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Optimally I'd be working as a software QA analyst and technical writer, but cheap offshore labor has made that difficult to find lately. So at present I work as a science demonstrator and field trip leader for a children's museum. I'm an avid bicycle rider and regularly go for 40-70 mile rides, and other hobbies include astronomy, magic, day hikes, swimming, and plotting to take over the world and fix everything wrong with it. Politically I'm very liberal and oppose everything Trump stands for. On a more personal level, I enjoy helping people, teaching people new things, and trying new things and foods.

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Have You Ever Wanted To Have Sex With a FB Friend?
chilehead9 comments on Sep 3, 2018:
I don't friend anyone on Facebook that I don't know in real life.
Marry Her Yesterday
chilehead9 comments on Sep 3, 2018:
Where can I meet this person?
Plagiarism.
chilehead9 comments on Sep 3, 2018:
I was accused of this once. An article I had written was deemed by someone to be plagiarizing a book they were familiar with, that I had never read. It turned out that one of my sources used that book as one of their sources, and my paraphrasing of their paraphrasing made it more like the form in that book.
Blasphemy.....
chilehead9 comments on Sep 3, 2018:
It's sacrelicious.
I have a date tonight.
chilehead9 comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Would the kiss be a good indicator of chemistry if there isn't any prior interaction? I'm thinking "it's not magic - seeing if there's a spark depends on more than just a quick physical act. Otherwise we could just line up a hundred men and women, have them go down the line kissing folks until they felt the spark and left with that person. Dating sites would disappear.
Love doesn't hurt? thoughts...
chilehead9 comments on Sep 1, 2018:
He's not wrong. Not even a little bit.
Happy Saturday, everyone. How are you all doing today?
chilehead9 comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Just got home from work.
You Are Granted One Wish. Please Share.
chilehead9 comments on Sep 1, 2018:
If it is only one wish, and not the standard "let me win the lotto jackpot", I'd have to say it is for the Singularity to begin this month.
Drivers, keep your hands on the wheel and your mouths shut.
chilehead9 comments on Sep 1, 2018:
I don't mind the words of encouragement, though better from the passenger's side of the car. The rest of the article is spot on.
I don’t watch network tv as a rule but my daughter watches This Is Us and I caught an episode on ...
chilehead9 comments on Sep 1, 2018:
Westworld and Altered Carbon.
I’ve got my big Labor Day weekend plans. Anyone else? ?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 31, 2018:
Working Saturday, and Sunday I'll probably be taking in the Orange International Street Fair. http://www.orangestreetfair.org/home-2/
Awwww man! No 21st Century Space Race? :( [teslarati.com] Background: [russianspaceweb.com]
chilehead9 comments on Aug 31, 2018:
You'd think that with more countries and companies wanting to get satellites up there, the marketplace would be able to support more launch facilities. But we have United Launch Alliance, SpaceX, and ESA doing their stuff, China and India handling their own launches, and that's even before Blue Origin gets their New Glenn operational or Virgin Galactic starts taking their own passengers up. I guess that Russia isn't as good with their finances as they thought they were - we've been buying launches from them for the ISS resupply missions, up until SpaceX started taking over. Perhaps they were depending on selling more launches than they got? https://www.blueorigin.com/new-glenn https://www.cnn.com/travel/article/virgin-galactic-space-test-flight/index.html
Do you think it's possible to have chemistry from just tl talking on the phone and texting?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 31, 2018:
You can certainly get a good start, but there's always a chance that something about them will kill the chemistry outright once you finally meet them in person. Then again, if you push through that first in-person meeting, you may ignite a whole different chemical reaction.
Have you noticed a pattern to the men or women you go for?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 30, 2018:
A lot of the women I've gotten serious with have turned out to be seeking extended financial support, or not have any of the expenses to worry about. I don't want to be someone's wallet, especially when at this moment i can't even be my own.
Regarding age, how much younger or older are you willing to go in order to date someone?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 28, 2018:
I haven't yet given up on my dream of having a child, so that skews my answers a bit to accommodate the current state of health technology. So, while I have this dream, I'm looking for people between 35 and 47 - I might be convinced by someone that is interested and determined to go as low as 30. Once that dream dies, I'd shift the window to 10 years younger than I, or 5 years older.
Haptic-1 : relating to or based on the sense of touch.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 28, 2018:
This is a good word to know with respect to the growing VR technologies. They have gloves that give you a lot of haptic feedback - a sense of touch, limiting your movements with respect to virtual objects, and even temperatures.
At what point during the courtship process do you offer the fact that you're atheist or Agnostic?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 28, 2018:
On all the places I have a dating profile, the mildest way I phrase it is, "religion and I don't get along well." I try to get all the stuff that would a hard stop for some people out in the open quickly - if someone is going to have a problem with something that is that big a part of who I am, I'd rather that be found out as early as possible, not 5-10 dates down the line.
Good morning. Is it Friday yet?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 28, 2018:
There is no coffee, only tea.
I've been with my current partner for nearly 6 years.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 28, 2018:
I tried for years with kind of the same situation. All my attempts to discuss issues and/or to find out what they thought the problem was were met with a stone wall, "I don't want to talk about it." Given that history, I'm not willing to let things go nearly that long again with no improvement, even though it's with someone else. Being devoted to the person you're married to doesn't fix anything by itself. So, take that into account when considering my advice. I view ultimatums as a very likely short path to the end of a relationship, so I don't take their use lightly. If you're reached the point where you're asking mostly-strangers on the Internet for advice about whether or not to quit the relationship, then it's probably time to break out an ultimatum. Sit down with him and explain that his behavior in the relationship has changed in a way that you really don't like, you've tried talking to him about it and you don't feel it has improved anything. So you want to make it clear to him that if he isn't willing to take this concern of yours seriously, and make a good-faith effort to work on it, you don't think you can keep going with it. That tells him there's clearly a problem, that you feel it's very serious, and you require his help to work on it. He will know that refusing to address it will likely end the relationship, and with no ambiguity there to let him later claim you sucker-punched him. If there haven't been any changes/improvements within two weeks of that discussion, his actions have told you what he might not be willing or able to put into words - possibly that he doesn't want the relationship anymore and doesn't know how to go about ending it.
When you know a friend is hurting, reach out.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 28, 2018:
People in that state aren't always well-equipped to answer the question "how can I help?" Their thoughts are focused in an inward direction. If you have occasion to be around them, or even at their place, just start doing some chores for them - because doing them and other normal things isn't going to occur to them until they've got processing that pain/grief/whatever out of the way. But their family needs feeding, dishes and laundry will need to be done, trash taken out, shopping done, etc. You can ask what groceries they need from the supermarket - a question with a narrow and immediate focus like that will get processed much better than something as nebulous as "can I do anything for you?" From the time I spent teaching disaster preparedness and response classes, part of the section on Critical Incident Stress Debriefing covered the mental issues that people have following a large, stressful incident. Even the firemen and police that respond to disasters feel stress from it and need a recovery, not just the people the building fell on or were in a hurricane that took rescuers a week to find them after. They learned that forcing people to talk and have counseling sessions immediately after such incidents was having the opposite of the desired effect: being made to talk about it on someone else's timetable was denying them the ability to escape from the horror of the situation they saw or lived through, and that hobbled their ability to cope with it in non-destructive ways. So the new recommended way of dealing with that is for you to let them know that whenever they want to talk, you're willing to listen, you'll be near them and helping them, and otherwise you just shut up and let them be - they'll open up and say what they need to get out when they are able to, if they also feel it's safe to talk with you about it.
What makes a person vote for a politician who is racist, sexist, classist, homophobic, etc.?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 28, 2018:
"Socialism never took root in America because the poor see themselves not as an exploited proletariat, but as temporarily embarrassed millionaires." - Ronald Wright From the movie *Mississippi Burning*: "Ward: Where does it come from, all this hatred? . Anderson: You know, when I was a little boy, there was an old Negro farmer lived down the road from us, name of Monroe. And he was, uh, - well, I guess he was just a little luckier than my Daddy was. He bought himself a mule. That was a big deal around that town. Now, my Daddy hated that mule, 'cause his friends were always kiddin' him about oh, they saw Monroe out plowin' with his new mule, and Monroe was gonna rent another field now they had a mule. And one morning that mule just showed up dead. They poisoned the water. And after that there was never any mention about that mule around my Daddy. It just never came up. So one time, we were drivin' down the road and we passed Monroe's place and we saw it was empty. He'd just packed up and left, I guess. Gone up North, or somethin'. I looked over at my Daddy's face - and I knew he'd done it. And he saw that I knew. He was ashamed. I guess he was ashamed. He looked at me and he said: 'If you ain't better than a nigger, son, who are you better than?'...He was an old man just so full of hate that he didn't know that bein' poor was what was killin' him." From my observations, people that are poor for extended periods and/or have gone through really hard times look for ways to feel better about themselves, for ways to assert that they have some power over their situation when they don't, and for some person or group of people that they can "safely" blame for their misfortunes. People that have trouble empathizing with people who are different from themselves put it off as a failure on the part of those other people - like how left-handed people used to be characterized as evil (sinistrous means left handed, and is where we get the word "sinister"). If you're different, you're bad. They can look around and feel they have some standing and value "because I'm not a [minority]." "The horrible economy isn't because we started a world war and are being punished with harsh sanctions for it, it's all The Jews' fault!" "I don't have to care about my treating those people terribly and constantly cheating them, they're poor not because of that, but because they're lazy and won't put in an honest effort! And they don't make good decisions when they do catch a break!" So, whether they realize they have those feelings inside them or not, they recognize the same in the candidate and feel that identifying with that candidate validates them on a few levels. This also explains why they start feeling like any criticism of their chosen ...
PARADOX: par-a-dox.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 28, 2018:
This statement is false. <-- paradox
Just gonna leave this here....
chilehead9 comments on Aug 28, 2018:
Your favorite meal, maybe.
Besides intimacy.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 28, 2018:
I also miss having someone that I can share odd ideas with, as well as someone that can tell me different ways to see things than what occurred to me.
Say something ?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 27, 2018:
generous
I saw this on another site, and it just thought it made so much sense.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 27, 2018:
I've tried that before and got told that they felt I wasn't being honest, because the flattery every day didn't feel deserved, and that I was building up unhealthy expectations (without actually asking them to do anything different from what they were doing). Some people really don't like compliments if they're not infrequent.
TOP 10 THINGS NOT TO SAY ON A DATE [youtu.be]
chilehead9 comments on Aug 27, 2018:
Back in the 90s, a coworker of mine asked a prospective date, "So, are you a three-input woman?" Even worse, the person he was asking was another coworker.
PARALLAX: par-al-lax.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 26, 2018:
It's also where the astronomical term "parsec" comes from - PARallax SECond https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/parallax_second
When you are interacting with other members in this group, what makes you happiest?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 24, 2018:
Seeing people happy.
Something to think about...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I would want my daughter to date someone younger than me, most definitely.
I hope this isn't too off-topic.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 22, 2018:
It's a perfectly cromulent word...
Thanks to this site I am chatting with a good man offline.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 22, 2018:
Congratulations, I hope things continue to get better for you.
There was just a story on the news that says the average cost for a first date is $102, higher in ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 22, 2018:
That figure tops the most expensive date I've ever gone on, unless you count that one 3 months into the exclusive part of the relationship, where I sprang for a Disneyland annual pass for her, to match mine. Where are people finding that kind of money to drop on a first date, when they don't even know if they'll like the person enough to have a second? Granted, I'm currently into the whole "downward mobility" thing, but still...
Do you have a favorite break up song?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 22, 2018:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMLHPnxkOwA
I have no idea what is up today.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 22, 2018:
I haven't been hit on that many times in the last decade. Sounds like you're just awesome.
Few days ago.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 22, 2018:
Take a moment to imagine what your life would be like if you were married to someone that cared so much about other people's opinions about her PERSONAL relationships. There'd be no aspect of your life together that would be immune to modification and interference by other people's opinions. She had a chance at happiness with you, and the specter of other people's opinions drove her to reject you instead of making an attempt at discussing it and reconciling. You might find that this was a gift, with a thin wrapper of pain and self doubt.
A friend of mine was wearing a cross around her neck.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 21, 2018:
It would be hilarious if he actually was real, and the entire reason he hasn't returned is because all these crosses all over the place scare the crap out of him.
Happy Monday!! It was a busy weekend for scammers on dating sites.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 21, 2018:
In the last 24 hours I've seen a LOT of profiles being presented to me on POF that are scammers - each has one single picture, all indicate they live in the same city, and they mention findcoochie . com The funniest one said she really wants kids, her favorite activity is drinking, and to find her on that site or send her a message. At least this crop is easy to spot and block, but I really do wish I didn't have to spend the time sorting through them.
Ladies, it's not what you think.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 21, 2018:
The only real thought I ever have about football is how I can avoid any exposure to football.
Can love last for ever?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 21, 2018:
Several times I have thought it could. I was wrong each time. So I guess I'm not the one to ask that question.
How do you or did you handle it when you’re texting someone and they abruptly disappear out of the...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 21, 2018:
If it's not a telephone call or if we're not in a real-time instant messenger exchange, I understand that they may be at work or dealing with other stuff. I'm not so needy that they have to give me all their time when I'm not physically present.
This can be played on both sides, but being single for a while, and on several other dating sites ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 21, 2018:
Doctored photos (including the filters), duck lips, same odd angle in every pic, pics of other people, pics that don't include them at all (regardless of what else is there). I'm curious about why so many people have profile pics that were taken while sitting in a car. It's certainly not an angle/setting I'd expect to see them in, unless they were running me over or I was serving them food through a window. Text speak. I want to meet someone that can communicate with me, not someone I will need a translator for because evry sntnc is lik u no, short code. Really trite, meaningless answers to questions. For example, "what I'm doing with my life: living it"... isn't that a good description of everyone, ever? People that use what they're looking for to insult and demean anyone that doesn't meet the criteria they are looking for - "I'm looking for a REAL man, someone that will never lie, gives all his money to women, and will let me do whatever I want". The not-so-hidden implication there is that you're not a real member of the male gender if you don't concede to their demands. We haven't even met yet, I don't think I should be having to dodge insults and hostile behaviors. I can let them have their rants about guys that send dick pics, as that's a real problem, but the longer that rant goes on, the more negative feeling I get about that profile.
Hey.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 21, 2018:
Are you familiar with the term "swiftboating"? Also, aspersions.
Can Sex Make You Fall in Love With Someone?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 21, 2018:
Anything can make you fall in love with someone - even just noticing the toppings they put on their pizza or their sundae. It doesn't necessarily tell you anything good or bad about whether it will last, it's just how the possibilities strike you at the time, and how you haven't seen any dealbreakers yet.
My current situation ?who wants to join me?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 19, 2018:
It should be cooling down enough for me to start visiting the beach again soon. Because the 17 mile bike ride there is a bit too difficult when the temps are in the 90s.
She's Tired - She May Say She's OK
chilehead9 comments on Aug 19, 2018:
He's tired of explaining that she's not alone in that.
Language is dynamic. [youtube.]
chilehead9 comments on Aug 19, 2018:
If he were to argue in favor of people using "should of", I think I would take a baseball bat to his head in a vigorous manner. He also seems to not have a distinction between word choice and pronunciation. He may think he's being wicked, but he's just a dude.
What is the single most important moment you and your lover share?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 19, 2018:
That one time when we thought we might actually meet and discover who each other are, even learn each other's name.
Watching a storm move in tonight. How many find rain or a thunderstorm sexy to watch?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 19, 2018:
Unless I'm breaking out the telescope to look at stuff in the sky, or am about to go hiking or on a bike ride, I prefer rain to the sunny heat. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ebt0BR5wHYs http://www.rainymood.com/
Does anyone believe you can have an immediate connection with some on the first date of a couple ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 19, 2018:
Not everyone is all that complicated, and it's possible to find you mesh with someone else that's not that complicated in pretty short order. Of course, then there's the really complicated people. That could take some time.
Am I the only person who doesn't seek out other people to date when already dating someone else?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 19, 2018:
I have a lot of trouble even thinking about going out on dates with more than one person at a time. I'm not going to keep dating someone once I've figured out that it's not going to work out with them; but until I reach that point, I'm going to be putting all of my attention and effort into seeing if we can both convince each other that we can have a good thing together. It's not so hard to talk to multiple people at the same time before actually going on a date, because that happens so infrequently that it's not likely to put me in the position of going on dates with different people in the same month. But I won't set up a date with person B if I'm still arranging dates with person A.
Let’s talk pizza... pan crust or thin crust?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 19, 2018:
Either crust is fine with me. A wide variety of toppings is best, and I like trying new ones. While it is possible for pizza without pineapple to be good, it's not that often that I feel like taking that risk. Most surprising topping I've liked? Cashews. Ones I'm not willing to try again? calimari or anchovies.
Episode 3 of "Stupid things Christians say to me" A coworker and I were discussing the ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
So what is the point of going to Heaven, then? So you can spend the rest of Eternity with a bunch of people that aren't necessarily even good people, but they all believe in something they can't see? There's an awful lot of mass murderers that believed in the same god these people do, this makes me certain I don't want to spend any part of an afterlife in their company (the believers or the mass murderers).
I thought Bernie Sanders was a Socialist?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
You're getting tripped up by focusing only on the word "socialist". According to the Democratic Socialists of America web site, "Democratic socialists believe that both the economy and society should be run democratically—to meet public needs, not to make profits for a few. To achieve a more just society, many structures of our government and economy must be radically transformed through greater economic and social democracy so that ordinary Americans can participate in the many decisions that affect our lives." The characterization of "the lazy feed of the hard workers" is just a common form of character assassination and the first step in building a straw man to argue against. There's plenty of millionaires that don't even put in 20 hours a week of even half-hearted effort for their income, and there's no shortage of people who are working 40-80 hours a week that bust their asses the whole time and come home exhausted every day, and still barely make enough to get by, if that. In the USA today, luck plays a much greater part in whether someone gets rich or does well than hard work - by a few orders of magnitude.
I guess it is established that finding love takes a lot of work and even then it comes with no ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
Happiness. I really miss being able to make someone happy and see that genuine smile on their face, and knowing that I put it there.
Someday ?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I thought I had that earlier this year... and then two months later she just abandoned me. Still wants to be friends and do things together, but declines everything I suggest, even stuff she posts on FB that she wants to do.
Ok so we did the toilet seat war?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
Over the top - that's the way it is in the illustration filed with the patent office, so we know that's the way it was designed to be used. That just bolsters what we've all known, that under-from-behind is just morally deficient.
Question: If you are dating someone, even if it is new and the man goes to the woman's house, should...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I had a group of friends that were renting a house together. Since they were different genders, they resolved the argument by making sure everyone put both the seat and the lid down before they left the room. That way, no one seems to be getting preferential treatment, since everyone needs to do something both before and after using the facilities. It also makes sure that the seat is up when any visiting males use the facility, so no wet seats for the ladies to find. I got that habit because I grew up in a house that had a pool out back and a poolhouse bathroom - we had to keep the lid down so the numerous wild animals wouldn't use it as their drinking fountain. There's nothing like running for the bathroom and discovering a family of skunks getting a drink, or a few raccoons dousing their dinner.
corpocracy-a society in which corporations have much economic and political power.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I've seen *corporatocracy* a lot more. The definition of corpocracy specifies "characterized by ineffective management."
So, it's finally final.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
If you took two pieces of a puzzle that weren't supposed to go together, and you MAKE them fit together, is that somehow a measure of success? The tendency some parts of society have for branding people who get divorced as failures, or referring to a marriage that ends in divorce as a "failure", really irk me. No one gets married (except for tax or green card reasons) with the idea that it might not work out - everyone has forever as their goal and their expectation. But people are different, and sometimes it takes years for people to uncover the hidden parts of their partner or of themselves that make continuing in the marriage to be the biggest mistake they could make. We don't blame puzzle pieces for not fitting together, and we shouldn't be playing blame games with people who entered into a marriage with the good faith intent to make it work. Sometimes it is one person's fault, but more often it's just that the people aren't made for the same thing. It is better that people stop thinking in terms of blame, and start thinking in terms of what they can do to help more people be happy in their lives. I would say congratulations, but the accomplishment is what you have done over the last 6 years - today was just a piece of paper to commemorate it.
Music, the best thing ever. ????
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4x0fPZrPV3M
Am I the only one that is suspicious of people that don’t have at least one clear picture of ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
It tells me that they are either a bot, or they're not really that committed to being taken seriously. One pic can get rid of 75% of the people you wouldn't make a good match with.
The Chances We Didn't Take
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I don't know, I really regret that one time I didn't wear a helmet when I went for a bicycle ride....
What's with guys lying about their age to get older women to look at them?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
On POF I've seen more than a dozen proposed matches that have something like that - always a 10+ year difference, usually to make them younger. And half of them complain that POF won't let them change their age once they've put it in. I don't know if I'm supposed to think they just made a typo, or if confessing deeper inside their profile is supposed to excuse outright lying, or what. But I strongly suspected that half of them were bots.
Would you walk across the street, yes or no?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 16, 2018:
I doubt anyone would notice, so sure.
If People Acted Like They Do on Dating Apps. This is spot on! [youtu.be]
chilehead9 comments on Aug 16, 2018:
scarily accurate.
What is an absolute Deal Breaker when considering a person for a relationship?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 16, 2018:
Smoking. If I'm going to invest all of my emotional energy (I don't do this by half-measure) into someone, I don't want to spend years watching them kill themselves and taking themselves away from me prematurely. If they hate themselves enough that the prospect of the horrible death from this cause doesn't deter them, it's less likely they can love someone else fully. Illegal drug use (I'm undecided on pot - I *want* to say I'd be fine with a mate using it, since I've had many friends that partake, but never been intimate with someone that did). Anyone that would ask me to convert to their religion (because I **know** that will just turn into a series of ultimatums) Conspiracy theorists / creationists / anti-vaxxers / flat-earthers / Trumpanzees. A lack of knowledge can be corrected, as can a misunderstanding - but the flat out denial of concrete and voluminous evidence means it is someone you just can not win with. Ever.
Mmmm, love a good smelling guy.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 16, 2018:
*Almost* every time I've noticed a woman's perfume it has been because they've used so much of it, it made me wonder if they were desperate to cover something else up. I guess if it is used right, it doesn't take center stage and you only notice it later. I wanted to find, but couldn't, a clip from Mel Brooks and Carl Reiner's "Two Thousand Year Old Man", where he talks about how they've taken away everyone's smell - you used to know who you were talking to, but now everyone smells like a strawberry.
O.K. Ladies is this true for most of you???
chilehead9 comments on Aug 15, 2018:
Anna knew she had to have a new pair of shoes today, and Carlo had helped her try on just about every pair in the store. "Well, that's it. That's about every pair of shoes in the store, except for... the cruel shoes." "Let me see them."
I just noticed I have I think all the dating apps and now wondering for what?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 14, 2018:
I've used OKC in the past with some success, but once Match.com bought them, they lost at least half their utility. I'm currently also on POF, and it is very similar to OKC. The experience with both is that they dangle possible matches in front of you in an effort to try and get you to throw money at them. They have both put some work into removing functionality so you'll feel the urge to spend on them instead of the person you want to date. The guy that started OKC had a blog entry on why for-pay dating sites cannot be as effective as free sites, and that blog entry disappeared as soon as Match.com bought the place. Good thing the Internet saved a copy!
Do you ever want to cuddle with your boyfriend or girlfriend then realize you do not have one? ?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 13, 2018:
Usually not more than a few times an hour.
CUNNILINGUS: cun-ni-lin-gus.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 12, 2018:
I completely support this word. Can I sign up to become its sponsor or something?
Can someone please explain/confirm?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 12, 2018:
You will never see the Moon and Mars being the same apparent size as long as you are on Earth. It's not physically possible - Mars would have to be within half a million miles of the Earth, and that's not going to happen. Yet every year there's a string of hoaxes running around the internet repeating the claims. The description at that link indicates that the photo is actually a mosaic, which explains why every object in the finished picture is the wrong size when compared to the other objects in the picture - different power eyepieces all[ow] them to take pictures of the objects so their sizes change..
What was your all time favorite TV show
chilehead9 comments on Aug 12, 2018:
Several of them have already been listed here, so I'll list a few of my old favorites that still aren't here: Almost Human, Now and Again, Second Chance, Night Court, Police Squad, Cliffhangers, Strange Luck, Backstrom, Dollhouse, Space: 1999, and Cupid.
ESOTERIC: es-o-ter-ic.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 12, 2018:
Oh please, if you want a Trumpster to understand something, you can't make it so complicated that you have to use words instead of pictures.
I had a strange thing happen to me one day.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 11, 2018:
Not since I was in jr. college and was scoring a co-ed water polo game - but it could have been that we were both in swim suits, fit, and single. Then there's Harry Dresden: http://dresdenfiles.wikia.com/wiki/Soulgaze
How many couples have met in the singles group including hook ups?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 11, 2018:
Do hookups actually happen through this site? I've not been here long at all, but from my point of view it looks like everyone is fairly geographically isolated.
I just want to tell everybody just how thrilled I am to have Lisa with me now.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 11, 2018:
Congratulations, guys. I hope you're happy for hundreds of years to come! If you need something trivial to fight over, ask for some of the other person's ice cream. That should do the trick.
It's Not Always Just About Sex
chilehead9 comments on Aug 10, 2018:
I don't know, I think this will take an awful lot of research to verify. Now to find a test subject....
Sometimes you can't explain ?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 10, 2018:
Usually involving ropes and duct tape, perhaps even the trunk of the car.
Remind me to breathe ?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 9, 2018:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GwKtszQ8Ejo
I just received a friend request on Facebook from a woman I went to high school with.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 9, 2018:
I think it's less about the particulars of the relationships you had in HS, and more about the shared experience. You can both look back and say, "Wow, we all behaved like morons when were that age, but we both survived it. Let's compare notes and see how we've changed and what we've accomplished since then."
Confession: I am feeling so embarrassed towards myself for having "adult feelings" towards a person ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 9, 2018:
Totally normal.
Has anyone enjoyed masturbating together with a partner.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 8, 2018:
Sounds like a wasted opportunity.
Farting, is it a sign you're comfortable with someone if you can just let rip?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 8, 2018:
Is "strong" a synonym for "nauseated"?
So if she/he asked you to play one song to win their heart what would it be?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 8, 2018:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pkvk-fkzGwA or perhaps https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvjVGh0jmzY
[women.com] Word quiz.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 7, 2018:
100%. Though some of their definitions are pretty dodgy. And one of them was misspelled. (Invisable? Really?)
Early in my relationship with my now ex-husband, I had a small crush on a fellow grad student who ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 7, 2018:
So far, everyone's life ends with a fight for their life. But not every fight for life ends with them dying. I do know that sometimes, standing by them through that fight will make everything worth it. And the regret from not going after the person of your dreams will follow you forever.
Guys has this ever happened to you?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 7, 2018:
I'm a complete whore and proud of it.
How many days do you wait for a message before accepting the fact that "their just not that into ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 7, 2018:
I've learned from experience that if they don't respond in 24 hours, it's best to forget you ever messaged them and move on. If they do get back to you days/weeks/months later, it's a pleasant surprise and I'll deal with it then. But I don't have time to wait on the edge of my seat for each and every person I work up the nerve to message, even if there aren't too many of them.
Are you an adventurous eater?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 7, 2018:
Yes. I've tried crickets, still hard to get over the ick factor on that, but I did do it. I'm not a fan of octopus. Spicy food doesn't scare me or even slow me down, if anything it attracts me. Because there are videos of people trying surstromming, I'd likely pass on trying it, or even being in the room when someone else tries it. But trying new things is a big part of my life aspiration.
OK.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 7, 2018:
Offer more activities to keep the date going longer. Eventually confess she could get nearly anything out of me that she asked for. And, of course, try for a kiss.
Have you ever deliberately gone out in the rain and played as an adult?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 6, 2018:
Only about half the times it rains where I live. But no more than that. I think. The first time I did a 100 mile, 2-day bike ride event it was raining off and on for the first day and a half. I was expecting to be miserable because of it, but it actually wasn't bad at all.
This isn't so much a rare word, but the meaning has become rare, having been debased, like so much ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 6, 2018:
It mutated from killing 1 out of every 10 to killing 9 out of every 10. Mutinous? I always heard it was used on under-performing units. What happened to this word is almost as bad as what happened to inflammable - now it means both "very difficult to set afire" and "very easy to set afire".
What is something in your life that is a point of constant anxiety/stress?
chilehead9 comments on Aug 6, 2018:
Aside from finding a suitable mate? Finding a job that will not let me down. Every time I think I've found one that I could be happy giving all my effort to until I retire, they either discard me (and other, even more talented people) or they go under.
Don't let him bite you!
chilehead9 comments on Aug 5, 2018:
I thought it was a Russian Hooker. No reason both claims can't be true.
Fill in the blank. If someone would invent__________________they would get all my money.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 5, 2018:
a cornucopia machine
Plethora: (pleth-o-ra) Noun, a large or excessive amount of (something); A plethora of committees ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 5, 2018:
So tell me Jefe, would you say that I have a plethora of pinatas?
Petrichor - the earthy scent produced when rain falls on dry soil.
chilehead9 comments on Aug 5, 2018:
The smell is also part of the password to access parts of the Tardis.
Watched lo and behold ruminations on the computer age I think the internet is one of the best ...
chilehead9 comments on Aug 5, 2018:
It is, but like any tool it is inevitably going to be misused and people will start to doubt if it is worth the proper uses of it.

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