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I like dancing. Latin dance (Cha Cha, Salsa, Merengue, Rumba). Ballroom (East Coast Swing, Foxtrot). Zydeco.

Widowed in 2012. Starting a new life.

I worked in the County Public Works Dept. for 33 years. Since becoming financially independent, I volunteer for a free breakfast program which feeds the hungry and homeless in my community. I also volunteer at the local homeless shelter.

"Dare to dream. For as you dream, so shall you become."


“I hope you find the kind of love that makes you a softer person.
dare2dream comments on Dec 18, 2019:
"When you have the best, why mess with the rest?"
Interesting way to reduce gun violence. []
dare2dream comments on Sep 10, 2018:
Another tack to take: Leave the guns and confiscate the owners! :D
Do you want to be right or do you want to win, and no you cannot have both.
dare2dream comments on Mar 9, 2019:
People who do right never win?
Dating different beliefs
dare2dream comments on Apr 11, 2018:
I was married to a Christian for 36 years (until she died 5 years ago). She was not all that outspoken or preachy about it. We both respected each other's right to believe what they thought was best. In other words, it takes tolerance and respect (for the person - not neccessarily the belief).
There is a bug in my car.
dare2dream comments on Jun 26, 2019:
As we critical thinkers like to say, "Mere coincidence does not prove causation." ;)
Got banned from the pro gun rights group. Not sure why. Because I don't support the NRA?
dare2dream comments on Sep 3, 2019:
Two corrections. #1. If we want to be like the UK or Canada it could happen right away with a change in congress. #2. The US has 120 guns per 100 civilians. Switzerland has 27 per 100 citizens.
Supreme Court Cross Case: Memorial Can Stand On Public Land : NPR
dare2dream comments on Jun 20, 2019:
"Honor them all (not just Christians) because war isn't sacred and valor is a secular virtue." ~ *The Humanist* magazine
The next 9% are also part of the problem. Why people should support Bernie IMNSHO. []
dare2dream comments on Dec 20, 2019:
It is a sliding scale of privilege.
Mind numbing sex - what's your secret?
dare2dream comments on Sep 24, 2018:
Laying the groundwork of having a great relationship first is a prerequisite for MNS (mind numbing sex). Friends first, mutual respect, physical attraction (of course) and some romance. With a start like that the rest should be good.
I think this one takes the cake.
dare2dream comments on Mar 25, 2020:
I was told by a gun-loving friend that they have their guns so others don't take supplies away from them. I asked him if someone came to his door asking for food or toilet paper would he shove a gun in his face or would he share what he has? Civilization occurs when individuals start working together cooperatively as opposed to individuals trying to survive competitively. People who own an arsenal of weapons are already living in a dystopian world within their own mind.
Did you know about this? Privatizing the commons in effect. []
dare2dream comments on Dec 6, 2019:
Capitalists would like to privatize everything. If they ever gain control over the air we breathe they will gladly sell it to us for a handsome profit for themselves.
Listening to the news this morning, I'm starting to wonder if the R party is actively working to ...
dare2dream comments on Jul 27, 2019:
The R party does not care about democracy but has been working to institutionalize the oligarchy their benefactors control.
People always ask why my ex and I broke up and I always say that it’s because I stopped believing ...
dare2dream comments on May 3, 2019:
I think the best reason to lose your faith is because you found something better: Reason. Being evidence based is more reliable than being faith based. Faith is believing in things without evidence or even if there is more evidence to the contrary you believe anyway. This is illogical! You can tell them that.
Hot Button Question 3
dare2dream comments on Jun 12, 2018:
Unbridled capitalism was shown to be faulty when the markets collapsed in 2008. Capitalism is an economic system that relies on competition where you get winners and losers. Unfortunately, the winners stack the deck so the winners keep winning and the losers keep losing. It has been said that Socialism does not provide enough motivation for production. Therefore, I propose a hybrid system of capitalism and socialism. There will be a check on the other's power. The capitalism side will motivate production and the socialism side will guarantee economic justice. Interestingly, this is sort of what we used to have during the New Deal.
Being agnostic or any other ideology is alright.
dare2dream comments on Mar 26, 2019:
I see it like this. All people, both the god believer and the atheist, are all seekers of the truth. The difference between them is god believers rely on faith to find their truth. Atheists rely on evidence and logic, reason, to find the truth. Faith fosters a closed mind because they claim they have the answers. Atheists should have a mind open to new evidence and subject to change (improving). Losing one’s religion or faith does not mean they will lose hope. They are only losing their delusions and gaining a better understanding of reality based on evidence. The hope an atheist has is grounded in fact and understanding.
"Logic, logic, logic.
dare2dream comments on Aug 22, 2019:
I see something my way and you see it another. Who is right? Maybe we both are! I see part of the truth and you see another part of the truth. If I can see it your way too, I'll see the whole truth. I think there is some logic in that. :D
dare2dream comments on Feb 25, 2019:
They claim their beliefs are decreed by the Almighty Creator of the Universe. They ignore or dismiss any other basis of morality.
Why have the Dems dropped their opposition to illegal immigration? []
dare2dream comments on Aug 20, 2019:
That's a Republican talking point. It is false that Democrats *dropped *their opposition to illegal immigration. That's like trying to say the Democrats are now *for* illegal immigration.
Saying hello, I finally get time to say hi to the people here.
dare2dream comments on Sep 14, 2019:
I need a snappy comeback to "have a blessed day"
dare2dream comments on Jun 11, 2018:
"Thank you. I'm an atheist but I appreciate your sentiment."
Proposal for a global currency to replace the dollar. What is your view? []
dare2dream comments on Aug 30, 2019:
It will be a great day for humanity when we can do away with money all together. Sure. We live in a global society anyway. Why not have a global currency.
I know how very special I am.
dare2dream comments on Aug 23, 2019:
Is there any cause you believe in, want to be a part of and contribute to?
So, I got called nigger today.
dare2dream comments on Apr 30, 2018:
Oh my Zeus! In this day and age....
It would be fun to explore the meaning of this cartoon.
dare2dream comments on Nov 27, 2019:
I read it as he does not mind paying his **fair** share of taxes. Then he finds out that the rich are not paying so his share is not fair. I think he is mad at the rich and the system they have established for themselves to the benefit of the rich. I don't think he wants to pay less himself but for the rich to pay more - their fair share.
quick addition
dare2dream comments on Oct 3, 2019:
It's an addition without a permit. ;)
In god we trust... []
dare2dream comments on Jul 26, 2019:
"In Reason We Trust." I'm normally against vandalism but in extreme cases as this....
No longer voting for corporate Democrats.
dare2dream comments on Jul 11, 2018:
Elizabeth Warren? She certainly speaks out against special interests and their money.
What do you think about this meme? Is the “creator” correct!
dare2dream comments on Jan 20, 2020:
I believe the meme is correct. A worker or a consumer is not the same as a capitalist. According to the definition, a capitalist owns the means of production. In other words they might own a factory or a mom & pop business. But just being a worker and home renter does not make one a capitalist. Also just being a supporter of capitalism does not mean you own any means of production. Thinking you do, just means the capitalists have you thinking you are one of them so you will unwittingly support their dominance over you.
From Integrated Capitalism to Disintegrating Capitalism
dare2dream comments on Feb 23, 2019:
What if they gave a war and nobody went?
Separating Families At The Border: The Hysteria Overlooks Some Key Facts []
dare2dream comments on Jun 19, 2018:
This article tries to justify separating children from their parents because : - The parents committed the misdemeanor of illegally entering the country. - They might be separated for a short time in some cases. - Some are not related. These are all lousy excuses. They're trying to justify the unjustifiable. This is a new policy. It just started on Trump's watch and he can stop it when he wants. Shame on him. ​
Are you willing to be arrested to combat the climate catastrophe? []
dare2dream comments on Nov 5, 2019:
lerlo is right. Just getting arrested does nothing for the cause. But what you are getting arrested for might help. For example if the protest costs polluters maybe they will consider mitigating their polluting.
wrong again.
dare2dream comments on Apr 9, 2019:
To have freedom OF religion we must also have freedom FROM religion. They go together.
Or has a beautiful soul but might not have the perfect body.
dare2dream comments on Dec 2, 2018:
Does anyone still believe in the existence of a soul?
The last guy I was "seeing", mostly talking and texting, told me he was married and separated 2 ...
dare2dream comments on May 19, 2018:
For me, "Separated" should mean living apart. If they're still sharing the house, they're not separated.
As you are aware, this is somewhat difficult.
dare2dream comments on Apr 23, 2018:
When I lost my dear wife to A.L.S. five years ago my life was destroyed. I knew I had to make a new life out of the ashes of the old. How do I do that? I "put myself out there" by joining new social circles, meeting new people and made new friends as well as stayed connected to the old ones. You don't need to "fit in". Join social circles that fit you. Nothing could make me feel better but keeping busy and following my passions was a good distraction!
Is Chris hedges correct about Trump and the Deep State?
dare2dream comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Trump is only the symptom. The disease is the Corporate Deep State that owns and controls our government. Bernie Sanders has been opposing them for decades. The other Democratic candidates have come on board with this to a lesser extent.
On immigration.
dare2dream comments on Jan 3, 2019:
Well, let's not promote the "immigrants are rapists and thieves" lie being used to divide humanity.
What do you think about lying?
dare2dream comments on Feb 25, 2020:
Excellent question, ToolGuy. It's like the question, do the ends justify the means. I don't think so. There must be a tactful way of honesty or an avoidance of the question. I find the fault in the human trait of preferring what we want to hear over the truth. Often, we can't handle the truth! We are often too busy defending the ego that we can't use an unpleasant truth constructively.
Is it important for you to think that you have contributed in some small way to the benefit of ...
dare2dream comments on Apr 21, 2018:
“Be ashamed to die until you have won some victory for humanity.” - Horace Mann “The day we stop helping each other is the day we stop being human beings.” ~ from the movie 2012 ​
Unions organizing and their influence is diminished in the USA.
dare2dream comments on Dec 9, 2019:
A balance of power is needed for justice to prevail. Without unions, management would have to negotiate work contracts individually with every single worker. It is in the best interest of management to deal with work problems in one fell swoop.
De-converting the dead. []
dare2dream comments on Jan 10, 2020:
As someone who is single after decades of marriage & relationships, I'm finding that it's just ...
dare2dream comments on Apr 29, 2018:
I think people can be in a romantic relationship with "no BS, no games and everything discussed beforehand". They just have to be honest and drama-free. Could it be you got a little "gun shy" after some bad experiences? No one can blame you for that! But getting "benefits" without emotional attachment just sounds a bit too shallow and superficial for me. Keeping an "arrangement" on the down low feels a bit sneaky. Just my opinion. But I was married for a lifetime (hers) and single for only the last five.
Do you wonder why the US is going to hell in a hand basket?
dare2dream comments on Feb 28, 2019:
We have a capitalist economic system which has many good points. Unfortunately, our system currently has very few restrains or checks on it anymore. Therefore, it is inherently corrupt. Money corrupts everything.
Inquiring minds want to know
dare2dream comments on Jan 12, 2019:
Good question. I didn't know either. Thanks for asking. I learned something.
The truth is...
dare2dream comments on Aug 26, 2019:
Tolerance helps to make developing relationships easier.
Are you ethical? Do you have a code of ethics?
dare2dream comments on Sep 24, 2018:
I realize there are other people in the world who are very much like me. I therefore empathize and have compassion for others. This is the basis of my moral code.
If Christianity didn’t exist, nor would this site.
dare2dream comments on Sep 2, 2019:
I see it as evidence based thinking versus faith based thinking; logic versus anti-logic.
There's an Egyptian graduate student visiting to work on his Master's & we've chatted a good bit.
dare2dream comments on Jun 3, 2019:
You can tell him that everyone understands the value of evidence so, when it comes to religion, why would anyone put all that kind of thinking aside in favor of faith? Faith is believing in things without evidence. Even if the evidence is to the contrary they believe it anyway! Faith is illogical!
All the more reason to secure the southern border.
dare2dream comments on Dec 29, 2018:
I thought the Sheriff made a good point. We need to reconcile deporting criminal undocumented aliens with the need for community policing. But the Sheriff either doesn't understand or doesn't care about partnering with his community. Deporting is often thought of as a solution but deportees often just come right back over and over.
Trump refuses to shake hands with Nancy Pelosi and at the end of his rambling state of the Union, ...
dare2dream comments on Feb 5, 2020:
I hate to see anyone stoop to mean spirited, juvenile slights but people are talking today a lot more about Pelosi than Trump. She stole his thunder.
There is no such thing as reality
dare2dream comments on Jan 16, 2019:
Ontological nihilism.
Why is it that otherwise intelligent people who demonstrate rational thought in every subject matter...
dare2dream comments on Sep 12, 2019:
That's a good question and I think Sam Harris answered adequately. There is a big part of religions that make some moral sense, (do unto others... ), that people get pulled into the whole mythology. I do think it is strange that most people are rational, logical and respect evidence but when it comes to religion, push all that rational thinking aside in favor blind faith.
Does anyone else who's de-converted from religion struggle with logically knowing / accepting ...
dare2dream comments on Apr 26, 2019:
That's a good example of how feelings are deceiving.
Why with all the defects we are finding on Facebook why are they taking years to fix and what could ...
dare2dream comments on Feb 12, 2019:
It's all about advertisement money. Facebook keeps track of all your Likes and demographic info. Then you get targeted with advertisements. It's money over privacy.
Did the Ammoland link post get pulled by Admin?
dare2dream comments on Sep 9, 2019:
Is Ammoland a trusted source? Ha! Those gun nuts will blame anything but guns.
The structure of logic
dare2dream comments on Jun 4, 2018:
It's true that self-awareness and death are mutually exclusive, can never be confirmed, only disproved. On the other hand, to believe that self-awareness and death are **not** mutually exclusive,requires a premise (i.e. there is an afterlife) which has no evidentiary basis.
Organ donation - Another harm of religion Several weeks ago I was chatting with a few people when...
dare2dream comments on Jun 10, 2019:
Maybe only donors should be recipients?
“There are two forms of courage in this world.
dare2dream comments on Dec 31, 2018:
Yes, they both require courage.
If a church holds services and a person get covid an dies can the family sue for wrongful death or ...
dare2dream comments on Apr 10, 2020:
Anybody can sue anybody for anything. As far as the likelihood of having a good case, I think if there was an order to cease public gatherings and that order was ignored, a church is likely to be held liable.
My husband jumped from our 8th floor balcony in front of me.
dare2dream comments on Jun 2, 2018:
So sorry to hear of this tragedy. You need to let go of all that pain now and this place can help.
This was a response to someone's post, but being new to the site, I thought I'd post it here to see ...
dare2dream comments on May 31, 2018:
I agree with much of what you said as I am agnostic as well as atheist. As Rachel said so well, skepticism is my default position until there is a preponderance of evidence for something. This open mindedness is lacking in theists. If an atheist is open to hearing evidence they cannot be absolutist. Being evidence based instead of faith based is a step toward enlightenment.
Join the global strike on Sep 20th.
dare2dream comments on Sep 6, 2019:
A day of not shopping only puts off shopping for a day. What we really need are permanent alternatives to contributing to global warming.
God is the construct of society ,Philosophy is dead.
dare2dream comments on Sep 13, 2018:
The search for truth is philosophy. What is true is reality.
Me again.
dare2dream comments on May 25, 2018:
Buddhism teaches us that suffering is caused by attachment and to end suffering we must detach (let go). Is your grieving preventing you from having a new life? Is grieving preventing you from finding happiness again? From loving again? We all grieve differently and let go and moving on differently. But for me, the sooner the better! I wanted to get past that painful phase as soon as possible!
Pretty compelling testimony today at the Judicial committee that Trump should NOT be impeached.
dare2dream comments on Dec 4, 2019:
Turley was scholarly and impressive but his testimony was basically a deflection. Just because Trump took an issue to the courts (a delaying tactic) does not mean Congress cannot proceed with their investigation or impeachment. Both the courts and Congress have the power to have trials.
I pointed the same thing out to my dad, a Pentecostal Minister.
dare2dream comments on Jul 29, 2019:
So, how did your dad explain that?
dare2dream comments on Dec 17, 2019:
You are troubled by “Pascal's wager”. Pascal's wager posits that humans bet with their lives that God either exists or does not. Pascal argues that a rational person should live as though God exists and seek to believe in God. If God does not actually exist, such a person will have only a finite loss (some pleasures, luxury, etc.), whereas he stands to receive infinite gains (as represented by eternity in Heaven) and avoid infinite losses (eternity in Hell). The argument against Pascal's wager is it is a preposterous assumption and is no proof of god’s existence.
It's WAY early in the morning and meandering about I found this group.
dare2dream comments on Jun 21, 2018:
If it's time to let go of Ken's ashes and burial at sea is not appropriate, how about this? Take a walk in the nearest national forest and when you find a pretty and peaceful place bury the ashes there. You can visit the place another time if you ever need to.
How can you be a Satanic Agnostic?
dare2dream comments on May 30, 2018:
The Satanic Temple (not the LaVey sect) refers to Satan as a** symbol ** of individualism and rebellion against authority. They promote religious freedom.​
This saying helps me when I'm missing him.
dare2dream comments on May 22, 2018:
We can never get over the death. But we can and must transcend it.


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