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Why do so many people choose not to upload a profile pic? In my younger days I wouldn't due to ...
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 3, 2018:
I don’t have many pictures of myself and when I tried, it didn’t work.
Seeing so many vets homeless and in need what have you done to help these individuals out.
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 3, 2018:
Nothing really because no one has asked. I refuse to give money to non-profit organizations. If someone asks me to help them I will. To be honest, I don’t find a homeless veteran to be more deserving than anyone else.
How do you prefer to be comforted?
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
I want to be left alone. My cat is allowed to climb into my lap for a cuddle.
Wow! Thanks, religion! NOT. This story from a Mormon couple hits a bit close to home for me, ...
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
The worst lies are the ones we tell ourselves. Everyone gets hurt.
Forgive and forget. Is it a possibility?
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
There’s no value in forgiving or forgetting...just let go of the anger and move forward. I haven’t forgiven my ex for being a lousy father but honestly rarely give him a thought one way or the other.
Veterans
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
From what I’ve seen as far as government officials are concerned, the only good veteran is a dead veteran unless there’s a photo op. We need to decrease the number of conflicts we either start or interfere with then decrease enlistment significantly.
I never wanted to have kids, is that weird?
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
That seems perfectly normal to me. I have never understood how someone could do that to themselves on purpose.
Today's political climate
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
I don’t consider myself political, but I detest self-righteous blowhards. I see Trump as the embarrassing drunk uncle who’s handsy with a big mouth. He can always be trusted to act in his own self interest. Pence, Ryan and McConnell OTOH are dangerous because they’d happily destroy themselves if it meant they got to hurt others. God’s will, ya know.
Would You Be Ok With Your Child Choosing To Be a Believer?
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
I wouldn’t be thrilled but he has to live his own life and with the results of all his decisions.
What countries have you visited, or would like to visit?
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
I’ve been to Canada, Mexico and US. I’d like to go to Europe and Asia; however, I’m not sure I could handle flying over the ocean that long. I’m flying to Hawaii this fall to test my limits.
How many people have kids and how many don't have kids and don't want kids ? How many don't have ...
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
I have an adult son. I have never wanted more.
Just curious about political affiliation.
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
My son tells me I’m a hippie-dippy liberal. No one else would ever apply the word hippie to me. I’m so far left that if the world were flat I’d be hanging on by the fingernails.
Do you like it when people give you false hope? I don't.
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
I want worst possible scenario. I already know what the best or good. I absolutely hate when death is considered the worst that could happen. There are any number of things that I consider worse than dying.
What's to do in Vegas?
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
I enjoy people watching on Fremont Street, the fountains and conservatory at Bellagio, Red Rock canyon, Valley of Fire and Bonnie Springs.
I'm asking this not based on one's personal beliefs, but what is most appealing? Of all the ...
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
I’d like to be reincarnated as a spoiled house cat. My cats have it made.
If you've lost your parents, how much do you miss them? Did they know you are an atheist and if so,...
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
My mom died 5 years ago, but my dad is still alive. He does live very far from me. I don’t really miss either of them on a regular basis. Sometimes I’ll see a book or a movie ad and think of my mom. I see my dad a couple of times a year. My mom didn’t know I was an atheist but did know that I think organized religion is a crock. I told my dad straight out when he tried to tell me gay marriage is wrong “because the Bible says....”
About you?
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 2, 2018:
I’m very accepting of other people. Honestly, it could be that I don’t care enough about what other people think or do to be judgmental unless it has a direct effect on my life.
How many places have you lived?
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 1, 2018:
I was born in Indiana and moved to Las Vegas, NV.
Got my bi-yearly jury summons and wonder how everyone else handles the oath part. I just do not ...
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 1, 2018:
I’ve always been dismissed before any actual selection occurred.
Where would you live?
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 1, 2018:
I love the ocean but can’t afford the live there. I also love the desert and am well paid, so I take frequent trips to the ocean. If money were no object I’d live in the Bay Area.
Tell me, what is the successful recipe for a successful marriage?
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 1, 2018:
Don’t do it. It’s a trap.
Are you for tipping or anti- tipping syndrome? I grew up in a culture where tipping is not common ...
PhoebeCat comments on Feb 1, 2018:
I tip between 20-25% when I go to a restaurant because they a significantly underpaid for a very hard job. I tip my hairdresser because she goes out of her way to accommodate my weird schedule. She also does an amazing job.
If you ever attended church, did you ever pay tithe?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 31, 2018:
I’d usually put a couple of dollars in the collection if I had it to spare.
Would you teach your child to stand for the "Pledge of Allegiance"?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 31, 2018:
I don’t but would never try to stop someone else. That is unless they tried to make me stand.
During Love Making, Are you The You Vocal Or Silent Type?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 31, 2018:
Too much noise would block out the tv.
Did you go to your senior prom/dance/formal?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 31, 2018:
I went because my boyfriend wanted to go. Skipping would have been my choice.
Is anyone else on this site asexual?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 31, 2018:
Yes. I labeled myself asexual long before I knew anyone else felt that way.
Dating dealbreakers
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 30, 2018:
Smoking, dependent children or wants children.
Sex. And, then what?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 30, 2018:
Run for the door with a promise to be in touch "soon".
What do you regret the most from your last relationship?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 30, 2018:
Not paying attention to my cat...she hated him.
With no Disrespect to those that have or had a hard time in the past, fitting in with the Cool ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 30, 2018:
I've never met a group I wanted to join.
What was your favorite subject in school?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 30, 2018:
Math and history
Which alcohol do you prefer?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
I rarely drink but I always go for tequila if I do. Strangely enough, I have a fully stocked liquor cabinet for guests I'll never have.
Household Chores
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
Dusting is just sooo time consuming.
Do any of you have earnestly religious friends?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
Sure, like I've said before I'm surrounded by Mormons. They are generally wonderful people however misguided I find their religious beliefs. They would probably say the same about me.
Do you think all religious are equal?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
I believe they're all bad because they exist for control; however, some are definitely more dangerous than others.
Is having similar politics important in a relationship?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
Yes, because politics are a reflection of what you value in life. I have no use for people who value money or power over the well being of others.
What are you most looking for in a relationship? Just your 1 Thing
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
Someone who will give me space. At this point in my life I'm totally self-sufficient and don't need someone else. I could handle a relationship with someone like me. I wouldn't mind being wanted but don't want to be needed.
What are your thoughts on the etiquette of paying for dates? Please read the thought provoking ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
Whoever does the asking should pay for the meal. The non-paying person should get the tip. My number one rule is to never order something I can't pay for myself even if it's clear I'm not expected to pay. Rule number 2. always offer to pay part of bill.
How would you feel if you found out that the person you have feeling for was transgender?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
Wouldn't matter to me, but I wouldn't be attracted to them sexually no matter what.
Would you hit your child to discipline them?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
Of course. My son likes to make out like he was smacked a lot, but I remember every time he was spanked and why I spanked him.
Who is the better parent?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
Consistency and reliability are what make a good parent, not gender. Women generally received custody in the past because they were the ones who were responsible for raising the children. When I divorced my son's father, he didn't want custody, barely picked him up for visitation and never paid child support after he started another family. Honestly, I was a married single mother long before the split.
Hey guys, we all are from different place. Of course the number of Americans will be more. But ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
I have lived in Las Vegas for almost 14 years. I moved here from a small college town in Indiana. My hometown has pretty much died. If you don't work the hospital, college or university, you're probably unemployed, underemployed, on government assistance or any combination. I love Las Vegas and the people are generally great; however, there is either a catholic or LDS church on practically every other street corner.
Is your state you live in a super religious state?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
Freaking Mormons everywhere. Highly disappointing in a town called Sin City.
To those who were raised in a religious household, what made you abandon your family's beliefs?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
My family is wrong. I was grateful that my mom was nicer to me once she joined a church but entirely resentful that she quit because of "the saving grace of Jesus" rather that because it was wrong to emotionally and physically abuse a little girl. I mean 'what would the people at church say'. Turns out on of those lovely church ladies let her husband molest her little boy. Then committed suicide when she was refused access to her grandchildren.
Is being forceful with ones' disbelief of religion any better than someone trying to convert one to ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
I don't care about anyone's religious beliefs unless they're used as a weapon against someone else.
FACT CHECK: Does a New Law Allow Atheist Doctors to Refuse Care to Religious Patients?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
I don't think it would ever come up. I can't imagine that an atheist doctor or nurse would deny a person medical care.
Where do you spend your vacation?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
I try to take six weeks of vacation a year - 2 to see my father, 2 to see my son and 2 for my niece. So I go to Indiana, Reno and Florida. I'm lucky enough to have a 4-day work week, so I also take frequent short trips to California to visit friends. I leave for my first Florida trip of the year soon and instead of going to see my son this year we're going to Hawaii for a couple of weeks (7-day cruise and Waikiki).
One thing I was told very often when I was younger was "You'll get more right wing as you get ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
I seem to move further to the left the older I get, but I was never what anyone would call conservative.
99.9% sure
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
I'm open to new information that may change my opinion.
Staying together for the kids 2.0
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
My divorce was the best thing I ever did for my son and myself.
How many of you would CHOOSE to live alone if you had the financial means?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 29, 2018:
I've lived alone for almost 6 years. It's wonderful. I don't think I could live with another person ever again.
Forced into going to church as a child
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 28, 2018:
My mom decided she needed religion to quit being a mean person, so everyone else had to go with her. It was horrible. Most of the people were nice but completely full of shit. I knew they were feeding me a line of bull at 8. I actually lost a lot of respect for my parents for buying into what I considered stupidity.
How many of your friends know you are atheist or agnostic?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 28, 2018:
If they don't know, they haven't been paying attention.
What Kind of Trump Supporter Are YOU??
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 26, 2018:
Can't stand him but he's infinitely better than Mike Pence. You can always trust Trump to act in his own best interest. Pence would destroy himself just to make a point.
Do you believe American medicine was designed to help humans heal or are we making/keeping people ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 26, 2018:
Treat symptoms but maintain illness to maximize profits.
Here in Iowa they are voting to put the Bible in our schools as a class. Supposedly it is as a work ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 26, 2018:
I don't have a problem as long as it is taught as historical fiction. Reading the bible is more common among atheists than believers.
Is it more important to be liked or respected?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 26, 2018:
Respected...I don't care if anyone likes me or not. Chances are I don't like them anyway.
Piercings? Yea or Nay?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 26, 2018:
The only piercing that bothers me in the tongue because I'm a speech pathologist and it distorts speech.
How often do you pay attention to your neighbors?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 25, 2018:
I only know one of my neighbors. I exchange hellos but really have no interest in knowing anything about them.
Is it OK to live by yourself, have friends and relationships, but nothing moving towards marriage or...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 25, 2018:
I've never been particularly interested in maintaining relationships and have refused to compromise my wants and desires since my son turned 18. I'm perfectly happy in my quiet home with my cat.
What's your preferred dwelling type?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 25, 2018:
I love my apartment. I've always had difficulty with the idea of any type of long term commitment (>5 years). I like the yearly option of walking away free and clear.
Best thing about sex besides an orgasm ?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 25, 2018:
Personally, not having it.
What age should be the age of legal consent for sex?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 25, 2018:
I lean toward 15 with no more than 3 years difference until the younger person reaches 18.
Did your parent(s) ever talk to you about 'da birds & da bees'?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 25, 2018:
My parents never talked to me. I kept on open dialog with my son from the time he was little on every topic under the sun.
What is the 1 factor discouraging women from pursuing technology/engineering related degrees?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 25, 2018:
Boredom...actually I chose my career based on the person who had the largest impact on my family, my son's first SLP when he was a toddler. I wanted to give to parents what she had given me.
If you graduated college, did you feel lost and nervous, unsure of what your future would hold and ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 25, 2018:
I had a job in my field before I graduated but had to wait 3 months for my licensing and background checks to go through.
How many of us still celebrate Christmas?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
I haven't celebrated Christmas since I moved out of my parents' house at 18.
When should anatomy/health/sex education be introduced into a child’s life?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
From birth. My son learned at an early age not to ask a question if he didn't want to know the answer. Nothing was ever off limits. When it comes to sex if you can't have an adult conversation about sex you have no business having it.
Presumed to be religious. Do people just make the assumption you're religious, as if there were no ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
Luckily, I work Thursday-Sunday 8:00 am to 7:30 pm so I obviously do not attend church.
What Did You Do So Far?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
I've done 5 of them. And my mom thought I was a problem child.
Age. Does it come to one defining moment when you realize you have gotten older? Or does it sneak up...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
I don't feel any older, but my baby is pushing 30 so I must be getting old.
Women, it's your body so why should you have to?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
For a termination... If you're in a relationship, I believe the man should be informed and offer an opinion that is taken into consideration but his permission is not relevant. If it was a simple accident during a casual sexual encounter, do what you want. If adoption is your choice, he should be offered the chance to raise the child himself. The woman would not owe him child support and would give up all parental rights.
What do you have faith in?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
I believe the only person I can count on to take care of me is me. My most valued quality in anyone is independence.
What political party do you consider yourself to be?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
I'm registered Democrat but my individual beliefs are kinda all over the place. I would never support an anti-choice candidate - that's my one non-negotiable.
Does asking a co worker for a date list as a sexual harassment
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
It's not against HR rules at work when 2 employee are on equal footing; however, it is strongly discouraged. Personally, I keep work and personal life completely separate. I have people I consider work friends in that we're friendly within the work setting but never socialize outside of the work setting.
When do you find sex the most enjoyable?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
Never. It's better when there is a deep emotional connection, but I can't say I've ever really enjoyed sex.
How many people like telling people your anti religious and how many people keep it a secret? Why?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
The only time it really comes up is at work whenever there is a holiday coming up. I always ask my kids if they celebrate the holiday if there is a craft or seasonal activity. They often ask me if I celebrate or go to church. My policy is to be as honest as the kiddo is able to understand. In my experience, people who have grown up with religion are very live and let live. The militant believers have usually converted after having done something they're ashamed of and need to believe that they've only gotten forgiveness and a clean slate due to their acceptance of an all powerful Jesus Christ.
Hey, non-believers. Has anyone here ever lied about a religious affiliation to get a perk? I have. ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
I lied to my mom and grandma for years. I didn't want to hurt my medically fragile grandma and didn't want to listen to my mother's whining "How could you do this to ME?!"
What was your worst experience with religious people?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
I've never had a bad experience with religious people. In my experience, they haven't been unkind just misguided. Generally, I just roll my eyes at them.
What Have Your Relationships Taught You?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
That I honestly don't really like many people and would rather be alone. Once my son was an adult, I decided I was never going to do anything that I don't want to do just to make another person happy.
Boyfriend is agnostic, I'm an atheist. How to cope with disagreements?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
If this is bothering you now, I'd avoid marriage and/or children with him at all costs. It isn't going to get any easier. Belief or non-belief isn't the issue really. It's honestly about his unwillingness to actually research and develop an opinion of his own.
Question from a newbie to this forum, but not a newbie Atheist. :-) I have asked many people this, ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
I don't honestly connect religious people with a belief in god because what they really done is attached themselves to the system of rules created by men that they feel most comfortable following. Spiritual but not religious kind of in my mind implies a rejection of religion but hope for a 'higher power'. Each person has to define and create their own belief system.
Do you celebrate religious holidays?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
I don't celebrate any holidays except birthdays. If I'm invited to a friends house, I'll go and bring a gift for the children because they do celebrate.
What would be the definition of hell to you?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
Reincarnation with awareness. Or waking up married with 2 kids and a third on the way.
Parents! How do you deal with grandparents who try to influence your children with religion?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
It was never an issue. He was taught that religion is an opinion and to form his own. To this day I honestly don't know what my son's actual religious beliefs are. He would most likely refer to himself as Christian but he doesn't attend church ever.
One of the things I really dislike about organized religion is the way parents tend to indoctrinate ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
I exposed my son to different cultures, religions and beliefs. I wanted him to grow up valuing our differences. Take the good and incorporate into his life and work to change the harmful aspects.
I am Secular Pro-Life. Here are my secular arguments to which I'd like you to respond.
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
I'm pro-choice. I support safe abortion on-demand. Why a woman chooses to get an abortion is absolutely no one's business but her own. I have ended a pregnancy and I have to say that it was an easy decision that I have never regretted.
Why do we need feminism?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 24, 2018:
Because up until a few years ago I couldn't get a salesperson, male or female, to wait on me at an electronics store or car lot without the presence of a man and I make a whole lot more money than all the men in my life put together.
Dog? Cat? Or Both?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 23, 2018:
I have faithfully served one cat for 16 years since she was 7 weeks old.
Religious people attracted to agnostics/atheists? Why?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 23, 2018:
The bonus points they getting for "saving" the lost sinner.
What Advice Or Support Would You Give A Friend Or Family Member Facing Death?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 23, 2018:
Let them feel whatever they're feeling without judgment. Ask them what they need instead of assuming I know. Provide a shoulder, tissues, funny movies and ice cream
Death Penalty?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 23, 2018:
No, killing someone is always wrong.
"In religion and politics people's beliefs and convictions are in almost every case gotten at ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 23, 2018:
Too many people are afraid to accept that their parents were full of crap and had no idea what they were doing.
How many people have still not worked out why Hillary lost?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 23, 2018:
People would rather believe a comfortable lie than a hard truth.
Are you Bilingual/Trilingual/Etc.?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 23, 2018:
I only speak English but would love to learn Spanish. Not knowing another language has been a roadblock in my career.
I recently asked a question about the morality of using gene therapy to correct diseases in the ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 23, 2018:
Just because they can, doesn't mean they should. They problem with medical science is that there is a huge difference between surviving and living. Many adults and children survive illnesses and accidents but will never have a life.
If you knew you were going to die one year from today, what would you do and how would you want to ...
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 23, 2018:
I don't think I'd change anything. I might take more time off work.
If you found yourself standing on Judgement day, what would you have to say to God?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 23, 2018:
How the hell did I get here?!?!
How many Careers have you had?
PhoebeCat comments on Jan 23, 2018:
1. stay at home wife and mother for 10 years 2. SLP for 14 years