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So coming up to Christmas please tell me Athiests what you think of the Holiday season since you ...

LiterateHiker comments on Dec 18, 2019:

It's a time for visiting with family and friends. Wonderful, heart-warming traditions minus church. I have been an atheist since age 13. Christmas cactus I started from two cuttings at age 17. Dolls made by my great aunts and uncles. Also dolls from different countries I treasured since ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 19, 2019:

@LiterateHiker ooh okay. I cannot handle spicy. I may pass the recipe on to those that do though ;)

Hey everyone, For those that have used fake phone numbers or apps to keep in touch with a new ...

resserts comments on Dec 18, 2019:

Google Voice might be a good long-term option, as opposed to a burner-number service. I pair my Google Voice number with Google Hangouts, and I can call and text from multiple devices using the Hangouts app without disclosing my primary phone number. You can forward calls and messages to another ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 19, 2019:

This is great... took a little bit of time cuz it is an american thing and it needed to be tweaked around for canadian use but once I got it, it worked (I tried calling myself to test it). thanks a bunch

So coming up to Christmas please tell me Athiests what you think of the Holiday season since you ...

LiterateHiker comments on Dec 18, 2019:

It's a time for visiting with family and friends. Wonderful, heart-warming traditions minus church. I have been an atheist since age 13. Christmas cactus I started from two cuttings at age 17. Dolls made by my great aunts and uncles. Also dolls from different countries I treasured since ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 19, 2019:

@LiterateHiker Is the chutney spicey? Or is it sweet?

Hey everyone, For those that have used fake phone numbers or apps to keep in touch with a new ...

Bobbyzen comments on Dec 18, 2019:

Call him from a phone booth 😂. Sorry I’m just an old wise guy, emphasis on old.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 18, 2019:

@Bobbyzen It is not specific to him, it is with any prospective dude. I hope I didn't give the impression that he specifically makes me hesitant! :$

Gender in atheism

JacarC comments on Dec 6, 2019:

Women are more interested in community and fellowship. Consequently, even atheist women continue to participate in church activities.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 18, 2019:

@Jacar Nice try. But you literally did not answer my question. Your research shows women are more religious than men, NOT IF ATHEIST/AGNOSTIC WOMEN ATTEND CHURCHES MORE THAN MEN. Good luck finding research to support that wild hypothesis.

Found that my mentally challenged niece is pregnant.

demifeministgal comments on Dec 17, 2019:

Hopefully she will help her raise it? Otherwise we will have yet another abused child crippled in their adult years to contend with---- I say this as someone who's parental units should have never bred btw.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 18, 2019:

@kiramea Maybe you just have compassion.... bringing a child in to such an unstable and toxic envt (I personally know about narcissists) is a shitty thing to do. With modern healthcare allowing for abortions, it would be a mercy "killing" if she were to abort. At least, that is how I view pregnancies of abusive parental units.

Hey everyone, For those that have used fake phone numbers or apps to keep in touch with a new ...

Bobbyzen comments on Dec 18, 2019:

Call him from a phone booth 😂. Sorry I’m just an old wise guy, emphasis on old.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 18, 2019:

@Bobbyzen Idk... I feel like purchasing a burner phone for online dating seems extreme :o Like I am some sort of spy that cannot be located! heh

Gender in atheism

Shawno1972 comments on Dec 6, 2019:

There are differences between men and women. Some should be openly celebrated. Others need some work still. We're getting there. One group with more power than another isn't necessarily interested in just handing it over wholesale - no matter what the circumstances.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 18, 2019:

@Shawno1972 I don't look at it as losing power. I look at is as not being the one at the top anymore so, that elitism is lost at the most as well as some advantages. Sharing should not be viewed as a net loss but in a fckd up, capitalistic, only gains and profits matter society, it will be perceived that way by many.

Tempted by the idea of God?

bleurowz comments on Dec 18, 2019:

Sometimes I'll reach out and call someone I can trust, but they're not always there, so I've been learning how to be my own parent. Treat myself with kindness and respect. Give myself comfort and support especially if I'm hurting. Be good to the little girl I feel like when I'm in that place.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 18, 2019:

Do you have any links or resources you can recommend for this practice of learning to be one's own parent?

Hey everyone, For those that have used fake phone numbers or apps to keep in touch with a new ...

Bobbyzen comments on Dec 18, 2019:

Call him from a phone booth 😂. Sorry I’m just an old wise guy, emphasis on old.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 18, 2019:

Man it's hard to find a damn phone booth nowadays... there was like a city wide removal of them it seems XD

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Jolanta comments on Dec 13, 2019:

They obviously must be smarter than their religious parents.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 14, 2019:

Yes we typically are ;) :p

Not all men, but, why are so many men rude online, and do not have basic manners when messaging ...

demifeministgal comments on Dec 13, 2019:

Did you mean pleasant looking? :s Or are you making a dig at his looks and letting us know he was peasant looking? Honest question

demifeministgal replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@MsHoliday I love a nice looking smile myself... it is the first feature I look at in potential prospects :) If the guy has horrible teeth or stained teeth I am disappointed like ooh I will be stuck looking at that now. heh

Is social media destroying relationships?

AnneWimsey comments on Dec 12, 2019:

Ummmm, why is the "EX" spending the night? He is EX for a reason, remember?

demifeministgal replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@BitFlipper LOL cannot entertain hypotheticals? @AnneWimsey And I would say no to most and yes to ONE and only one.

Do people deserve to be loved even when they are not lovable and do some horrific things?

demifeministgal comments on Dec 12, 2019:

What are these horrific things you speak of? :S This post is too vague to give a clear answer. You mean did the likes of trump or Hitler deserve to be loved? Or is this more on a personal level?

demifeministgal replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@Jolanta Yes that is what I mean too though. Even those close to me were not forgiven for the heinous crap they put me through. And if they died, it would be a relief more than it would be grief. I agree with people having rose coloured glasses with kids or family members. And excusing waaay too much that they would never excuse or rationalize away from friends or strangers.

Not all men, but, why are so many men rude online, and do not have basic manners when messaging ...

AnneWimsey comments on Dec 13, 2019:

My experience has been quite the opposite...fun written exchanges, (at least 3 "normal" ones to weed out the bad apples), then, upon meeting, within the first 2 sentences, " I like blow jobs", or a variation of it. I would much prefer to have stayed on my comfy couch!

demifeministgal replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@RonWilliam53 I am not complaining, I appreciate it. The alternative is disgusting and disrespectful. It is just amusing to have this guy that has slept around act like he's almost a virgin himself, ya know?

Do people deserve to be loved even when they are not lovable and do some horrific things?

demifeministgal comments on Dec 12, 2019:

What are these horrific things you speak of? :S This post is too vague to give a clear answer. You mean did the likes of trump or Hitler deserve to be loved? Or is this more on a personal level?

demifeministgal replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@Jolanta Well in that case, before the horrific acts were committed then yes. Afterwards, it would be difficult, if not impossible, to love them. At least for me. Now whether they "deserve" that love from others is up to the other person and their capacity for forgiveness of cruelty and horrific actions from people. I cannot do it, but others are easily forgiving.

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demifeministgal comments on Dec 12, 2019:

Damn for US citizens only.... phooew :( :p

demifeministgal replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@MissKathleen I put emojis to indicate jokes :p But I guess people don't read them to mean a joke. :(

Gender in atheism

JacarC comments on Dec 6, 2019:

Women are more interested in community and fellowship. Consequently, even atheist women continue to participate in church activities.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@Jacar There is research that shows atheist women are more likely to continue to participate in church activities? Like, outside of bible belt areas? Care to point one in the direction of that peer-reviewed research? o.O

Is social media destroying relationships?

AnneWimsey comments on Dec 12, 2019:

Ummmm, why is the "EX" spending the night? He is EX for a reason, remember?

demifeministgal replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@BitFlipper which means you would not necessarily say no if an offer was made? Correct?

Gender in atheism

Ellen-SoCal comments on Dec 5, 2019:

Proll'y for the same reason that little boys from day one in school are expected to be outgoing and know that their opinions will be valued, whereas little girls are told to raise their hands and follow orders. we learn to shut up, and until we get to the point where we can say, "fuck that", nothing...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@twill Well it is both. There are age/generational trends after all. And since this site skews older, it will be representative of mothers/grandmothers and such. It is a complex and nuanced thing. :)

Not all men, but, why are so many men rude online, and do not have basic manners when messaging ...

AnneWimsey comments on Dec 13, 2019:

My experience has been quite the opposite...fun written exchanges, (at least 3 "normal" ones to weed out the bad apples), then, upon meeting, within the first 2 sentences, " I like blow jobs", or a variation of it. I would much prefer to have stayed on my comfy couch!

demifeministgal replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@MsHoliday Same here, if guys bring up sex with me it is so gently and more asking questions than it is to explicitly say they like blowjobs.... it's like they think I am a virgin that needs to be handled carefully so I don't spook. So if the guy has slept around or is pervy, he portrays himself like a saint. XD

Gender in atheism

SCal comments on Dec 6, 2019:

It sort of seems like women below the age of about 45, are far less likely to be openly nonreligious. Having a secular viewpoint also seems to be higher among people in STEM fields. I think the numbers might be slanted there too. I have not looked it up, so maybe im off. I'd love to hear women's ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@BryanLV Well your remark was more age specific, than gender specific. Hence my focus on age. But you are right, both genders may face this. Although, I don't know who lives longer with parents young women or young men. There may be data on that. Will have to look into it one day. XD

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demifeministgal comments on Dec 12, 2019:

Damn for US citizens only.... phooew :( :p

demifeministgal replies on Dec 12, 2019:

@MissKathleen Yes I know. It was a lousy joke XD

Gender in atheism

SCal comments on Dec 6, 2019:

It sort of seems like women below the age of about 45, are far less likely to be openly nonreligious. Having a secular viewpoint also seems to be higher among people in STEM fields. I think the numbers might be slanted there too. I have not looked it up, so maybe im off. I'd love to hear women's ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 12, 2019:

I think it may be due to religious families/cultural forces.... so if you still live at home (and sadly many millenials have to live with their parents until their late 30s :( ) and your parents are religious, you won't be out with your atheism unless you are certain they will be accepting of it. Otherwise you create unnecessary conflict in your living situation. Not to mention, for career and job reasons. Until you are established in a career or job, why would you alienate a huge swath of potential network opportunities or clients/customers (for business owners) by being openly non-religious in a very religious context/culture/envt? Being out is better suited if you are established by living on your own and having a secure steady career. That's my 2 cents.

Gender in atheism

JacarC comments on Dec 6, 2019:

Women are more interested in community and fellowship. Consequently, even atheist women continue to participate in church activities.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 12, 2019:

No we don't! *Homer fading voice*

Gender in atheism

blzjz comments on Dec 6, 2019:

there doesn't seem to be as much gender/atheism pressure here in Canada.... although women still have barriers to cross...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 12, 2019:

Will be interesting to see how this pans out with the influx of immigrants from the top 10 countries and their offspring (China, India, Latin America, etc.).

Gender in atheism

Shawno1972 comments on Dec 6, 2019:

There are differences between men and women. Some should be openly celebrated. Others need some work still. We're getting there. One group with more power than another isn't necessarily interested in just handing it over wholesale - no matter what the circumstances.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 12, 2019:

So what is so wrong about sharing the power though? And there are more differences within a gender than there are between the genders. Particularily if you look beyond genitalia and reproductive organs/functions.

Gender in atheism

Ellen-SoCal comments on Dec 5, 2019:

Proll'y for the same reason that little boys from day one in school are expected to be outgoing and know that their opinions will be valued, whereas little girls are told to raise their hands and follow orders. we learn to shut up, and until we get to the point where we can say, "fuck that", nothing...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 12, 2019:

@twill Except that young women are statistically putting off or not having kid(s) at all AND have higher rates of atheism/agnosticism than men. So I would say the picture is more complex than just kids.

I'm trying to see where my relationship with someone goes.

AnneWimsey comments on Dec 11, 2019:

When you say "radio silence" you mean no contact unless he shows up to be "serviced"? You Have your answer!

demifeministgal replies on Dec 12, 2019:

@Lillyfield41 You need to explore this: "but i'd much rather keep someone i feel close to". Like I said in the main thread, I think you may have developed codependence with this guy. You can feel close to a new person you date. You do know that, right? It sounds to me like you are settling for less. Do you not think you deserve better? I do.

Hello! My brain never shuts down.

bobwjr comments on Dec 9, 2019:

Trazadone helps

demifeministgal replies on Dec 10, 2019:

@freeofgod I would not want any THC content, that makes me hungry and I cannot sleep when I am hungry. I would want just CBD and will have to inquire about indica as well.

Hello! My brain never shuts down.

bobwjr comments on Dec 9, 2019:

Trazadone helps

demifeministgal replies on Dec 10, 2019:

not for everyone.... it helps one fall asleep quicker but does not prevent the waking up.... I am desperate and considering trying CBD myself-- weed/CBD is legal in Canada :)

Has anyone else been brought up into a family with quite a few self-centered narcissists?

Burner comments on Dec 4, 2019:

Pop psychology is cool and fun, but fairly useless.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

But narcissistic disorder is not pop psychology... it is real.... it is in the DSM and the ICD. Or did you mean armchair psychology?

He had no business touching her.

demifeministgal comments on Dec 9, 2019:

Not only is he a sexual assaulting POS, but he is a fckng moron to boot as he did it on camera, so there is no deniability... I hope she files charges against him -_-

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@Beowulfsfriend Indeed he is a gawd awful role model for those boys.... the last thing we need is them. modelling his piss poor behaviour, towards other girls

He had no business touching her.

KKGator comments on Dec 9, 2019:

Tommy Callaway, a Georgia "Youth Minister", is the culprit. I hope he loses EVERYTHING. Intentional stupidity should really come with very serious consequences. https://www.rt.com/sport/475414-marathon-runner-banned-slap/

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@KKGator Do you think people can make international calls to this church? heh

There’s something to be said about meeting and seeing people face to face.

St-Sinner comments on Dec 9, 2019:

I liked your story. Thanks for sharing. I agree, meeting is important. But this online dating is helpful in many ways. You can read the profile, understand preferences, know the No Nos if given, gage expectations, understand more in chat and short list and filter out people. Much better than ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@IrishTxJudy LOL it was not meant to be a condescending comment... alot of people on this site only use this social media site so I guessed you were one of them. So engaging you in discussion means I am into drama? mmkay then. Very low bar, but it is yours to make. XD

There’s something to be said about meeting and seeing people face to face.

St-Sinner comments on Dec 9, 2019:

I liked your story. Thanks for sharing. I agree, meeting is important. But this online dating is helpful in many ways. You can read the profile, understand preferences, know the No Nos if given, gage expectations, understand more in chat and short list and filter out people. Much better than ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@IrishTxJudy ahh I see. So you consider gossiping as drama. Well then, this site must drive you bonkers at times then when people share and ask for advice with their relationship drama ;) :p

There’s something to be said about meeting and seeing people face to face.

St-Sinner comments on Dec 9, 2019:

I liked your story. Thanks for sharing. I agree, meeting is important. But this online dating is helpful in many ways. You can read the profile, understand preferences, know the No Nos if given, gage expectations, understand more in chat and short list and filter out people. Much better than ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@IrishTxJudy Have you never seen the notallmen hashtag or discussion about it before? :S I suppose if this is the only social media you are on, that makes sense. It stands for not all men. The article was in response to ProudMerrie, hence her being tagged only in that reply and not you. :)

When i tell people that I don’t want children, they sometimes make me feel like I'm a bad person ...

demifeministgal comments on Dec 9, 2019:

In actuality it is the ones that breed that tend to do so for selfish reasons or just because that is what you do or what is expected of you, without giving any forethought. Try flipping it around on them and ask why they had kid(s) as opposed to adopting one of the 1000s of kid(s) in need of a home...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@averykings And the negative consequences from pregnancy and birth do not only last as long as the pregnancy.... womens' bodies are forever changed for the remainder of their lives from having kids! Some minor changes, others more horrific. https://www.livescience.com/63291-post-pregnancy-changes.html

There’s something to be said about meeting and seeing people face to face.

St-Sinner comments on Dec 9, 2019:

I liked your story. Thanks for sharing. I agree, meeting is important. But this online dating is helpful in many ways. You can read the profile, understand preferences, know the No Nos if given, gage expectations, understand more in chat and short list and filter out people. Much better than ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@St-Sinner You are being hyperbolic, but since I know what you tend to be like SOME men are as dramatic as SOME women. NOTALLMEN and NOTALLWOMEN. Better? XD

Could not find where to post a suspicion of a fake profile, so I'm posting it here.

demifeministgal comments on Dec 9, 2019:

LOL better suited to General & Hellos rather than love and relationships XD

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@kiramea oh I see.

There’s something to be said about meeting and seeing people face to face.

St-Sinner comments on Dec 9, 2019:

I liked your story. Thanks for sharing. I agree, meeting is important. But this online dating is helpful in many ways. You can read the profile, understand preferences, know the No Nos if given, gage expectations, understand more in chat and short list and filter out people. Much better than ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@ProudMerrie Yes. I find it hilarious when a guy's entire profile is dedicated to lecturing women and talking shit about women, complaining about his failed relationships, so essentially, has no written bio about himself, except to say he wants no drama. After his entire profile is a dramatic screed. The hypocrisy is delicious. XD "Because I didn’t quite understand what men meant when they said they were looking for “no drama,” I spoke with Jessica Carbino, a sociologist in Los Angeles who specializes in online dating and who used to work for Bumble. She told me that when men in their 20s and 30s say they want something drama-free, they’re looking for women who are “lower maintenance.” When middle-aged men use it, they’re trying to avoid the entanglements that come with former spouses and family. “They could have just gone through a terrible divorce,” Dr. Carbino told me. “They could have presumably been dealing with a lot of issues with their own families, with their children, with their ex-spouses, and they want something that doesn’t present any type of problem or issue. Ms. Valenti said that when men say they want no drama, “they’re signaling to others that they’re someone who’s incapable of witnessing and honoring another person’s feelings.” https://www.nytimes.com/2019/07/20/opinion/sunday/tinder-bumble-okcupid-drama.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share

There’s something to be said about meeting and seeing people face to face.

St-Sinner comments on Dec 9, 2019:

I liked your story. Thanks for sharing. I agree, meeting is important. But this online dating is helpful in many ways. You can read the profile, understand preferences, know the No Nos if given, gage expectations, understand more in chat and short list and filter out people. Much better than ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@IrishTxJudy just make sure none of your male friends has a crush on you and you reject em or you don't know your place and challenge any of em.... once you hurt their egos you will see the drama pour out. XD But also, maybe we define drama differently. I don't know how women have been dramatic with you in your life.

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BitFlipper comments on Dec 8, 2019:

I can't get away with kissing. The others seem to be ok.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@BitFlipper IT does not have to be romantic kissing.... why can't it be kissing a loved one or family member? On the cheek or head ofc

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Fernapple comments on Dec 9, 2019:

If you'd like to answer the question, "What's the meaning of that???" a hundred thousand times a day, then coming on this site might be for you."

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

And yet you keep coming back, soo what does that say about you? >.>

There’s something to be said about meeting and seeing people face to face.

wonderandlisten comments on Dec 9, 2019:

I think written words of any kind are limited communication at best. Talking on the phone adds a lot of information to a conversation, yet so many of us seem to want to keep things at a distance by texting. Meeting someone in person brings reality into focus and then we have an opportunity to begin ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@moosepucky yea same here, especially since having had a bad experience with some crazy guy that would not stop texting me during exam time years ago and had to be blocked.

There’s something to be said about meeting and seeing people face to face.

St-Sinner comments on Dec 9, 2019:

I liked your story. Thanks for sharing. I agree, meeting is important. But this online dating is helpful in many ways. You can read the profile, understand preferences, know the No Nos if given, gage expectations, understand more in chat and short list and filter out people. Much better than ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@IrishTxJudy LOL if you want to live a drama free life you'd have to avoid humans in general, as men can be just as dramatic as women, sometimes to the point of violence XD Just sayin

I am part of the TikTok crowd.

St-Sinner comments on Dec 7, 2019:

Why do you feel down? Life is beautiful if you can cherry pick. You need to change your perspective. Often that's all it takes. It worked for me. I adjusted my view and expectations.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

Nope..... if he is going through a bipolar depressive low he may need medication to adjust or stabilize his mood(s).... there is a reason most people cannot think ourselves out of mental disorders and mental illnesses. If it was just that easy, nobody would have a mental illness! XD

How far are you willing to drive to meet someone new?

RoyMillar comments on Dec 3, 2019:

That was a real bummer for you,,any way you can park on the outskirts and take public transportation in ? I quite often do that in Toronto if going downtown at really busy times,,,bummer you could not connect with your daughter also ,very disappointing for you..

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@LiterateHiker well I was giving you tips how to navigate a bus or subway route in a city as a country gal.... though I don't know if wenatchee has Go buses or megabuses that go from your town to seattle.

There is understandably a lot of discussion about the effect of distance on using this site as a ...

demifeministgal comments on Dec 5, 2019:

I would still continuing chatting with someone even if we could only ever be online friends or penpals.... it is typically the men (9 out of 10 times) that disappear or ghost or no longer want to chat once sex or dating is off the table.... so that is what I do but it is often not reciprocated, ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@DavidDuhon I just find it weird, if I am having good chats with another human I don't just disappear cuz life gets busy.... though I happily do not have kid(s) or have to work 12+ hour days, so there is that.

How far are you willing to drive to meet someone new?

RoyMillar comments on Dec 3, 2019:

That was a real bummer for you,,any way you can park on the outskirts and take public transportation in ? I quite often do that in Toronto if going downtown at really busy times,,,bummer you could not connect with your daughter also ,very disappointing for you..

demifeministgal replies on Dec 7, 2019:

@LiterateHiker You can use google maps as a tool: you type in your starting point and then your destination and click the directions feature. Then you choose the little bus or train icon and it will give you the exact bus or subway route to take. To know specifically where to go, you zoom in on google maps and put the little person onto the map. It takes you into the real world on the street and you can make your little person walk around to get your bearings of the surroundings. This is best done from a laptop or PC and not on your smartphone or an app. See here: https://www.google.com/maps/dir///@43.6690944,-79.3918812,15z/data=!4m2!4m1!3e3

There is understandably a lot of discussion about the effect of distance on using this site as a ...

demifeministgal comments on Dec 5, 2019:

I would still continuing chatting with someone even if we could only ever be online friends or penpals.... it is typically the men (9 out of 10 times) that disappear or ghost or no longer want to chat once sex or dating is off the table.... so that is what I do but it is often not reciprocated, ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 5, 2019:

@DavidDuhon So a type of prioritization of contacts and I just didn't make the list/cut then? heh

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demifeministgal comments on Dec 4, 2019:

Edge play will forever seem crazily and unnecessarily risky to me... y'all enjoy living on the edge though ;)

demifeministgal replies on Dec 5, 2019:

@BassManSpaceMan I mean in your example anything can potentially be risky and we'd have to isolate ourselves at home and put ourselves into bullet proof bubbles to be safe. ;) But you have never read or heard about edge play? I am not in the BDSM community, but when I was researching it to answer someone's question, the kink community dedicates a portion of their writing/videos to the topic.

I haven't had luck in any dating site.

Cast1es comments on Dec 5, 2019:

Could be worse . Think about what they want these half their age women for - nursing an old man , status symbol of a trophy wife , someone to change their diapers , push their wheel chair , but don't touch their money after all , these young woman are all gold diggers and only after their money ....

demifeministgal replies on Dec 5, 2019:

*those young women, right?

I haven't had luck in any dating site.

St-Sinner comments on Dec 5, 2019:

Really, men of your age want women half your age? I am surprised. That is not the impression I get when I talk my men friends. Maybe you got a particular sample. Making stereotypes is real out there.... women thinking that men want sex, want younger women and men think women want to be saved and are...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 5, 2019:

middle aged and senior old fcks are the ones I get hit on the most when going about my daily life, so it is not surprising that some of those same creepers have dating sites to try to increase their odds of landing a younger woman.

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demifeministgal comments on Dec 4, 2019:

Edge play will forever seem crazily and unnecessarily risky to me... y'all enjoy living on the edge though ;)

demifeministgal replies on Dec 4, 2019:

@BassManSpaceMan Anything that can cause someone unnecessary bodily harm and if done unsafely, can even kill someone.... so it includes electric play, "breath" play, fire play, knife play, blood play and other types of play. I read an article about the various categories.... will have to try and locate it

What does it mean when someone relies to messages, but has never initiated contact?

AnneWimsey comments on Dec 4, 2019:

Why wait for them to initiate?

demifeministgal replies on Dec 4, 2019:

@CrazyQuilter If you are only looking for deep and intellectually stimulating discussions, not everyone is capable of those, or they may have jobs or lives that require them to do too much of that, so they actually prefer their down time to be idle chatter or small talk..... it is all about finding the right person to meet your communicative and intellectual needs.

What do you think about 'intuition?

demifeministgal comments on Dec 2, 2019:

I think that it is based on past experiences either we learned through direct experience, or we learn through observing others' experiences, either in person or on TV or some other medium. That knowledge is in our subconscious and then we have the gut feeling because we KNOW, deep down, that ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 3, 2019:

@CallMeDave And? Is that a bad thing? :S

Should the USA try to keep Muslims out of their country?

demifeministgal comments on Nov 25, 2019:

Nah.... Quit the bigotry.... christians and ex christians still brainwashed by their faith, loove to portray their former beliefs as this benign gentle loving religion.... TRUTH IS most of your crazed alt-right wingers and alt right killers are christians.... not to mention to this day in modern ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 2, 2019:

@K9Kohle789 Muslims created a "30 year plan to destroy America from within, softly, quietly in our gov't and educational institutions" Do you have any data or evidence for this? :S

freshly minted ex-facebooger: I just deactivated my Facebook account.

Sgt_Spanky comments on Nov 30, 2019:

I once tried an experiment with FB; I made a simple post that said *"I really like popcorn."* Within mins, the whole right side feed was populated with ads for popcorn. FB is just a data mining site in the form of social media. They all are.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 2, 2019:

Their algorithms sometimes make no damn sense though... if I am making pro choice arguments in favour of abortion and am talking about being happily childfree and they come back advertising surrogacy services to me, aka trying to get me to be a surrogate, what kind of faulty algorithm is that?!

Should the USA try to keep Muslims out of their country?

demifeministgal comments on Nov 25, 2019:

Nah.... Quit the bigotry.... christians and ex christians still brainwashed by their faith, loove to portray their former beliefs as this benign gentle loving religion.... TRUTH IS most of your crazed alt-right wingers and alt right killers are christians.... not to mention to this day in modern ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 2, 2019:

@K9Kohle789 well I would argue that presented with evidence to the contrary, that christians are and have historically been, just as bad as muslims, I would say the OP fits the definition mighty well: obstinate devotion to one's own opinions and prejudices

I had this weird exchange recently with a member.

demifeministgal comments on Aug 27, 2019:

LOL ooh man I should try saying that to guys online... especially the ones from Europe or Africa that message me... like I have local guys using the same line as you... you gotta set yourself waaay apart if you expect me to make an exception for a long distance relationship.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 2, 2019:

@topdogcarl when I click the reply button to you, it automatically tags ya.... when you replied to me you tagged me and vice versa. It is so it is easier to distinguish who one is talking to or replying to in subthreads.

Hi Everyone, I'd like everyone's opinion here.

Dancing comments on Nov 27, 2019:

I have had this happen before. I definitely ask them where they disappeared to. If the answer is iffy, I'm done. If it seems reasonable, I'll give another chance.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 2, 2019:

Update: Okay I received a very straightforward answer, I suppose I appreciate the honesty at the least. Him: I met someone and I don't talk to multiple people at once. But it didn't work out.

I had this weird exchange recently with a member.

demifeministgal comments on Aug 27, 2019:

LOL ooh man I should try saying that to guys online... especially the ones from Europe or Africa that message me... like I have local guys using the same line as you... you gotta set yourself waaay apart if you expect me to make an exception for a long distance relationship.

demifeministgal replies on Dec 2, 2019:

@topdogcarl My point was that if someone is long distance, they will have to do MORE to get my attention or get me to consider them, not less. I think long distance can work for people that started off committed at first and then became long distance for whatever reason (work, dying fam member needing care, etc.) and for those people that travel alot and one or both parties have enough disposable income to travel..... but for most people, travelling is beyond our financial reach, especially when one is younger. Nothing to do with being disposable, just not being able to do it financially and emotionally.

Should the USA try to keep Muslims out of their country?

demifeministgal comments on Nov 25, 2019:

Nah.... Quit the bigotry.... christians and ex christians still brainwashed by their faith, loove to portray their former beliefs as this benign gentle loving religion.... TRUTH IS most of your crazed alt-right wingers and alt right killers are christians.... not to mention to this day in modern ...

demifeministgal replies on Dec 2, 2019:

@K9Kohle789 WTF are you even talking about? Why did you take my comment so personally? It was not directed at you.... I mean it seems like we are tending to agree but you felt the need to be defensive for no reason against me. :s

So its been a while.

dahermit comments on Nov 29, 2019:

"Most are just looking to get laid." Marriage and children are generally a woman's social construct...not men's. Without sex, why would a man have anything to do with a woman?

demifeministgal replies on Nov 29, 2019:

Interestingly the construct of marriage would have come from the church (controlled and lead by men) and be reinforced by layMEN throughout history, to ensure the progeny one was financially supporting was actually his child. But also, men have various relationships with women including as parents, siblings, cousins, coworkers, friends, best friends, lovers, partners, etc.... the fact you need this spelt out for you and cannot grasp why men would want anything to do with women, is sad.

So its been a while.

Happy_Killbot comments on Nov 29, 2019:

Welcome to the future. Single is the new normal. No one wants to truly understand what it is like to be anyone else, despite the fact that we are built to do specifically this we refuse. If you are unwilling to give up what and who you are you will be forever lonely. The unfortunate reality of ...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 29, 2019:

@Lauraleigh39 I think he enjoys debating and being a contrarian for the sake of it.

Correcting Others Make You Look Bad

AtheistInNC comments on Nov 28, 2019:

I was on your side until you had to be immature and call him "short, fat ... who looked like a troll". You were right about the pronunciation, but you are a petty little troll yourself.

demifeministgal replies on Nov 28, 2019:

meh just dishing out pettiness to a toxic or nasty person.... some people have it coming.

Would you rather be in love or have someone be in love with you?

of-the-mountain comments on Nov 28, 2019:

Love can only be partially explained! Being in a mutual relationship that turned sour, can make you more than a little gunshy!!! I have had my share of stalkers who professed to love me! One of many reasons not to depend on mutual love, one of them always changes, not always for the better!...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 28, 2019:

Honestly waaay better than people with mental disorders be on medication that controls or treats their symptoms than to experience some of the crazies doing things cold turkey! Ever encounter an unmedicated schizophrenic or someone in a manic state? You wouldn't want to.

Art appreciation post... What are your thoughts 😍😘😄

demifeministgal comments on Nov 27, 2019:

I wanna see how nice the butt is.... turn around! :p Also, needs a bit of chest shaving :p

demifeministgal replies on Nov 28, 2019:

@Cutiebeauty we have no dollar bills here... I'd need to wave a $5 at him... woe is me :p

Hi Everyone, I'd like everyone's opinion here.

BudFrank comments on Nov 27, 2019:

There is a term “benching” where someone will keep you on the back burner, so to speak, in case things done work out with someone else. I’m not saying thats what’s happened here. I have gotten into some projects that keep me from normal chit chat for a while. Hard to know

demifeministgal replies on Nov 28, 2019:

Thank you for sharing that term I will have to do research and look in to it. :)

Hi Everyone, I'd like everyone's opinion here.

Dancing comments on Nov 27, 2019:

I have had this happen before. I definitely ask them where they disappeared to. If the answer is iffy, I'm done. If it seems reasonable, I'll give another chance.

demifeministgal replies on Nov 27, 2019:

I asked and based on his answer will decide if to continue chatting.

Alone on Thanksgiving Day. How do you cope?

demifeministgal comments on Nov 26, 2019:

I cannot relate to your daughter or you... the concept of my parents together during the holidays putting their differences aside and having a mature holiday? haaa! I think perhaps she should be grateful for all the years it did happen... of course having something good for so long and then losing ...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 27, 2019:

@LiterateHiker Because I've never had those positive experiences with holidays or my parents... the only way the holidays become halfway tolerable was to keep them apart and celebrate them with each separately. well now this is a downer my needs were not important at all it seems. heh :$

Hello, my fellow insomniacs.

TheDoubter comments on Nov 27, 2019:

congrats

demifeministgal replies on Nov 27, 2019:

congrats on her dream?? hehe

My kind of hunk is handsome from the inside out, gray, wrinkles and paunch.

Cutiebeauty comments on Nov 27, 2019:

Is that Jim Belushi in the first pic?

demifeministgal replies on Nov 27, 2019:

@Cutiebeauty OMG it's according to jim Jim! :o

I haven't met any women who wants to go all the way .

demifeministgal comments on Nov 26, 2019:

Then you need to invest in sex worker services XD

demifeministgal replies on Nov 27, 2019:

@Buzz Indeed going or trying bisexuality is always an option ;)

Should the USA try to keep Muslims out of their country?

Geoffrey51 comments on Nov 24, 2019:

Only if they are happy for Americans to be kept out of everywhere as well. Deport those pesky Yanks!

demifeministgal replies on Nov 27, 2019:

@Grecio Nope I am obviously talking about Trump, or Drumpf as he should be called. XD And you have no idea how our immigration system or our welfare system works so I'd thank you not to comment on something you are so woefully ignorant about.

At last! I have found a label I didn’t know existed.