How are you handling your Facebook page?

JimG comments on Mar 8, 2018:

Anyone who actually reads my posts, and has half a brain knows I am an atheist, and I abhor religion. Most people don't grasp that because they can't conceive of the notion that not believing is even possible.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 8, 2018:

I had a sticker that said "in the beginning man created god" Only my grandchildren who very young caught it.

The Shocking Truth about Daylight Saving Time

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 7, 2018:

Nothing to me, I go to bed at 7 whether it's light out or light out LOL

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 8, 2018:

@HippieChick58 Before my current job, I went to bed around 3am. Took me a while to adjust. I think I had 42 tardy's in 6 months. Nowadays, I would be fired long before hitting that amount. In fact I think I am the only one in my department with no tardy's on absences for at least 10 years

Describe a (nonsexual) hobby/activity that you love to do, and why you love doing it.

ProudMerry comments on Mar 7, 2018:

I love reading because it allows me to go somewhere else and be someone else for a time. I also love beading because I love colored glass and I love making things from it. Here's a picture of something I made.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

@Keyboard-Mama Perhaps reading a different genre? I lost my family members around the same time AOL became a thing and always thought being online killed my reading habit. Im sorry for your loss and hope you get your mojo back. Nice work on the necklace

In the future it may be feasible to selectively delete an unwanted memory.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 7, 2018:

So many immediately came to mind but then I realized that losing those memories would leave gaps that may make things worse.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

@atheist I dont know how that work in the case of repeated traumas. I had a less than stellar childhood during a 9 year period with some really bad moments and some really good ones with most of it just being kinda sucky. Those experiences were during formative years so they made me who I am. Without those memories, much of who I am today would make no sense.

In the future it may be feasible to selectively delete an unwanted memory.

Mark9393 comments on Mar 7, 2018:

Disco

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

Disco was awesome!

Apologies are free

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 7, 2018:

Other than my daughter, I haven't had a sincere apology in years.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

@0752532706 Yeah. Many people think an apology makes them look weak. I used to be like that when I was young. I try hard to not be so prideful about such things

If applicable, how did you quit smoking?

sandyw1952 comments on Mar 7, 2018:

I was determined. First two or three days were difficult. After getting over the withdrawal hump I kept myself busy. When I felt the urge to smoke I took deep breaths until the urge passed. It always does. I still want a cigarette on occasion. I even dream I started smoking again and I quit ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

I occasionally want one at random times.

Preferences in dating

Ella comments on Mar 6, 2018:

I’m not one to tell anyone else what to do. But when someone tells me they won’t date outside their race, or have a strong preference for a particular race, it tells me they gave some racial biases, at the least. If you can only find beauty and/or attraction within a certain race there’s ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

Ella may have a point. I have often wondered if I have an unacknowledged bias because I was raised redneck in the south. There have been a couple of mixed raced guys I thought I might date if they weren't connected to my employment. I find Asian guys attractive, I did date someone from the Dominican Republic when I was much younger. My most recent ex was ethnically Mexican.

Preferences in dating

ashortbeauty comments on Mar 6, 2018:

I chose no it's not wrong. To say ones preferences are wrong is to bring us back to being LGBQ+ is wrong. Which it is clearly not. We can't even take that stance heterosexuality. Straight people have a right to not be called "wrong" either. I'm native American Sioux and bisexual. I gravitate towards...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

I stated above that I don't care for blonde blue eyed men but both my long term girlfriends were blonde and blue eyed. I suspect having blonde, blue eyed brothers has something to do that. lol

Preferences in dating

ScienceBiker comments on Mar 6, 2018:

We've come a long way towards letting people have whatever preferences they want. Can't we just let people not want what they don't want? I don't want to make anyone feel bad. But there are some races I have a sexual aversion towards. That doesn't make me racist, or bigoted. I don't treat ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

My daughter dates black guys and by black, I mean very dark..Ive been accused of being racist because my taste doesn't run that way. I don't particularly care for the blonde blue eyed guys either but nobody calls me racist for it. I prefer something between those two extremes. We all have a type and preferences.

Describe a (nonsexual) hobby/activity that you love to do, and why you love doing it.

Brio77 comments on Mar 6, 2018:

I used to do more of this (before kids, when I could hang around at bars more), but trivia contests, partially due to the curiosity of collecting random knowledge, partially becuase I played quizbowl in high school and college.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

I have to give up sleep to play so as Ive gotten older, I chose sleep. :(

Describe a (nonsexual) hobby/activity that you love to do, and why you love doing it.

WizardBill comments on Mar 6, 2018:

Playing disc golf. Because: it’s fantastic exercise and it’s fun.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

I've been thinking of getting into that

Describe a (nonsexual) hobby/activity that you love to do, and why you love doing it.

Hokulea comments on Mar 7, 2018:

Geocaching!

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

Me too

Describe a (nonsexual) hobby/activity that you love to do, and why you love doing it.

Alynscott comments on Mar 7, 2018:

For me ot is naturism. non sexual nudity in public is fun. try it and you wilt see what I mean. getting undressed the first time in public is scary, but it gets asier.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

@birdingnut He did say non sexual nudity aka naturism or nudism. It is a known although less common lifestyle and there are numerous nudist colonies. I think you were a bit harsh in your response to him.

Describe a (nonsexual) hobby/activity that you love to do, and why you love doing it.

ProudMerry comments on Mar 7, 2018:

I love reading because it allows me to go somewhere else and be someone else for a time. I also love beading because I love colored glass and I love making things from it. Here's a picture of something I made.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

I used to love reading and recently wondered if I should give up facebook and get my head back into a book

Dating outside social constructions?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 6, 2018:

Tell them you’re “undeclared.”

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

LOL

I became a "sole family survivor" at the young age of 45.

RavenCT comments on Mar 7, 2018:

Both my parents were gone by the time I was 37. But I still have 3 sibs.. It must be very hard to be the last?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

@ScienceBiker that explains how I am with my mother. When people find out it they are like awww and how sad but I can't miss what I never had. I like your analogy. Gonna steal it

If applicable, how did you quit smoking?

BlueWave comments on Mar 7, 2018:

The first time -- a program called SmokEnders. Great program. Eight years later, I willfully and consciously CHOSE to start smoking again as a "fuck it all" method of coping with a difficult life event. The next time, I used vaping with gradual nicotine withdrawal. I vape occasionally with ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 7, 2018:

I went back to smoking after 3 years because of the death of 2 close family members. The second death was the person who kept me from smoking after the first one. Had my then husband been a wee bit less of an asshole, I may not have smoked and may have even stay married to him.

What are some social etiquette rules everyone should know and follow?

2smart4gawd comments on Mar 5, 2018:

My mother went to ‘finishing school’ in Monterey Bay, CA. Something she taught me that I will forever be greatfull for is how to descend a stair properly. You shouldn’t make any noise, (herd of elephants) but let your toes/ball of your feet land first, then your heel after, so you are using ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 5, 2018:

I go up and down stairs 20 times a day. Guess what I feel I must try tomorrow?

What are some social etiquette rules everyone should know and follow?

Galihad_Z comments on Mar 5, 2018:

Always walk to your right. I find myself crashing in to people more often than before. Does anyone even know this rule anymore?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 5, 2018:

No, I don't think they do

Does where you live have any regional peculiarities that confuse visitors?

Mark9393 comments on Mar 5, 2018:

I am originally from Cleveland and reading thi brought a mile to my face. I have lived in South Florida now for over 25 years and we have some differences. It is "Soda not Pop" here and after 5 or 6 years you learn that. Distance are measured in time in the more urban areas and distance in the ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 5, 2018:

We use both away and up when referring to putting the groceries where they belong.

What's better: renting or owning a home?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 3, 2018:

My house payment is $742 while rent for a similar house would be $1350 without a pool. Granted, most people would have a higher payment but it wouldn't be as high as rent. I live in an area where rentals are in short supply so despite the costs of repairs, I am still in better shape as a ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 4, 2018:

@ScienceBiker Fort Pierce, Florida. A coastal town on the Atlantic side. Many years ago it was number 1 on the list of dangerous places to live and our town leaders were notoriously corrupt. It still hasn't lived down that stigma but our taxes are lower than the towns to the north and south of us. There is a down side in that there is no mall, limited business etc but it's finally getting better which is reflected in my property value shooting up 50% in under 3 years. I bought it when it was worth a lot less :) I work 14 miles away in the next town over where my same house would cost over twice as much. Three hours away in central Florida my house would cost me 4 times as much. I know quite a few people that live here in Fort Pierce and work an hour away in West Palm Beach.

Why do only some women flaunt their cleavage?

dahermit comments on Mar 4, 2018:

It is all about getting noticed by men who she considers to be a potentential "Prince Charming". Notice how few girls and women "fall in love" with someone in a wheelchair, over-weight, having a defromity, physically unattractive, or chronically unemployed.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 4, 2018:

@VictoriaNotes Most men I would say

Why do only some women flaunt their cleavage?

Sticks48 comments on Mar 4, 2018:

Leg and ass man, don't care. :)

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 4, 2018:

LOL.

What is the most obscure fact that you know?

tioteo comments on Mar 4, 2018:

I know how to use who and whom absolutely correctly. To most people these are a mystery.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 4, 2018:

Text I sent my daughter yesterday: If they're there, their feelings may be hurt.

What's better: renting or owning a home?

HippieChick58 comments on Mar 3, 2018:

I chose ownership, but it isn't always a picnic. I had to put in a new AC in July 2016 and probably didn't make the best decision. And now my roof is leaking. My Son In Law is in construction and when the new roof was put on his dad was my contractor. Dad later decamped and left SIL with a mess. But...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 4, 2018:

I had forgotten how angry it made me that maintenance people came and went at will along with the pest control guy. There was a high turnover of maintenance people. When my daughter first moved down here, I rented the cheapest apt I could find in what was a good neighborhood when I lived here before and she slept in the living room so her children could have the other bedrooms. We don't wear pajamas in this family and despite her car being parked in front of the apt, the bug guy knocked once and let himself in immediately. Since my daughter thought he was breaking in, she ran to the door and slammed it on him. When I complained and requested scheduling of pest control, the office suggested my daughter wear more clothing. That pos complex was still $200 more than my current house payment. I can't see me ever renting again.

What's better: renting or owning a home?

PeppermintDreads comments on Mar 3, 2018:

For me renting makes more sense. With my fucked-up health issues it’s easier (and less stressful), I’m not financially responsible if something major breaks. Yeah, it’s hard finding a pet-friendly rental...especially with two big dogs...but my landlord now is super-cool. He’s fixed ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 3, 2018:

I have never had a good landlord which is why I dislike renting. My parents recently sold their house and moved to rural AL and happily rent. But their landlord is a neighbor so will probably be a good one.

What's the best thing about being single?

Mark9393 comments on Mar 2, 2018:

No inlaws

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 3, 2018:

I have a friend with serious in law issues and when she is venting, I'm thinking "damn, I'm glad that's not me."

If someone truly wants to be with you, will they say they need space or time to think about it?

ScienceBiker comments on Mar 3, 2018:

The first woman to tell me she needed space put me in foster care with the assurance that it was only temporary and that I would come home. A year later she tells me that she signed the papers releasing me for adoption... over the phone ... and that it was always her intention but that she wanted ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 3, 2018:

And I thought my mother sucked. Damn, dude I am sorry.

If someone truly wants to be with you, will they say they need space or time to think about it?

Gnarloc comments on Mar 3, 2018:

There are folks who really do need to have space. It is not impossible to consider that a person could be full on in love with another person, but their need for privacy is such that a little bit goes a long way... likely if this is truly upsetting to a relationship, that person has some form of ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 3, 2018:

People that need alone time usually are up front about that in the beginning. I'm one of them. Of course it always became a problem anyway but at least I was honest.

What is something you have tried, but will never do again?

AlexWolfe26 comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Paintballing. A sadomasochistic activity.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 3, 2018:

@resserts Ive considered playing. I figure the pain from the balls would motivate me into getting better LOL

What is something you have tried, but will never do again?

jonds56 comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Marriage.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 3, 2018:

That was my immediate answer LOL

So can someone tell me why no one is talking about the teacher in GA?

Duchess comments on Mar 2, 2018:

I think it's idiotic to assume that the average teacher would be able to hold up a gun and shoot someone . To kill them ! The average person does not have what it takes to be a killer. That is NOT a good plan. Less guns, not more! I'm sure the NRA is already rubbing their palms together and ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 2, 2018:

@gdboogietime74 bulletproof glass, fenced perimeter, cctv with staff to observe.

What is the worst thing anyone has said to your face ?

Rugglesby comments on Mar 2, 2018:

My father, when he was dying of liver cancer told me I was the worst son any father could ever have. He was a real charmer.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 2, 2018:

I am so sorry to hear that. My father much preferred his sons over me despite me being the one most like him in appearance and personality

What is the worst thing anyone has said to your face ?

LeighShelton comments on Mar 2, 2018:

i dont care what people say but its mostly said behind my back or on the internet

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 2, 2018:

Yeah me too. When people tell me what others have said about me I usually laugh because it amuses me that they won't confront me. I'm told my boss fears me.

What is the worst thing anyone has said to your face ?

birdingnut comments on Mar 2, 2018:

From a religious sister-in-law in 1980, after my newborn son's lungs collapsed and he had to go into the hospital: "God must trust you a lot; allowing your son to suffer to make you stronger."

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 2, 2018:

Wtf. And they wonder why we become angry at them

My supervisor at the 'day job' fairly abruptly resigned from her supervisory position in January,.

Kimba comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Basically go along with her cover story, say you can see that the stress was getting to her and understand why she wanted to slow down, pass it off as burn out while cleaning up the mess and assign straight forward tasks to her with the instruction she is not to worry about anything else as it is ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 2, 2018:

I second this. No sense in making an enemy until you have to

Social classes

wordywalt comments on Feb 28, 2018:

Through my education and work, I am middle class. But, I grew up in the undereducated lower class.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 1, 2018:

Pretty much my story as well

Social classes

Uncorrugated comments on Mar 1, 2018:

Third class or even steerage...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 1, 2018:

lol

Simple questions for those that prefer Women. What is your choice... Wig or Hat in a woman?

KKGator comments on Feb 28, 2018:

I have never dressed to "upstage" another woman in my entire life. I don't associate with women who would do such a thing. It's incredibly shallow, and self-absorbed. It's also damned insulting and demeaning that anyone would assert that all women do that.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Mar 1, 2018:

@GipsyOfNewSpain being pissed at your offensive words does not make her a man hater. She had an issue with YOUR words. Not all men's

Nicknames: Do you have one? What is it? Who gave it to you and why?

Dispirited comments on Feb 27, 2018:

mine is plain but i like it. butch. got it from my dad when i was three months old, as i was told. dad came home from work and looked in the crib and said "hey butch".

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 27, 2018:

That was my father's nickname

What is the worst purchase you’ve ever made?

Shawappa44820 comments on Feb 24, 2018:

This $125 statue of John Constantine... I love Constantine, but I don't know what I was thinking with this one... P.S. It's for sale if anybody wants it... ;)

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 25, 2018:

How much?

What is the worst purchase you’ve ever made?

Holysocks comments on Feb 24, 2018:

A 1946 Cadillac hearse that didn't run. It was a great conversation piece though.....

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 25, 2018:

Reminds that someone in my neighborhood has one of those. Haven't seen it in almost a year. Wonder if they moved. I think next time I see one on the road, Im gonna wave them down and chat LOL

What is the worst purchase you’ve ever made?

egrant4506 comments on Feb 24, 2018:

a subscription to POF

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 25, 2018:

A few years ago I bought a subscription to mature singles. AND renewed it. In that year's time, I communicated with less than a dozen people and only a few were non religious.

Do you consider yourself a humanist?

Genoa150 comments on Feb 25, 2018:

Absolutely. I also go by the AHA definition of Humanism, as @Shellbell pointed out earlier: Humanism is a progressive lifestance that, without theism or other supernatural beliefs, affirms our ability and responsibility to lead meaningful, ethical lives capable of adding to the greater good of ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 25, 2018:

This.

What is the worst purchase you’ve ever made?

SweetHarp comments on Feb 24, 2018:

This is easy - My marriage license.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 24, 2018:

I posted that same answer. Then I read this and had to delete.

What is the worst purchase you’ve ever made?

geko comments on Feb 24, 2018:

A used Mustang 2....I paid $800 for it and it lasted three weeks...I should have just walked around instead..

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 24, 2018:

I bought a used mustang in the 80s and I stayed one ticket from a suspended licence the entire time I owned it.

Want to See Gun Control Enacted? Support a Movement to Arm Black Folks En Masse | Alternet

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 23, 2018:

I fear even more cops would get away with killing black men using the excuses "I saw a gun" or "I feared for my life"

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 24, 2018:

Yeah, I know. Thought I said that. Sorry I failed to make that clear.

Left-handed, right-handed, or ambidextrous?

RavenCT comments on Feb 23, 2018:

This comes up at every large family dinner. Three left-handed siblings and I'm right handed. However have some use of my left due to - three left-handed older siblings. Oh and having to immobilize my right shoulder more than once. And if you don't have a mix like that in your family - the ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 24, 2018:

My father was a leftie, I was one as a child, and all 3 of my biological grandsons are lefties.

Left-handed, right-handed, or ambidextrous?

IndridCold comments on Feb 23, 2018:

Except for mousing. Gotta use my right hand on the mouse. Go figure.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 24, 2018:

I am ambidextrous with the mouse. I did have a bit of trouble initially but now I use the left hand more than the right

When Considering A Relationship With Someone, How Important Is The Person's Annual Income ?

Amy0825 comments on Feb 23, 2018:

I never used to care, but after being coerced into supporting my ex for 5 years, anyone I date must have a J-O-B. They don't have to be rich, just able to support themselves in the event of a breakup. I'll never make that mistake again.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 24, 2018:

I have a couple of ex's that contributed a lot less to the household than I did and even left me in debt after it was over. Never again

How do you feel about Brussel Sprouts?

JackPedigo comments on Feb 23, 2018:

My mother-in-laws recipe was to parboil them quickly. Drain the water and sauté them in butter til they are a little chard all around. Grate a little fresh nutmeg and then about 1/4 cup white wine and cover until the wine has boiled out, a couple of minutes. This has never failed to impress guests.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 24, 2018:

Stealing this one too

How do you feel about Brussel Sprouts?

El-loco comments on Feb 23, 2018:

Mostly in bubble 'n squeek. Americans might not understand,. Fried sprouts and potatoes.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 24, 2018:

Never heard of that til now but will certainly look it up and try it.

What is an odd smell that you would admit to enjoying?

TheMiddleWay comments on Feb 23, 2018:

My farts. "Everyone loves their own brand, don't they?" - Fat Bastard

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 23, 2018:

I opened this topic wondering who was gonna say farts. Luv ya lol

Left-handed, right-handed, or ambidextrous?

Rugglesby comments on Feb 23, 2018:

I was born left handed, raised right handed. Both my parents and school teachers punished using my left hand. Perhaps this resulted in some changes in my brain as I do think in different ways.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 23, 2018:

I have discovered that most things I learned how to do as an adult are left handed. As a child, my left hand was taped to prevent me using it

Have any of you ever taken a cruise ship to another country? Did you need to have a passport?

ScienceBiker comments on Feb 20, 2018:

Yes. And no, you don't need one. But it's a good idea to take it and keep it with you when you leave the ship. Edit Lots of others are saying yes. So let me rephrase by saying the Carnival Cruise Line trips I've taken did not require a passport.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 21, 2018:

Neither did NCL or RC

If you had to get a song lyric tattooed on your body, what would you choose?

twshield comments on Feb 19, 2018:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ivt_N2Zcts I would'nt mind this tramp stamp on my back! Maybe not....

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 20, 2018:

This was the song that played on my myspace page. Ya'll remember myspace right?

To Shave or Not to Shave

SonderOpia comments on Feb 19, 2018:

Why should I have to? I mean the hair is there for a reason I suppose. Sometimes I might shave my legs and trim up my bikini area in the summer but other than that What's the point?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 20, 2018:

If I trim up down there, I will pay dearly with large painful bumps so I rarely do it anymore.

How many level 10's?

AxeElf comments on Feb 18, 2018:

Nope. 8.3 is the record so far.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 19, 2018:

Thank you

How many level 10's?

AlasBabylon comments on Feb 18, 2018:

I've been on here since late December. Though that's not very long, I never have noticed in level 9s or 10s

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 19, 2018:

@SonderOpia Thanks

How many level 10's?

AlasBabylon comments on Feb 18, 2018:

I've been on here since late December. Though that's not very long, I never have noticed in level 9s or 10s

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 19, 2018:

Thank you

How many level 10's?

btroje comments on Feb 18, 2018:

none 8 is the highest anyone has had time to achieve

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 19, 2018:

Thank you

How many level 10's?

El-loco comments on Feb 18, 2018:

None. Reckon it'll be a couple of months before I reach level 7. But, seriously, what does it matter?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 19, 2018:

It doesn't really matter; I was trying to explain how the site works to someone and became curious since being stuck at home all day gave me more time for random thoughts

What do you know well enough to teach others?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 16, 2018:

How to turn any sentence into one containing sexual innuendo. Sarcasm 101: how to make everyone dislike you I could probably teach several subjects regarding criminal justice since I have a degree in it which was inspired by my family being either connected to or a victim of crime.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 18, 2018:

@kensmile4u Yes it is. Thank you.

Have you had your DNA tested?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 16, 2018:

I did but it had a low call rate and is still being processed. I sent it in mid December so I am not feeling super confidant about the results. My daughter sent hers in 2 weeks after I did and is further along. I post then read. Then have to edit My mother is adopted and although we know her...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 18, 2018:

@BlueWave beats me

What do you know well enough to teach others?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 16, 2018:

How to turn any sentence into one containing sexual innuendo. Sarcasm 101: how to make everyone dislike you I could probably teach several subjects regarding criminal justice since I have a degree in it which was inspired by my family being either connected to or a victim of crime.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 18, 2018:

@kensmile4u I didn't read it as sarcastic but as humorous so I didn't really take it seriously. I don't actually work in criminal justice and it is a bit of a long story why. My brother and I had a rough childhood when my mother married her second husband. I tried to protect him when I could but despite feeling years older, I was only 14 months older He was murdered when i was 30. He lived a criminal lifestyle and I was estranged from him at the time but I was allegedly a target because prior to the estrangement, he told me things. Eventually the shooter was captured When my kids were teens, they often befriended and brought home kids that had been kicked out for being different; for the most part they were LBTQ I want to mention that although these kids were considered behavioral problems by their schools and parents, I rarely had a problem with them. So our childhood and those kids are why I wanted to work with at risk teens but did not have the time for college When I was laid off in my early 40's I decided to give it a shot because the kids were grown for the most part. So I started college then I took a full job with my current employer with the intention of it being only a few years. Then I was diagnosed with cancer the same day my daughter found out she was pregnant with a high risk pregnancy. So now I have her, a 1 year old grandson and a 15 year old son all while knowing I will be out of work for a while. I finished with honors despite getting a D in the first class after my surgery but I couldn't go after the masters for a couple of reasons; I was burnt out and way too behind in the bills between having to pay half of my share of cost in advance for treatment and not earning income for a while. It took about 2 years to catch up my bills but by then I had a wage garnishment for the student loans. The wage garnishment cost me my home and I spent the next few years renting a room in other peoples homes. In addition, the 5 year pre-existing condition on insurance kept me at my employer By the time I hit that 5 year mark, it would have been a pay cut to enter a field I never intended to work in- I only wanted the criminal justice degree to aid me in helping my target group of at risk teens. The garnishment has been lifted but I still owe about 15k and I just can't see going back to college, increasing my debt in order to enter social service in my late 50s. I seriously doubt being able to find employment. My current job is not rewarding but it does support me and allows me to help my daughter and grandchildren upon occasion because the schedule enables me to be home before they are.

What would you never pay for?

Naeem comments on Feb 17, 2018:

Now you mentioned it, I never had cable since I came to the US, there is no cable services in countries I lived in before the US, and every time my internet company offer the cable service I refuse, I don't even have TV. I hate paying tolls and I avoid paying it as much as I can, to me roads ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 18, 2018:

@walklightly I will pay for aps if it is one I really like and it eliminates all ads which speeds up performance.

What would you never pay for?

MyLiege comments on Feb 17, 2018:

Sex ;)

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 18, 2018:

Ah, beat me to it LOl I only opened this topic to see how many people answered "sex"

What would you never pay for?

evestrat comments on Feb 17, 2018:

Someone's loyalty, respect, and friendship

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 18, 2018:

@steve148 lol

What would be a good name for a Satanic/Atheist private school?

Gohan comments on Feb 17, 2018:

Hadrian for a boy and Lilith for a girl. Mal or any name including Mal is considered evil.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 17, 2018:

My poor grandson is named Malachi. I call him Mal

I'm currently struggling with some stuff and someone made the comment that "if I had a husband,I ...

noworry28 comments on Feb 16, 2018:

I am a man and I feel the same way about the women that I have been involved with in the past. So I understand why you feel that way, but it is not all men, it is just the ones that you have been involved with. I know some really great women, but unfortunately they are taken. I am sure that you know...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 17, 2018:

I have forced myself to remain single for a while because I have a habit of choosing recovering people who want me to keep them sober/straight. Then they fail and I become their mother/cop/nag Tired of trying to fix the unfixable

Have you had your DNA tested?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 16, 2018:

I did but it had a low call rate and is still being processed. I sent it in mid December so I am not feeling super confidant about the results. My daughter sent hers in 2 weeks after I did and is further along. I post then read. Then have to edit My mother is adopted and although we know her...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 16, 2018:

Well, they came in and mummy is not native. Dad said we were Scottish which I guess is part of the British Irish group. A birth relative of my mother's said we were gypsies which explains moms black hair. I remember thinking as a child that I was french but do not remember why.

To what extent do you believe "with age comes wisdom?"

CuriousCreature comments on Feb 16, 2018:

Just ask Trump, who probably thinks he is the wisest person in the universe.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 16, 2018:

A stable genius no less

What do you do that makes other people say "ew?"

markdevenish comments on Feb 15, 2018:

never wash my hands or face , shower twice a week. AND i'm just as healthy if not better than most. all those soaps and sanitizers are a marketers dream

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 16, 2018:

I skip showers a lot when I'm off since I work indoors anyway. I have read that skipping showers is good for the skin and I do look younger than my years I do use a lot of hand sanitizer though because I work with the public

What do you do that makes other people say "ew?"

jeffy comments on Feb 16, 2018:

Not washing my jeans for a week. Washing just makes them wear out faster right? There's a simple rule of thumb - when they stand up by themselves - it's time for the laundry.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 16, 2018:

My son was a proponent of this as a teen

Have you had your DNA tested?

mkeaman comments on Feb 16, 2018:

The thought of discovering who I am makes me want to be curious. However I am dubious of these different services. While, I think, they can only come to present conclusions only by accumulating a large database of former clients, is the old inputted data really that valid enough to give valid ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 16, 2018:

@PappyOnWings I went with 23 and me but thinking I should have used ancestry. I will see how mine and daughter's matches up and still might do another.

Fair Warning : Adult content.

ErikGunderson comments on Feb 15, 2018:

Well, obviously Sweetheart Sean is the choice here! I read stories like this from women looking for dates online; I hear stories from women I know about the men who date them or at least try to -- and I wonder, a nice guy like me who doesn't think discussing his penis or sexual proclivities right...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 15, 2018:

@ErikGunderson That's not far at all. Hopefully it wont be the same week I visit my parents in Alabama

Thanks for starting a Florida group! Anyone in SOUTH Florida?

DJVJ311 comments on Feb 15, 2018:

Orlando here.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 15, 2018:

Lived in Ocoee for a year then spent 9 years in Kissimmee

Welcome everyone.

wordywalt comments on Feb 13, 2018:

Should any of you travel to the Tampa Bay area, I would be glad to meet you -- not for dating, but simply to get to know you as a person. Personally, I do not travel very much any more.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 15, 2018:

@wordywalt Not certain yet. I think it will be mid March

Do people of above average intelligence have a harder time finding a partner?

jayneonacobb comments on Feb 15, 2018:

There are more stupid people than smart ones. Smart people are also prone to depression and reclusive behaviors. They also tend to be spread out.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 15, 2018:

Ignorance really is bliss

Do people of above average intelligence have a harder time finding a partner?

ScienceBiker comments on Feb 15, 2018:

My biased opinion is yes. But I think that's because of percentages. Human intelligence, if we agree on the definition, is on a sliding scale. I don't know what you think about the IQ rating but I have heard that we have difficulty relating to + or - 10 points from our IQ. Mine is 138. In ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 15, 2018:

I have found that even though I feel affection for my less intelligent friends or significant others, I do not respect them. Looking back, I realize that I failed to fully conceal that fact.

Another f@!king mass shooting here in America! At least 17 dead, 23 injured.

LeighShelton comments on Feb 15, 2018:

There so lacking in gun regulations and aren't willing to change them for the common man. gun sales go up when this happens and that suits them as they don't really give a fuck.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 15, 2018:

@LeighShelton I read an interview with one of the bodyguards of the performer and he said that they were armed but couldn't fire back because they did not initially realize where the shots were coming from and because they knew the cops would be looking for people with guns.

School Shootings: What are the answers?

Akfishlady comments on Feb 14, 2018:

I believe that some of these events happen because the person with some mental issues gets to go down in history, some kind of sick notoriety. If they didn't get the coverage, they would not be interested in going after places where people are gathered. This is just a little bit of the story, I ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 15, 2018:

@Trajan61 So in addition to the notoriously low pay a teacher receives, they must also spend even more unpaid time learning/ practicing to shoot in order to act as bodyguards? Teachers are going to be concerned about getting those kids safely hidden, not engaging in a shootout over their heads.

Fair Warning : Adult content.

ErikGunderson comments on Feb 15, 2018:

Well, obviously Sweetheart Sean is the choice here! I read stories like this from women looking for dates online; I hear stories from women I know about the men who date them or at least try to -- and I wonder, a nice guy like me who doesn't think discussing his penis or sexual proclivities right...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 15, 2018:

I'd go out with you but location location location.

Welcome everyone.

wordywalt comments on Feb 13, 2018:

Should any of you travel to the Tampa Bay area, I would be glad to meet you -- not for dating, but simply to get to know you as a person. Personally, I do not travel very much any more.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 15, 2018:

I will be heading that way soon

Anyone make any close connections yet?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 11, 2018:

No but then it has only been a couple of months since I joined and only been active for a couple of weeks or so

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 15, 2018:

@BlueWave Nope, I guess I do not get notifications LOL I have now responded

Can a moderate have a place in this agnostic site?

Corvus comments on Feb 10, 2018:

Absolutely , we are not savages

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 13, 2018:

@MST3K A comment made by DeHermit reminded me of a saying I heard long ago: treat your problems like a dog would. If you can't eat it or screw it, piss on it and walk away.

Can a moderate have a place in this agnostic site?

Corvus comments on Feb 10, 2018:

Absolutely , we are not savages

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 13, 2018:

@MST3K I think you may be correct about who it was directed at but I wasn't offended- just being funny. And failing apparently LOL

Welcome everyone.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 12, 2018:

I'm in Florida and would love to meet up with anyone visiting

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 13, 2018:

@witchymom Fort Pierce. Roughly halfway between Orlando and Miami on the East coast.

Do you think I have stepped on someone's toes here by my views?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 12, 2018:

I think this question means you are looking for validation. I vaguely remember you disagreeing with me about something but didn't/don't care enough to be upset about it

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 13, 2018:

@0752532706 Ok. I see no reason to not accept your explanation. But why did you ask the question then? Yeah you want to know if you stepped on toes but WHY do you want to know?

Can a moderate have a place in this agnostic site?

stinkeye_a comments on Feb 10, 2018:

I'm confused as to why you would think you "don't fit in" here on the basis of politics, when this is not a political forum. It's not a forum for "left leaning liberals" so why does it matter if you're not one? Have you been attacked for your views? Block, report, and/or stop talking politics....

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 12, 2018:

@Leutrelle I used to be very conservative until I started talking to humanists and other non-believers. But still I know a few atheists that are not very left.

Can a moderate have a place in this agnostic site?

Corvus comments on Feb 10, 2018:

Absolutely , we are not savages

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 12, 2018:

@MST3K Act like a dog. If you can't eat it or fuck it, piss on it and walk away?

Can a moderate have a place in this agnostic site?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 10, 2018:

I call myself a progressive yet I would not support a ban on guns. I am also for the death penalty in cases where there is no doubt of guilt and little likelihood of rehabilitation. I'm talking serial killers and cold blooded murder here, not people convicted on the unreliable eye witness testimony....

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 12, 2018:

@BlueWave I was on food stamps as a child and those things were not permitted. because they were not healthy. They can still have candy and chips but must pay for them with their paycheck. Those unhealthy eating habits are costing us way too much money since people on food stamps are often on Medicade as well and their food related health issues impact all of society

End of cavities: We may soon be able to regrow our teeth | Genetic Literacy Project

Rugglesby comments on Feb 12, 2018:

I regrow my teeth in a different way, I was born with a few extra sets, most teeth I seem to have had 3, canines I have had 4 sets. Apparently it is not as rare as you would think. So, I have had more taken out than most and still have an almost complete set.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 12, 2018:

@Rugglesby My youngest son didnt lose his baby teeth so had to have extractions and braces because some of his teeth came in through the palate. But he only had the two sets

Have meaningful, enjoyable work that provides a living income?

William_Mary comments on Feb 11, 2018:

We are in shortage of over the road truck drivers. If you have no immediate responsibilities at home it can be quite profitable. As an OTR driver you get a large tax break from your take home pay. Expenses while on the road are quite low if you're not a materialistic type of buyer. Leaving one the ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 12, 2018:

I wanted to drive over the road when I was young but women were not accepted then. I fear am too old to learn but often felt like the perfect relationship for me would be with a OTR trucker and occasionally go with.

Do you think other people generally see you, as you see yourself?

Tiffanee comments on Feb 11, 2018:

A lot of people have the wrong impression of me till they get to know me and it does become tedious.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 12, 2018:

People think I am stern and uptight when in reality I am quite funny

End of cavities: We may soon be able to regrow our teeth | Genetic Literacy Project

Rugglesby comments on Feb 12, 2018:

I regrow my teeth in a different way, I was born with a few extra sets, most teeth I seem to have had 3, canines I have had 4 sets. Apparently it is not as rare as you would think. So, I have had more taken out than most and still have an almost complete set.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 12, 2018:

That made me feel really jealous lol

What matters more? Character vs. Personality

Hope4Zoe comments on Feb 11, 2018:

It's got to be a wee bit of both. I have a friend who is loving, caring, and kind, but she's such a downer. Her actions and deeds are kind and loving but her words are dark and depressing. It's hard to be around her.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 12, 2018:

I have a friend like that and it can be mentally exhausting to always have to build them up

Finally watching Wonder Woman.

webbew1 comments on Feb 11, 2018:

Why? Because sex sells. From Hollywood blockbuster action films geared towards men with tacked on female eye candy to trashy female-centric "so called" plot driven porn novels like Fifty Shades Of Gray. So long as it puts a shit ton of money in somebody's pocket, that dynamic will never change.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 11, 2018:

Never read the book or seen the movie. People kept telling me to read but their descriptions of why I should did nothing to convince me I would want to.

Finally watching Wonder Woman.

hlfsousa comments on Feb 11, 2018:

What kind of comments do women make about Thor? That he is strong? Noble enough to wield the Mjolnir?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 11, 2018:

@NeoXerops LOL. I know who Momoa is because he was on stargate the series which I loved then he kept turning up in my shows. I am not really a fan of actors since they lie for a living but have had crushes on characters. Like Loki in the avenger movies. I don't know the whole name of the actor that plays him but I love Loki for being a smartass