtube videos more helpful than instruction manuals?

Jolanta comments on Jan 7, 2020:

Have you ever tried to read a manual of some gadget bought from China. The English in them is just hilarious to try to comprehend.

Jolanta replies on Jan 8, 2020:

@alliwant Unfortunately they often want to cut corners and save money. So they get the cheapest translator available.

Considering the current redistribution of the wealth of the middle class going on isn't it time for ...

moosepucky comments on Jan 6, 2020:

There have been "windfall profits taxes" in the past. Nixon put one on US oil producers during the embargo and raging oil prices. It's time for a one on people making over $250,000 a year. No one needs more than that to live on. Tax income over 250k at 80%

Jolanta replies on Jan 8, 2020:

@Musicmanmike Why start a war? In the Scandinavian countries rich people pay a lot of taxes and nobody dies, and people have health care and enough to eat, etc, etc.

Considering the current redistribution of the wealth of the middle class going on isn't it time for ...

Charlene comments on Jan 6, 2020:

What the Fuck are you talking about?

Jolanta replies on Jan 8, 2020:

@Charlene You don't have time to watch the video but you do have time to respond to something you have not bothered to watch, well what can possibly go wrong.

I find myself needing less and less social interaction I just try to avoid peoples BS IRL the ...

Lauren comments on Jan 7, 2020:

I do the introvert thing in most aspects of my life but that doesn't mean reclusive ... I mean, it does to my mother, who goes nuts if she doesn't socialize every.single.day. I can go days without physically seeing someone, but I'm still regularly in contact with other life forms. I still set up ...

Jolanta replies on Jan 8, 2020:

I do a lot of things by my self, but also a lot of things with others, but I never feel I have to suppress the kind of person I am. I am unique, one of a kind and I know I am not like others who are afraid to be by themselves.

It'a 8:05 PM EST USA and we are now at war with Iran.

callmedubious comments on Jan 7, 2020:

How can you be at war with Iran? The US has a more powerful military than the next 10 countries combined. The US can attack Iran at will but there's no way that Iran can attack the US Homeland. The US against Iran would be like Texas declaring war on Rhode island.

Jolanta replies on Jan 8, 2020:

Yes, but did you miss the recents war exercises between Iran, China and Russia?

The hospital clerk asked my religion before a medical procedure.

Jolanta comments on Dec 31, 2019:

He was just doing his job and could not care less what your religion was or not. It's just a formality.

Jolanta replies on Jan 8, 2020:

@anglophone Maybe it made her think a bit deeper.

Hi.

Vpatel comments on Jan 8, 2020:

Yes, and not just friends, but family too.

Jolanta replies on Jan 8, 2020:

Which can be even more difficult. Strangers one can avoid but not always family.

Hi.

DavidLaDeau comments on Jan 8, 2020:

I shared the same fear. When my x-wife found out I did not believe she told everyone she could to shame me. It did not work. I now have an atheist a tattoo on my forearm and a atheist oriented YouTube channel. I am ver much out and to my surprise I have had very little pushback. Much of it is I am ...

Jolanta replies on Jan 8, 2020:

Yes, it is all in the delivery. Your x-wife sure must be angry with you.

Hi.

Jolanta comments on Jan 8, 2020:

Only in the US, other western countries don’t give a toss about if you are religious or not.

Jolanta replies on Jan 8, 2020:

@Allamanda Yes, and the same vicious people think that they are doing gods work.

Anyone doing something for themselves in 2020?

Jolanta comments on Jan 7, 2020:

The mood blanket sounds interesting. I hope it will not all be black though.

Jolanta replies on Jan 8, 2020:

@Marcie1974 Sometimes it is so easy to “forget” about the things that make our hearts sing.

So, which odds would you choose?

PhoebeCat comments on Jan 7, 2020:

Neither, I approach most situations with indifference. Too be honest, I lack both compassion and resentment. They both require a level of investment that I'm usually unable to attain or maintain as the case may be.

Jolanta replies on Jan 7, 2020:

@PhoebeCat You could have scratched your bottom.

So, which odds would you choose?

PhoebeCat comments on Jan 7, 2020:

Neither, I approach most situations with indifference. Too be honest, I lack both compassion and resentment. They both require a level of investment that I'm usually unable to attain or maintain as the case may be.

Jolanta replies on Jan 7, 2020:

I f that is so, I am surprised that you bothered to write anything here.

To what extent do you let reason or logic make your decisions for you?

HerbertNewsam comments on Jan 5, 2020:

I tend to over think it some at times, but i like living in reality, i think reality dictates the use of logic and reason. My emotions can be all over the place so i like to let them chill for abit at times. Usually because of one of my ptsd issues, which are usually triggered by perceived or not ...

Jolanta replies on Jan 6, 2020:

@HerbertNewsam You oh so very wrong there, oh you sod one.

So, which odds would you choose?

Larry68Feminist comments on Jan 6, 2020:

I am sorry I do not understand whatsoever please explain ?

Jolanta replies on Jan 6, 2020:

Ok, I shall try. Would you choose to be compassionate towards people and get a 70% positive result or would you choose to put them down and achieve a 100% negative result.

New Year's Day Gun Violence Claims 177 Lives As 2020 Begins [newsweek.com]

Jolanta comments on Jan 5, 2020:

I don't understand why people in the US or anywhere els in the world would feel a need to have a gun at all unless you are in a war zone, but then perhaps people in the US think they are in a war zone. When will you realize that you are being manipulated by the people who make guns and bullets.

Jolanta replies on Jan 6, 2020:

@Jacar You know, no it is not difficult at all. Attacks happen everywhere. They happen here in Australia and we do not have guns.

To what extent do you let reason or logic make your decisions for you?

HerbertNewsam comments on Jan 5, 2020:

I tend to over think it some at times, but i like living in reality, i think reality dictates the use of logic and reason. My emotions can be all over the place so i like to let them chill for abit at times. Usually because of one of my ptsd issues, which are usually triggered by perceived or not ...

Jolanta replies on Jan 6, 2020:

@HerbertNewsam Oh, you poor sod.

Today is the first day of the year and my last day of vacation..... .what a conundrum........

Jolanta comments on Jan 5, 2020:

So you don't like your job?

Jolanta replies on Jan 6, 2020:

@IamNobody Yes, I can understand it. I am getting a bit emotionally tired of going to work. I do like my job but I do like not having to think about going there.

To what extent do you let reason or logic make your decisions for you?

HerbertNewsam comments on Jan 5, 2020:

I tend to over think it some at times, but i like living in reality, i think reality dictates the use of logic and reason. My emotions can be all over the place so i like to let them chill for abit at times. Usually because of one of my ptsd issues, which are usually triggered by perceived or not ...

Jolanta replies on Jan 5, 2020:

@HerbertNewsam Gosh must be a health hazard.

Dreams.. are they real just because we experience them when we sleep?

Marionville comments on Jan 2, 2020:

Our brains are amazing ...they’re like giant computers, everything we have experienced in our lives is in there. When we dream some of that information which is being stored is regurgitated, only it’s jumbled through usually, and not an exact replay as it happened, and it can be from very ...

Jolanta replies on Jan 5, 2020:

@Marionville I do have pen and paper by my bedside but you know how it is. One never thinks of doing it. All I usually think of when I wake up is what shall I have for breakfast today.

If you not already have seen Japanese Manga "Spirted Away" I highly recommend it.

brentan comments on Jan 3, 2020:

Yes indeed. I love that film!

Jolanta replies on Jan 5, 2020:

@brentan Mine too.

To what extent do you let reason or logic make your decisions for you?

LiterateHiker comments on Jan 4, 2020:

With an analytical mind, I don't let my emotions dictate my actions. As a parent, I'm the calm one. Don't have a temper. Like my mother, I'm an excellent problem-solver. **Saving My Little Brother When He Fell Through the Ice** When my brother, Lee, 9, fell through the ice while ice ...

Jolanta replies on Jan 5, 2020:

I fell thru the ice when I was 5. My mother had sent me on an errant to pick something up for her and on the way back I decided to take a short cut. Well I fell into the river but it was not vey deep, only to my tummy. I screamed so much that people came running, someone dragged me out and took me home I was so frighten that my mother was going to punish me but this time she did not. When I think back on it I can still feel the cold on my body.

To what extent do you let reason or logic make your decisions for you?

LiterateHiker comments on Jan 4, 2020:

Common sense definition: **Sound and prudent judgment** based on a simple perception of the situation or facts. Of course common sense exists.

Jolanta replies on Jan 5, 2020:

@Seeker3CO Me, me, me.

To what extent do you let reason or logic make your decisions for you?

LiterateHiker comments on Jan 4, 2020:

Common sense definition: **Sound and prudent judgment** based on a simple perception of the situation or facts. Of course common sense exists.

Jolanta replies on Jan 5, 2020:

Yes, but not with many

To what extent do you let reason or logic make your decisions for you?

HerbertNewsam comments on Jan 5, 2020:

I tend to over think it some at times, but i like living in reality, i think reality dictates the use of logic and reason. My emotions can be all over the place so i like to let them chill for abit at times. Usually because of one of my ptsd issues, which are usually triggered by perceived or not ...

Jolanta replies on Jan 5, 2020:

Still overthinking about that big bushy beard that has all your breakfast, lunch and dinner in it I see.

As an Australian Prime Minister once said many years ago "life isn't meant to be easy".

Mofo1953 comments on Jan 5, 2020:

Did Australians rake the leaves as Trump suggested from Californians?

Jolanta replies on Jan 5, 2020:

Sorry, we were waiting for our own Happy Clappy prime minister to tell us.

Dreams.. are they real just because we experience them when we sleep?

Marionville comments on Jan 2, 2020:

Our brains are amazing ...they’re like giant computers, everything we have experienced in our lives is in there. When we dream some of that information which is being stored is regurgitated, only it’s jumbled through usually, and not an exact replay as it happened, and it can be from very ...

Jolanta replies on Jan 4, 2020:

I remember them when I have woken up but they soon fade. Some I can remember vividly all day long. I often thought that perhaps I shall keep a pen and paper by my bedside and write them down.

If you not already have seen Japanese Manga "Spirted Away" I highly recommend it.

brentan comments on Jan 3, 2020:

Yes indeed. I love that film!

Jolanta replies on Jan 4, 2020:

Me too. Did you see any of the other films from studio Ghibli?

Religion in the workplace

Jolanta comments on Jan 3, 2020:

Look for anther job and when you get one, complain about the religious restrains that are there and point out that is why you are leaving.

Jolanta replies on Jan 3, 2020:

@TimeOutForMe Of course you don't say anything until after you got your reference that goes without saying.

I'm sure many people on here have religious friends and family members that get on your nerves.

Jolanta comments on Jan 2, 2020:

I have got family and friends that are not religious and they do get on my nerves from time to time, just as I am sure I get on theirs.

Jolanta replies on Jan 3, 2020:

@Allamanda I am not and they are not. People get on each others nerves all the time for various reasons, doesn't have to be religion.

Canberra sky in the middle of the day. Red sky and haze.

ToolGuy comments on Jan 2, 2020:

Haze from the smoke of the fires?

Jolanta replies on Jan 2, 2020:

Yes.

"I like biting if done in the right way(s)" a man wrote.

mordant comments on Jan 1, 2020:

Well when people tell you who they are, believe them. If two consenting adults want biting and scratching as part of their sex life, it's none of my business, but I can't figure out a way to regard it as healthy. We're humans, not Klingons.

Jolanta replies on Jan 1, 2020:

Maybe he has been watching way too much sci fi.

"I like biting if done in the right way(s)" a man wrote.

BitFlipper comments on Jan 1, 2020:

I've encountered a woman who liked to be gently bitten. It didn't make me dislike her.

Jolanta replies on Jan 1, 2020:

Sure but this is something that one keeps to oneself and doesn't tell anyone about until you know that person intimately.

Canberra, Australia.

Lauren comments on Dec 31, 2019:

I'm sorry. That's so heartbreaking. Do the suburbs have enough sustenance for them?

Jolanta replies on Jan 1, 2020:

@Lauren So far so good, however tomorrow is going to be even hotter and we have been warned about Saturday. There are fires raging around us and the air quality is 2500 times over what it is supposed to be, my eyes are sore, but I am optimistic. In the end it will be okay.

Canberra, Australia.

sweetcharlotte comments on Dec 31, 2019:

Very cute. Are Kangaroos protected in Australia. That is what we call it in the US when the government makes a law where we are not allowed to trap certain animals or kill them. Bears and snakes are protected in the state of Tennessee.

Jolanta replies on Dec 31, 2019:

There are millions of kangaroos in Australia, each state have different laws in relation to them. We have to cull them here in Canberra, they are very dangerous in here. They jump out in front of cars and make a lot of damage, it can be fatal.

Canberra, Australia.

Lauren comments on Dec 31, 2019:

I'm sorry. That's so heartbreaking. Do the suburbs have enough sustenance for them?

Jolanta replies on Dec 31, 2019:

I don't think that there is enough for all of them. These ones live on the hill where I live and are fortunate to find some grass to eat, but all those other animals that are in the bush will perish in the fires that are raging around us.

A Plea Vs Usage of the Word Anti-Semitism. This answers kmaz's post.

Cutiebeauty comments on Dec 31, 2019:

Huh?

Jolanta replies on Dec 31, 2019:

@sassygirl3869 Why was there a need for doing it, I mean a new word?

What am I saying?

Jolanta comments on Dec 29, 2019:

I think you need help big time.

Jolanta replies on Dec 30, 2019:

@Word I think you should get on the phone straight away and make that appointment before it get worse.

I may post this as well in the general forum.

Jolanta comments on Dec 29, 2019:

Just nonsense from both religions.

Jolanta replies on Dec 30, 2019:

@kmaz Maybe some babies should be thrown out with the bathwater sometimes.

lately I'm beginning to think they should change an IQ test from measuring how intelligent someone ...

Jolanta comments on Dec 29, 2019:

I know plenty of University professors who don't know how to boil water or tie their own shoelaces. An IQ test doesn't mean much look who is the president in the US, prime minister in Australia or prime minister in UK. All buffoons. Good at lying, cheating and being generally very bad people.

Jolanta replies on Dec 30, 2019:

@Shawno1972 I agree with you about children out of wedlock, however there would be people religious or not that would find it amoral. I don't have that view.

lately I'm beginning to think they should change an IQ test from measuring how intelligent someone ...

Jolanta comments on Dec 29, 2019:

I know plenty of University professors who don't know how to boil water or tie their own shoelaces. An IQ test doesn't mean much look who is the president in the US, prime minister in Australia or prime minister in UK. All buffoons. Good at lying, cheating and being generally very bad people.

Jolanta replies on Dec 29, 2019:

@Jacar I do have to disagree with you there about Boris being moral. How many children does he have out of wedlock for instance, and are you aware that he was sacked from his vice-chairman position, which he refused to resign from after publicly lying, and that is not the first time it happened. A moral, reasonable, principled person he is not.

How far are you willing to drive to meet someone new?

Jolanta comments on Dec 3, 2019:

Stop this madness going to see them. If they are that keen they should come to see YOU. You are worth it.

Jolanta replies on Dec 28, 2019:

@Rondo And you know this................how?

Never take love for granted. Look at all the people who did and now are alone.

St-Sinner comments on Dec 27, 2019:

Think about this: 1. Being alone is not a terrible thing, often it is better to be out than be in for the wrong reasons. 2. There are relationships where love has dried up, there are only bills, the magic is gone 3. Don't assume all relationship are about love 4. Love with the right one is ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 28, 2019:

Seems to me you are trying very hard to convince yourself here.

Getting close to that time. Chinese food and a movie

Jolanta comments on Dec 25, 2019:

Sounds good, what are we watching?

Jolanta replies on Dec 26, 2019:

@bklynite53 Good movie.

And nobody is being held responsible, nobody.

of-the-mountain comments on Dec 26, 2019:

More Islamic Bull Shit! The so called Palestinians which are actually Arabs kill Jews and Christians when ever they can, the Palestinian Authorities actually pay these children and adults to kill and terrorize any one in Israel! How many Jews live in Iran, Iraq, Saudi Arabia, Syria, Jordan, ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 26, 2019:

Wow, so much rubbish coming out of your mouth. Amazing. And so garbled too.

It is Christmas Day here where I am.

RavenCT comments on Dec 24, 2019:

Merry Christmas Jolanta!

Jolanta replies on Dec 25, 2019:

Merry Christmas to you too.

It is Christmas Day here where I am.

PondartIncbendog comments on Dec 24, 2019:

I'm not sure if that's good luck. It wasn't for the rabbit.

Jolanta replies on Dec 25, 2019:

true but I think rabbits feet are suppose to bring good luck.

Modern Guru

Robecology comments on Dec 24, 2019:

The back-up camera has made it safer, easier, and smarter to back-in park. We've all seen folks who back out end up hitting something...or taking forever doing so; so backing-in parking is not only wiser, it's considerate when you're leaving. And yes...it used to take a long time when you had ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 24, 2019:

I have no problems with backing and I can even back a car with a trailer, on good days at least.

I haven't been here in a long time, i started here when the site was just starting up and made a few...

wordywalt comments on Dec 23, 2019:

Two years ago, this site had a wider variation in membership and a more open exchange on all topics. Most of the unnecessarily aggressive right-wingers have left, but they did their damage. Partly to avoid the sting of bitter exchanges, more narrow interest group have segregated themselves, and ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 24, 2019:

What do you mean with more open exchange on all topics. Seems to me that people are very open here and say whatever they want. I don't think groups have formed to avoid bitter exchanges but more for the sake that it is their interests. There is still plenty of right wing assholes but they get easily blocked, bad language and bad behaviour should not be tolerated in anyway.

I haven't been here in a long time, i started here when the site was just starting up and made a few...

LiterateHiker comments on Dec 24, 2019:

@Sarcasm I joined in October 2017, a month after you did. Didn't participate in the posts for six months. Forgot I joined. At first, angry Trumpsters often attacked me for being a Democrat. I blocked and reported about 40 of them for violating community guidelines. That stopped. Yay! ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 24, 2019:

Sorry for saying nasty things, sorry but I do have a temper.

Your in-person community?

LiterateHiker comments on Dec 23, 2019:

My group of strong, female hiking partners are fun. We hike on Tuesdays.

Jolanta replies on Dec 24, 2019:

@LiterateHiker you would need to bring some kind of contraption so as soon as I no longer could walk and was under the impression that death was imminent you have to carry me to safety or somewhere where a nice fire was and someone giving me a toddy to get over my ordeal. Probably 15 minutes into the hike I think.

Gorgeous Canberra sky.

libraryman comments on Dec 23, 2019:

The fires are up in the north .What are they doing to the sky down south? Is that a sunset or a Sunrise?A re U down under know?

Jolanta replies on Dec 23, 2019:

Hello there. Yes I do live in Australia, in Canberra the Capital. The fires are just about all over the continent. They are a couple of kilometres from us, that is why the sky is the way it is. It is at sunset. Days are hazy and filled with smoke. By 21 December 2019, the fires had burnt over 3,000,000 hectares, destroyed over 700 houses and killed at least 9 people with at least one unaccounted for. So here we are hoping for rain.

Your in-person community?

snytiger6 comments on Dec 23, 2019:

After leaving religion behind, I built up my confidence and self esteem up to where I don't feel a need to belong. This goes against our evolutionary instincts. We evolved as animals which for survival purposes gathered in groups for safety, and many people still feel unsettled if they do not ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 23, 2019:

When you left the religion you acquired self confidence and of course there is and was the worship of cats for you too, he, he.

Your in-person community?

LiterateHiker comments on Dec 23, 2019:

My group of strong, female hiking partners are fun. We hike on Tuesdays.

Jolanta replies on Dec 23, 2019:

If I lived close to you, I come hiking with you too, however probably would only do 1/2 hour of it to start of because all that hiking you girls do would kill me. But I would have a go.

Your in-person community?

resserts comments on Dec 23, 2019:

Workplace, school, neighborhood, clubs, volunteer organizations, family structures — all provide long-term, real-world social interaction. I guess I don't quite understand your friend's meaning.

Jolanta replies on Dec 23, 2019:

The religious seem to think that them getting together is "special" and nobody else can attain that without religion. Dumbasses the lot of them.

Christmas day is almost here and I do not feel it at all.

ToolGuy comments on Dec 21, 2019:

Nope.

Jolanta replies on Dec 22, 2019:

@ToolGuy Yes, it is a good excuse for getting together. I wonder how many our there dread getting together with family, you know have to get together.

Christmas day is almost here and I do not feel it at all.

ToolGuy comments on Dec 21, 2019:

Nope.

Jolanta replies on Dec 21, 2019:

So how do you feel about it?

Have you ever entered into a relationship with someone who is associated with some kind of religion ...

Jolanta comments on Dec 21, 2019:

My ex husband joined an Indian cult called the Brahma Kumari. He is still in it. It destroyed our marriage. It took over his life, it was more important to him than our relationship. All our friends were gob smacked and very disappointed when it happened, they though we were the happiest married...

Jolanta replies on Dec 21, 2019:

@Rashede He always had a need for finding the meaning of life. He was a seeker all the time we were together and before I guess. He says he is happy but not that I no longer am in his life, but I say you cannot have the cake and eat it too, at least not this cake. When it happened I was very upset but over time got over it and I can understand that he has that need, however he could have it all but he did not understand that it involved a balance and compromise. So I refuse to be part of his life anymore, but you know I am now very happy. I have family and friends who love me and whom I love, I have somewhere nice to live, plenty of clothes to wear, lots to eat, nice social interactions with people. What els can one ask for.

Be aware of what you watch, hear and read. Does it nourish you? Accept nothing less.

MarkiusMahamius comments on Dec 21, 2019:

I assume by "nourish" you mean stuff that tastes bad, but is still good for you, according to my arbitrary standards?

Jolanta replies on Dec 21, 2019:

Well, yes according to your standards. Others may feel different though.

This week brought us some interesting new reporting on the whole "people be stupid" front.

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

People with very little brain activity do those things.

Jolanta replies on Dec 16, 2019:

@Seeker3CO Just a question,you would not have anything I haven’t seen before.

I did some volunteering yesterday for the Red Nose.

resserts comments on Dec 15, 2019:

Does the Red Nose program focus on raising money or do they provide services for families? Either way, it sounds like a very worthwhile organization. And food is always a nice touch.

Jolanta replies on Dec 15, 2019:

They raise money for research and to help families.

This week brought us some interesting new reporting on the whole "people be stupid" front.

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

People with very little brain activity do those things.

Jolanta replies on Dec 15, 2019:

@Seeker3CO Do you send pictures of yourself to others, naked ones?

Why are so many Americans so paranoid of socialism?

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

I have lived in three different countries, Poland when it was communist, Sweden being social democratic and Australia with it's now right wing happy clappy government. The best one is SWEDEN. Americans are paranoid of socialism because they have been brainwashed by the media. They do not ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 15, 2019:

@Bilbobagins The media all around the world is controlled by a handful of people. Those handful of people have to write articles to the liking of big business because big business are the ones who pay for advertising and that is how the media makes its money, not on selling papers or TV programs. Just follow the money and you will find out.

Catholic archbishop claims LGBT activism is the new communism

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

Well, that just shows how some people are so frightfully uneducated.

Jolanta replies on Dec 15, 2019:

@rogueflyer No, you don't understand me correctly at all. I am tolerant of religious people and tolerant of different sexual attraction than mine but I am not tolerant of fanatics or people who's sexual attractions force them on people who don't want them or hurt them.

This week brought us some interesting new reporting on the whole "people be stupid" front.

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

People with very little brain activity do those things.

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@Seeker3CO What, you send pictures of yourself to know this?

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Jolanta comments on Nov 8, 2019:

I don't think there is any way that the Holocaust would be forgotten. Actually the Holocaust is the one most "talked and written" about human atrocity in the world. No other atrocity has had so much "media" attention in this world as the Holocaust. It is now coming to the point where people are ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@rainmanjr I don't know where you get this nonsense from. Everybody, but everybody around the world is aware of the Holocaust. I guess you don't believe in democracy or you believe in democracy when it suits you. The Palestinians elected Hamas as their leaders just incase you misses that bit. As far as them being terrorists, I wonder who are the real terrorists, Palestinians who are occupied and try to defend themselves or the Israelis who constantly kill and terrorise them. Many more Russians died in the second world war then Jewish people for your information and we don't hear them going on and on about it. Neither do we hear Cambodians doing it or the Chagos Islanders who want to go back home, or the Assyrians who have "lost" their homeland.

People Who Overtalk

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

Wow, Kathleen you certainly seem to be attracting the nutters. Maybe time for a break by not dating anyone for a while.

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@LiterateHiker Thank you for that article. I loved it. It to have no intention to ever get married again, twice was enough. I am glad that you are not "hoping and wishing" My life is great and having a man would just complicate it too much. Men are way too needy, especially older men. When it comes to sex, you probably either will have to have one night stands, pay for it or do it yourself.

Just for kicks and giggles, I signed up for Temptingflirting.

Jolanta comments on Dec 13, 2019:

A bit of advise to you. If you truly are looking for a life companion and your kids always will come first I can guarantee that you will fail. Kids should not come first, a partner should. Kids should come a close second to your partner, always, whether that partner is the parent of those kids or...

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@azzow2, @ToolGuy You are talking about extremes here. I think all of us would save our children. I am not talking about saving, simply talking about that there are so many relationships that kids rule to the detriment of the relationship due to the fact that the parent puts the wishes of the kids first, no matter how unfair, unreasonable or stupid those wishes are.

Just for kicks and giggles, I signed up for Temptingflirting.

Jolanta comments on Dec 13, 2019:

A bit of advise to you. If you truly are looking for a life companion and your kids always will come first I can guarantee that you will fail. Kids should not come first, a partner should. Kids should come a close second to your partner, always, whether that partner is the parent of those kids or...

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@azzow2 What you are talking about are two different things. One is the abuse of children by a parent or step parent and the other is that your partner should come first in a relationship.

People Who Overtalk

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

Wow, Kathleen you certainly seem to be attracting the nutters. Maybe time for a break by not dating anyone for a while.

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@LiterateHiker Sometimes it is good to have a break. You don't have to in any kind of from engage with them. Have a break, if nothing else just for Christmas. See how you fare. It may be liberating. All this hoping and wishing for the "right" one to emerge is sometimes too exhausting.

People Who Overtalk

Burner comments on Dec 14, 2019:

When i talk too much, its usually because i really dont want to hear the other person talk. Its not because i think they want to hear my opinion, its because i simply will do anything to shut them up. But these people you secribe, seem to want to spend time with you, voluntarily. Oddly different....

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

Perhaps you should just not say a word and quietly walk away.

Happy Friday! I have no kids this weekend so I'm going to try to get Christmas stuff done.

IrishTxJudy comments on Dec 13, 2019:

My kids are grown but I still don’t get the decorating done that I need to do. Hoping this weekend I can get it done. Good luck with your projects

Jolanta replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@Haemish1 If I put my Christmas tree up, I leave it there to after easter.

"Our eyes have met our hearts have spoken So please don't let The spell be broken Phone me ...

1of5 comments on Dec 13, 2019:

This mean you met a poet?

Jolanta replies on Dec 13, 2019:

Nah, still single. Just saw it somewhere and like it and wanted to share it with other people.

Woman Whose Son Was Beaten to Death Read the Bible Before Getting Help | David Gee | Friendly ...

St-Sinner comments on Dec 13, 2019:

Even in the atheist world of tomorrow, idiots and horrific things will exist, they will be less but they will be around. Idiots only need an excuse to act badly, Today is religion, tomorrow it will be something else. If there is no God, they will invent something else. Religion only gives a cover ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 13, 2019:

There is a certain type of people who are attracted to religions or cults. It is those who find a need for a meaning in their lives, those who can see how they can benefit by lying and cheating others and of course fanatics.

Do people deserve to be loved even when they are not lovable and do some horrific things?

demifeministgal comments on Dec 12, 2019:

What are these horrific things you speak of? :S This post is too vague to give a clear answer. You mean did the likes of trump or Hitler deserve to be loved? Or is this more on a personal level?

Jolanta replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@demifeministgal It all depends on circumstances in our lives. How we are connected to that person. I think personally far too many people have rose coloured glasses when it comes to their children or someone they are in love with.

Do people deserve to be loved even when they are not lovable and do some horrific things?

demifeministgal comments on Dec 12, 2019:

What are these horrific things you speak of? :S This post is too vague to give a clear answer. You mean did the likes of trump or Hitler deserve to be loved? Or is this more on a personal level?

Jolanta replies on Dec 13, 2019:

It can be both. All our experiences with others are different.

California nativity scene depicts Jesus, Mary and Joseph as caged family separated at border

Jolanta comments on Dec 9, 2019:

Brilliant, the only thing I would want to change there is the colour of Jesus, Mary and Joseph, after all they should be of Middle Eastern appearance.

Jolanta replies on Dec 11, 2019:

@DenoPenno Well we know how Americans are easily fooled.

I red this in a health & wellbeing paper.

TheDoubter comments on Dec 10, 2019:

sounds yucky

Jolanta replies on Dec 11, 2019:

You probably done way yuckier stuff. It is a matter about you want to sleep or not.

Kiss often Hug often Look into peoples eyes. Be glad.

BitFlipper comments on Dec 8, 2019:

I can't get away with kissing. The others seem to be ok.

Jolanta replies on Dec 10, 2019:

@BitFlipper See a counsellor, they may help.

Kiss often Hug often Look into peoples eyes. Be glad.

BitFlipper comments on Dec 8, 2019:

I can't get away with kissing. The others seem to be ok.

Jolanta replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@BitFlipper if’s true that you have a bad personality, start there.

Kiss often Hug often Look into peoples eyes. Be glad.

BitFlipper comments on Dec 8, 2019:

I can't get away with kissing. The others seem to be ok.

Jolanta replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@BitFlipper So you already know the problem, what are you going to do about it.