Never make eye contact while eating a banana

Funandfondles comments on Feb 11, 2018:

I’m the kind of person that if someone were to stare at me while over sexualizing the consumption of a banana, I would stare at them back. It’s funny when people try to make you uncomfortable, and find themselves to be the one who’s uncomfortable. I got a prank call from someone that tried to ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 11, 2018:

I'd add a little wink

Do you have a particular neighbor that can be annoying?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 10, 2018:

Not yet LOL I've had this house 3 years now and nothing is really bothering me. A few irritants here and there. Many years ago when I was young even more immature, I allowed myself to be drawn into a war with the neighbor one side. A pair of unsupervised teen age girls. And their unsupervised ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 11, 2018:

@Betty I wouldn't know since it wasn't my car tee hee but I sure hoped so. Never saw that car next door again

Finally watching Wonder Woman.

hlfsousa comments on Feb 11, 2018:

What kind of comments do women make about Thor? That he is strong? Noble enough to wield the Mjolnir?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 11, 2018:

@NeoXerops Jason Momoa. Makes me wish I were younger lol

Stupid question time: My washing machine turns everything other-side-to.

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 9, 2018:

Stupid question: are you sure you are not partially turning things as you remove them? And then the agitator is simply finishing the job?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 10, 2018:

@Dick_Martin recently, I noticed that one or two uniform shirts will have one arm inside out and practically wrapped around the neck.

Most common atheist stereotypes or misconceptions you've encountered?

Crimson67 comments on Feb 10, 2018:

That we hate god or that we "turned against god" because someone hurt us.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 10, 2018:

I get that one a lot

What is a common saying or slang that you really dislike?

twshield comments on Feb 7, 2018:

i also hate the term "baby momma" ...so not right!

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 9, 2018:

@Taijiguy Oops

What is a common saying or slang that you really dislike?

BlueWave comments on Feb 8, 2018:

Since you mentioned it, definitely "Whatever." About two years before my dad died, he picked that up as a habit. I finally told him "You cannot say whatever to me anymore. Or to anybody. It sounds very dismissive." He was genuinely surprised and tried really hard to not to do it. If he did, he...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 8, 2018:

I like the word Hangry.I know people that get nasty when they're hungry and it's a perfect descriptor. I have used the phrase hit me up long before the kids starting using it.

What is a common saying or slang that you really dislike?

ChristiHeart comments on Feb 7, 2018:

It drives me insane when people around me say miss miss..instead of calling me by my name

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 8, 2018:

@BlueWave Miss is a southern thing. I grew up here and it irritates me but I've given up trying to change it.

What is a common saying or slang that you really dislike?

ScienceBill72 comments on Feb 7, 2018:

One that always has annoyed is oh my bad, and oh when they were born they broke the mold lol

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 8, 2018:

I say my bad a lot LOL. Picked it up about 10 years ago when my then boyfriend flipped his shit over his daughter using it. Now it's habit.

What is a common saying or slang that you really dislike?

twshield comments on Feb 7, 2018:

i also hate the term "baby momma" ...so not right!

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 8, 2018:

@Taijiguy Because very often the baby daddy is not the husband or boyfriend.

Do you invest in Bitcoin?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 6, 2018:

I have about 80 bucks in it. Similar amounts in Ehtereum and Litecoin

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 8, 2018:

@firecracker Wish I had bought in back 13 when I first read about it

Do you invest in Bitcoin?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 6, 2018:

I have about 80 bucks in it. Similar amounts in Ehtereum and Litecoin

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 7, 2018:

@firecracker Im holding and pretty much breaking even but that is because my ETH is taking up the slack for BTC. I bought in around November

Can black people be racist?

LeighShelton comments on Feb 7, 2018:

look up the word race and you will see it has got nothing to do with colour. in fact, to a degree, it's natural self-preservation. everyone lies and everyone judges too for the same reason. I watched an experiment with a little girl. first, the people doing the human experiment dressed her as if she...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 7, 2018:

I saw that too. Sad

Can black people be racist?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 7, 2018:

I think a better word may be bigoted or prejudiced in which case, absolutely they can be. Two of my grandchildren have a black father and one has an Chinese mother. My asian grandson is only in kindergarten so hasn't been out and about enough to notice issues. Since I look younger, the black ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 7, 2018:

@William_Mary I guess some people see a difference between racism and prejudice. Racism involves some level of power and is race specific whereas prejudice/bigotry does not necessarily require race as a component to exist. For example, LBTQ being denied a wedding cake is bigotry but not racism because it is not based on skin color.

I feel like the atheist community needs to do more charity work. Any suggestions?

Funandfondles comments on Feb 7, 2018:

I was always taught that actions speak louder than words, first, it would be nice to have a physical community, then organize charity events that people can attend or donate to. I’m not a fan of donating to charity because I don’t always agree with how the money is spent. When I was in a group ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 7, 2018:

Look for something less mainstream. A club or activity that requires fees or equipment and sponsor a child. My daughter cannot afford to pay for her children's sports activities because she is a single mother. That is where I come in but I have occasionally helped another child. For example, it costs around $500 bucks for a boy to play kiddie football for a year with much of it being equipment. That is something you can support and know where the money went I want to add that not all of that money is due at once. They need the equipment by a certain date but not immediately

Who else will ignore Valentine's day?

Funandfondles comments on Feb 7, 2018:

I think I’ll go grocery shopping, lines should be low. I thought about getting some people having a hard time with Valentine’s Day some chocolate, so I may still act sporadically, not sure how I’ll feel later.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 7, 2018:

No they won't. You'd be surprised how many people are buying roses, beer and wine at the last minute. But I like your idea. There are a couple of people I work with that are single and sad about it. I may leave something in their work areas anonymously. People think I am an asshole and I like it that way

Who else will ignore Valentine's day?

evestrat comments on Feb 7, 2018:

This year I am giving dorky valentines to some of my labmates and close friends ... I'm a science nerd so of course they will be appropriately themed :-D I know VD tends to be focused on romantic couples, but I see it also as an opportunity to show others you love them too. And since this ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 7, 2018:

I like this idea.

What do you consider to be the greatest nation on earth if you had to choose?

steve148 comments on Feb 7, 2018:

I can't believe all of you are ready to flee to another country. America is a great place. It's currently fucked up because of the orange one. But you should all be fighting to change things not letting Trump goons chase you out. I remember when free thinking people fraught for this land of ours. I ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 7, 2018:

I get where you are coming from and I grew up loving my country while distrusting the government but America's problem pre-date trump. He has made us a laughing stock but so did Bush Jr. The graft and corruption has been there for a long long time. IMO, America stopped being great when we started meddling in other country's affairs in order to secure their raw materials for OUR way of life. We brought "democracy" to country's rich with oil or other resources but ignore ones that have nothing we want.

Do you have any bumper stickers on your car?

Wafflestomp comments on Feb 6, 2018:

Can read most of ‘em if you enlarge

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 7, 2018:

Mine looks a little like yours. Too many to list so will upload a pic when daylight is here

How old would you be if you forgot about your true age?

Danigirl comments on Feb 7, 2018:

I've heard that however old you are when you are dreaming is, roughly, your mental age. I'm around 25.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 7, 2018:

Damn. I'm not sure what age I am in my dreams. I don't dream often

I have to have a plumber come rescue me tomorrow and it's gonna cost $90 an hour.

birdingnut comments on Feb 6, 2018:

That's a great idea if you like to mess with tools (I sure do) and obviously, you can make money. It usually takes two to five years to become a licensed plumber, depending on the requirements of your state. Some require technical classes, and all require apprenticeship hours, which can last 2-5 ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

this comment got me to level 6. Thanks

I have to have a plumber come rescue me tomorrow and it's gonna cost $90 an hour.

richiegtt comments on Feb 6, 2018:

Plumbing is much easier than it was years ago due to all the prefabricated parts,fittings, flex braided hose, PVC pipe etc.A type of repair fitting called a Pushfit shark bite fitting enable all pipes to be but together without threading, soldering etc. I never have to call a plumber

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

The kitchen is a mix of pvc, metal and copper pipes lol

I have to have a plumber come rescue me tomorrow and it's gonna cost $90 an hour.

LuckySeven comments on Feb 6, 2018:

The last time I hired a plumber, he told me it would be $60 for the first 15 minutes! (Basically, I paid him to show up.) Luckily, he was straight-up and fixed my leaky pipe for less than $100 and was gone in less than an hour. I do most of my own plumbing. It really isn't that hard to figure ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

When I was younger and married, we would do things ourselves but now that I am older and have less money to play with, my fear of making things worse keeps me from trying in most cases. Gonna work on that aspect of myself

Do you invest in Bitcoin?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 6, 2018:

I have about 80 bucks in it. Similar amounts in Ehtereum and Litecoin

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

@Redcupcoffee Im using coinbase as a wallet

I have to have a plumber come rescue me tomorrow and it's gonna cost $90 an hour.

jeffy comments on Feb 6, 2018:

What is wrong?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

faucet leaking from both both under the sink and above. Dishwasher does not drain. Bought a new dishwasher, it wont drain either.

I have to have a plumber come rescue me tomorrow and it's gonna cost $90 an hour.

KKGator comments on Feb 6, 2018:

You can learn to do anything. No matter how old you are. I couldn't tell you what the rates for plumbers are here. My nephew is pretty freakin' handy and can fix most things. What he can't fix, he usually has a friend who is well-versed in whatever area he needs help with. Networking is a ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

I had one close friend since I was 14. We are no longer friends and with having moved here not long ago, I haven't made new ones. Grieving the loss of the bff I guess

I have to have a plumber come rescue me tomorrow and it's gonna cost $90 an hour.

kiramea comments on Feb 6, 2018:

I just had one over today to install an already purchased tankless water heater. The total charged was over $800; almost $500 being labor ($133 an hour). Now I get to get an electrician over since apparently the electrical wire I have to it is too small. It keeps tripping the breaker. Joy, ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

I had to have electrical done as soon as I moved in. Ive been living with no dishwasher for the last 3 years but now that water is leaking from everywhere, I have no choice. I did a refi on the house to get hurricane shutters and a couple of other things but now some of it is going to go here. At the shutters look nice

I have to have a plumber come rescue me tomorrow and it's gonna cost $90 an hour.

Shelton comments on Feb 6, 2018:

I had to hire a plumber last month. That is exactly what I paid. If it is a small job you could consider hiring a handyman.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

I had a handyman in when I first bought it 3 years ago and he took care of what he could. There is an electrical issue beyond him and his solution for the original plumbing issue was to replace everything to the tune of 800 bucks just for parts. I passed but now I have to do something and decided a pro was best

I'm so happy right now! Turned off the thermostat (heat).

BucketlistBob comments on Feb 6, 2018:

Got the AC on...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

@KKGator I wouldn't have let a little one go in. They were 12 and 17

I'm so happy right now! Turned off the thermostat (heat).

BucketlistBob comments on Feb 6, 2018:

Got the AC on...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

@KKGator My grandkids wouldn't let up about getting in the pool last year despite my telling them it was too cold. Im a bad grandma because I got tired of arguing and decided it was hard lesson time. They're not bugging me this year lol. Their mom was a bit peeved with me but in all fairness you get what you pay for and I am a free babysitter

What kind of snob are you?

dkp93 comments on Jan 27, 2018:

One thing I am a snob about that I have not seen mentioned here is sticky notes. Post-Its are the ONLY acceptable brand!! I use them all the time at home and work. I have to supply my own since my employer buys Office Depot brand and healthcare marketing people bring us their lousy off-brand ones. ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

and even the caps of highlighters

What kind of snob are you?

astardrifter comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I am basically a proponent of laissez faire. To me, snobbery implies looking down on others. I don't like myself when I do that, but sometimes I do it anyway. I consider myself knowledgeable about certain topics, mostly of a creative bent. My friends consider me a poor person's bohemian Martha ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

I tend to mix slang with a proper vocabulary. I don't know why

What kind of snob are you?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 26, 2018:

I won't buy generic toilet paper

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Menstrual_cup

I don't drink alcohol.

AxeElf comments on Feb 5, 2018:

There are a lot better drugs than the ones involving spoiled produce.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

LOL. I think I'm gonna steal that

I don't drink alcohol.

SilverDollarJedi comments on Feb 6, 2018:

Alcohol is a drug like any other. It alters the way your brain works. Anyone who says alcohol isn't a drug (believe me they are out there..) needs to educate themselves a little further. Hell tylenol is a drug. Caffeine and nicotine are drugs. Where I think the confusion lies whether intended or ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

cannabis is illegal because of politics. Perhaps it will change soon but probably not during my employment. My employer uses a mouth swab test on site so I dare not take the chance

I don't drink alcohol.

stinkeye_a comments on Feb 5, 2018:

Let me know when you find out. I live in a place where drinking is an end all to itself. "What're you gonna do?" "Go drink.". I still don't get it. And getting drunk to the point you puke is *totally normal*, even habitual for some! WTF kind of bizarro world did I get teleported to??

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 6, 2018:

@Leutrelle and the town I live in although they like to do sitting around a fire in the back yard

You slept with how many?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 1, 2018:

I don't need to know how many sexual partners someone has had before I came into the picture. I appreciate experience and do not care where they got it. Fairly certain I would not answer such a question either.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 5, 2018:

@mangro I'm not insane enough leave any kind of evidence lol

SURGERY Getting right knee replaced 22 Feb.

Crimson67 comments on Feb 5, 2018:

I am a medical massage therapist and a good 75% of my patients are knee or hip replacements. I work long term care/physical rehab center and the key is the therapy. As soon as you are allowed, get up and get moving. Keep the pain killers to a minimum, use the heat/ice they provide and if your ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 5, 2018:

@kmdskit3 CPM is a machine that bends your knee for you. https://www.verywell.com/do-i-need-a-cpm-following-knee-surgery-2548662

Purpose

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 5, 2018:

I don't know anymore. I feel like I have no sense of purpose currently. I have always had goals and still do but my current goals are vague and I feel a sense of dissatisfaction with my life. I applied to help with an anti-poverty group on Friday despite not being able to attend their orientation...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 5, 2018:

@kmdskit3 Orlando is 3 hours away. Ironically I lived in Orlando and Kissimmee for years even though I had no close friends and little family I think I was less dissatisfied because there was always something to do. I live in a town where there is nothing going on which added to my schedule of being in bed before dark so I can get up at 3am has just sucked.

How proud are you of your state?

Reaver85 comments on Feb 5, 2018:

Dissapointed. Florida is one of the worse state'. It's filled with racism. The amount of drug users is ridiculous, it's more than any large city per capita and because of this crime is very high aswell us unemployment rates being pretty high. Florida is environmentally dirty morals are almost non ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 5, 2018:

Yup and we have Rick Scott in charge along with Brian Mast and let's not forget Mar a lago

What types of things do you take note of and recall easily?

stinkeye_a comments on Feb 5, 2018:

Oh Lort... Words, including names. If I write something down even once, I'll never forget it. Audio recall is pretty good, too.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 5, 2018:

Me too. I found out in high school that writing down ensured I would remember it.

Are you good at small talk?

PeppermintDreads comments on Feb 5, 2018:

I don’t. Having a case of RBF prevents a lot of small talk to begin with.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 5, 2018:

I have rbf as well and the constant "why are you in a bad mood" shit gets old. If I smile a genuine smile, my face transforms but most of the time, the smile is fake since I am in retail. I had lavender hair for a while which worked but the employer demanded I get rid of it so I started getting funky glasses when I had to renew my script. I had some bright green ones but I guess the shape didn't help. The pair I got a week back is noticeably cat eyed and I see people looking at my eyes more.

How to Know if a Nuclear Bomb Is Coming

KKGator comments on Feb 4, 2018:

If the bombs start dropping, I don't see any chance of real preventable casualties. My only hope is if the day does come, I'm at ground zero. I don't want to deal with any kind of aftermath. I'd just as soon go out in the first wave. I'd rather be vaporized than die slowly from radiation ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 4, 2018:

I've always said this myself

Maya ruins discovered in Guatemala: Civilization was much vaster than known, thousands of structures...

Leutrelle comments on Feb 3, 2018:

I really love to hear this. The Mayan culture is fascinating. If you ever get chance to see them I highly recommend it. Here is a picture of that stone ring that they throw a ball through. I say having a site built for sports makes them an advanced civilization. Blow it up so you can see it:)

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 4, 2018:

I visited Tulum but was so rushed by the tour guide that I didn't feel done.

How does everyone deal with the feelings of loneliness if your single.

ollieberry comments on Feb 4, 2018:

Its no fun cooking an eating by yourself, Its no fun going out to eat or to the movies by yourself. Its no fun taking a road trip or vacation by yourself. Its no fun going to the beach or hiking or having a few drinks on the back deck on a nice summer day by yourself. But I do it. I just go ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 4, 2018:

I could have written this

It is my belief that slavery is alive, and more wide spread than any time in human history.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I disagree with what you consider slavery. Since your children cannot be sold, you are not a slave. Since you can choose to leave without being whipped or killed, you are not a slave

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 3, 2018:

@DwayneHicks Tagging is used to draw your attention to their comment for you.

Krispy Kreme donuts are coming! The thing about that is, they will have one store to start with, ...

Charlene comments on Feb 2, 2018:

Of course..low income marginalized peoples are alway targets of junk food companies..and liquor stores..and pubs. Btw Krispy Krem doughnuts Suck..bleeeeck!

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 3, 2018:

The one I lived near was a few miles from Disney which was very expensive to live in.

What's a good romantic gift someone could give you?

Akfishlady comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I love flowers but prefer an experience. Something like a weekend getaway to the beach and stay in a yurt, or a concert and a funky room in a 1910 hotel in a small town where you can walk and feel safe. I recently gave my son's girlfriend tickets to the symphony. They went to watch a movie with ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 3, 2018:

and will always be a reminder of you

I get this all the time. Where do you find your morality if you don’t believe in god?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I found mine in a box of cracker jacks I have never been asked that question. I have gotten the what happens when you die a lot and the occasional what happened to make you angry at god stuff but never anything about morality.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 3, 2018:

@MatthewX It could be simply that they have no idea what a humanist is and think it is just some alternate religion LOL I have found that most uneducated people will pretend to know what you are saying rather than admit they're clueless

It is my belief that slavery is alive, and more wide spread than any time in human history.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I disagree with what you consider slavery. Since your children cannot be sold, you are not a slave. Since you can choose to leave without being whipped or killed, you are not a slave

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 3, 2018:

@DwayneHicks Patience grasshopper, I get up at 3am so was probably asleep when you made your reply. Yes I would prefer indentured servitude or serfs. Work does not dominate my time- social media does. We choose our jobs, they are not chosen for us by some master. Those choices may be limited by our skill set or education but still are our choice. As for laws, many of them protect workers from abuse. Yes the draft is there but that is a weak argument for the existence of slavery I acknowledge that this subject is a bit of a red cape for me since my grandchildren are descended from slaves on their father's side. They are 11 and 13 and their confusion is distressing.

About you?

Rugglesby comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I don;t really like myself very much, I am my own greatest critic and biggest disappointment. I am honest, and I learn and understand new things faster than anybody I have met in my life, pity that as I get older, I forget so much.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 2, 2018:

That strikes a chord with me. I think of myself as impatient when little inconvenienced happen but then the other day I realized that I only get angry when it's something I did rather than someone else. For example. I set my phone on the corner of the nitestand to move some shit around, I said to myself it's gonna fall but didn't move it. I got pissed when it fell. I think Im mad at myself for something.lol

Mike Pence Promises Christians Will Get Special Protection

KKGator comments on Feb 2, 2018:

Time for that religutard to be removed. He needs to get booted before anything happens to 45. As bad as Cheeto-vonTweeto is, Pence is exponentially worse.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 2, 2018:

Cheeto von Tweeto is a new one. LOL

Are you for tipping or anti- tipping syndrome?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 2, 2018:

If you can't afford to tip, you shouldn't be eating out. Buy food and make your own meal

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 2, 2018:

@0752532706 Good question. There are a few jobs that people are generally expected to tip for and some others where it is hoped for. I am not such a big tipper outside of food service and hair stylist. The few times I have taken a taxi I tipped. When traveling, I expect to tip for everything and do because I know the tips are how their living is made. I tip big at restaurants because I know they only make around 2 bucks an hour

Got my bi-yearly jury summons and wonder how everyone else handles the oath part.

RandyWells comments on Feb 2, 2018:

hum I wonder what would happen if you told the judge you can not swear an oath based on religious beliefs? that your an atheist? I cant imagine they would make you? and seems to me that violates church and state?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 2, 2018:

I can't seem myself being selected by either side but if I am, I will not swear on a bible. I'm considered a troublemaker anyway because I won't shut up and keep the peace about other shit either.

What countries have you visited, or would like to visit?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Feb 2, 2018:

Belize, Mexico, Roatan, Grand Cayman, Jamaica via a cruise ship The first cruise I saw and climbed mayan ruins 3 out of 4 ports and will probably do so again On the second cruise we rented vehicles and geo cached. The inland side of Cozumel is wild and beautiful but no sandy beaches so almost no...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 2, 2018:

@LejaJ Whelp, the Caribbean is warm for sure.

Are you for tipping or anti- tipping syndrome?

PhoebeCat comments on Feb 1, 2018:

I tip between 20-25% when I go to a restaurant because they a significantly underpaid for a very hard job. I tip my hairdresser because she goes out of her way to accommodate my weird schedule. She also does an amazing job.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 2, 2018:

My hair is always cut perfectly but she charges 14 bucks so I round up to 20

Are you for tipping or anti- tipping syndrome?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 2, 2018:

Waitpersons make, at best HALF of minimum wage Plus pay taxes on what the government ASSUMES they make on tips! Try buying groceries, shelter, a vehicle etc on that........

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 2, 2018:

@0752532706 The lobbyists

Do you think that Oprah could defeat the nazi buffoon in 2020?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 8, 2018:

No I don't think she could beat him. The first female republican will be a female. Most white women voted for trump because they felt it was in the best interest of their husbands so they are extremely unlikely to vote for a dem female for similar reasons. They may however vote differently from...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 2, 2018:

That should have read The first female president will be a republican. Wtf sherry. Proofread your shit

Got my bi-yearly jury summons and wonder how everyone else handles the oath part.

jlynn37 comments on Feb 1, 2018:

I have always found ways to be rejected as a juror so I have never had to deal with it. I would hope that I would just refuse to say the oath on the book.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 1, 2018:

My criminal justice degree means the defense doesn't want me and being related to criminals means the prosecution doesn't either. But every two years I get to go sit in the pool all day. My employer pays me and since I get up at 3am on work days, it's a nice little break

Have you ever been told you look like someone famous?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 31, 2018:

Yes, Bette Davis....all my life.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 1, 2018:

@twshield I saw a movie called whatever happened to baby jane and I became obsessed with Crawford LOL After the book came out, I started calling my mother mommie dearest to be a shit. She now signs her emails with mommie dearest

Have you ever been told you look like someone famous?

SteveB comments on Jan 31, 2018:

I've never had anyone compare me to a celebrity. I'm just uniquely handsome all on my own! Modest too! ;)

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 1, 2018:

My mother used to say that to me.

What life-altering things should every human ideally get to experience at least once in their lives?

BawdyEclectic comments on Feb 1, 2018:

Getting off a plane in a different country where the language, the food, the smell, and the sights are new and different. To your point you have to travel somewhere at least once in your life to have some context for your world view.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 1, 2018:

I was gonna say travel. My daughter forced me to go on a cruise with her little over a year ago and I climbed Altun Ha among others at every port and even though I always wanted to see other lands, I didn't. Now I am seriously considering retirement in a foreign country.

Have you ever been told you look like someone famous?

SteveB comments on Jan 31, 2018:

I've never had anyone compare me to a celebrity. I'm just uniquely handsome all on my own! Modest too! ;)

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 1, 2018:

@SteveB Holy crap he does.

Have you ever been told you look like someone famous?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 31, 2018:

Yes, Bette Davis....all my life.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 1, 2018:

@twshield Sorry, that was Joan Crawford.

Have you ever been told you look like someone famous?

RichCC comments on Jan 31, 2018:

I don't know about famous but many years ago in Tucson I was told by more than one person that there was someone else in town who could have been my twin. I never happened to meet them and I never figured out if my 'twin' should have felt insulted by the idea or I should. HaHa.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 1, 2018:

There was someone at my high school that looked enough like me that I got asked at least once a week why I had changed clothes. Apparently she liked wearing dresses whereas I was usually sitting cross legged in a weed circle outside before school, during lunch, after school so did not wear dresses

Have you ever been told you look like someone famous?

Or-Humanist comments on Jan 31, 2018:

No, but several times in the past, I was told that I look like i might have some spanish blood in me. Thought, well that is cool, and let it go. My daughter and I recently had DNA tests, with the idea that the difference between mine and my daughter should give some ideas of what her mother's DNA ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 1, 2018:

Neither does my response to your response but I'm waiting for results from a test both my daughter and I took.

Have you ever been told you look like someone famous?

Duke comments on Jan 31, 2018:

When I was younger, I was always told I looked like Peter Frampton.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 1, 2018:

I'm kind of a sucker for long hair on a man.

Do we really value free speech anymore?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 30, 2018:

When did someone go to jail for hurting someone's feelings? I really need to see the citation for that.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Feb 1, 2018:

@Atheistman I wanted to know what part of my statement you were referring to so I could address it but despite my repeated requests for clarification you refuse to engage in anything other childish insults so I suspect your only interest here is trolling or perhaps you are simply obdurately doubling down. Either way this current conversation is a waste of my time.

Do we really value free speech anymore?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 30, 2018:

When did someone go to jail for hurting someone's feelings? I really need to see the citation for that.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 31, 2018:

@Atheistman No I didn't but since your comments do not post immediately whereas mine do, I can see why you may think otherwise. I posted both comments mere minutes apart but I did not see your rock comment until this morning. But since I had already said that there was a difference between hurt feelings and threats I thought perhaps the second post was superfluous. Apparently not. I can't really tell if the false outrage you refer to is a comment I missed or something you erroneously are accusing me of but I stand behind what I said above Edited at 6:06 pm EST to add that I was not outraged, upset, angry or any other adjective when I asked what you meant by living under a rock. I still do not know what you meant.

I just shared with a friend of 35 yr, that I am on Agnostic.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 31, 2018:

I had something similar happen. It sucks.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 31, 2018:

@Freedompath The friendship no longer exists. We had been friends since the mid 70s so I think I overlooked how one sided the friendship was but she started saying racist shit and I called her on it. She tried to make me feel guilty with the "I thought I could say anything to you and not be judged" crap Funny how the more religious she became, the more verbal her racism was. Or perhaps the trump climate emboldened what was already there. Hell if I know. But what kind of friend uses the N word to someone that has mixed grandchildren?

If you ever attended church, did you ever pay tithe?

Pfr1998 comments on Jan 30, 2018:

I never did because I was just a kid, but my Granny did. She was not one of those "I have to because its "required" " and they didn't give you the 3rd degree at the door. I don't go now, but I still give to United Way not at all for any kind of religous reasons but because it's the right thing to ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 31, 2018:

I have a payroll deduction going to a local charity that provides medical care to low income children.

What’s a petty reason you won’t date a man/woman?

Rugglesby comments on Jan 31, 2018:

Smoking

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 31, 2018:

I don't think smoking is a petty reason. There are real dangers associated with second hand smoke in addition to the inconvenient ones.

Do we really value free speech anymore?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 30, 2018:

When did someone go to jail for hurting someone's feelings? I really need to see the citation for that.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 31, 2018:

@Atheistman In what way am I living under a rock? Are you saying there is no difference between hurt feelings and bullying, therefore I am mistaken? Or are you referring to something else?

Do we really value free speech anymore?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 30, 2018:

When did someone go to jail for hurting someone's feelings? I really need to see the citation for that.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 30, 2018:

Just to reiterate and clarify- I see a distinct difference between bullying and hurt feelings that come from a conversation or presentation. In the former, there is an informed sustained deliberate intention to cause emotional harm to a chosen target. Which is far different than the hurt feelings that arise from someone making an inflammatory or even an asshole comment during a talk or conversation

Would You Be Ok With Your Child Choosing To Be a Believer?

Trajan61 comments on Jan 30, 2018:

Unfortunately both my children claim to be believers and have asked me not to discuss my lack belief with my grandchildren. My 6 year old grandson is already concerned I’m going to hell as he asked me if I believed in god and I told him I don’t believe in something that doesn’t exist. Maybe ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 30, 2018:

At that age, my now atheist son was concerned about my fate as well. I do not discuss my humanism much because it doesn't come up. The kids went to some humanist meetings with me which I was surprised my daughter allowed but she says they can make up their own minds just like she did. There were a couple of times long ago that the youngest one asked me why I don't believe and I said that I wasn't sure her mother would like us discussing it and it was dropped. They are now 11 and 13 and if they ask again, I will discuss it but they read and research shit on their own so if they want to know, they likely already do. I hope it gets better with your children when your grandchild is older

Would You Be Ok With Your Child Choosing To Be a Believer?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 30, 2018:

My adult daughter IS a believer and lives with me. So do 2 of her 3 children. My older son says he believes but I do not think so. My youngest son is openly atheist. I think my daughter barely believes and only clings to it because she had a still born daughter that she believes is in heaven...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 30, 2018:

@twshield I've been fortunate that few in my family care deeply about it. When my kids were young, they went to church with friends or not as they pleased, My youngest at one time said I was a sinner for being in a relationship with a woman but he outgrew it. As for my daughter, we rarely discuss religion. Her kids are aware of my views and see it as no big deal since my daughter sees it as no big deal SN her friend prays for me daily I hear lol. There was a child at the grandkids school being bullied for being an atheist and both my grandchildren defended him for having the right to believe what he wanted. They came home and asked their mother if they were in the right and she unequivocally stated that they were.

If you were asked to submit a song for a porn soundtrack, what song would you add?

resserts comments on Jan 30, 2018:

I want to come up with something funny, but that part of my brain isn't working right now. So, I'll just post this instead (NSFW): https://youtu.be/o9OGV0-jRf8

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 30, 2018:

There must be something wrong with me because I have no shortage of songs coming to mind LOL seewhatididthere? lol

Do we really value free speech anymore?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 30, 2018:

When did someone go to jail for hurting someone's feelings? I really need to see the citation for that.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 30, 2018:

Threats are different than hurting feelings. And threats against a head of state will be taken very seriously. I didn't initially realize the OP was not about America where I have a degree in criminal justice and since I know little of the CJ system in the UK, I will defer to others There are anti bullying initiatives now but I have yet to hear of anyone being prosecuted criminally for hurting feelings over here.

Seems like as safe a place as any to ask this! Many men say they like a strong woman.

KKGator comments on Jan 29, 2018:

I'm going to be single for the rest of my life. LOL

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 30, 2018:

Yup, as will I

Site Questions: Capture the Flag Some have said "I may have accidentally flagged your post".

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 21, 2018:

How do we use the emojii? How to add the heart icon to the profile?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 29, 2018:

@btroje Do you see a heart on my profile pic?

Stereotypes, what is the most common misconception people have about you?

orange_girl comments on Jan 27, 2018:

I'm fascinated by human behavior, so I tend to people watch. I've observed the following: The most shocking and upsetting stereotyping is when a racist white person thinks I must be racist, too, since I'm white (and say something racist, thinking I will agree with them). People often comment ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 28, 2018:

That racist shit happens to me as well- they assume I am one of them but since it happens at work, I have to keep my mouth shut. I had this one woman come up to me and ask me where about where a private label item was manufactured because Nabisco moved to Mexico and Mexicans were nasty. I sent her to speak to a member of management that happened to be Mexican I could fill pages with examples of the "we are becoming the minority" bullshit. I always want to say "so"?

One thing I was told very often when I was younger was "You'll get more right wing as you get ...

josh23452 comments on Jan 27, 2018:

I'm glad to say that at 28 I've stayed more in the center of things... Many aspects I'm very "Left" on.. LGBT rights, healthcare,immigration and so forth.. However I remain a bit of a fiscal conservative.. I dislike rampant spending or at least the allocation of it towards things we don't need.. For...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 27, 2018:

I'm a bit less liberal fiscally than I am socially and although I support the programs you mentioned, I would be in favor of overhauling them. Particularly SNAP. I was on food stamps as a child and no candy, soda, chips, cookies or cake were permitted; my mother could buy the ingredients and make cookies and cake but no store bought junk

What kind of snob are you?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 26, 2018:

I won't buy generic toilet paper

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 27, 2018:

People use cloth diapers and reuse- this would be less "gross" for lack of a better term.

What kind of snob are you?

z0000 comments on Jan 26, 2018:

I'm a MOOOSIC snob.. lol and I apologize to the rest of the world for Nickelback.. ugh.... very sorry

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 26, 2018:

But I like nickelback

Do you recall any epic moments in history that you witnessed?

Riverrunner comments on Jan 24, 2018:

I did not actually see the event, but I was in the Coast Guard at that time, assigned to a division of large coastal patrol boats out of Miami. I was the cook on the boat and the mess deck, the area near my cooking space I was preparing lunch and really did not pay attention to what was on the ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 25, 2018:

I was at work in Fort Pierce the day Challenger was lost. We went outside to watch the launch and when the trails diverged I asked if it was supposed to look like that and someone else said it had blown up, but someone else said no it hadn't. We had the tv on the back and someone went to see what being said and the rest of the day was pretty somber.

Do you ever get irritated at having to "dumb it down" for people when you're out in public?

Aenith comments on Jan 25, 2018:

I do so intentionally. I have found, often to others dismay, that the less intelligent those around you believe you to be, the more you will discover about them. It is actually most entertaining.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 25, 2018:

Being underestimated can be amusing when you pull out the big guns without warning.

Do you ever get irritated at having to "dumb it down" for people when you're out in public?

AmiSue comments on Jan 25, 2018:

I had a co-worker who would constantly retort "I don't know what that means!" angrily. She was also completely devoid of humor so... double jeopardy. Answer was to edit myself to her level or remain mute. You do what is necessary to successfully communicate. With my kids I never edited myself and ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 25, 2018:

I did that with my children back in the days when they had to look it up with a dictionary. I hear my daughter refusing to explain words to her kids and tells them to google it

What commercials have permanently burned themselves into your mind?

chuckles comments on Jan 23, 2018:

Hold the pickles, hold the ketchup, special orders don't upset us, something, something, something, something, have it your way... Have it yourrrr way, have it your way...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 24, 2018:

All we ask is that you let us serve it your way

"Capitalism was built on the exploitation and suffering of black slaves and continues to thrive on ...

Craftsman comments on Jan 24, 2018:

To be more specific American slavery started when the puritans came over and enslaved the local Indians all the while trying to convert them to Christianity. but in Human terms... every race has been a slave at one time or another... We are slaves of a living wage right now. If our masters let us ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 24, 2018:

Actually, no we aren't; we still have autonomy as to who mate with, have children with, believe in. We don't spend our days in forced labor under threat of violence or death, We do not see our children sold to others. This we are all slaves stuff minimizes the horrors of actual slavery and gets under my skin. Perhaps it is confusion on my grandchildren's faces when they found out that they can only trace ancestry back less than 150 years because their ancestors actually were slaves.

So, it's tax time again.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 22, 2018:

The idea of the welfare queen has been debunked. Even if they are gaming the system, they are not living in mansions living the high life. I have absolutely no problem with poorer than me people getting help.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 23, 2018:

@witchymom I was on it as well as a child although my mother worked. She was married to an alcoholic that spend all the earned on booze and we did a lot of "camping" For the most part, we had food but as the oldest, i worried about it more than I should have. To this day in my 50's, I cannot stand an empty pantry and buy so much food that periodically my daughter throws away shit that is long out of date.

Site Questions: Capture the Flag Some have said "I may have accidentally flagged your post".

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 21, 2018:

How do we use the emojii? How to add the heart icon to the profile?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 22, 2018:

Forgive the obtuseness but where do I type it in order to have it show on my profile picture? Or next to my user name beside the level star?

What was your favorite television show when you were young?

Jenelle comments on Jan 20, 2018:

If you look up "tv shows from the 80s," I'm fairly certain I watched ALLLLLL of them (I was born in '75). You know how people reminisce about "the good old days" and always talk about how THEY used to go outside and play until the streetlights came on, and all the neighborhood kids got together to ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 20, 2018:

I refused to even try the BSG reboot for a couple of seasons and when I did check it out, I was in love LOL

Any fans of Game of Thrones here?

Suzanna comments on Jan 15, 2018:

Who Is your favorite Character from GOT?

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 15, 2018:

Tyrion and Arya

I need light shed on the interactions of white and black people.

gearl comments on Jan 1, 2018:

I'm an old fart and my marriage is inter-racial. I have been married 21 years and as yet have not heard any worrisome comments about my wife or daughter. Having said that I have observed incredible racism from people I thought were my friends over the last year and a half. Not about my family but ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 14, 2018:

I hear you. I've had to give up friendships and contact with family members after finding out that they were harboring that shit within them. I guess I'm glad to know who is and isn't with me but it hurts

Sometimes I think I might be the only person in the world that doesn't want kids.

Suzanna comments on Jan 13, 2018:

Yes it is. I have no children, and let me tell you it is becoming a hassle to explain to people that I am not married and don't have children and I am 45 year old. I consistently get surprised looks then that hmm...what's happened to her?....look....and occasional ' something must be wrong with her ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 14, 2018:

Also happily single. I wouldn't mind dating if the right person came along but I don't live well with others LOL

Sometimes I think I might be the only person in the world that doesn't want kids.

MrLizard comments on Jan 13, 2018:

I have two. Ever since a little kid, I knew I'd have my own. Neither of them want kids. I'm (mostly) okay with it. I've never judged anyone who didn't want kids. I just assume that people who have kids they don't really want - make horrible parents.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 14, 2018:

Your assumption is correct- my mother didn't want kids and my upbringing has always been a factor in why I am not very affectionate and am deemed cold by most people. Made raising my own children more challenging than it should have been.

I have realized, in adulthood, that I question the same teachings and bible versus that I questioned...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 2, 2018:

My real father was a musician so I was exposed to a different lifestyle than most as a very young child. Alas my mother remarried to the opposite kind of person. As a 9-10 year old in southern Indiana aka cesspool of ignorance, I questioned several of the stories but I fixated on the ark myth. My...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 5, 2018:

@btroje Wow. My father was from Louisville. Small World. Do they still call it Kentuckyana?

Well, I was glad Clinton lost, and cautiously optimistic that Trump wouldn't be too much of a ...

David1955 comments on Jan 3, 2018:

You say you were "cautiously optimistic that Trump wouldn't be too much of a disaster". Now I think I would have to call you a man of faith, belief in the absence of evidence, although I would have thought the evidence would have pointed to Trump as a total disaster. I'm sorry, it's your country, ...

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 4, 2018:

@Druvius Why did you say she would have been a disaster? I was a Bernie supporter that voted for her because I couldn't stomach trump but I cant see why she would be a disaster.

Why do so many people fear No. 13?

Aggie comments on Jan 4, 2018:

My favorite baseball player of all time, Davey Concepcion, wore the number 13 - I always loved it. Now, the number 666 seems to follow me around, which I find hilarious - my SS#, a credit card, my license plate. I'm the antichrist!!!

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 4, 2018:

I said this above but may as well repeat it; I bought a house with a credit score of 666. Kept the letter for proof.

How cold is your house?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jan 1, 2018:

I keep my thermostat on 74 for sleeping and on 78 when the house is empty. So yeah, my AC is currently running. 'cuz, Florida.

Lucy_Fehr replies on Jan 4, 2018:

My room is under an old oak and with my ceiling fan going, it is positively freezing in my room. Before my grands lived with me, I would set it around 69 but my granddaughter needs it warmer. I spend a lot of time hiking outside in high humidity so 73 or 74 hasn't been that bad