I’m trying hard to be comfortable in my own skin.

Silver1wun comments on Jul 12, 2020:

Conventionally attractive applies, it seems, to what can be seen with the eyes. Personality is generally acknowledged to play a secondary role. The greater part of any good person's beauty cannot be perceived by the eyes and to subscribe to the notion that one can love and become bonded with a person based on what the eyes do perceive is superficial and transitory. Any 'relationship' based upon it will also be capricious and lacking in depth. A mirror can be a friend to those who love, respect and admire themselves because they see all of themselves in the reflection; someone they know better than anyone else in this world. Sharing that wonderful person intimately with someone with comparable standards is effortless and isn't a 'trade deal'. No facades and no promises are necessary. If we market our superficialities, expect to get consumed, used and traded-off for 'new and improvcd' packaging. Expect to feel like less with each transaction. Expect to see it in a mirror - every mirror.

What's something that has never (or will never) changed about you?

Silver1wun comments on Mar 2, 2018:

My sex and species - like ALL other humans -remains unchangeable.

[womenshealthmag.com] Falling in love. How long does it take to find the one?

Silver1wun comments on May 27, 2020:

The 'one' for all intents and purposes might as well be the 'one god'. Both are mythical, absolute-minded concepts promising some level of Paradise. They are just accepted and spoken of among believers as something real. Acquiescence to the notion is easily accomplished because it, like religion, is introduced early and alleged 'examples' abound. 'Oh, Grandpa and Grandma, Mommy and Daddy, etc ad nausea are especially lauded as eternal, that 'one' loves especially when romanticizing about them after they're gone; ...to Heaven, ...'together forever'. Sound cynical? 'tis a bit and largely for effect. Oh, I'd be one of the last to argue that deep, eternal kinds of loving bonds don't occur. It just isn't so purist because I interpret all 'that ones' to mean optimal ones. We're here only so long and hobble through our best that one finding years as damaged goods. By the time some, certainly not all, manage to repair, we're nearing the vast ocean from whence we came, on a beach littered with emotionally wrecked refugees of that one quests; many of whom still comb the beach frantically hoping to 'beat the tide' and finally get at least a glimpse of possible Paradise; one last fling at a target once, twice or never hit. That 'one' is a psychological affliction romanticizing 'settling' to the extreme. One can win a hand or two and settle happily with the winnings but must always know that unknown wins and losses were ahead in that rejected future. That knowledge is gratifying when one bonds to the optimal and a source of sometimes recurrent torture when choices fail. I don't any more believe in a that one than in a that god. The most we can comfort ourselves with is the notion that we made a 'best of all possible' decision from what was known at the time and left of life..

Late night crew, what ya sippin' on? Sailor Jerry here. Got the nice warm fuzzies goin' on.

Silver1wun comments on May 8, 2018:

Fruit punch and sparkling water. Surgery this week or it would be red wine. Maybe next week. Alan Hamel, Suzanne Somers' hubby likes Sailor Jerry. So you are in good, 'good taste' company. ;)

Another question for the group.

Silver1wun comments on Aug 28, 2018:

Maybe you are asking because you don't know him well enough to know how he thinks or who he really is? Is the reason for the flowers related to'sudden blush' of infatuation or a close relationship that has developed? If it is, as is typical of so many romances in our time and society, rather sudden and between people who don't know each other yet the artifice apparent in the flowers could be consistent. I might be mistaken in the impression simply because of your use of the term 'seeing'. Most of the time, it's use particularly by women, means inclusive of sexual intimacy. In those cases 'seeing' somebody often means 'imagining' somebody to some degree for lack of actual knowledge of them (in the non-Biblical sense... :) ) I'd think thanking him for the gesture and 'backing-off' until or unless you can get well enough acquainted with how each of you think, background and interest and value comparisons can fill-in a lot of blanks and eliminate awkward surprises.

Hi, I'm new.

Silver1wun comments on Sep 27, 2019:

There is an illustration contained within your dilemma that makes my case regarding necessity of 'rooting-out' not just theological delusions when one chooses godless life, but to shed so many assumptions about life that are founded upon these destructive theologies. One and all, major religions are the products of males exclusively. Males, with the help of their gods, also enjoy a 'superior position' (headship for your JW's) in family and community; lip-service and occasional deference to females notwithstanding... So even though your bond with him was thought to have been based on mutuality of godlessness in your life together, an anchoring in male preeminence still infected his, and apparently your, thinking. If he had betrayed the nature of your bond by becoming a devout polygamist or had just 'fallen for' another woman, the bottom line would be similar. He would still have granted himself license to determine his personal thought system and 'needs/wants' that it would satisfy as more important than the status upon which your relationship was established. It is, as you expressed it, that YOU are the one who must 'get right with (his male) god'. You thought the poke contained only salad and after you got so far into it, lo and behold, a pig also appeared... 😱 Whodduh thunk it? your decision about your future isn't so much about 'religion' as it is about how you see yourself as a human being. If you followed the theological tradition of being subordinated to a male 'head', you inadvertently 'fed the monster'. The monstrous priority places him in the 'driver's seat' with you having little more choice than to ride-along as someone else's person or to get out and walk on your own path. It is the picture you present at least and probably don't see what the hanging in there will do to what is left of YOUR life. "What has been seen cannot be unseen." It can be ignored, but just know it will be at a dear price.

What Would You Tell Your 18-Year-Old Self?

Silver1wun comments on Oct 30, 2018:

Hey Kid, go back and talk to your 17 year old self and advise him to avoid the Army and that adorable girl with insanity in her family history. By 18 it was too late.

How the Religious Right indoctrinates its followers with a false version of history

Silver1wun comments on Jul 12, 2018:

False historical narratives and atrocities are not monopolies. Every major religion propagates lies and contains counterfeit lunatic fringes of murderous vermin. Whilst remeniscing about Christian atrocities we ought not forget that they are only various sects descended from Judaism. We ought also point out that political Zionism counterfeits itself as Jewish; propagating a false historical narrative and committing criminal atrocities against humanity too. Let's not be narrow and stingey with recognition. ?

Came across a profile on another site: asexual, doesn’t smoke, doesn’t drink, doesn’t do ...

Silver1wun comments on Dec 1, 2018:

They forgot to include: doesn't answer, so don't bother to contact. :)

The world is running low or out of condoms. What may that mean for after the stay at home?

Silver1wun comments on Mar 29, 2020:

Greater proportion of children with no grandparents.

Hi all - just started a new music group (like this site needs more music groups) but this is all ...

Silver1wun comments on Feb 19, 2019:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DMDSzu4ba-s

Favorite song titles

Silver1wun comments on Aug 17, 2018:

'If Your Kisses Can't Hold the Man Your Love, then Your Tears Won't Bring Him Back' Sophie Tucker

Famous sex robot can now refuse sex if she’s not in the mood | SYFY WIRE

Silver1wun comments on Jun 22, 2018:

A dubious step up from cadavers.

"The Russian Orthodox Church has endorsed Putin’s invasion of Ukraine.

Silver1wun comments on Mar 2, 2022:

Putin is acting in defense of his country and of ethnic Russians who've been attacked for the last five years by shelling. NATO was not to expand according to the Minsk agreement. We lied! these people now want to join NATO and EU and present a threat not only to Donbas, but the rest of Russia. Putin is right!

I have heard that in states like TX, AL, & MS, The Bible is being tought in public schools.

Silver1wun comments on Oct 30, 2018:

Centralization that has been taking place gradually in our governments for about sixty years has transformed how the American public conceives of our system. We aren't and, especially for most of our history, haven't been a centralized form of government as one sees in other 'democratic' nations. Issues relating to theological influence on local governments used to be out of Federal government purview unless abuses or denial of basic, Constitutionally guaranteed freedoms were going on. State sovereignty has eroded with this transformation, in large part because of growing dependence on (addiction to) Washington money. Our form, however, hasn't changed as much as perceptions about it; that being a cooperative Federation of sovereign states. When I was a youngster in Chicago Public Schools, accommodations were made in the school week for children of different 'faiths' to leave school early on an afternoon a week so they could walk to nearby parochial schools if Catholic or Schul/Tutoring if Jewish, etc. The schedules were prearranged between the public and private 'education' entities. Nobody ever objected or cared, as it was all local and there were softer attitudes toward such things. Nobody would have cared enough to complain to - of all places - the Federal government about the practices. Even today, the idea of interstate meddling in these kinds of things seems odd. Ideological predators are everywhere and always have been. They all want to mold young minds as soon as possible because as children develop intellectually, lasting indoctrination becomes more difficult to accomplish. When and if we ever have a Federal system that prevents political, ideological indoctrination as effectively as they've guarded against theological interference, young minds will be better for it. As it is now, teaching of the Constitution and the intellectual roots that brought it into being in public schools has been supplanted by teaching about social progress; by extolling the virtues of government meddling in daily lives, of course, for the alleged 'common good'. It looks like things are taking a turn for the better recently with decades of the 'neo-indoctrinated' kicking and screaming all the way. :) If children are ever spared those who want to intellectually rob the cradle, be they theological or ideological predators, we might regain progress toward, rather than away from, lives free of captivity again.

Happy Monday!! It was a busy weekend for scammers on dating sites.

Silver1wun comments on Aug 20, 2018:

'Not being shy' works two ways. I've noticed prevalence of a sort of standing attitude on the part of many women's expressions here that the male is expected to take the initiative if it is to 'happen'. This view is consistent with roles and expectations rooted in the very androcratic religions we've abandoned. Gods and false notions about them are no longer part of our lives. Why should we cling to social mores rooted in those same male established traditions? Why do we want to accept women remaining in passive roles assigned them? The same thing goes for artificial notions about 'real men'. Upon departure from systems that limit people, especially women, all related institutions should be examined for validity and reasoned to be pro or anti life, love and freedom. Otherwise it is like moving out of a roach infested dwelling only to bring them to the new home in our possessions we haven't examined and fumigated.

Review of More Than 130 Studies Provides Powerful Evidence That Gun Control Saves Lives

Silver1wun comments on Mar 2, 2018:

It depends on where and when you're doing the counting.

I officiated a wedding yesterday and ended up doing divorce counseling for a woman in the ladies ...

Silver1wun comments on Jul 19, 2021:

Marriage as we know it is destructive of healthy, natural bonds. It turns a bond of shared life and experience into an adversarial 'relationship' wherein promises are made and tokens exchanged on a foundation not of trust; but by the very necessity of the ritual and contract, distrust. A strong bond might survive the negative influence of marriage but a marriage cannot facilitate a bond of trust.

I'd like make a friendly suggestion all the male-people who want chat with female-people on this ...

Silver1wun comments on Oct 24, 2018:

I'm curious about how many males on this site you've deemed worthy of initiating contact with interests stated and questions posed. Your post suggests that you expect initiations to be automatically from males while females await entreaties. Am I wrong?

Has anyone ever had an encounter with a celebrity?

Silver1wun comments on Mar 23, 2018:

Too many times and with too many 'kinds' to even remember them all unless asked; bringing the memory to the 'fore'. I started listing once in answer to a similar question and had to keep returning to add names; finally gave up. Most of the encounters were either waiting on them once or as them being regular customers or at their funerals. It really makes visiting a cemetery an interesting philosophical exercise, for example: Sinatra is buried very near Jimmy van Heusen (Chester). Only steps away from their markers are many more identical ones, save inscribed names and epitaphs, over people the world little knew. Some were merchants, children who didn't make it, life-long 'invalids, insane people, everyday moms, dads, cousins etc. who never left any significant mark on the world. The place just feels a very quiet - equalizing - destination for all when the party is over.

Sex is More Fulfilling With Emotional Connection

Silver1wun comments on Aug 10, 2018:

Without more of a connection than physical attraction it is what i view as assisted masturbation varying in discharge efficacy. Though almost always pleasurable and providing some discharge for one or both participants, it often misses the (my) bar to qualify as 'sex' and/or orgasm; which is an entire body/mind/spirit phenomemon. Genital climax, often called orgasm, is a considerably lesser discharge. It's often followed by continued restlessness instead of a period of trance-like relaxation.

Time Machine.

Silver1wun comments on Aug 7, 2018:

I'd take my phone with a few flash drives and a solar battery charger back to about 1965 and give-up the seat to my 18 year old self. Then continue on to about 1898, staying on for the duration. I'd find Mark Twain, Thomas Edison, Susan B. Anthony, H.L.Mencken, George Schuyler, Zora Neale Hurston and Wilhelm Reich to show them the future and enjoy their reactions. Oh, and because it was more fashionable then than now, I'd seduce Clara Bow and hopefully,,, enjoy her reactions too.

fuckAmerica and every single POS in power.

Silver1wun comments on Oct 6, 2018:

It is such a rude discovery that agnostics and atheists remain so helplessly susceptible to 'betters' telling them what is and isn't true; so fearful of independent, critical evaluation of facts that they faithfully consume interpretations of their political pastors. Political fanaticism and theological fanaticism differ only in how they define their gods and which Judas Goat leaders they blindly follow. It applies to zealots on the political Right or Left. They are similar to smokers who reject filling empty lungs with smoke only to over-stuff their stomachs. Most "non-believers" I read here have emptied their heads of religious doctrines only to re-stuff them with unexamined political ideologies. Tragic.

Has your Atheism affected your patriotism?

Silver1wun comments on Oct 23, 2018:

Not in the slightest. Mine is less for what the country has become (hope the last 50 years will prove to have been temporary) than for the cumulative genius that made it possible.

Caption this.

Silver1wun comments on Jan 25, 2019:

Waste of Federal funds in the first place. Too bad payment and supportive funds don't permanently terminate.

When someone says they are spiritual and also agnostic-atheist, I always wonder, "Do they believe ...

Silver1wun comments on Sep 16, 2020:

Looking at life force and love through religion 'colored glasses' will only confuse you. Life and love exist all around us and within us. They are both strongly sensed externally and deeply felt internally. Everything that exists cannot be perceived by eyes alone. Chief among those things is beauty.

Is anyone following the Yaniv case in Canada?

Silver1wun comments on Jul 23, 2019:

'Transgenders' falsely claim what would amount to, if it was possible, sex changing. Those who undergo surgical and hormonal modificatiuons to their physionomy and physiological functioning via artificial means at least INVEST something in the process more than 'lip service' and personal fantasies rooted in emotional illness. Even civil laws cannot by mere declaration, MAKE males and females into the opposite sex. Gender is something else and is confused with sex; making these absurd public laws possible. We are all female to begin with for about 9-10 weeks. When GENETICALLY and naturally determined changes occur, causing androgen production by those determined by nature to become male, NOTHING artificial can permanently reverse the process. We all have the right to fantasize, just like religious beleifs, and political/social ideologies, we can cherish them as beliefs all we please. When we privilege those beliefs and ourselves to forcefully impose them on others by any means - including 'legal' - we step beyond the scope of our own human rights and abridge the human rights of others. No male has EVER grown up with the experience of what it is like to be female at any stage of his life. The same can be said about females, in reverse. All either can do is imagine and possibly pretend; just like we might pretend to be cowboys or police officers, princesses or presidents. Some are possible for both sexes and some are not. Personal delusions about sexual identity cannot be imposed on those not accepting them in the real world without imposition of mass insanity; the definition of such being the inability to determine what is real from what is not. Now, I must close because there are thousands assembled below my window awaiting a Papal blessing and I cant find my silk slippers.

Being in a relationship is great but having a fall out is hurtful at any age. This to will pass. ?

Silver1wun comments on Feb 27, 2019:

That a 'fall-out' is necessary when relationships morph is a myth. If based on knowledge of one another, acceptance based on that mutual knowledge and respect for each person's right to autonomy there is no reason for the 'disappointment or frustration over unrealized expectations' at the root of falling out. People in our time expend more energy hiding from themselves and hiding much of what they DO know about themselves from others. Time reveals all, regardless of the hide and seek games and with those revelations comes the disappointments; the discoveries of how much personally woven fantasies comprised their so-called relationships. Time, honesty and honest curiosity about selves and one another combined with respect and admiration for what is learned are the prerequisites for strong friendships and 'relationships'. They are indispensable if people are to avoid falling out if later changes move them further apart. Further apart doesn't have to mean an end, but a morphing, with the love, respect and admiration remaining. If we can tolerate life-long morphing in parental, sibling, best friend, extended relative types of relationships, rest assured it can be done with 'romantic ones' when mutuality of respect and real love between the real people exists in the first place. Anything else and anything denying this natural path for all relationships is founded on myth; on fantasy and unrealistic expectations. That we live in societies and cultures based on and spawned by entire traditions of myth makes this easy to understand if people but fractionally expand their frames of reference.from self-serving, ego based, business deal relating to each other. Oh, yes, AND take a little time to learn who they are before jumping into a bed somewhere and slobbering over each others' bodies before they know who's inside.

Hello all you godless heathens! Nice to find such a community of free thinkers.

Silver1wun comments on Jul 8, 2018:

Please consider broadening identification of overseers. Theologians aren't the only self-appointed masters of our little earthly universe. Science, reason, history and successful outcomes are as threatening to propagators of false, failed political ideologies as they are to those deluded by religious bunco artists. Individual examination of their sacred dogma or questioning/criticism of their holy sees brings retaliation that is just as lethal. Religion runs part of the world and whores itself to the part of the world run by counterfeit secularity. Finding pure secularity and government based entirely on reason and lessons of history isn't ours to be enjoyed. It has yet to be earned. Should our kind not destroy itself first, it won't likely happen before centuries into the future; before we're viewed as so many ancestors yoked by intellectual slavery.

Hello all, I haven't been on this site for a while now.

Silver1wun comments on Feb 16, 2019:

Drink some strong coffee first.

Why do so many males hover or look at my profile?

Silver1wun comments on Sep 3, 2018:

I agree it feels strange, but that hover feature is probably part of it. I've accidentally engaged it while passing over with the cursor. Still, my ratio of male:female visitors is about 3:1 Being an admittedly strange man probably doesn't help.

I'm writing a novel primarily about my childhood (still fiction though).

Silver1wun comments on Mar 30, 2018:

What part does art share with approval? Under what circumstances does the abandonment of free expression stiffle itself in order to gain approval? The same principle applies to science as art. To the extent that the aforementioned considerations play a role, art and true science are negated and become akin to shallow breathing or genital climax without fullness of breathing and repose, or abandonment and surrender to orgasm. 'Go for it' is all one has for full artistic expression. Herman Melville expressed it so well: "It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in immitation." This life is no dress rehearsal.

About sums it up for this girl...

Silver1wun comments on Aug 3, 2018:

Well put.

Hi Everyone, I am working on trying to identify red flags.

Silver1wun comments on Aug 12, 2020:

Sadly, you're not ready. This is a place that enables many contacts and if you're mature, fewer 'frogs to kiss'. If you're offended by what appears to be friendly humor and a subtle complement, I'm afraid that you are one of the 'red flags' about which you seem concerned. That you take a broad number of contacts and conversation to indicate something negative 'to be thrown in one's face' shows probable arrested development and low self-esteem. Why should anyone feel insulted for doing the very thing this kind of site is about in the first place? If your notion is, even worse, applicable more so to women than to men, it is an even larger red flag. This isn't to say that it might not be the case for both of you...

creation of man? I guess that we can say the same for religion as well.

Silver1wun comments on Apr 21, 2021:

And certainly not above woman.

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Silver1wun comments on Aug 16, 2018:

George Soros to treat him to my special chicken/arsenic Marsala recipe.

Trump Can't Win: [patreon.com]

Silver1wun comments on Jun 12, 2018:

He's winning so much and isn't even half way through his first term, I feel guilty! PLEASE PRESIDENT TRUMP STOP! I'M SOOOOOO TIRED OF WINNING! (and so are the pathetic Democrats and swamp Republican Judas Goats).

What is something that is absolutely worth the money? (I say, TP, never buy the cheap stuff)

Silver1wun comments on Aug 12, 2018:

Divorce :)

Freethinkers = deists?

Silver1wun comments on Feb 20, 2022:

Free thinking, in my view, is only partial thinking if contained by a group identity. If free is to have it's real meaning a person's thinking ought not be limited in definition by group association. I see a free thinker as someone who can agree at times with people from just about any group; though not always for the same reasons. It is one thing to share a view with a group or association of them on specifics but being 'one of them' immediately removes the freedom part. Using my own example (don't know any others), I frequently share points of view with believers, Democrats, Republicans, 'Pro-Life and Pro-Choice' groups and even Communists. Belong to those groups? N E V E R So, for someone to claim to be a free thinker on one hand and identify with a group only means to me that they are free thinking withing the frame of reference for the group but not outside it. I don't evcen identify myself as AN Atheist, but as a-theist; rather describing an attitude or state of mind (adjective) than an identity as part of a group as 'an Atheist'. It isn't splitting hairs because there are plenty of would-be Atheist 'leaders' practicing Popery by setting criteria for what makes a 'real Atheist' or 'better Atheist'. Many people rejecting gods and such while still clinging to other ideological identities actually call themselves 'free thinkers' solely because of their new atheistic attitude, as though theologies are the only mind enslaving 'isms' on the planet.

What's your super power...

Silver1wun comments on Feb 24, 2022:

Though often powerful, common sense is like 'stealth' or at least often feels that way because one often feels entirely invisible yet entirely able to move about at will from one perspective to another without the limitations of membership.

I couldn't agree more.

Silver1wun comments on Mar 3, 2018:

Quite a compelling description of uselessness of boxes for containing things that grow and thrive rather well without them.

Does anyone else believe that being physically close and emotionally open is the key to a good ...

Silver1wun comments on May 22, 2018:

Yeah, but that's just too easy. What are you, some kind of idealist? :)

To all: What are your thoughts on the dates of the first out of Africa migration? Erick

Silver1wun comments on Jul 22, 2019:

I'm more interested in how 'compelling' the evidence is, genetic and otherwise, that Africa is the only nascent place on the planet for hominids. We, even after rejecting mythical accounts of singular 'births' of our kind, seem to presume that our source is singular instead of possibly coincident in several parts of the planet, fairly close in terms of eras. The chronological depth of a few hundred thousand years still might be shallow, especially in light of so many discoveries of former ancient human societies in places formerly thought uninhabited like Antarctica. The 'African source' might have been secondary, tertiary or even ?

I agree with this completely...

Silver1wun comments on Jul 21, 2018:

They break the compass as early as possible so children end up 'needing a fix'. Drug dealers aren't the only heartless pushers.

We shouldn’t hate Christ as a person in spite of what his philosophy has done to humanity over the...

Silver1wun comments on Apr 3, 2020:

Hating a person who probably didn't exist, at least as portrayed, isn't reasonable. Most fictional heroes are loved for the principles they espouse and great deeds they perform. It is the stuff of great fiction and even better soap operas.

The limits to freedom of speech

Silver1wun comments on Dec 12, 2018:

In the indoctrinated minds of people who are convinced that their fellow law respecting citizens are too stupid to be exposed to extreme disagreement and criticism without being incited to violence. This works because they themselves are vulnerable to incitement and therefore also use it on other ignorant people to advance political goals. Words alone aren't sufficient for educated, people. It takes mobs of lawless, violent people to actually cause their rational defense and mob inciters know this. It is a basic reason for being anti freedom to keep and bear arms. It doesn't take an Einstein, just packs of deluded cowards who can't 'gang-up' on pockets of an armed majority. Pound sand and whine gutless, mindless zombies?‍♂️?. Shots are just aHEAD. ?????????????????????????

Once either of these are severed, there is no going back. It can never be the same.

Silver1wun comments on May 8, 2018:

I agree with the principle and that is why one must invest time in that process. Often, given the time, respect will diminish before the other two have a chance. The more time spent observing demonstrations of loyalty the easier for trust to develop. Buyer beware; especially in investments that carry no warranty. Reckless investment causes outcomes with shared responsibility because all of the bad ones aren't scams. Some snake oil sellers believe their own BS.

What would you have done differently had you been god?

Silver1wun comments on May 12, 2020:

Even though there's a built-in assumption that there is or ever was such a thing, it's a tempting fantasy question. Based on what the latest version of a male god has done, I'd be forced to abdicate my position to the kindest, smartest, most generous female I could find. Then just staying out of the way and not taking myself too seriously would ******have to ****** result in a better world than the one we have today.

Here's another gem for all of the fanatics who lack a sense of humor. Irresistable!

Silver1wun comments on Mar 25, 2022:

Because you have no self-awareness, many of you are blind to how well you compare to Fundamentalist Christians who accuse atheists of 'hating god'. Y'all just have a few different gods and those who question them are accused of hating them. All we are doing is agitating your sense of security in safe-zones of fantasy. Sounds the same and probably feels the same. Doesn't it??

Probably going to be the best 9 minutes of my YouTube viewing day! This footage is amazing.

Silver1wun comments on Apr 2, 2021:

More to come and pretty soon.

When you have a doctor appointment at 3:15 and you don't get seen till 4:30. Grrrrrr

Silver1wun comments on Feb 22, 2018:

Whenever an appointment is delayed by more than a polite 15 minutes, I inquire about the delay. If there isn't a polite, conciliatory, explanation I leave and seek-out another provider. This applies to every business relationship wherein I'm the client/customer. Not to do this merely supports a human propensity to forget who is working for whom; who is paying whom for value in return. One sees this relationship forgotten all too often. Some of the worst offenders are doctors, theatrical agents, union representatives bureaucrats of every stripe. They establish themselves and their roles as 'working for you'. Soon a confusion arises wherein they quickly forget who is subordinate in the relationship. Politicians are the cardinal examples. They beg you to hire them and immedialtely turn their attitude 180 degrees after election to you being their ward... M.D. after a name doesn't confer privilege or an exalted status. They GET PAID for what they do the same as the gardener. Don't ever let them forget it.

I’ve been shot in combat.

Silver1wun comments on Sep 15, 2018:

Too many teachers are in the profession because they've arrested at developmental levels that make dealing with other adults who are emotionally balanced difficult. Carrying on sexually with children is a symptom of it and 'playing the authoritarian' with students' parents is another. Thorough training with non-lethal, disabling weapons would be much safer. For those who would choose it, free martial arts training concentrating on techniques for defense from armed assailants could be helpful too.

Cassville, Mo.

Silver1wun comments on Aug 26, 2022:

I get more excited by the idea of Parents being spanked when their children behave disruptively. Can you imagine how children's behavior might change if their parents were spanked for children's bad behavior? That some of the parents would enjoy it explains why so many of the little bastards are so unhinged.

Is poetry a dying art do people still get lost in the simple complexity of a poets rhyme?

Silver1wun comments on Nov 18, 2018:

Language is in death throes. Poetry, as a consequence, will be the first to expire.

What do you do before a date ?

Silver1wun comments on May 31, 2018:

Try to put a slightly better than average foot forward, if it is the first date. A 'best foot' for anyone might make a best impression, but will be temporary unless one actually lives it 24/7/365. It's mildly disingenuous to lead off that way. I try not to over-dress, depending of course on the destination. On a first date it is good to get most of the fundamental, possibly problematic things swept out of the way. I disclose them sooner and save wasting time and hurting of feelings later. Being atheist is a big one for many, so spill it ASAP. If, like me, there are other things one knows to be peculiar to others, there's no better time than a first meeting. Second dates will be a lot fewer but will contain much higher enjoyment and exciting possibilities.

I read some recent figures that in 26 states of US (mostly Southern) the death rate is higher than ...

Silver1wun comments on Jul 5, 2018:

There have always been more women than men. Nature assures it in a number of ways besides the foolish stunts and violence associated with too much testosterone. I've told one of my grandson's countless times when he shouts-out a "Hey Grandpa, watch this!", on his bike, at the pool or on his scooter, with 'Dustin, that is why girls live longer'. As far as the Southern USA population goes, people with African ancestry are in abundance and the majority in many places. They have more children than other groups except possibly Latinos. Both groups would over-shadow the 'white' population. So be it. It's America. As long as the people of ANY race are here legally and love this country, who cares? America isn't a race or religion. It is an idea and an ingenious one at that.

I am a former atheist, but after using psychedelics I have come to believe there is some form of ...

Silver1wun comments on Apr 10, 2018:

Mind altering drugs are not necessary for observing Nature from a functional thinkiing perspective. Recognition of life energy isn't antithetical to rejection of deities in my thinking. One of my favorite quotations (in my bio): "In the act of thought, life comprehends it's own essence." Wilhelm Reich, M.D. We are manifestations of life. How we function, societal and theological damage notwithstanding, exemplifies our place in the hierarchy and offers functional clues in our quest for understanding; in our 'comprehension of our own essence'.

So, had a row with a sibling today about politics where he was essentially reciting Faux Nooz, and ...

Silver1wun comments on Dec 23, 2018:

Drugs and alcohol are not the only addictions plaguing our time and society. They are just the most costly of addictive substitutes. Many of us become addicted to behaviors that furnish similar 'highs' and fears of their loss when confronted with the facts of the addictions. One of them, most here know well and have 'kicked' is theological 'feel-good' rituals and doctrines; which include the payoff of faith in one's own supremacy by virtue of being a believer and subscriber to the ideas of others. Another is addiction to functionally identical ideological and political pap of BOTH the Left and Right. This site reeks of it. It is teeming with self-aggrandizing, priggish and presumptuous ideologues who are no more than followers and users of packaged political doctrines, no less addictive and no less counterfeit than 'scriptures'. It is ABSOLUTELY COMEDIC! To allow others to form thought and beleif systems for us means that they really aren't 'our beliefs'. They are borrowed or purchased with the price of abdicating personal rights to judge what is from what ain't to others. Surest symptom of this kind of addiction is responding to differing opinions as though they ALSO are products of mesmerizing 'group think'; such as juvenile expressions and distortions; word play on names and terms that run the gamut on both Left and right. I won't dignify them here by citing. We hear and read them day in and day out. If you dine out, guess what? You only ate what the menu offered. You didn't even have a hand in preparing it. You didn't even slavishly follow a recipe at home for it. That means it isn't your product; though it technically becomes both yours *and ultimately you* by consumption. Want to claim independence of thought? Do it just like 'home cookin'. Compose the recipe, choose and proportion the ingredients and even refine them with each preparation. Know how and why the recipe and preparation are the way they are as author of them. No need then for 'talking points'. Then and only then can one fairly represent it as their own. The same goes with beliefs and opinions. Know this. Dinner guests who don't know how to cook will accuse you of 'ordering out' and re-plating dinner because its the only way they know how to eat.

What do you think?

Silver1wun comments on May 22, 2021:

Marriage, as it is known today, will soon be an archaic, obsolete institution. The sooner the better.

I just need to vent a bit.

Silver1wun comments on Oct 3, 2018:

Good gosh, you're living out in the middle of nowhere. A town of forty or fifty thousand in the traditional Midwest doesn't exactly provide the best fishing waters; even if surrounded by lakes. The roots of disappointment are often deeply invested in unrealistic expectations. And, though you're still a 'Spring Chicken', patience is usually a bit more abundant by your age. Look at yourself. Like yourself and if it is necessary for that to happen, forgive yourself. Be good to yourself now that your children are older and don't require as high an amount of it.. Then be choosy about who is fortunate enough to deserve some of your attention. Get out, in case you aren't already, to larger, more sophisticated population areas. That doesn't necessarily mean Minneapolis. It didn't do much for Mary Richards OR her friend Rhoda. ;) A man who approaches you, opening with superficial comments or compliments is almost always going to have little more depth himself. Don't waste your time. If you really are contented with Marcie, you'll attract somebody similar with his own outer orbit to attract you just as surely as Hydrogen finds Oxygen. It's what we're made of. In the meantime, I think it would help you or anyone in relatively remote place to get into richer environments with greater variety. Time takes care and in any environment there is no substitute for it.

Was Jesus a man who became mythicized or a myth that became historicized or something else?

Silver1wun comments on May 25, 2020:

My impression is the former. Easy to put prophetically convenient words in a mouth and deeds into legend centuries hence. Today's press routinely does it on a daily basis.

How much does race factor into your dating preferences?

Silver1wun comments on Mar 19, 2019:

What you mean by 'date' I'm not sure. Nothing for me. Other than sex (misunderstood and misnamed 'gender' in our times), communicable disease and mental disability, I see barriers as few to none. The gauntlet between social friendship (my definition of dating) and high enough regard for sexual intimacy, is long and critical. Race is little more than the color of the eggshell. Culturally related propensities than dwell within people in racially differential ways can be a much greater source of real problems with matching values. Many people with simplistic views will tend to miscategorize rejections based on those differences as 'racial', when it is a fundamental principle of social associations that people are more comfortable with the familiar. And, that is about the same with all people; group thinkers in particular.

I am trying to figure out what is going to kill us faster.

Silver1wun comments on Sep 20, 2020:

According to the figures announced by Joe Biden, we're all going to be dead from COVID19 by next Spring. No joke! I wish it was. This corrupt, demented old fool announced last June that over 120 Million Americans had died of COVID19. Today, Sunday, September 20th., he announced that 200 Million Americans will have died of it by the end of his "speech". So, in Joe's world, we've lost 80 million people in 3 months to COVID. Now stretch those figures out. With a population, before last June, of about 331 Million, according to Joe's calculations we're all going to be dead from COVID by next Spring! Can't make this crap up! And a substantial number of blindly political sycophants want to put his finger on the button that can assure ours and our children dying in a nuclear war. Good thing we'll all be dead in 6-8 months if he gets elected because then it won't matter! https://www.breitbart.com/politics/2020/09/20/joe-biden-claims-200-million-americans-have-died-coronavirus/

Since I am new here I have to share.

Silver1wun comments on Oct 1, 2020:

I fully support protection of bodily sovereignty, not just for women but for all humans. That said, I don't understand why people who believe whatever they believe praying over a stone that expresses sympathy for the lives of unborn terminated at various stages 'shames' anyone. It is something they do where they congregate and is a shared sentiment. That I also see prohibition of pregnancy termination via voluntary abortion as a matter of bodily sovereignty and a private matter over which a woman is entitled to 100%, unmolested, unthreatened authority, it remains homicide and some people, believers and non, hold homicide to be something very grave (pun intended). As long as they mourn away - as far as possible - from secular laws and society, I have no problem with it. It falls under First Amendment protection; an amendment which is vitally important to non-believers as well.

Could you have sex with someone you're not attracted to?

Silver1wun comments on Jul 24, 2018:

No

Do you dislike all religions equally?

Silver1wun comments on Apr 8, 2018:

What makes some of them worse is determined by the proportion of violent lunatics to the merely well meaning deluded. Almost all of them are breeding grounds for their respective lunatic fringes. They all also share androcentrism. Even the most peaceful sects practice keeping women out of leadership roles. This form of destructiveness is more subtle than violence but still keeps females in subjection.

Are handmade items a dying art?

Silver1wun comments on Aug 15, 2018:

At this point whatever is 'one of a kind' is gaining popularity and demand. People are starved for that which is flawed but beautiful. Water torture perfect computers are numbing starved brains for subtleties of real, living differences and flaws. That is wherein the music of life lies.

Been feeling pretty low and heartbroken the past couple days.

Silver1wun comments on Mar 19, 2019:

That a mere man should be ascribed so much importance indicates a chronic dependency on artifice. Addictions are made of the same stuff.

Do you even read the previous responses before you spout your opinion on the topic?

Silver1wun comments on Jul 2, 2018:

No

://[www.businessinsider./science-of-cheating-2017-8] Infidelity. Your thoughts?

Silver1wun comments on Jul 4, 2018:

Fidelity and self-esteem are mutually dependent aspects of character. There is no relativism in that regard as long as respect for oneself and belief in the value of commitments is firm. We are subjected to a system that compromises self-esteem as early as possible; not the least of them being 'original sin'; of being told that we're inherently weak and evil without salvation, Earthly and ethereal.. To see such relativism of character values in popular publications is no surprise. To the extent that we live, respect and cherish concepts of fidelity and integrity, we'll despise them in others who demonstrate the opposite. That includes anyone we, per chance, behold in a mirror.

A question has been started (and I totally agree), should the carnage of the latest (and previous ...

Silver1wun comments on Jun 4, 2022:

Absence of understanding is central to how and why these and other atrocities are growing in frequency and depravity. That fostering deficiency doesn't belong to perpetrators, but the public at large. Two primary facts underpinning these terrible events aren't given proper attention and they're huge clues that can lead to discovery of many of the secondary causes, none of which, incidentally, are related to the instruments of murder and mayhem. Fact #1 relates to worsening over time; not a decade or two, but a much longer duration. The many decades long, gradual increase screams at us that, like other sicknesses, instead of correcting or erasing them, we're fostering them. There is no such thing as 'a pound of cure' to block this accelerating problem. It will require tons of cure aimed at the sources! Fact #2 can't be any clearer These crimes (school specific) are committed by men; usually Caucasian and young. Other mass murders are an adjacent but obviously related issue. The racial aspect shouldn't carry nearly as much significance because our population is overwhelmingly white, but I think it still remains a valuable clue. Little, if any courage, let alone reasoning power, is being mobilized to eliminate causes. That 'take' isn't some misguided excuse-making, trying to avoid necessary attention to a vital question of who's right to weapon possession deserves liberty of exercise suspended or forbidden. Constructive and destructive actions have causes. Yes, actions are required to mitigate destructive potential at least in temporary terms, but an oft used example of an upstairs bathtub overflowing clarifies. Mop and squeegy? Oh yes, vigorously! However, if the flow isn't stopped upstairs, the problem will remain and damage will increase. To terminate a life, human or animal, is extremely discomforting; less so if survival or well being are 'on the line'. Harboring sentiments to harm or kill indiscriminately is but one of a host of symptoms, all of which point to emotional separation phenomena. Culturally, we boys are conditioned to this as part of our sexual role identity, allegedly as a sign of strength. To do what is perceived to be necessary and overcoming emotional resistance, relatively healthy character must 'separate' from and overpower instinctual distaste in order to kill. Thought of it alone, not only creates frightening anxiety, but deep, penetrating regret and loss of some high regard for self, after the fact. I know, this personally and my duties only pertained to animals. A person who derives any type of satisfaction or pleasure in such acts possesses a sick and potentially dangerous character structure. Our 'civilization' manufactures sick character structures. Except for bombs, it is what ...

Need some help, do you know what this is?

Silver1wun comments on Apr 25, 2019:

My guess is possible internal component of a stationary bellows. It has some obvious age to it, appears entirely utilitarian and the materials, at least visually, indicate a time before use of plastic or metal became common. The band portion shows signs of being pinched midway between the parallel pieces. This indicates both closed and open positions. Signs of stress on the pieces are in the same direction (reason for suspecting a stationary bellows, opening and closing via the moving half). Also manual bellows were fore-runners of electric fans, etc. I think the circular band might have housed a flexible bag and also suspect that this thing was only one of two or multiple other ones. Interesting to ponder. Maybe also applicable as an internal part of a manually operated organ that required foot pumping.

I am suffering from depression at the moment

Silver1wun comments on Jun 19, 2018:

Depression is a symptom with causes that vary, somewhat like anemia. Without knowing anything about a person, even a wild guess seldom hits the mark. I used to get depressed once in awhile. It was usually the easily identifiable kind called 'anger turned inward' unrelated to things like disability or addictions. Anger happens pretty commonly as a result of frustration from unrealized expectations, sometimes exascerbated by ingratitude. I found one good remedy by accident. Suffering depression after walking away from everything material connected with a marriage many years ago; I was riding a bus to work and was running late. Sitting there silently cursing the buses for always being behind schedule it happened! The beeping sound! Whenever the bus was taking on a person in a wheelchair a little platform SLOWLY extended. The driver had to get out of his/her seat, wrestle the chair into place, secure it with a belt and then FINALLY resume driving! Boy was I pissed now being even later.. Suddenly while regarding that poor young soul bound to a chair, I felt internally embarrassed and really ungrateful. Would I ever in ten lifetimes switch places with him? Being merely late for work shrunk to insignificance. Loss of my car, house and the illusion of them being meaningful at all disappeared; especially knowing that I, unlike the other passenger, would be able to replace them soon. During the rest of the ride new eyes recognized others on that bus with physically apparent barriers that I didn't have. It has stayed with me as a reusable remedy in times of frustration. I've learned that anger management is mis-named. Actually expectation management and gratitude management head-off necessity for it. That includes anger at self. My case as mentioned was about depression not complicated by other issues.

Is this possible? What is your opinion?

Silver1wun comments on Jun 20, 2018:

The best level is at any friend level for people who are their own best friends.

Chat anyone?

Silver1wun comments on Aug 2, 2019:

Topic/s anyone?

Is there a correlation between being a true atheist and abolishing the monogamous lifestyle?

Silver1wun comments on Apr 15, 2019:

Being atheist isn't something that can be subjected to definition other than that of having rejected gods/theology. There is nothing else to be added or subtracted that could be reasoned to qualify one as a 'true atheist'. A true 'Atheist' is spoken of as a proper noun, as a label or title most often rather than an adjective merely describes one's state of mind or attitude. The trouble with the former conception ( more popular) is as soon as you label something as a noun, ambitious, self-important prigs begin to dream up criteria and establish their own petty orthodoxies; umbrella intellectual fifedoms over which they deign to preside, claiming superior judgment over who is or isn't "TRUE". As to polygamy; it is therefoe impossible to draw any consistent relationship between it and the atheist mind set one way or another. They aren't related any more or less than any other thought on that narrow basis alone. Polygamy in our time and place in history is flawed like every other social practice/institution within human societies by the simple, pathogenic common denominator of male dominance. Anything dominated by males is poisoned from the start.

How do you feel about parents spanking their children?

Silver1wun comments on Jul 5, 2018:

Before a child is equipped to reason, toddler age, yet is able to run and climb is the only stage at which 'spanking', never in anger but possibly feigned anger or sternness, works. No MUST mean no! Stop MUST means stop. Come here MUST mean come here. To a little mind that cannot yet reason and perhaps has also discovered the fun of running away to be chased, it can mean life and death near a street with lots of traffic or a sheer edge in a high place, etc. Sorry, but I don't know of anything that works better on those little munchkins than a stern vocal warning and a firm 'potch' or two on the rump, usually through a diaper anyway, when they disobey those three commands. It isn't abuse. Once reasoning begins, natural consequences like being ostracized or deprived of loved, non-necessities and limiting freedom work better, with less hostility and harbored anger than spanking.

Can you love someone that does not love themselves?

Silver1wun comments on Sep 16, 2018:

No law against wasting time, energy, love and life itself chasing an illusion.

Isn't the ignorance surrounding atheism astounding?

Silver1wun comments on Nov 5, 2018:

I'm shocked, SHOCKED, to find there's reasoning going on here! Please keep it up. It's a breath, even two, from above the pall.

Episode 3 of "Stupid things Christians say to me" A coworker and I were discussing the ...

Silver1wun comments on Aug 18, 2018:

Just imagine the depths of embarrassment if she was chosen to represent our kind on an alien planet.

Here's the thing: Time is never patient; As it has no reason to be.

Silver1wun comments on Jul 3, 2018:

'Twelfth Sonnett'

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Silver1wun comments on Aug 16, 2018:

Dead people make the best guests. They don't eat anything and you can finish their drinks for them. When the check arrives, you can push it over to them just before excusing yourself to visit the restroom.... next door. :)

When you know a friend is hurting, reach out.

Silver1wun comments on Aug 28, 2018:

Choose 'friends' wisely and this won't be an issue.

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Silver1wun comments on Mar 23, 2020:

The path of crushing hopes is a lonely one. Yes, of course there are mitigating elements and influences that affect the accuracy of any index. There are also orientations to events and their meanings; prognostications about outcomes and a lot of identity based wishful thinking. This is why different formatting of information reveals errors in all of them to reach a body of information that consists of more knowledge and less misinformation. One cannot hear one movement and know a symphony. Media presentations are, however, skewed for political motives belonging to media owners. We know who they are without charts and we also know that their reported information has been 100% anti-elected administration for it's entire existence. One really ought to 'get out once in awhile' for different perspectives. Incidentally, I'm neither a Republican/Conservative nor a Democrat/Liberal. In fact I have but one identity - my own, in no need of institutional approval.

Will a Stand Your Ground Self-Defense Claim Save Black Oklahoma Man Who Killed White Intruder?

Silver1wun comments on Mar 24, 2022:

NOBODY likes injustice if they identify it as such; usually when they experience it instead of dishing it out. Injustice and authoritarianism are part of the DNA of our 'civilization'. Until the authoritarian male dominated, fascist family structure stops being the, albeit often unfulfilled, ideal, it will push all other strata of civil organization to that end. The family and the individual character structure are the molecules and elemental building blocks of most societies for the last 6,000 years. Thus our history is might makes right, from the top down and*the bottom up*. Organize it's architecture any way you wish. The composition will always ultimately be authoritarian and fascist. Even dictators are chosen. Most often it is because they offer the same kind of deal as the authoritarian father. Banded together under 'Godfathers' they offer protection and salvation, whether the 'kissing ring' is on the hand of a pope or a tin god in a pinstriped suit. Justice isn't a thing of Nature but a human (male) contrivance; an ideal, like gods and devils on opposite ends of the scale, that is entirely whimsical and fictitious.

What do you guys think.

Silver1wun comments on Sep 11, 2018:

When it comes to death cults, I really, really like those Jehovas Witinesses followers. The organization is something else. Like all other death cult spin-offs of the Abrahamic theologies, the 'Witnesses' are overseen by males. They also base their entire perspective on allegedly inspired determinations of what is and is not 'scripture'; scripture being an unquestionable level of dictates originating with their god. One of the most corrupt proceedings in the ancient world was the council at Nicaea and it was the determiner of which ancient writings qualified as 'scripture'. It was also glaringly consistent with all major religions since that era of being entirely male dominated. The witnesses are scholarly and well meaning folks. The fatal flaws with them are shared with all other major cults in that males lead them. My beliefs differ from all such cults in that I believe women to be humanity's better natural leaders and that males are vital to the protection and support of that status.

It's Not Always Just About Sex

Silver1wun comments on Aug 10, 2018:

We see eye to eye on the principle but not qualitatively. Laughing is certainly an expression of and discharge of energy. I see it as closely relating in function to orgasm but on a lesser scale. Laughing, even sneezing are pretty good comparisons because they demonstrate the 'tension/charge' principle upon which all life processes, especially orgasm, operate. Tension and charging to a point of discharge, followed by a period of relaxation wherein the cycle resumes is demonstrated in all living systems. In, for example, respiration, muscle operation, mitosis, gestation and birth, dually in heart 'beat' etc. It is a functional paradigm observable in all life manifestations and hierarchies. Well, hmmm, after rethinking this... YUP! A good floor rolling, falling out of a chair laugh gets real close. :)

What is the plural of Jesus?

Silver1wun comments on Mar 29, 2018:

Since the name originates from Hebrew, Yeshuah or Yeheshuah, my inclination would be to apply the Hebrew pluralization suffix. I'd say Jesim or Yeshuim; following other examples such as Cushim (not necessarily respectfully used) for people of Black African ancestry or Goyim applied to non-Jews. It is also used to designate different kinds of other Jews such as Sephardim, Mizrahim and Ashkenazim.

So if one has no desire to find a new relationship, does one ignore all those members who express a ...

Silver1wun comments on Sep 7, 2018:

Discussions have been waning of late. Worth a try though. Sometimes you 'get lucky' in the non-popular meaning of the term. Lots of desperation here in the 'partnering dept.' I look at the site as an amusing, secondary place to find women with a more independent turn of mind and possible compatibility on other levels. Don't hold your breath for that though. Fortunately there is no shortage of women in the real world if all one wants is something substituting temporarily for a genuine sexually intimate relationship. In other words, if you must kiss frogs, why bother to find them in cyberspace instead of the nearest watering hole? Personal experience so far is that the site is good for idea comparison if you can find a rare princess or two without the formality of a kiss; especially when one reaches out instead of sitting passively on a lily pad. As far as actually meeting, back to the lily pad. Gods and theologies have been rejected but not the inhibiting habits and social mores that went with them. Theologies have been abandoned but political indoctrination remains strong. Forums are pretty good here but forget chat rooms unless you are fond of micro-talk and listening to your hair grow. Chat rooms and rapid fire memes seem to be popular among the shirtless crowd. Good luck and enjoy!

So, talk me out of hating people.

Silver1wun comments on May 31, 2019:

What a simple question with enormous implications! I like the way you find yourself evaluating expectations as catalysts for angry (hateful) reactions. Humans are very lovable. Behold any newborn or toddler before the gauntlet of abuse begins. The same applies to animals except they are spared abuse by their own kind and only become ugly, as with our kind, when they too are abused. So, I think it can be more accurately put that we don't so much hate other people as we do their conduct when it doesn't measure up to our expectations; when it doesn't exemplify our personal values. Both cure and prevention, sadly, are out of reach. What to do, what to do?

I'd like to offer you a fun challenge.

Silver1wun comments on Jan 9, 2019:

At poetry, I don't know why, confusion sets in when I try finding words purposefully high I just sigh wondering wherein the meanings do lie causing readers to laugh, groan and cry.

How do you console a young boy who's father has just committed suicide?

Silver1wun comments on Jul 13, 2019:

You have the advantage of knowing both of these people and odds-on, are the best, once your own pain has dissipated, at choosing those things to say. What to say depends on the developmental age of the boy and more knowledge about his father's past and present circumstances. I'd start, if close to him, with asking him to role play with me. Pretend, I'm your dad and we have a few minutes for you to tell me what you want, ask me what you want to ask and maybe pretend a last hug that we never had a chance to share. If this was possible, his opening-up would give you the cues as to what to sincerely tell him from the perspective of an older person with lots of experience with life's pleasures and pains, dreams and disappointments. Other than that, fundamentally, people end their lives because every moment of life is a moment of pain from which there appears to be no escape and the causes are too many to enumerate. If the dad left no note, showed no concern for how his choice would be felt by others, the pain must have been 'as bad as it gets'. If people feel abandoned as though they didn't matter enough, one thing to help identify with the total distraction of severe pain is that NONE OF US, are able to think about anything else. Thinking about how others look at you and their potential suffering only adds to the impossibility, as perceived by the person who has lost all hope of escape; save that final escape. Don't know if this helps, but you should go with your heart and the words will come; your sentences will be finished for you.

I’m struggling with the statement people make when they say they are Free Thinkers, Critical ...

Silver1wun comments on Jun 22, 2020:

Lotta stuff there Ex. I like it though, considering it's grounded in isms and labels. In my way of thinking real individuals dwell intellectually beyond labels. Not to say they won't BE labeled at any time they agree with this or that group/s position on 'issues'. As often as not, an individual will support a position advocated by groups for reasons that differ from theirs. Nevertheless, they'll find themselves labeled as herd members until the next issue comes along and they part ways with those who thought them ideological comrades. Individual thinkers find themselves among many divergent groups if they weigh issues at hand on the basis of personal reasoning. If it doesn't happen, they'd better re-check their 'individuality'... Labels and 'identities' are for the intellectually lazy and those who lack confidence in their own gifts of discernment ability. If one is in need of an identity with one or more groups to feel comfortable to themselves they are still dependent; still addicted to the notion that validity requires some sort of group licensing for legitimacy; that one or more others possess superior qualities of reason. We're gifted as humans with faculties that are a bit more and less, as there is no such thing in Nature as equality. Our distinctly human abilities are not vastly different and unfortunately we are taught the opposite before those abilities reach fruition. If you can escape the penchant for thinking of yourself in group and group identity terms it is a healthy first step toward affirmation of Nature and our nature.

Hawley votes against anti-Asian hate crime bill | TheHill

Silver1wun comments on Apr 23, 2021:

The greatest single hate crime against Asians in our history was made possible by a Democrat President who also behaved like a king with 'executive orders'. He was immediately followed by another Democrat President who also by-passed Congress to commit our troops to an undeclared, adventurous foreign war. Today we have a 'Mad Hatter' Democrat in charge, dropping executive orders and usurping power at an unprecedented rate; while Congress and the 'news' media provide ample, symbolic distractions for the national peanut gallery watching the marionettes.

Has anyone else noticed the serious bias of the Facebook administrators in issuing punishments?

Silver1wun comments on Mar 27, 2018:

Facebook seems to be challenging our creativity. I know of many on the far Right with the same laments. The trick is to insult, if that is your intent, indirectly instead of just calling names. It is juvenile and boriing to call other individuals (not movements or large crowds of the deluded) names aimed only at arresting conversation. Let me cite an exampe of only one way I've used a couple of times when being called an 'idiot'; a label I bask under when it comes from usual sources. I explain that words mean things and people should familiarize themselves with meanings before loosely throwing them around. It only adds to confusion. An 'idiot' by original meaning, was a person develop**mentally** arrested between ages 1 and 3. Two other oft misused terms are imbecile and moron; also archaic terms designating levels of intellectual arrest, ages 4-7 and 8-12 respectively. I go on to point out that many adults arrested in the category of moron are, like most 8-12 year olds, literate, physically strong, capable of simple everyday unskilled work and tasks like driving and posting asinine comments on facebook. The beauty of that kind statement lies in its 'fly-over' quality for the botched and cattle-prodding efficacy + or - on everyone else. :)

I had another date last night.

Silver1wun comments on Aug 6, 2018:

If you keep the frontiers clear, they never get to the city gates. DO NOT allow touching of any kind that you don't welcome. State it emphatically! Question: 'You just touched me. If it was intentional, don't let it happen again or this meeting/'date' will terminate! There is no 'right' inherent in ANY meeting of a stranger, to touch. Tactile contact isn't appropriate unless it becomes clear that you are comfortable with who they are; usually by second or third meeting. You can't be ambivalent about it. Men (we) are pretty simple and don't often respond to hints as well as emphatic rejection of physical overtures. "Agreeing to meet you and get acquainted did not include a right for you to touch me." Is a good line. Look him straight in the eye. Potential abusers and exploiters don't understand any other language. If you ignore or are lax with them, they will not deal with you from a position of being external. Once you allow them to touch, fondle, and verbally test you with mild subordinating statements without protest, they'll act more like proprietors than suitors. My sex is damaged in ways that makes acting out much more insidious and exploitative than anything damaged females can do. Weak men carry around the notion that they can actually own you if you allow their unwanted advances without protest for fear of offending them. It is a sickness with a thin veneer. You MUST remain vigilant at all times when it comes to presumptuous touching and test orders to see if you'll obey. KISSING????? How do you let THAT happen? Tell them to keep their lips attached to their own face and off yours unless you show or tell them it is o.k. Sheeesh! What has happened to women in a few score years?

I don't know how this is a dating site as there are few people who live close to one another.

Silver1wun comments on Mar 2, 2018:

"Truth is the daughter of time." It is a proverb that a long life has verified. Meeting people physically, for me, is secondary too meeting their mind and from that evaluating their character; at least to a sufficient level to make intentional travel worth the time and effort. Even then, 'dating' or establishing an intimate aspect to an ultimate relationship wouldn't be prerequisite. I can be very close and even loving of others with whom friendship and activities are shared without intimacy being necessary. Aren't we all capable of this? Do we not love our life-long friends, neighbors, children, siblings, parents, etc? Love is really only limited by prioritization of time and scope of acceptance. Deciding to take a relationship to a physically intimate level, for me, first means choosing a loved one for exclusivity of that element and as something that happens **after** establishment of mutuality of respect, trust, admiration and love. It is kind of a curious thing to me that people will use a resource like this in an effort to find relationships of primary importance, yet limit the distance they'd travel (invest) to 20, 50, 100 or so miles. Most people travel further than that to visit Las Vegas for a few days.. Sexual intimacy can 'happen' with mere coitus and it doesn't require much to make it happen. Likewise, not much comes out of it and whatever does (proverbially) 'stays in Vegas'... It is like playing or listening to solo percussion and calliing it music; like reciting lyrics without a melody; like rigid rendering of a melody in tempo with no phrasing or off key. It might be fun or amusing in varying degrees and if one never experiences a symphony it actually passes for music. You asked for opinions and that about covers mine.

For previous believers, what was it that made you unconvinced about god and religion?

Silver1wun comments on May 13, 2019:

It required no more than simple reasoning to escape the captivity of theologies. I don't dignify them by calling them religions. That goes double for describing their hapless captives as 'religious'... The return to nascent non-belief in gods and other myths was a matter of reasoning; no science or other crutches required. Learning more about women and what wonderful strong, balanced, beautiful and even miraculous creatures their manifestation of our kind is played a central role in that reasoning. Observation of both males and females on the personal level is sufficient. On social and historic levels cinches it. The least gifted of our kind somehow enjoy almost exclusive leadership on lower social levels and absolutely exclusive on highest levels of all social (theological and philosophical) and political institutions in our world.. What kind of creating god, if such a thing was real, would place the lesser equipped sex in charge of the species? Why would a loving god who wished to foster the best human attributes turn us over to the least pragmatic, constitutionally weakest, shorter-lived sex to 'head' human families and societies? Seriously, THAT is all one needs to disclose the corrupt nature of so-called religion. After disclosure of this nonsensical arrangement, all one needs to confirm it is to observe the decaying condition of human civilizations over the last 6,000 years. Which sex is the most prolific source of overt violence and destructiveness? Which sex, even in early childhood, shows the most aggressive behaviors; with a love of hitting things with objects, throwing objects, physically combat one another and or assert power via physical bullying? It doesn't get any better as we approach adulthood. In fairness, we know that females exhibit/act out destructiveness in more covert ways. We are all damaged and I don't think a god that was able to 'create' us would do such a bone-headed thing as putting males in charge. Based on my reasoned observations, I can't even imagine such an entity even being male in the first place. We are what we are, in my view, because of the 'brine'; because of the 6,000 year long soaking in the brine of male domination and destructiveness. Our ways of living were devised by and have been overseen by males and they are corrupt, corrupting and pathogenic. That no god would be so stupid should be enough to convince anyone that gods belong on the heap of other absurd myths cast aside as children mature and, one can only hope, begin thinking independently.

A woman has the last word in any argument.

Silver1wun comments on Mar 24, 2018:

To funny!

Do you go to church just to keep the peace?

Silver1wun comments on Jun 12, 2018:

Oh, your question reminded me of a fling I had many years ago with an older woman of 33. She lamented some men who were on the obnoxious side that she wasn't really interested in but who 'hounded' and wouldn't go home or go away at the end of an 'evening'. She told me that she just let them 'have their way' to get rid of them. This going to church to suit others bears some interesting similarity. Keep the peace. Monday is only tomorrow. Or: "Close your eyes and think of England?"