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I grew up attending a Disciples of Christ (fairly liberal) church, but always considered religion as mere lessons/mythology. I was quickly driven away from "real church" by the anti lgbtqa bigotry and misogyny that I encountered upon attending college.

I am an independent nature lover with a wicked, irreverent sense of humor, and am an unapologetic cat person, who is also drawn to less "popular" things like snakes, frogs, insects etc. I have retired so that I can spend more time enjoying what life has to offer. (“All work and no makes Jack a dull boy”, no?).

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Pancakes r us
Zster comments on Sep 23, 2018:
Home, where I can kick them up with unusual grains, nuts, seeds, fruits, and toppings.
Choices breakfast meat
Zster comments on Sep 23, 2018:
Bacon, preferably fire cooked, then coarse ground breakfast sausage (slso best off of a camp fire).
What goes in the picnic basket? Tuna fish and ham sandwiches?soda or tea or water? Do you bring ...
Zster comments on Sep 22, 2018:
For a (hopefully) romantic picnic, definitely bring some sort of dessert! The chocolate was an excellent suggestion! Fresh fruit with honey/choc syrup to dip in can be good, French dessert cheese comes to mind... A sweet bread or piece of cake might do. When I pack for a utilitarian picnic, I never include dessert. Having it included would definitely be different/special.
So...are you really impressed by what car a person drives...like society seems to believe...ladies?
Zster comments on Sep 22, 2018:
Nope. Sometimes I wonder if the car is compensating for something...
Do you really care if another member blocks you?
Zster comments on Sep 22, 2018:
I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea... Why would I care about who reads my posts? I typically block to rid my space of negativity. It works!
Eating on vacation
Zster comments on Sep 22, 2018:
Local!!! My rule on vacation, and for dining out in general, is order what you could not (or would not) have at home.
Confidence or arrogance?
Zster comments on Sep 22, 2018:
Confidence = a deep knowledge of one's own strengths and taking comfort in them. Arrogance, IMO, is more of an attention seeking self promotion, often also including a putdown of others to elevate one's self. The latter might or might not be operating from a point of actual strengths and can be compensating for insecurity.
Weekends..
Zster comments on Sep 22, 2018:
I abhor routine! Weekends are for winging it, doing whatever I want. Often that = cooking with leisure, (instead of rushing), getting the sleep that I want, spending time with my pets, etc.
Where do you prefer to be beach or mountain?
Zster comments on Sep 22, 2018:
I chose beach, but mountains really come close to tying.
Giant strawberries really piss me off.
Zster comments on Sep 22, 2018:
When I clicked on this, I had no idea what on earth giant strawberries could possibly do to earn one's wrath... NOW I know! ?
Happy Equinox fellow Heathens!
Zster comments on Sep 22, 2018:
Oh my gosh! How did that sneak up on me? Right back at you! Happy equinox!
Dining solo... After a craptastic work day I decided to take myself out for Mexican food and ...
Zster comments on Sep 21, 2018:
I always have a book with me, but will strike up conversation if I encounter anyone who seems to want one.
Sauerkraut
Zster comments on Sep 21, 2018:
Yep. Love the stuff! Must be my German genetics kicking in...
Name a film that you liked that nobody else appeared to. Mine was Waterworld
Zster comments on Sep 21, 2018:
"Rubber" It's totally absurd and hilarious...
Hello to everyone and welcome to this International Day of Peace. [bing.com]
Zster comments on Sep 21, 2018:
Happy Internationsl day of Peace to you, as well. I hope it's been a good one.
Ahoy!! It's "Talk Like a Pirate" day! Will you talk like a pirate today?
Zster comments on Sep 19, 2018:
I should have brought a bag of Pirate Booty ti work today!
I would like to share a question some of my friends from the believer’s communities commonly ask. ...
Zster comments on Sep 19, 2018:
I am a human being and so somewhat social by nature. Spiritual opinions have little bearing on that. I get together with friends and family as often as my work schedule will allow. I celebrate what, when, and with whom I want. Honestly, I could flip the question on them and ask how they socialize if they are at church Sunday, Sunday night, Wed night, plus at worship band practice the other nights...
I used to think I had anger management issues when it comes to relationships, but I recently ...
Zster comments on Sep 19, 2018:
Not unreasonable at all. As to why people are not up front in the first place, at least some of the time: cowardice.
What bands do you think most people probably aren't aware of, but absolutely should be? I'll go ...
Zster comments on Sep 18, 2018:
I LOVE Beats Antique! Such a great fusion of old, new, and ethnic, with a beat that's irresistable! https://youtu.be/4DGE0zVuHs4
It's a rainy day here in western Massachusetts. My favorite thing to eat on a rainy day is pea ...
Zster comments on Sep 18, 2018:
Man, does that ever look good! Pea Soup is my fave as well. A warm cup on a rainy day while curled up with a cat and a book sounds fabulous about now...
Who likes to cook, and what's your favorite food to make?
Zster comments on Sep 17, 2018:
I love to cook. I've cooked all meals for my family for twenty years, and cooked for my single self before that. I'm hard pressed to say that I have any one thing or category of food that I best like to prepare. It might be easier to name what I don't: cakes. I don't much care for cakes and have yet to make one that turned out.
Would you settle with a religious person or just stay single?
Zster comments on Sep 17, 2018:
Singlehood for me. I need to respect a partner. Unfortunately, magical thinking interferes with that. Then there's that whole thnking that I deserve hell thing to contend with. That's sort of a turn off.
HI. This group is new. Let's talk about genealogy. I have my tree on ancestry.com also did my DNA.
Zster comments on Sep 17, 2018:
We've been on Ancestry.com for a few years. Made my son the base of the tree in order to trace my late husband's side as well as mine. I am very glad. His family has been fascinating with significant (many generations) Scottish ties. No DNA testing yet, but who knows?
I love my son ❤????
Zster comments on Sep 16, 2018:
I could not agree more! I love my kids, no matter what.
Men versus women. Be honest now who makes their bed after waking up? I know who's going to win on ...
Zster comments on Sep 16, 2018:
I do because otherwise my bag-of-water bed would be very exposed to the claws of four cats. I cannot risk it.
Job satisfaction.
Zster comments on Sep 16, 2018:
I loved my current job initially, but current mgmt has sucked the soul out of the place. I feel depressed on Sundays, knowing that I have to go back. I have a plan, though. Change will be coming with my next birthday. (:
We finished the Natchez Trace this afternoon, a true American treasure. New Orleans for dinner ...
Zster comments on Sep 16, 2018:
Surprisingly, we get used to it. You can gradually build up heat tolerance if careful about it.
So, Ive been talking to this guy on a dating site for a couple days. Honestly I just like chatting ...
Zster comments on Sep 16, 2018:
Another reason not to: https://www.krdo.com/news/colorado-springs/scambusters-hackers-exploit-victims-with-webcam-devices/750408090
If you are lucky enough be a pet owner, do you let them share your bed with you and maybe a ...
Zster comments on Sep 16, 2018:
The cats sleep where they want, which tends to be very near me when the kids are away at college. They sleep ON me when the cold is on. My late husband was typically pleased and amused by it. The snakes sleep in their cages, though two of those are in my room. I might be willing to relocate the snakes to elsewhere in the house, but the cats have free range and will keep me up all night if I shut them out.
Can you love someone that does not love themselves? A friend was asking me about this. I think ...
Zster comments on Sep 16, 2018:
I have found trying to love those who hate themselves exhausting. In my experience, they both argue that I cannot love them because they are horrible while at the same time, they are demanding nearly constant reassurance that I still do. Also, how can I expect them to return my love if/when they do not have healthy experience of what love is? Both such lopsided relationships ultimately failed after I poured everything and then some into them, because the self-hating person could never accept that I could and did love them. It was heart breaking.
Our daughter's new baby girl.
Zster comments on Sep 16, 2018:
Congrats on your new grand cat! She's adorable!
Do You Like Being Alone?
Zster comments on Sep 16, 2018:
Loving, mutually beneficial relationship > being alone >>>> subpar relationship
Planning your wedding....
Zster comments on Sep 15, 2018:
OMG, how fabulous!
R u not supposed to put ur real name on sites like this....i never see anyone doing that except me. ...
Zster comments on Sep 15, 2018:
Why would I care? Not that it's anyone's business, but I could be fired over ANYTHING that I post, in or outside of work.
Craziest screaming white lady yet. This is almost scary crazy that she could lie to this level ...
Zster comments on Sep 15, 2018:
Damn! She's full on unhinged! YIKES!
I have really enjoyed agnostic.com. I had an interesting experience, I respond to people post on ...
Zster comments on Sep 15, 2018:
Her caution might not have been learned at THIS site. I know most of my lessons came from OKC. Who knows, maybe you had the unfortunate luck to ask about HER neighborhood and freaked her out.
Holy molly freakin' guacamole... I just hit level 8. I was sure I was going to have to leave this ...
Zster comments on Sep 14, 2018:
MY points keep going DOWN. Doubt that I'll ever get to 8 (from my current 7). Congrats!
A colorful fave... recognize it?
Zster comments on Sep 14, 2018:
This one is tougher, in 3D (not a US location).
Perfume and cologne: Yay or Nay?
Zster comments on Sep 13, 2018:
I adore fragrances! However, heavily applied, low quality, or cologne mixed with BO do NOT work for attracting me!
What kind of fish is for dinner?
Zster comments on Sep 13, 2018:
I particularly enjoy shellfish, and lighter fish (cod, snapper, flounder, roughy). I could kill for a mess of fried smelt! I would give much to enjoy my grandma's fried fresh caught fish, whether smelt, walleye, or bluegill... soooo good!
I'm Brian and so is my wife Life of Brian
Zster comments on Sep 13, 2018:
"Crucifixion's a doddle..." (;
COFFEE! That’s all I have to say. Haha
Zster comments on Sep 13, 2018:
Just had mine. Things should start looking up soon...
Warning! Earworm!
Zster comments on Sep 12, 2018:
That totally reminds me of this bit: https://youtu.be/QnkrL42R7gk
I swear, living with my wife is like living with Cato from the Pink Panther movies. She keeps ...
Zster comments on Sep 11, 2018:
Totally awesome!
Music or no music during sex?
Zster comments on Sep 11, 2018:
Yes! 1000 times YES! My entire life has been set to a sound track. (; Certain love-making songs have me classically conditioned to get in the mood...
While in your teens did you see your current age as old?
Zster comments on Sep 11, 2018:
Ha! My grandparents at 55 were a LOT older than I am at the same chronological age. ?
Sooo, here’s a question. I have met a person of interest and we spent some time together last ...
Zster comments on Sep 10, 2018:
That's a horrible thing for her to say or do! How would she respond to being asked to cut her hair short in order for you to kiss her? I think your look is very distinguished and would have no issues getting close to a man with it.
What would it say?
Zster comments on Sep 9, 2018:
NOT heartburn! Seek second opinion!
Time to tithe
Zster comments on Sep 9, 2018:
It's very aggravating. I had poor relatives who donated their retirement money to their churches. All they could see was that big number (big to cover ten plus years of income) while the pastor was guilting them that God would "grow" it if they were faithful.
Do you decorate your home for Xmas or any other winter holiday?
Zster comments on Sep 9, 2018:
I have always celebrated year end holidays for the reason of having extended time off so that we can actually gather with friends and family. It's not a commercial gorge-fest or religious for me, just a time for rest, gathering, and fun.
Teleportation or time travel?
Zster comments on Sep 9, 2018:
I found this to be a lot more difficult to answer than I expected... My knee jerk response was time travel, so I could revisit people who I have missed greatly, since their deaths, but... ARE time paradoxes a thing? Also, there are MANY times that teleporting would come in handy, but... ultimately, I would miss the journeys...
Since we're the fortunate ones who can sleep in on Sunday and not attend church services. What do ...
Zster comments on Sep 9, 2018:
I'll tell you what I do NOT do... RUSH! I lollygag at home as much as I want: sleep in, eat the breakfast of my choice, leisurely sip on the most awesome cup of coffee or tea that I feel up to preparing, and spoil my cats with cat nip and string or feather play.
Please be mindful in the coming season....
Zster comments on Sep 9, 2018:
This is no small problem. Have you ever tried to carve a white jack-o-lantern? A degree in diamond cutting might come in handy...
I don't know if this is a single group post but it's for the ladies. Do you like a man bun.. whether...
Zster comments on Sep 8, 2018:
I love them! Actually, I love long hair on anyone, male or otherwise. Ponytails or buns come with that territory.
What is something you ate growing up that you never ate again once you became an adult?
Zster comments on Sep 7, 2018:
Goulash, Hormel canned corned beef hash, canned salmon or tuna, fried liver.
Dating. I know several people already have this in their bio, but I'm asking everyone here. Would ...
Zster comments on Sep 7, 2018:
I don't see how I could, at least with any authenticity.
You are your worst critic? Is that quote true or false?
Zster comments on Sep 7, 2018:
I thought that I was until I started working for current management. Sigh.
Cheese please
Zster comments on Sep 7, 2018:
Triple creme Brie (Saint Angel or d'Affinois) and Cambazola!
Ice cream
Zster comments on Sep 7, 2018:
I like ice cream more, now that I have discovered gourmet flavors. No ice cream shop sells any around here, though. I used to buy Three Twins Cardamom flavor when the grocery had it. Now, I will eat Pistachio gelato or Chocolate sorbet by Taliente. My absolute faves are home made. I have a French Vanilla that is a dead ringer for grandma's custard! I've also made decent basil and a rather unusual saffron recipe. Jamocha Almond Fudge is where I got started. I can easily see how you can love it!
What's The Craziest Place You Ever Had a Quickie?
Zster comments on Sep 6, 2018:
Against a tree along a stream we were exploring by canoe, or in a stairwell of a Honolulu hotel.
Am I weird for taking a few photos of my Pop in repose at the funeral home? My daughter says it was ...
Zster comments on Sep 6, 2018:
Certain cultures do so a lot. One person's "creepy" can be another's "reverent".
Do you ever think it's appropriate for someone to give up on finding true love? Can someone be so ...
Zster comments on Sep 5, 2018:
I don't exactly like the phrase "giving up", but DO think people should NOT put their life on hold while seeking. Time can be precious.
Baby Blu skies in his eyes.. Blu is probably one of the most interesting cats I’ve ever had....
Zster comments on Sep 5, 2018:
Wow, is he ever stunning! Baby blues, indeed!
Ez breezer-G-Geezer.. Geezer is every bit of kitten that he photographs as.. He both attacks ...
Zster comments on Sep 5, 2018:
Those photos are fabulous! Oodles of handsomeness...
Sushi for cats - for those who cannot spoil them enough [youtu.be]
Zster comments on Sep 5, 2018:
I love cat people! That guy's knife skills were crazy!
How would you handle this?
Zster comments on Sep 5, 2018:
I would lay low until he either decides to or not to get close with this gal. Demanding that he drop friends, insisting on seeing private correspondence etc sounds like a potentially huge amount of drama to me, which I would steer clear of, personally.
Favorite Star Trek TV Series
Zster comments on Sep 5, 2018:
Was rised on the original series and will always love it. TNG comes a close second. I got almost as invested in those characters as I did the original.
What constitutes a healthy breakfast for you.
Zster comments on Sep 5, 2018:
Whole grains, fresh fruit juice (and/or fruit), milk or a stand-in for it. Occasionally, I'll have eggs, and lean sausage instead of the whole grain.
Crossword....
Zster comments on Sep 5, 2018:
That works on two levels, given that this is an agnostic/atheist site...
How many of you have continued to work even though you knew it was bad for your health for any ...
Zster comments on Sep 5, 2018:
Time will tell... I am trying to stick this corporate gig out until the retirement window opens at 55. So, MONTHS to go. I can hope that the change will reduce my IBS flare ups and migraines, which are almost daily, except during vacations and the holidays.
Pick your Superpower. If you could have any Superpower, what would it be?
Zster comments on Sep 4, 2018:
Healing of any/all life. Bringing the injured or ill back when we would think it impossible. In addition, I'd love to be able to communicate with all living things. It could greatly facilitate the healing process. (:
Do you enjoy mushrooms?
Zster comments on Sep 4, 2018:
As in cuisine? Yes!!! I love them!
Pinchy the Red Clawed Blue Crayfish Time to do the first full breakdown and clean of Pinchy's ...
Zster comments on Sep 4, 2018:
What a gorgeous animal! Wow! It looks like you figured out to grab the thorax, right close to (and behind) the claws to avoid getting pinched. The learning process certainly made for fabulous video entertainment for the rest of us! ?
How many other TV series bingers here? I don't think I'm too much of a couch potato, but I like ...
Zster comments on Sep 3, 2018:
I binge different series with different people. Just this weekend, I wrapped up "The Office" with my son and ""Being Human" with my daughter. We've also viewed "Jericho", "Stranger Things", "Game of Thrones", "In Between", "The 100", "Reign", "The Frontier", "Downton Abby", "Contagion", "Borgia", "House of Cards", "John Adams", "Vikings", and "Outlander", to name a few off the top of my head... This does not count the many anime series watched.
Chicken and grits for lybch, with hot sauce of course. Do y'all eat grits?
Zster comments on Sep 3, 2018:
Heck yes!! With cheese, butter, salt, and pepper.
Chris Cornell Nothing Compares 2 U This is my favorite version of this song [youtu.be]
Zster comments on Sep 3, 2018:
Miss this guy...
More Today Than Yesterday - The Sprial Staircase [youtube.com] Music like this made me feel alive ...
Zster comments on Sep 3, 2018:
One of my fave "sing it loud in the car" songs. It's also most excellent for embarrassing my 18 and 21 YO kids. Might have something to do with the vocalist's range not exactly matching up with mine...
Last night my brother died. I didn't even know he was sick. I simply got a short email from his ...
Zster comments on Sep 3, 2018:
Wow! What an awful shock! For some reason, I expect my sibs (natural or by marriage) to last as long as I will. I am not sure we are ever ready for such news...
Two neonate gartersnakes I found under the same rock. Lopez, PA is where it's all happening ...
Zster comments on Sep 3, 2018:
Very healthy babies! Neat!
No One Has The Right To Judge You
Zster comments on Sep 3, 2018:
They'd never really believe that ignorance (theirs) is bliss, would they?
Labor day picnic qyestion. If you eat them, what do you put on you burgers and dogs?
Zster comments on Sep 3, 2018:
Burgers (char grilled): Lettuce, tomato, pickle, spicy mustard, mayo, and A1. Tomato and beef are both forbidden foods now, but if not... yum! Hot dogs (alsochar grilled): mustard and sweet relish
Ridiculous Rumors
Zster comments on Sep 3, 2018:
Widows are apparently free game where I work. I actually had to fear for my job, the rumors of sexual indiscretions got so bad. Mostly, guys I rejected and insecure wives were spreading them. As recently as this year, I had an angry wife complaining about my going after her husband. It's all 100% false. I dated ONE guy in the last twelve years. I decided to focus on raising my kids after he threatened them. Sigh.
I think there's a dude giving lessons on the Twist at the bus stop near my house. Life can be ...
Zster comments on Sep 1, 2018:
You needed to sneak record some video! I agree, people are the most funny when they don't even try to be...
Something your cats might like.???
Zster comments on Sep 1, 2018:
OMG!! I MUST get one! Thanks!
Without revealing a specific number, do you hqve in mind how long rouggly you would like to be ...
Zster comments on Sep 1, 2018:
A century, with good health until the last few moments (or possibly end suddenly, but neither painfully nor violently).
Ok ladies..never settle! I know we all have. Read this. [tinnuochan.com] Oh and men can read too....
Zster comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Oy! Much of that list sounded a lot more like what my grandparents thought I needed! That said, a few resonated with me... These two because they were very true w my late husband: "Stay single until you meet a guy who is sure of you and never makes you doubt how he feels. The one who still gives you butterflies when you walk in a room." Trust in me and loyalty from him, just because, were WONDERFUL for our relationship (I reciprocated, of course). Ultimately, THIS is probably how I will call it: "Stay single until you meet the guy who makes you not want to be." (:
My morning lesson on being single, given by a sunflower in my garden. I love how this one is not ...
Zster comments on Sep 1, 2018:
That is wonderful! It sums up how I relate to most groups, not meaning am above or better, just always different, marching to an apparently different drum.
A long-time favorite of mine when times get tough. Thank you Mary Chapin Carpenter... In this ...
Zster comments on Sep 1, 2018:
A personal fave. My late husband and I clung to that song when our first pet died. Now, I treasure it as a tribute to him, too. She did a great job with it live... (:
Hello September Everybody !!! ?
Zster comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Bring on the football!
Is it worth it to go on
Zster comments on Aug 31, 2018:
Join the widow(er) group. I am sorry that you have this in common with us. You wont be as alone as it might seem.
Is anyone still rockin that I want to talk to the manager haircut? I saw one at the store last ...
Zster comments on Aug 29, 2018:
It's still asuper common cut/style in the south.
Today I was accused of slut shaming. I am bothered by this even though I was trying to be funny in a...
Zster comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Hope you reconsider. Those who benefit by your being here very likely exceed those who do not. I will miss you greatly if you leave and really hope that you don't.
Today I was accused of slut shaming. I am bothered by this even though I was trying to be funny in a...
Zster comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Hope you reconsider. Those who benefit by your being here very likely exceed those who do not. I will miss you greatly if you leave and really hope that you don't.
An interesting new way to look at the non-religious and the religious. Where do you fit in? Take...
Zster comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Solidly secular.
What is the stupidest thing anybody has ever said to you? Bonus if it's not about religion.
Zster comments on Aug 28, 2018:
A girl who worked with me at a restaurant (with bar), after lecturing me on the evils of alcohol, stated that doing mushrooms was ok, different because it was "natural".
Confused. Lost. Feels like im losing my best friend after 27 years. Its killing me
Zster comments on Aug 27, 2018:
Hi. I've been widowed by cancer 13 years. My kids are now college aged. I find myself STILL oarenting, and VERY single.
Isn’t he the cutest❤️???
Zster comments on Aug 26, 2018:
Very, yes.
I posted this in Health or whatever. Do any of you have an air fryer that you use? I have one and am...
Zster comments on Aug 26, 2018:
I know nothing about these. Do they really work? Are the results really like oil fried? I have had to stop eating fried foods completely due to severe upper GI pain. A healthy, convincing substitute would be welcome...
How important is compatibility when it comes to taste in music, especially when together for ...
Zster comments on Aug 26, 2018:
It is rather important as there is some music that makes me prefer silence. I honestly would find it awkward to have to suffer through grating music in an effort to be accepting/polite. Conversely, I like to have music plsying a LOT. It woukd be awful for a partner to genuinely dislike it when I play so much of it. Having music tastes somewhat (does NOT have to be 100%) in common was part of what bonded us in my best relationships.
I'm thinking of trying a new dating site, anyone have any experience with this one?
Zster comments on Aug 26, 2018:
OMG! That photo! Priceless!

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