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Some 1st hand experience.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 10, 2019:

Proud to see from the comments that our whole group has their minds in the gutter, hee, hee.....My first experience was in a car....

I guess they should stick with dogs?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 10, 2019:

Cats have their own priorities.....

Well Jamie, er, hard at first?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 9, 2019:

I'm sure Jamie has enough love to share with all of the men on Agnostic, lol!

Photo filters are the bane of Internet dating.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 9, 2019:

Photo filters on a dating site profile are bullshit and I avoid anyone who uses them as I figure they are immature and trying to be deceptive about their appearance. I am also turned off the by photos with fish lips or duck face expressions. Very immature-looking on the faces of middle aged women.....

Can you post a song with short or sweet in the title?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 9, 2019:

Of course, Sweet Jane, either Lou Reed's solo version or the original by his band, The Velvet Underground.....

When was the last time you were kissed. AS YOU AGE, are you getting more amorous, or less?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 8, 2019:

A couple days ago. Hopefully again tonight. Before I began dating my current girlfriend around the end of Aug., it had been a few years for me......As far as the ? of amorousness with age, IDK...

Do you think this could be the same cat I posted earlier, all grown up?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 7, 2019:

It's ears look like bat wings.

This seemed worth sharing.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 7, 2019:

I am fine with the rest of the list because none of those things causes any harm to others, esp. innocent people. But guns do, so I am not ok with unlimited gun rights.

Ladies...do you see this issue at all?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 7, 2019:

I am barely over your 5 year age limit for being older than you and I am willing to date 8 years older than me. So not all men near your age are seeking women 15 years younger. You are over generalizing. Also, a five year limit limit in either direction is too narrow. Anybody in the dating industry or the mental health field will also tell you that. The choice is yours, of course.

Priorities

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 6, 2019:

I'd settle for 6/10 with a lot in common, esp. since I'm only a 6/10.

So what do you call the feeling you get when you see someone's pics and profile and you are ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 5, 2019:

I call it another day on Agnostic.com. I can't count the number of times I've seen a profile of someone my age that seemed very interesting and attractive, but lived at least hundreds of miles away. Now I am not looking anymore as I am dating someone local that I like and on paid dating sites I have never considered anyone who lived more than an hour away. I'm assuming that by "existing relationships", you are talking about family and friends that keep you tied to your present location.

I could use some feedback.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 4, 2019:

Sounds like you are describing the suburb where I live. I have found what works for me is to seek my whole social life in the nearby relatively large city, Des Moines, that is much more diverse and less conservative and religious. It involves a lot of driving, but it's worth it. The condo community I live in has lots of rules, but it really doesn't affect me because I don't socialize with them or spend any real amount of time here outside my condo apt.. Meetup groups, even in the Des Moines area, have been a waste of time for me in almost every case, as they seem to cater to and attract pretty much people who are much younger than me. My local senior center is also useless for socializing. Everyone there but me is pretty much way older and also not very educated or interesting. They are all also very conformist and pretty religious. I just go there to eat free lunches by myself and be left alone.

75-Year-Old Volunteer Visits Animal Shelter Every Day And Naps With Cats

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 4, 2019:

I would enjoy doing something like that, as I enjoy both napping and having a cat nap with me.

I am curious as to whether other women find the following passages (taken verbatim from a message to...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 4, 2019:

The fact that he is a Trumper says volumes about his attitude towards women......

Good Morning all!!!

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 3, 2019:

You're never alone with a schizophrenic, especially if you are one...........

Has anyone here ever felt good about online dating apps etc.?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 2, 2019:

They are very impersonal and most of them do not allow you to put enough info into your profile for people to learn enough about you for matching. Thus, with most dating sites it comes down to people selecting others to contact mostly based on the attractiveness of their profile photos. In other words, as bobwjr once said, "It's mainly a beauty contest." I have met some nice women in the two years I've used dating sites, but only one so far that was mutually compatible enough to see more than a couple times and actually date. Pretty poor results overall for over two years of looking. But it's been worth it since I did meet one woman that was compatible and I was never wanting anything poly, so there............

So who's in Iowa?

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Good luck Brad. I used to live in Ames, near you, but now live in Ankeny. Your best bet of meeting non-believing women to date would be the Unitarian church in Ames. Good luck with finding any local women to date from this site. It won't happen. But since you're willing to relocate, you may have some luck here, unlike me.

Opinion: Why millennials are skipping church and not going back

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 28, 2019:

After reading the article, and looking at my own experience, I would say that most of these millennials are going to be in for a long life of loneliness without much in the way of community or social support systems after they leave church behind. Unfortunately, for most Americans who don't do church, it takes some effort and doing to come up with other sources of community and social support that most of us used to get thru churches, community organizations, unions, political organizations, and community groups. We will see.

Would you ever date somebody who is religious, if they respected your beliefs and did not try to ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 28, 2019:

I've been dating someone for almost two months now that is a believing Catholic, but she is aware I am Agnostic and ok with that, at least so far. Time will tell. We don't discuss religion at all. It's possible that because of her religion she might want me to marry her sometime down the line, something I am not really interested in doing again, but would be willing to do for the right person if they were compatible in everything else. But even then, I would for damn sure get a prenup, as my late wife and I did before we married.

I've been grieving a lot for Kea, both while she was sick and since we let the vet euthanize her ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 28, 2019:

Sorry for your loss. She looks like such a sweet, cute kitty.

Only Ever Vote For Your Own Race - AOC should have endorsed Julian Castro because he is Latino, ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 23, 2019:

Identity politics is bullshit. I wish people would get past voting on race and gender and instead vote on policy as well as whether the person's character and record make them trustworthy that they would actually work for those policies instead of selling out or caving to big money once they got in power.

Hello from West Des Moines. New to group and to site.

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 20, 2019:

Good luck finding anyone to date from our area that is in our age group.......

Can you post a one word band name?

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 20, 2019:

R.E.M.

Hey, all.

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 18, 2019:

I've never tried one again with someone and I am not open to relocating.

I had a coffee with the woman I've chatting with for about three weeks.

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 18, 2019:

That's why I try to meet within a few days after I begin trading messages with a woman. But lately, it seems like most of them are very reluctant to meet and several in the last couple months have just strung me along with trading messages and saying they want to meet, then, not long after that, suprise!, they ghost me. Probably because they met another guy from the dating site that was more interesting. So sick of the games people play. I am now dating a woman from Batch that I met at the end of Aug., and so far we are getting along well. I am thinking of going exclusive with her in the next month or so and just suspending my membership with Batch indefinitely to see where this relationship goes....

Hot Mature Flies Waiting for Viagra Spiders! Sign-up Now! These ads showed up on my Facebook ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 13, 2019:

In my two years of experience on paid dating sites, the better female prospects never reach out to me first. Only two women ever did that seemed at all attractive looking enough for me to be interested in them, but otherwise, those two were not compatible for me. The blunt truth is that most of the time, the only women who ever reached out to me first were below average looking and, because of that, they probably weren't getting much interest from men on the site, so they would resort to pursuing men instead of waiting to be pursued on the site.

What are the TOP 5 ‘must have’ qualities that your potential partner MUST have before you would ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 4, 2019:

Besides the obvious, like mutual physical attraction, sense of humor, intelligence, some common interests, etc., my five dealbreakers are: Not politically conservative, not strongly religious, not very family-oriented (includes not being wrapped up in seeing their grandkids all the time), not a big fan of country music, and finally, no addiction issues or being a big drinker. Also would not get along well with someone for whom sports is the center of their social life, which, in Iowa is pretty common with women who are big on college sports as the center of their social life. I like some sports, but prefer other, more intellectual stuff for my usual entertainment.

Ya'll sing along... [youtube.]

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 30, 2019:

I hate country music and this song is too country for me, in spite of the drug lyrics. This song and the video are just too bizarre a combo.....

MSNBC Pundit Who Accused Those Who Prefer Sanders to Warren of 'Sexism' Sparks Viral Outcry From ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 30, 2019:

I hate identity politics and how it's used as a distraction and a way to divide liberal voters. I am even more disgusted at people who fall for it and put gender ahead of policy, track record, and trustworthiness in choosing who to vote for and support. Sheeple, plain and simple......Warren is a fake progressive and not trustworthy like Bernie. Women who are liberal or progressive need to wake up, quit being gender blind, and see the differences between Bernie and Warren.

Well.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 30, 2019:

Sounds like The Invasion Of The Body Snatchers.....I am sorry for you that he reneged on your arrangement, but, like the rest of the group said, you are very young and it will not be that hard to find someone better in the dating market. This time you already know who you are and what you want. Finding a non-believer at your age who will respect your wishes will be very doable. Just give it some time after you move on from this guy.

Ladies, don’t be afraid to get on top...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 30, 2019:

If the woman looked like that, my thought would be exactly that, " If I die, I die, no regrets...". I have always been partial to curvy women.

Billionaire Bishop Edir Macedo made daughters skip college so they wouldn’t be smarter than ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 29, 2019:

Unfortunately there are still some Neanderthals out there wanting all women barefoot and pregnant. No doubt this guy is also a misogynist pro-lifer.....

Has anyone actually paid for Match.com or is it the load of garbage I think it is?

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 29, 2019:

I live in a metro area of a few hundred thousand. For almost two years, Match was pretty much a waste of time for me. I met a new woman on average about every two to three months. For some reason that changed late this summer and suddenly I started getting a lot more interest from women who were not only compatible on paper, but also physically attractive to me as well. Before then I would only meet women who were compatible on paper, but usually without any physical attraction on my part. To be bluntly honest, I think what swung things was the ending of summer, much larger enrollment on the site for my local area and age range, and with that, suddenly there were way more women that were compatible on interests, background, personality but also more average looking women than before that had those compatible traits. In a nutshell, I was no longer having to choose pretty much between women who were not attractive to me or were else above average-looking and out of my league on looks. It's a funny, puzzling numbers game that online dating is. I am currently dating a woman steadily from Match that I really am enjoying for the month so far that we've been dating. My subscriptions to Match and Our Time are both paid, because without that all you can do on either site really is browse, which, to me, is useless if you really want to meet people.

Sorry no trivia tonight -went out to breakfast with 15 of Kathleeen's Sunday group.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 29, 2019:

I can't stand to watch MSNBC these days. All of the coverage is about impeachment and Russiagate, nothing about Bernie or the domestic problems of the country. We all know it's just a distraction by the corporate media to focus away from the real problems here.

No space for Mommy on the couch. But that's ok cause Mommy sits on the chair.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 29, 2019:

Looks like someone is a crazy cat person with too many cats.

I am so over dating services, can you believe this got rejected.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 27, 2019:

Can't fault her for being honest....Along the line of that country song that says, I Still Miss You Baby, But My Aim Is Getting Better......... I stand corrected on the title and edited my comment.

Let's END PERSONHOOD for corporations and get money out of politics.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 27, 2019:

Another way to approach this is to restore the Fairness Doctrine for the media and also make public financing of political campaigns a viable way for third party and independent candidates to afford getting on TV for their campaigns. That way they could beat the corrupt major party candidates with their ideas, once they were able to get name recognition and their ideas out thru TV ads.

Let's END PERSONHOOD for corporations and get money out of politics.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 27, 2019:

It's a nice thought, but the only way big money will get taken out of politics is if a majority of the voters were willing to start voting for a third party that backed this, along with a credible threat of voters dumping all the incumbents from both corrupt major parties. Then, and only then, would the major party pols get behind this kind of reform, purely out of selfish survival.

[consumer.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 25, 2019:

Doesn't surprise me at all that Match put profit ahead of protecting the non-paying members from scammers. They really don't care about people finding matches or love, just about making money. But all the commercial sites are that way and they really have no competition since a few conglomerates own all the sites nowadays.I'm amazed the FTC is even policing them.

Everything That’s Wrong With Elizabeth Warren - YouTube

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 25, 2019:

None of this surprises me. She is a replay of Obama 2008, vague and slippery, saying just the right things to publicly court liberals and progressives, while behind the scenes selling them out. Then, once in office, governing like a Repub on all the issues and policies that really matter, like climate, war, the economy, and foreign policy. Except, unlike Obama, the only identity political card she can play against her critics is misogyny, while Obummer could label all his critics from the left as racist, even tho he knew damn well that was a lie. The racist card was more effective and powerful in stifling and discrediting lefties for Obama, while misogyny will be a harder sell for Warren when used against critics who have always been on the side of women regarding reproductive rights, equal pay, and gender discrimination. She will have a harder time smearing them than Obummer did.

This rings true

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 25, 2019:

That is what I am hoping to find.

I find this to be quite representative of the "Dating Experience" here on Agnostic.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 25, 2019:

I wouldn't know anymore. I blocked her as I got tired of the self-absorbed drama.

I took myself to lunch ! When I was still dating an over-the-top god person, we discovered this...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 24, 2019:

It was ok for a while after my wife was separated from me with her dementia getting really bad, but it was not that long before I remembered how lonely it was for me before I met her and how much we used to enjoy being together before she got dementia. Since then, now that I have actually had some real dates lately, I really enjoy being with someone to experience them together and have a companion. Everyone is wired differently, I guess.

Just when I think I have heard it all, a co-worker at lunch told us about a coupon she found for ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 24, 2019:

Yes, I would, but only on the condition that we both undergo it in the same session. Anything else is unfair. I would not ask this of my SO. I think it is a bad idea and suggests an unusual lack of trust, but then again, some people have been burned so bad they might need this in order to trust enough to live with someone. I like to think I am a good enough judge of character that I would not need this. My late wife and I dated for a whole year before living together and that was a pretty good test. It's hard to maintain secrets and an act for a while year.

Tyrion LOVES this bag from Joanns. He uses it more than I do.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 23, 2019:

Cats are so cute playing in bags. They love to jump in and then climb out.

I thought I had an actual real and acceptable guy contact me last week.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 23, 2019:

Was this here or on a paid dating site? I wouldn't necessarily close the account on a paid site unless this is the closest you have come to a match in several months. I went thru a dry spell of almost six months, which is probably way longer than anything you've experienced since you have superior looks going for you compared to me, thus you get a lot more interest than me, even tho you are older. At least I bet it's that way.

For all the GUYS...Food for thought!!!!

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 23, 2019:

True that!

Dear Progressives for Warren: Your Class Is Showing - CounterPunch.org

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 22, 2019:

I agree with all of this and that's why I support Bernie and don't trust Warren. She is clearly an ally of Hillary and most of her supporters backed Hillary last time. Tells you all you need to know about her and her supporters, neither of whom really want political revolution, no matter how much Warren tries to copy Bernie on policy and rhetoric. She is consulting with Hillary behind the scenes and also said she will take corporate money for the general if she gets the nomination. Those things tell you she is a fake progressive. Unfortunately, the latest poll in Iowa, which is by an organization that is usually right, says she is cutting into Bernie's support here rather successfully and he is down to 11% while she is at 22%.

😄 One of my best friends, who has been a widow for 10 years this past August has just told me ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 21, 2019:

I would suggest Match as it has the deepest dating pool. Free sites are a waste of time, with the exception of this one, depending on where you live, of course. Being a good looking woman in our age range, she will get lots of interest. Glad you are there to help and advise her. Too bad I live so far away from her.

Good Afternoon Everyone! Does anyone like being single?

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 21, 2019:

I know what you mean about singles events. I have tried them, as well as a singles group or two, and the problem is the people who do go to those seem to almost all be very dull and not at all intellectual. Hence, I get bored and don't fit in with them. Online dating offers at least the chance to meet up with some folks more on my level.

What are the characteristics, (appearance and personality, etc.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 20, 2019:

Non materialistic and non conformist personality coupled with typical hippie appearance and fashion qualify someone as a hippie in my book.

climatestrike today in New Jersey, USA

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 20, 2019:

I watched some of it on C-Span.

another little oddity regarding trust w Biden and Warren [t.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 19, 2019:

Probably because Bye-Done and Warren both know they don't attract many independent voters, but Bernie does.

Beto O’Rourke, Joe Biden and the Perils of the Electability Trap – Rolling Stone

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 19, 2019:

Electability is simply a ploy by the establishment of either party to make sure the status quo is preserved by electing only moderates of either party who will play ball with the rich and corporate interests. With this kind of thinking it matters not which party they are nominated from, as the candidates are about not offering a real choice between the parties. Which is just fitting since these days the establishment in both parties have no real disagreements on the big issues that really matter and affect the common people, such as war, foreign policy, climate policy, environmental policy, trade policy, social spending, and who the economy is to benefit, the people or business and the rich.

I have a very serious question for U all.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 19, 2019:

I feel the same way about cell phones in cars. A public health hazard that anybody could see coming, but never has been really dealt with due to the lobbying efforts of the cellphone companies and the automakers. The preventable deaths are seen as collateral damage and the only people who lose money are the insurance companies and defendants who get sued for killing someone in an accident because they were using a cell phone at the time. Too bad the cellphone companies aren't getting sued like the tobacco companies eventually were for the deaths they caused. That is what would cause real change. If the cellphone companies and automakers really cared about public safety, they could have worked together early on to design cars that would block cellphones from being used while the vehicle was moving and stopped this hazard from the beginning, without any legislation, but they didn't. Instead, they enabled behavior and technology that they knew would cause countless deaths and injuries on the road.

Have you ever had a mystical or near death experience?

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 19, 2019:

No, but I had a couple blizzard experiences on the road where I fully expected I would die out there in the storm.

WATCH: UAW Kid Can't Get Cancer Treatment after GM Cuts off Healthcare Off to Strikers

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 18, 2019:

This pretty well blows out of the water Biden's argument against single payer and Bernie that the union workers can always count on their great health insurance and have nothing to gain with Bernie's plan. Hope Bernie is bold enough to bring this up at the next debate while the news is fresh in people's minds.

Living in a partnership that isn’t normal AND THAT WORKS?

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 12, 2019:

I am not in any hurry to live with someone again and won't be that surprised if I choose not to live with my next partner.

Maybe I’m passing up a great guy, but his Match pseudonym is “CreamDelight.” Just...nooooo.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 12, 2019:

That does seem like a fairly inappropriate handle for a dating profile, but who am I to say, with my limited success?

I think that I posted this last year, but I love it, and I am still laughing! [facebook.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 11, 2019:

Sad but true, goes both ways. Would be fun to see the male version of this too, if there is one.

Open ended question for y'all.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 11, 2019:

Until very recently, that's how I felt about my two year experience of attempting to date online. Things are finally looking up. In a word, until very recently, I was not positive about it. Was about ready to lose all hope. I have no answers on how to stay positive, because I surely was not.

I went through so many changes last year that it was overwhelming.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 10, 2019:

In the words of Paul Simon in his revised version of The Boxer, " No it isn't strange, after changes upon changes, we are more or less the same. After changes, we are more or less the same".

Interesting article [psychologytoday.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 10, 2019:

As increasingly more women delay marriage in favor of getting an education the gap of desired income in men available to educated, higher income women will grow. In my two years of online dating I have seen how important a man's finances appear to be to most, but not all, of the well-educated women in my local dating pool. Which is mostly ok by me, since I am not very materialistic even tho I am financially secure and retired. I want someone who is also not very materialistic, whether they are below my financial level or at the same level. I don't want someone who is fairly materialistic and/ or way above my financial level and they don't want me either, both of which are fine.

Happy Tuesday Everyone! Must be the 2 cups of coffee but I am up and ready to leave my 7 year ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 10, 2019:

As a senior, unless you are already on Medicare, employers will only hire you PT as they will not pay benefits to pre-Medicare seniors. They see us as too expensive to give health benefits to. Another reason for single payer health care, it would end most of the age discrimination in the workplace. The only FT jobs for seniors these days are no benefit and/or low wage jobs. We are just not seen as worth decent wages and benefits, esp, if the job is not seen as high skill.

Anyone try Facebook dating yet?

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 9, 2019:

I am on FB, but not very active on it. I mainly use it for messaging with friends. I am not interested in using their dating app mainly for the likelihood of scammers abounding and not wanting my full identity available to the people on the dating app. I prefer to only give my full name to women after meeting them in person twice or more.

Having come from a thoroughly dysfunctional family, there is great advantage in learning customer ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 9, 2019:

Most Americans are definitely sheeple. It explains how our corrupt system is allowed to continue. They are too meek to revolt or even try to vote them all out.

Just did my first visit to Planet Fitness.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 9, 2019:

Good for you Deb! Very proud of and happy for you....

Warren and Clinton talk behind the scenes as 2020 race intensifies

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 9, 2019:

This confirms all my suspicions about how progressives should not trust Warren and how she is less of a progressive and more of a fake opportunist who puts her own ambitions ahead of progressive values every time. I can see why Bernie is not even thinking of her as a possible VP pick and instead wanting to go with the relatively unknown Nina Turner because she is at least genuine and trustworthy as a progressive. This article also shows, unfortunately, that Bernie is probably doomed again as far as the nomination, as Hillary again will get the centrist she wants instead of Bernie being nominated.

Munchie mlem! 😹😹😹

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 8, 2019:

Cute Munchie..

Dating Service sigh [gocomics.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 8, 2019:

Instead of retouching their pics, it seems like many just use fake photos of somebody else. I met a woman recently for coffee that was very nice, but her photos were outdated as she was way heavier than she looked in her photos. There's a reason, people, that we want current photos in a profile!

My new mantra: Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is just get up and face the world everyday.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 7, 2019:

Word.

Warren Isn't the New Hillary, She's Obama 2.0 (and that's not a compliment)

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 7, 2019:

I don't trust her at all to be a progressive if she actually got power. She's lying to us, same as Obama did during the campaign in 2008.

So I just did a count and since the middle of July, 8 young women — all young enough to be my ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 7, 2019:

Very seldom get them on here. On the dating sites the scammers seem to be more frequent lately.

The Case for Sanders/Warren 2020: The Populist Dream Team Ticket to Win A Green New Deal | Common ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 7, 2019:

I doubt this partnership will happen as Warren let Bernie down last time, when her endorsement would have really counted for something and helped Bernie get the support of women, who instead supported Hillary over him, gender over policy and character. So I doubt Bernie trusts her enough to pick her as a running mate. I know I wouldn't, if a so-called progressive put gender and her own political ambitions over policy four years ago. Also, I think that Warren's own future political ambitions and vulnerability to caving to big money and corporate power would prevent her from wanting to offend them by teaming with Bernie. She has said that she is open to accepting corporate money in a general election if she gets the nomination, unlike Bernie.

Rescue update.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 6, 2019:

He's so cute. I'm happy for both of you and how much both of you are enjoying your time together.

If you could spend a week with any entertainer who would you choose?

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 5, 2019:

They're both dead, but that would have to be Lennon, in the statue there, because he was so smart and funny or else Leonard Cohen, who wasn't rock music, but equally funny and smart. I didn't include Bob Dylan because I have often heard he can be pretty anti-social and unfriendly a lot of the time, not the best company.

Ok.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 4, 2019:

Maybe I'm just equally jaded as you from two years of online dating, but to me this list is a bunch of cliches combined with unrealistic wants or must haves.

As an extreme introvert, I can relate to this:

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 4, 2019:

I agree. The cat will always appreciate attention from a strange man. Trying to give that to women at a party, it's hit or miss, may or may not be welcome.

Will You Still Love You When You're No Longer Young and Beautiful?

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 4, 2019:

What does NPC mean?

Latest on my dating entertainment sites.

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 3, 2019:

Scammers both.

Are we prisoners of our devices?

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 2, 2019:

Not me. I don't own one, just a tracphone for road emergencies and making calls away from home. Still have a landline.

An email from a guy on a dating site: "Gwen forgive me for bothering you, you're the first real ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 1, 2019:

Let us know if he replies, but I doubt he will.

after several months of emails, texting and a few phone calls, my virtual "friend" planned to visit ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 1, 2019:

You're being played and he sounds like a royal jerk. Cut him loose.

O.K. Ladies...Is it really like this???? Good Morning all!!!

TomMcGiverin comments on Sep 1, 2019:

Sounds like a catalog of passive aggressive terms.

The Art of Being Single, Wall Street Journal.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 31, 2019:

Being divorced is one thing, being widowed is another after a long and happy marriage. The latter makes it much harder to convince oneself that life is as satisfying and meaningful on your own again when you can still remember not that long ago how much better life was with a partner that loved you. I think divorced and widowed people see being single very differently due to their experience with their last relationship and the circumstances under which it ended. Being single again it always much harder if you don't have kids or close family members to lean on and visit, divorced or widowed. I won't drink the Kool-Aid and pretend that life on my own is ever going to be as good as with a partner. Divorced people can decided that it is, but for myself, I'm not buying into it....

Why do we sometimes let others change us, when maybe they should conform to our ways and colors???

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 31, 2019:

I don't. For dating, friendships, or a life partner, I will always be willing to compromise, but I won't change for them. They need to take me as I am. If I should change over time as a result of my relationship with them or simply with age and experience, that's another matter. But I won't be blackmailed into changing just to add someone new to my life.

Struck by a nun! As a child of seven or thereabouts, I was slapped soundly on my thigh as I sat ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 30, 2019:

You all would love a one-act play by Christopher Durang called Sister Mary Ignatious Explains It All For You, in which the main character, Sister Mary, is a psychotic homicidal sadist. It's a black comedy, of course, by gay ex-Catholic Durang.

My new rescue.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 29, 2019:

Big kitty, huge paws...

I have a profile on the Fish site.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 28, 2019:

Different strokes for different folks. Not trying to be overly PC on you, since I am not exactly a big follower of that, but I find it a bit offensive that you lump all LGBT folks into being "psychologically disordered". But you have the right to your opinion and I to mine. I don't get fazed at men or LGBT people viewing my profile, as I know who and what I am securely enough that, short of harassment, I really don't care who might be interested in me. I suggest you take a look at yourself and your insecurities.

I watched this four times and am still crying and laughing out loud. [facebook.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 28, 2019:

I think this kind of stuff was the inspiration for a few of the songs David Byrne wrote for his band Talking Heads, where he would wear a pair of nerdy glasses and go into epileptic fits during the songs while performing them live or in the music videos. It was meant to be a variation on the whole holy roller thing of speaking in tongues, which was the name of the album by the band, Speaking In Tongues. Byrne got the idea by listening to a southern preacher on the radio.

Went to a 100-person singles mingle tonight.