Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

DesertRecluse comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I would love to agree with this but unfortunately I know 2 women who have been brutally assaulted while out alone and one who was actually murdered... Your anecdotes of teenage rebellion are great and everything but they are just anecdotes. To say that we should not warn girls of the dangers the ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Yes. It happens. More often women are brutalized in their homes by those closest to them. Shall we stop having families to be safer? Stranger Danger is wildly sensationalized when it only account for around 30 % of assaults. Women aren't told "don't get born into the wrong family" or "dont get married" when those are actually the two riskiest things we DO as women. It's nonsensical to tell someone they should live their lives in fear and depend on "big strong men" to defend them as a way to live safely. Particularly when those "big strong men" are the one likeliest to pose a risk to us.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

NicoleCadmium comments on Apr 24, 2018:

It's very difficult to get away from the male/female predator/prey dynamic. Our nearest equivalents in intelligence (Dolphins) frequently mate through rape. It's there at an instinctive level in humans, too. Occasionally, males rape other males (and occasionally females sexually assault males and ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@NicoleCadmium agreed. Its also IMO about being capable of self defense. Whether thats fighting, running away whatever it takes to come out of one of those bad luck situations unharmed. I think people who are capable of looking out for themselves are the safest people to BE. You can't always count on a saviour or stroke of good luck but You're always there with yourself.

Wow.

CaroleKay comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I saw that last night but it was too late to comment. I work in a male-dominated industry, in construction and I get it every day, sure some of the guys are stronger, that just means I have to be smarter and better than them, so that I am valued at work for my abilities and not my boobs. I get ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

The most alarming take away for me wasn't the troll replies. It was the sincere replies from men and women who STILL believe that women are innately weaker(not necessarily physically) and need extra protection or have to excercise extra caution. They see no conflict at all and don't understand how treating women like children stunts them as human beings. Idk. Perhaps I'm wrong but have yet to hear an argument convincing me that I am.

Death: what do you think will happen when you die?

Rudy1962 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Our bodies are conceived and these bodies are run off energy. Our thoughts and our emotions all come from the part of the body called the brain and central nervous system. Our brains are developed enough we have self awareness. Once the body dies we no longer consume energy. We also no longer ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

I agree.

Don't trust anyone

mistymoon77 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Can't trust anything coming from Florida.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@mistymoon77 idk, I'm pretty shady.

Upload your mind to "The Cloud"

MrBeelzeebubbles comments on Apr 24, 2018:

It would always be a simulacrum, a precis, an approximation of 'me'. It might be an interesting experience, but it wouldn't be 'me' that would be experiencing it. It would be a whole new being, that was 'me-like', to a greater or lesser extent.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Well stated.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Love how men are popping on this post to remind us of the very real dangers posed only to women. Funny I don't see women on here saying anything like that and you'd think we'd be the ones to know, wouldn't you?

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@sarahjustme no but it does mean that the odds are roughly the same no matter where I go. Knowing that, I'll go where I want and do what I want. Taking reasonable precautions while not hobbling myself with constant second guessing.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

Donotbelieve comments on Apr 24, 2018:

To be frank, women are more likely to be harmed by someone they know. It's usually someone they trust, and the female may even be a defenseless child at the time of the incident. Telling those women to be careful is not only a slap to the face, but it insinuates that if the had been more ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Donotbelieve not worth the stress. This thread has been great for weeding out the folks I don't want to deal with.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

Moose42 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Wait....if men weren’t around to tell you what to do....you mean to say....you’d be...(gasp)...FINE??? ?

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

I know, it's shocking.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

KenG comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I think advising someone of the dangers of doing certain things is obviously fine, so I don't understand your objection.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@DuchessNyx thank you. I'm very begining to suspect the blindness and unwillingness to hear are willful.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

Donotbelieve comments on Apr 24, 2018:

To be frank, women are more likely to be harmed by someone they know. It's usually someone they trust, and the female may even be a defenseless child at the time of the incident. Telling those women to be careful is not only a slap to the face, but it insinuates that if the had been more ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Donotbelieve yup guys a nutter.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

quellefromage comments on Apr 24, 2018:

This thread is scarier than anything I face in real life. I do everything by myself and I can't say it ever occurs to me to change what I do based on my sex. If I want to go to a concert, I go. By myself. If I want to go for a hike, I go. By myself. I am a competent adult that does not need a ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Well said.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

Kimba comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Here is an interesting statistic from Australia, females over 15 are more likely to be physically assaulted in their own home than anywhere else with over 50% of such assaults occurring at home, next comes where they work or study, after that we've got someone else's home, then we have other public ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Freedompath Whats your point? Its still a very real danger. People arent locking up their sons for fear they may be harmed.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

kenriley comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I get it. But it's not safe in here, for anybody.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

You are correct. Life is not safe. So why are women constantly singled out as special victims? Why are we told to hide, or be less obtrusive or anything BUT fight back?

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

FinchiMcQ comments on Apr 24, 2018:

As a gun-carrying female...I see the dangers of life in front of me everyday living on the road. Men have a natural tendency to protect their physically weaker counterpart, so you have to understand that. The average woman cannot beat up a man...sorry. This ain't Sharia law...it's just men ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Uh there is no "natural tendancy to protect weaker counterparts". The popularity of domestic violence alone tells us That's untrue.

Spiderman is best superhero.[youtu.be]

KKGator comments on Apr 24, 2018:

That was awesome! Thank you!!! I'd like to see a Spiderman/Deadpool dance-off!!!

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Oh that would be great, wouldn't it?

Me after finding out what men really k. Just heeeeelllll no.

phxbillcee comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Okay, I'll give the usual male apologia. We're not all douche-bags, assholes, maybe, but not all douche-bags! Of course, I may still die single, but that's more a hygiene issue!

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Lol. You're the best. I mean sometimes you're a jerk but its endearing(mostly)

Wow.

EricTrommater comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I pushed the wrong button....

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Rudy1962. @EricTrommater lmfao

Me after finding out what men really k. Just heeeeelllll no.

Nickbeee comments on Apr 24, 2018:

LMFAO

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Nickbeee not quite true, I can walk off, yelling fuck yoooouuuu! (We've nearly got a song here)

Wow.

SurvivorSteph comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I saw that. I was frustrated about that too, and I was frustrated about other male behavior yesterday. MarkMark blocked me because I was "antagonistic" to two people on one of his posts--one of my remarks was to a man answering a question clearly directed to women. And one of the older men ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Oh yeah I saw that guy. Think it was me he was talking to, lol. I told him he'd struggle to find women without "attitudes" around here and we don't give a shit if he likes it or not. Lot of these guys are QUICK to jump in and tell women to shut up. Funnily they're often the same creeps messaging ladies left and right.

Looks like I'm in the beginnings of the crazy cat lady phase.

david75090 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

In my neighborhood, I'm the crazy cat guy. The man across the street used to feed the neighborhood strays. My daughter had a cat that had to stay outside due to his habit of scent-marking. I kept his food out on my front porch. The man across the street passed. His cat-friends started helping my...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

There are often groups who will assist with spaying and neutering feral cats without charging you an arm and a leg. Are you in the U.S.?

; A technical one this. Why is it that spellcheck only works on some postings?

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

And where do the "thin"s go?

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@273kelvin "thin" disapears from something, nothing, think etc. with some pretty humorous results.

[youtu.be] Think I'm officially a Dr. Mike fan. Has nothing at all to do with how cute he is?

ashortbeauty comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Now I'm an educated food consumer...whose just watched cutie mcpie face on YouTube ;)

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Girl. He's got a whole channel

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

Tomfoolery33 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Very well said, and something I hadn't really thought about. I'd like to have my daughter read it. She's 21 and doesn't seem to have that response, which I'm glad of. She's very much a feminist, and we have talked about a lot of things, but not this particular issue. I don't think we've over-warned ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

That you did!

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Love how men are popping on this post to remind us of the very real dangers posed only to women. Funny I don't see women on here saying anything like that and you'd think we'd be the ones to know, wouldn't you?

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@sarahjustme. I don't disagree with you. In my experience home and family are not necessarily safe. The same is true for millions of others like me. If we're not safe at home and we're not safe going out, why not just pick whichever nonsafe option appeals to us most? Sadly, it doesn't change the odds much.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

ScienceBiker comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I would never presume to tell you *not* to do anything, lest I put myself in mortal danger ?

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

?

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

LiterateHiker comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I never hike alone. Men with guns on horses sexually harassed and terrified me, both times I hiked alone. "Hey, pretty lady! Where are you spending the night? We'll join you!" It's important to use good judgment for your own safety. I do not do technical rock and ice climbing because it's too ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Same goes for a man on both counts.

Wow.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Wondered where the boss got off to.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Rudy1962 been up all night yelling at people :). Gets me going.

The magical missing post on blocking reminds me of a site pet peeve that others have expressed in ...

AmiSue comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Agreed. It would simplify things and quell my, apparently rampant, paranoia!

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@ScienceBiker agreed

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

AnneWimsey comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Sadly, real danger exists for lone women! Yes it angers me too, but i have no desire to end up as an episode on CSI either. Dealing with reality is an important part of growing older with happy memories predominating.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Yes and dealing with reality is for everyone. Women should not live in clouds of fear afraid to do the things they'd like because it "might draw the wrong sort of attention". This is something I really love about millenials. So many of them have been raised fearless. They're not scared to do the same things their brothers and friends do and lo and behold they're enjoying their lives, doing what makes them happy and staying safe all at the same time.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

MrBeelzeebubbles comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Statistically, women are much, much more likely to be attacked by someone they know than some random.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Nickbeee he is indeed. I did have childhood assaults in mind. It's sad how many people I know who were abused that way and there doesn't seem to be much of a gender difference in who it's happened to.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

Clauddvon comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I watch Discovery ID regularly. As such I'm always worried about the ladies in my life.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

A perfect example of letting sensationalist media unduly color your perception of the world.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

MrPKitty comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I'm one of those people who ask why it's so dangerous for women. And when I'm told about muggings and rapes and what not done by,....men, I say, Well, doesn't it make more sense to tell boys and men to behave themselves and raise them to be decent human beings? And then people stop talking to me.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Right? It's just unreasonable to expect people with criminal tendencies to stop doing criminal shit. Instead we should all hide in our homes and never go anywhere unarmed or in groups smaller than ten. Also don't dress slutty that's just asking for it.

Me after finding out what men really k. Just heeeeelllll no.

Nickbeee comments on Apr 24, 2018:

LMFAO

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

You know I dig you memers cause you guys are great but MAN some guys on here have me thoroughly convinced I'll always be better off single. So much F-n nope.

Wow.

Nickbeee comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Oh shit not the Eric Trommater Cloning program I thought it was disbanded.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Will the world survive multiple Erics? I guess we'll find out!

Some people got me like...[youtu.be]

Rudy1962 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Interesting

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Rudy1962 hahaha.

jesusjokes

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Jesus= loch ness monster! Beautiful. I'm stealing that one.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Mofferatu every sunday in the collection plate!

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

CallMeDave comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I spent my 20-30's in Boulder. This didn't fly there. Women did whatever they wanted to do, and talking as if they were cripple or invalid was not accepted in those circles. I am so glad I had that experience, and I wish there were more of it in the rest of the world. Thanks for the post. ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Thanks. It's nice to hear some people understand what I'm saying.

Wow.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Wondered where the boss got off to.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Rudy1962 lol. Hotel memefornia

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

SinCityHeathen comments on Apr 24, 2018:

You're 100% correct @blindbird, and I applaud your strength to circumnavigate the world around you with such confidence. Even as a Humanist, I try not to interfere in anyone's path. With that, there is an exception to my own personal rule; if you are my family or close friend regardless of gender, ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@SinCityHeathen again we are in agreance. To be fair a 6'8 body builder would be in deep shit with that same bear though. Just sayin'. And yes warnings from those I know care about me are listened to and heeded. My post is more about the general attitude that women are too fragile to take risks in their lives. Treating people as though they're made of glass, unsurprisingly creates people who break easily. One jas to have some (justifiable) trust in ones ability to function as an individual to accomplish anything. I feel many women are done a great disservice by being taught that they're just naturally less capable than men.

Weiners! Weiners everywhere!

Nickbeee comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Wow I know some people who have hooked nose sake DNA for sure lol.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

What?oh that wasn't supposed to be part of this post. Lol totally my spirit animal.

Some people got me like...[youtu.be]

Rudy1962 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Interesting

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Is that the southern "politely horrified"form of interesting?

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

Freedompath comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Well said...I too get my dander up, when anybody says these things to me! What I have discovered, is that is their fear...sure keeps them in check, from living as fully as they could! (A good excuse.)

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Donotbelieve haha. I too have been making liberal use of the block button on this thread.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Love how men are popping on this post to remind us of the very real dangers posed only to women. Funny I don't see women on here saying anything like that and you'd think we'd be the ones to know, wouldn't you?

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@sarahjustme I am terribly sorry that those things happened to you. It is awful and inexcusable. I am going to point out that there wasn't much you could have done to prevent those attacks short of having a firearm loaded and at hand to run off your attacker. You didn't DO anything to make yourself a victim. The rapists targeted you for whatever their twisted reasons may have been. The constant warnings to women always seem to be centered around the womens "risky behaviour" but it's not about what we do or don't do( I do advocate EVERYONE learning self defense btw). And that's where this women must do this, that or the other to prevent becoming victims gets it wrong, I think.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

SLBushway comments on Apr 24, 2018:

We live in the world we have - not the one we want. You may hate that women are told not to go out alone but the fact is, in our current culture they're not safe. When was the last time you heard of a man being raped and killed while out jogging? And you pointing out that you haven't had an issue ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@sarahjustme it is fact that men commit more violent acts but it's NOT fact that women are in more danger from men than other men are. Again I'm not saying the world isn't a dangerous place, I'm saying stop telling women they're less capable of navigating that world than men are. Honestly we've been surviving their violence for millennia we're probably better equipped to survive it than other men tbh.

I was joking with a friend the other day about if I had to start a religion what would it be.

AzVixen52 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

What's the reward?

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

A sweet and cute pet?

It’s so disturbing that this nut is in the White House.

powder comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I think it's good in a way. The mask is finally off and the world, and America, is finally seeing what America has become; run by corporations. Obama was a very elequent speaker but totally full of it. I call him "the drone king" and destroyer of Libya. Hillary is just a physco, would be war ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

The only silver lining of this whole mess imo is that it has highlighted EXACTLY what the the establishment is really about. It's easier to fight an enemy that you can see.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

MrBrightSide comments on Apr 24, 2018:

In a perfect world that might work, but ours is far from it. Females do need to be more careful, merely because a higher percentage of sexual crimes are committed against them by males. Like you said awareness of your surroundings is definitely needed, but even then the unpredictable can and...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@MrBrightSide and yet you stated that you have repeatedly seen and heard those behaviours/statements from other men. As was pointed out, the most effective way to curb that sort of thing is calling out and condemning those who do or say such things. Maybe if they hear other men tell them its wrong they'll listen since y'all don't seem to put much stock in what women have to say.

I keep telling my normally white horse, Dixie, not to roll in the mud when it rains.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Maybe she wants a tan and is upset that you wont buy her some spray tanner?

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@phxbillcee a horses tRump?

Cant compare to a real physical exchange of affection ,however, sometimes that's not always ...

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I have and my take away from it was that it created a sense of intimacy and closeness that DID not translate well when we met in person. In a commited relationship where you already know the person, I think it's fine but I'll never start that up with someone I haven't physically met again.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@phxbillcee lol. All joking aside that went badly and I won't go there again.

Sometimes when I think there’s a lull, I try to post questions that promote critical thought, ...

NothinnXpreVails comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I reply more than I post. People say they sometimes post because they’re curious what others think. I, on the other hand, am not. At least not that often. I find more in replying. Not to mention most of what I post is not as interesting as subjects that y’all present.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

And yet I think you'd have something to say. Not to criticize but I do wish more of you quiet types spoke up more. When you do, It's usually worth reading.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

SinCityHeathen comments on Apr 24, 2018:

You're 100% correct @blindbird, and I applaud your strength to circumnavigate the world around you with such confidence. Even as a Humanist, I try not to interfere in anyone's path. With that, there is an exception to my own personal rule; if you are my family or close friend regardless of gender, ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

And that is more than fair. As @ArturoS pointed out, infantilizing adults creates people who live in fear, waiting to be victimized and are consequently victimised more often. To really become self sufficient we have to learn what is an acceptable vs. Non acceptable risk. Women are dissuaded from taking risks, told point blank or led to believe that they are too fragile to attempt it. As a consequence many of us don't learn to care for and protect ourselves. We all know how helicoptor parenting affects children. The thing is that women have been helicoptered to death for ages. It's mostly just my opinion but I suspect it's where a lot of "difference of the sexes" originates. We let Billy takes risks because we know he needs that for his personal growth but not Betty,she could get hurt!

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Love how men are popping on this post to remind us of the very real dangers posed only to women. Funny I don't see women on here saying anything like that and you'd think we'd be the ones to know, wouldn't you?

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@doug6352 Riiiigggght. One gets out of the hospital eventually. Are you under the impression that women just die when they're raped or assaulted? Again. What exactly makes you an expert on what it's like to live as a woman or know much of anything about what it's like?

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

NicoleCadmium comments on Apr 24, 2018:

It's very difficult to get away from the male/female predator/prey dynamic. Our nearest equivalents in intelligence (Dolphins) frequently mate through rape. It's there at an instinctive level in humans, too. Occasionally, males rape other males (and occasionally females sexually assault males and ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Have you ever considered that perhaps you haven't been attacked because people aren't as violent as we've been led to believe? I am aware of the extra danger posed to transfolk and don't mean to downplay that AT ALL. The thing is though that all the people I've been taught to fear turned out to be just people. It seems to mostly those in some sort of authoritative role who are most likely to use violence on someone who doesn't follow their norms. What if making us afraid of each other is just another form of that control?

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

Rugglesby comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I always tell both my kids to be careful, my son has been attacked by large gangs twice in our small town, (I hate tourists). Both of my kids are into martial arts, my daughter has a triple black belt in one and other quals in others. I still caution them. I felt bad a few years ago when a friend ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

The point is that you've cautioned them BOTH. I'm not claiming dangers don't exist. I am saying that they're greatly exaggerated when teaching women what to do or not do. I'd say as parent , you did the best thing by empowering both of them to be aware of danger and capable of self defense. I feel for your friend and I wonder what the real risk she would be taking by doing what she wants would be? I have a lot of women friends who are afraid to go places by themselves or do certain things because they've been told it's unsafe their entire lives. Yet myself and other women do those things and go those places and we come to no harm. These are the things that made me doubt what I'd been told and what all women hear so much.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

MrBeelzeebubbles comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Statistically, women are much, much more likely to be attacked by someone they know than some random.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@DZhukovin here's a decent jumping off point. Apparently my information about rates of male victimization was way off but the stats on who perpetrates these acts are valid.https://ncadv.org/statistics

Corgi action ly and My Brother

btroje comments on Apr 24, 2018:

One click later

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

They're so cute. My guys a "burnt toast" corgi too.

jesusjokes

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Jesus= loch ness monster! Beautiful. I'm stealing that one.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Markus #4 the three fifty thing is a joke about the loch ness monster.

Jesus who?

Mofferatu comments on Apr 24, 2018:

"We're trying to deport him but he keeps running away." *sad face

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Hahahaha. Darn middle eastern radicals!

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

MrBrightSide comments on Apr 24, 2018:

In a perfect world that might work, but ours is far from it. Females do need to be more careful, merely because a higher percentage of sexual crimes are committed against them by males. Like you said awareness of your surroundings is definitely needed, but even then the unpredictable can and...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@MrBrightSide and I've been a woman my entire life and I know for a fact that raising women to be fearful and afraid of making their own decisions and yes, mistakes turns them into emotional cripples. Furthermore I'll point out that the sort of behaviour you're describing is best curbed by attending to the minds and actions of the PERPETRATORS and not the victims.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

ArturoS comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Infantilizing adults creates a neurotic society where everyone expects to be bullied and no one knows how to stand up for him/herself.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Yes very much this. It's something I come across in my female friends often. They were never allowed to take risks or responsibility for themselves when they were young and now as adults they're at a loss for how to do so.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

DZhukovin comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I read your post, but you're going off of an unsustainable and self-defeating notion of decision making and that is the issue there.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

How so? I would respond but I find your criticism nebulous at best.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

doug6352 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Just because something bad didn't happen to you doesn't prove you weren't taking unwise risks. It's sort of like saying, I don't need to wear a seat belt because nothing bad has ever happened to me. The odds are always 100 to 1 your favor, but some women do become victims of foul play.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

As do some men, hence my comment about not putting more pressure on women than men about personal safety. Also yet ANOTHER man telling me I don't know what I'm talking about. Love how having a penis gives y'all all the answers.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

Spooner comments on Apr 24, 2018:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wETo3tufqmA

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Right? Fuck that shit.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

SLBushway comments on Apr 24, 2018:

We live in the world we have - not the one we want. You may hate that women are told not to go out alone but the fact is, in our current culture they're not safe. When was the last time you heard of a man being raped and killed while out jogging? And you pointing out that you haven't had an issue ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Again no. The facts and statistics DON'T bear you out on this one. Men can be and are raped at comparable rates to women. It's simply that those crimes tended to go unreported for ages because men were embarrassed to admit it happened to them. The actual dangers posed to men and women are basically the same. You've been TOLD that women are more vulnerable and you believe it but it's just not true. Again I will point out that there are NO women on here telling me that I'm wrong. Only guys who think they "know better". Futhermore, we MAKE the world we want. We are not helpless pawns forced to suffer circumstance. If I don't like something I'm damn sure going yo change it or die trying. Edit :apparently I was mistaken about rates of male rape victims. Its one in 71 men vs one in 6 women.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

Freedompath comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Well said...I too get my dander up, when anybody says these things to me! What I have discovered, is that is their fear...sure keeps them in check, from living as fully as they could! (A good excuse.)

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

These guys have got MY dander up. That's for sure.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

MrBeelzeebubbles comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Statistically, women are much, much more likely to be attacked by someone they know than some random.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Thank you.

Blah blah blah

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Man, I enjoy your work!

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@nightowl. Pretty sure I've liked everything you've posted. You have a really unique veiwpoint and style. Its cool.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

kmdskit3 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I agree with you almost completely but I would add one thing. Just like African-Americans have that talk with their sons about how to act around law enforcement it's a good idea to help young women to be aware of their surroundings and possible dangers. That doesn't mean burdening them with ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@kmdskit3 nope. I'm exaggerating for effect because you aren't seeing your bias here. Look at the rest of the comments. Do you see women saying "oh no the dangers are so very real". No instead you've got men and ONLY men perpetuating this myth. If all the dangers we're warned about are so real don't you think women would be on here telling me I'm crazy and sharing their stories? I do. But I don't see that. This sir, is mansplaining at its finest. Men telling women that their experiences as women are invalid and wrong and "we just don't know better". Wake up and smell the coffee buddy.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

SilverDollarJedi comments on Apr 24, 2018:

If you think that is bad you should visit the country my ex-wife is from. She can tell some horror stories about being a woman in saudi arabia. Personally, If I see anyone doing something obviously dangerous, I am going to warn them whether they are a man or woman. I do it simply because I care ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Hence my point about not laying more weight on cautioning your daughters than your sons. Everyone is vulnerable. The idea that women are MORE vulnerable is the lie that ironically creates women who are, in fact, more vulnerable. I am aware that things are different in other cultures and there are more dangers for women in those cultures(or visiting). In western, reasonably civilized countries however all this idea does is stunt womens emotional and social development. I have done SO many "dangerous" things and in my experience it's been my family and my partners who've posed the greater risks to my well being. It's not just my experience either. Strangers pose far less of a risk to any given person. The statistics bear me out on this. If someones going to be raped, molested or assaulted 9 times out of 10, it's someone close to the victim perpetrating the crimes. The way we've been told the world works is almost completely opposite to the actual functioning of these dangers. Futhermore as more men come forward about abuses they've suffered it's become increasingly clear that those aren't "womens issues". Everyone is vulnerable. It's the most awful kind of equality but that's what it is.

I suspect this could be the future.

Tomfoolery33 comments on Apr 23, 2018:

All companies care about any more is their share value and growth. Growth can't continue forever, but somehow they think if they're not growing, then they're failing.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

That's all companies care about period. The entire point of a corporation is to create value for its shareholders. When value= money this is what you get.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

MrBrightSide comments on Apr 24, 2018:

In a perfect world that might work, but ours is far from it. Females do need to be more careful, merely because a higher percentage of sexual crimes are committed against them by males. Like you said awareness of your surroundings is definitely needed, but even then the unpredictable can and...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Horseshit. If you're talking a trip to India or Pakistan, sure, there are extra dangers for women because the society there is deeply misogynistic. As others on here have , you have completely missed the point. What I am saying is that these "terrible dangers" that lurk for women who do things and go places where they "shouldn't" are mostly illusory. It's as false as the " dangerous black man" trope. Its lies we've been told our entire lives to keep us scared and quiet and separate. You've drank the kool-aid and you don't even see it. You just ASSUME its true because thats what you've been told.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

kmdskit3 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I agree with you almost completely but I would add one thing. Just like African-Americans have that talk with their sons about how to act around law enforcement it's a good idea to help young women to be aware of their surroundings and possible dangers. That doesn't mean burdening them with ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@kmdskit3 not bossy or preachy but its pretty obvious that you've bought into the "women are helpless and must be extra scared of everything all the time" trope. Do you not see your bias here? You're literally arguing that women MUST be more fearful, more cautious because we're just sooooo much more vulnerable. It's like you've completely missed the point.

Telling women not to do things because "it's not safe" is a big pet peeve of mine.

kmdskit3 comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I agree with you almost completely but I would add one thing. Just like African-Americans have that talk with their sons about how to act around law enforcement it's a good idea to help young women to be aware of their surroundings and possible dangers. That doesn't mean burdening them with ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Women are well aware,thank you. Again I will state "if you wouldn't caution your sons against a certain behaviour, don't lay that extra weight on your daughters". I'm gonna go out on a limb and suggest that you,too,have drank the paternalist kool-aid.

Looks like I'm in the beginnings of the crazy cat lady phase.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Good work! Next step...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@kiramea ?

Always one who doesn't get it...

phxbillcee comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I'll do the same response that I gave yesterday. Special K-Y! or, Post Menopause!

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

Morning O's!

Sometimes when I think there’s a lull, I try to post questions that promote critical thought, ...

stinkeye_a comments on Apr 24, 2018:

My first post went over like a lead balloon. I'm still traumatized. :P

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

You did fine! Also that was beautiful and thoughtful. I'd love to see you post more.

Bad weather can be a good thing.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 23, 2018:

@relationshipgoals

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@Duke lol

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OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 23, 2018:

Side point: by historical account Cleopatra was no looker. Marc Antony mostly wanted her for her political power. He may have loved her but it was NOT for her looks.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 24, 2018:

@phxbillcee I think she's very pretty. She's simply not wearing a ton of make-up. As I've said before being called ugly is not a sign that you're physically unattractive, its a sign that whoever is trying to insult you is a mental midget.

Are there good, safe hiking paths anywhere in Florida?

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 23, 2018:

There's plenty! We have 168 parks in Sarasota county. Gators arent that dangerous if you keep your distance, remain upright and don't swim where they hang out. Hit me up and I'll show you around. I love an excuse to get out and tramp around.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

@phxbillcee it was intentional. I rarely let a good pun pass unused.

[facebook.com] This is so wholesome It made my teeth ache - in a good way.

tioteo comments on Apr 23, 2018:

Really enjoyed this. I haven't been goosed in a long time.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

Aww. That's sad

Bad weather can be a good thing.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 23, 2018:

@relationshipgoals

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

@Duke lol. Not remotely. You're talking to a person who's been known to put dishes in the refrigerator instead of the cabinet. Brain like swiss cheese.

Bring cash.

GreenAtheist comments on Apr 23, 2018:

I am so sorry to see people desperate to make money for drugs getting STDs or killed in the bargain ALL BECAUSE OF HIGH UNEMPLOYMENT POLICY TO KEEP WAGES LOW PROFITS HIGH when we could have 100% employment living wages peace through green jobs

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

You know, its almost scary how often I agree with you.

Bad weather can be a good thing.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 23, 2018:

@relationshipgoals

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

@Duke the pun made sense at least. I just can't follow the mental trail to nasal sex...

While I think having a space for higher level members could be good, there are more than a few ...

AstralSmoke comments on Apr 23, 2018:

I keep chasing points, they're similar to light dots on the wall that keep moving, very elusive.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

Meow

Are there good, safe hiking paths anywhere in Florida?

wordywalt comments on Apr 23, 2018:

There are many hiking/biking trails throughout Florida. I would not advise a women to use the trails alone, but to at least pair up with a partner whom you can rely on.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

What?! I go on trails by myself all the time. Sometimes I take my two little kids.Thats some alarmist fear mongering you're indulging in there.

Louie is in charge of grilling steaks.

LadyAlyxandrea comments on Apr 23, 2018:

Can I be in charge of eating them?

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

@LadyAlyxandrea

Bad weather can be a good thing.

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 23, 2018:

@relationshipgoals

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

@Duke how did we get from rain to nasal copulation. I'm lost

I hate Uranus jokes but I can't resist this news. [gizmodo.com] "Uranus Smells Like Farts"

JK666 comments on Apr 23, 2018:

What does the Starship Enterprise and toilet paper have in common? They both circle Uranus searching for Klingons.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

Lol!

Not even a little bit sorry

phxbillcee comments on Apr 23, 2018:

Probably like dust & regret. I'll pass, thanks!

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

Lol. Are you sure we haven't hooked up before?

Ted Cruz: Americans Have No Right To Masturbate

Dick_Martin comments on Apr 23, 2018:

His college roommate https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/ted-cruz-roommate-porn-craig-mazin_us_59b7cff4e4b031cc65cc995d "But he took his ridicule of his former roomie to new levels early Tuesday morning when he invited people to imagine Cruz masturbating “four feet below you in the bottom ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

What a classy way to call someone a wanker.

Ted Cruz: Americans Have No Right To Masturbate

OnaM comments on Apr 23, 2018:

And where is his pee pee tape ? You know he is a sick freak

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

He's already been busted for having porn on his work computer. What a wanker.

[youtu.be] Think I'm officially a Dr. Mike fan. Has nothing at all to do with how cute he is?

Druvius comments on Apr 23, 2018:

I saw a bottle of Hershey's chocolate syrup once labeled "100% fat free!"

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 23, 2018:

They're still labeled that way, lol

Okay.

stinkeye_a comments on Apr 22, 2018:

How did it feel before you were born?

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 22, 2018:

@Stevil lol

Worst Police Dog Ever - Pluto in hot persuit [youtube.com]

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 22, 2018:

Oh that's hilarious

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 22, 2018:

@Nickbeee exactly

[thecut.com] Ah ha! Finally someone said it.

NaturalBornCynic comments on Apr 21, 2018:

I don't like when people generalize. The same thing can be said for some women who do not treat men respectfully. Just sayin'...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 22, 2018:

# notallmen *giant eye roll*

Obviously a psychopath....

Captnron59 comments on Apr 21, 2018:

I let mine soak till soggy. Captn crunch ruined me of crunchy cereal.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 21, 2018:

That shits like eating glass!

[thecut.com] Ah ha! Finally someone said it.

kmdskit3 comments on Apr 21, 2018:

Very good. As expected from reading the comments too many males are unable to see how all of us fit into this to some degree or another. Now my own particular slant: I so like seeing another large, muscular man who's not portrayed as stupid or violent. The more I get to know Terry Crews the more I ...

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 21, 2018:

Me too. Seems like a cool dude.

So Eric, how many memes do we have to post before we get a free shirt?

OpposingOpposum comments on Apr 21, 2018:

Looks like you just hit level 8 so maybe a week tillit comes in the mail. Congratulations!

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 21, 2018:

@Rudy1962 fair enough.

Girl at work brought in this pretty girl. Sweet snake.

AmiSue comments on Apr 21, 2018:

My ball python Eve is very sweet as well. She has tolerated 2 public talks about snake husbandry with true grace.

OpposingOpposum replies on Apr 21, 2018:

Pretty.