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Notes from the Trenches with Erectile Dysfunction: A Woman’s Perspective
Allamanda comments on Nov 10, 2019:
I don't have any experience of this but had been giving it some thought due to talking to a friend - other factors surely come into play - if the man concerned can't or doesn't wish to take that type of medication? Honesty re the issue yes, also to himself - but also the development of other skills ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 11, 2019:
@RavenCT Exactly... especially if one defines sex beyond Penis in vagina terms.... if I would ever encounter this problem one day, it would not be a problem as I can take or leave the dck in my sex life... but I know other women NEED the D to get any satisfaction :( they may need to invest in a dildo at that point
Many years ago i dated a guy who defined intimacy as having sex.
truthsayer comments on Nov 10, 2019:
Last week i went to a sex workers outreach event, trying to explain to the public about their situation. 1. sex work is not human trafficking. 2. criminalizing normal human behavior is a recipe for disaster. 3. most of what they are doing is healing work, for example for vets with PTSD who can ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 11, 2019:
teachers should not be hugging kids anyways... are you not unaware of various psychological or other disorders where touch is too stimulating or overwhelming for the person? Then there are victims of sexual abuse/rape that also may be triggered by being hugged against their consent. And what should these kids have to disclose these kinds of medical conditions or traumas because they have touchy feely teachers? Um no.
Many years ago i dated a guy who defined intimacy as having sex.
GreatNani comments on Nov 9, 2019:
Physical intimacy is just one kind of intimacy.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 11, 2019:
@truthsayer spirituality was never part of maslow's hierarchy... unless you consider self-actualization as a type of spirituality?
Technology is Replacing us at a Faster Rate we can Bare.
Cutiebeauty comments on Nov 10, 2019:
When I found Frankie, I put away the toy
demifeministgal replies on Nov 11, 2019:
why not both? ;) Can incorporate toys into sex for added pleasure/fun... assuming of course neither of you is threatened or has your feelings hurt due to incorporating toy(s).
I can't sleep.
demifeministgal comments on Nov 9, 2019:
I am not a people pleaser per se, so I would just lie and say I am sick (in a way neurotypicals can understand maybe say I have a flu) or I am busy and cannot go. I honestly would prefer a spouse/partner that is not close with his family and visiting them more often than on holidays for reasons like...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 11, 2019:
@Kynlei Can you just tell her that? Or is she such a clueless extrovert, unwilling to learn, that telling her would be pointless as she would never understand or even try to understand? I find some people in my life I can be honest with and it will give me good results and others it is pointless cuz they are closed-minded and willfully ignorant so relationships with them are more tricky.
Intimacy is so individual that no one can describe it in one page.
bleurowz comments on Nov 10, 2019:
Well, real intimacy takes time and patience, so if you're expecting it that quickly you're not going to get it that way. You're only level 4 and posted/commented only a few times? You've hardly made a dent. Most people here aren't into the instant relationship sort of thing (which IMO doesn't ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 11, 2019:
yeaa I agree if he is looking to hookup a bunch and hope to create a long term relationship that way, he may be choosing the wrong approach.... also making hardly any posts does not inspire many, if any, to reach out to him or start following his posts or whatever.
For me, intimacy has always been connected with commitment.
Cast1es comments on Nov 9, 2019:
While I can agree with what you've included , a part of a relationship that includes sex , is responsibility for any children that are produced because of the relationship . A part of a wedding ceremony includes taking lawful responsibility for the support and raising of children produced while in ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 9, 2019:
Assuming the couple wants or keeps any offspring they conceive, that is. :) childfree is a growing lifestyle for many these days :)
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
Happy_Killbot comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Arguing only for things that effect you isn't selfish, that's just logical. There is no reason to support or oppose anything that doesn't directly effect you, or could not effect you. I am strongly of the opinion that in order to care about something that doesn't concern you directly you have to ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 8, 2019:
@Happy_Killbot well I was just having a discussion and I am not sure why you go in to discussions with the intent of manipulating people. :S You did not get any information out of me that I did not freely share.... if you were actually adept at manipulation you would have gotten me to reveal my secrets to you.... I have unfortunately known good manipulators and sorry to say you are not one of them! In any case manipulating others seems like a you problem, not a social science researcher problem.
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
Happy_Killbot comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Arguing only for things that effect you isn't selfish, that's just logical. There is no reason to support or oppose anything that doesn't directly effect you, or could not effect you. I am strongly of the opinion that in order to care about something that doesn't concern you directly you have to ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 8, 2019:
@Happy_Killbot You actually did not manipulate me at all.... it is a common occurrence in my generation to have multiple accounts on 1 platform and it is not taboo so I would not have to hide that info and have it manipulated out of me. In fact I volunteered that information initially long before you attempted any manipulation tactics. :)
This seemed relevant to this group:
yvilletom comments on Nov 8, 2019:
In the early 1970s a woman succeeded me as president of a large singles club and she told me men phoned her even late at night asking her for info about women they had just dated. I was amazed. My mother, born in 1906, was a feminist for her time. She had boundaries and the T Ma and Pa Nature ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 8, 2019:
What did you mean by T Ma?
This seemed relevant to this group:
Cast1es comments on Nov 8, 2019:
So don't get rude , when we're not willing to hand out phone numbers , etc. , when you're still just an unknown at the far side of the internet .
demifeministgal replies on Nov 8, 2019:
Oh man the amount of entitled men that get pissed off that you don't want to immediately exchange phone numbers is ridiculous... or refusing to send them pics or nudes.... take the email I gave you (a specific one I created just for online people/dating) or fck off. I know men are paranoid about being scammed but their paranoia about scamming or catfishing pales in comparison to my fear of harassment or abuse or stalking.
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demifeministgal comments on Nov 7, 2019:
meh... while I love the nerdy types I dislike the nerdy "look".... I am complicated that way XD
demifeministgal replies on Nov 8, 2019:
Honestly it's the glasses look XD
Is there an afterlife? of any sort
genessa comments on Nov 30, 2018:
there is no evidence of an afterlife. there is no anecdotal data concerning an afterlife, despite bright tunnel white light so-called experiences of some surely sincere folks who had weird dreams while being technically (and extremely briefly) "dead." there is a lot of evidence for there being no ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 7, 2019:
I've also heard pseudo physics peddled about to justify their beliefs and invoking quantum physics and einstein and various physics models as some sort of "proof" of reincarnation/an afterlife.
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
Happy_Killbot comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Arguing only for things that effect you isn't selfish, that's just logical. There is no reason to support or oppose anything that doesn't directly effect you, or could not effect you. I am strongly of the opinion that in order to care about something that doesn't concern you directly you have to ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 7, 2019:
@Happy_Killbot I will bring up your points with my online science discussion group to see what they think though.
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
Happy_Killbot comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Arguing only for things that effect you isn't selfish, that's just logical. There is no reason to support or oppose anything that doesn't directly effect you, or could not effect you. I am strongly of the opinion that in order to care about something that doesn't concern you directly you have to ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 7, 2019:
@Happy_Killbot There is irony in saying research participants are not the same as alleged criminals? And that scientific research with human participants is not as bad, or even comparable, to criminal interrogation and hostage negotiations? Well then, I would say more people would agree with me than your extremist assessment or just bad false equivalence.
I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?
demifeministgal comments on Oct 31, 2019:
It seems the seniors here are vehemently opposed to anyone taking a nude and think that a ruined reputation and ruined career are just punishments for making the foolish mistake of taking a nude... for me, the punishment is way too excessive and should not fit the stupidity... then there's the funny...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 7, 2019:
@AnneWimsey LOL then learn to use the site and learn how to reply to the right person.... this is the online equivalent of if you were replying to doraz but you looked at me the entire time you were talking.... then you got confused why I thought you were addressing me as you stared at me! XD I gotta say if I were a porn star my life would be much better than it is now due to all the excess money I would have..... so if only! XD heh
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
Happy_Killbot comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Arguing only for things that effect you isn't selfish, that's just logical. There is no reason to support or oppose anything that doesn't directly effect you, or could not effect you. I am strongly of the opinion that in order to care about something that doesn't concern you directly you have to ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 7, 2019:
@Happy_Killbot LOL I did not create fake fbook accounts for social justice reasons.... my generation have fake accounts, especially women online.... it is for individualistic reasons, not social justice reasons... so yup it is worth it! It may be difficult to understand why someone would have multiple accounts, if you are not really a big social media user, and are not a private person. OMG I have NEVER seen anyone compare social science research with coercion or a criminal interrogation! Two VERY DIFFERENT things... have you ever taken a research methods or stats course? Have you ever conducted research? I have done all of that and I guarantee you none of the participants are coerced.... IN FACT, there is options to leave the survey at any moment or one can refuse to answer given questions... the whole thing is controlled by the participant and they have full power to do what they want.... something that criminals or coercion victims do not have. Yikes well then, I will prefer to rely on the data derived from our system rather than converting to China's system tyvm. XD
We learn our lessons the hard way
BeccaVa comments on Aug 25, 2018:
?. Poor kid. I was thinking of making a group for parents of teens. I have a social butterfly and chronically happy “live in the moment” high school senior. We are about to start the college application process. Her GPA is 2.9786. I’m scared.… ?
demifeministgal replies on Nov 7, 2019:
Okay I read that she is average and she needs to be aiming for a 3.5-4.0 as a college applicant... there is still time for her and her extracurriculars may be factored in as well as her SAT results.
We learn our lessons the hard way
BeccaVa comments on Aug 25, 2018:
?. Poor kid. I was thinking of making a group for parents of teens. I have a social butterfly and chronically happy “live in the moment” high school senior. We are about to start the college application process. Her GPA is 2.9786. I’m scared.… ?
demifeministgal replies on Nov 7, 2019:
IS that a good GPA score? Just curious what the GPA system is like in the US.
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
K9Kohle789 comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Just a thought, if you choose to argue one side of a controversial topic like abortion, you are in favor of, what do you care what the arguers believe about you? You are in the right corner far as you know so if you had an abortion, or are POC (?) or gay wouldn't you say the same things or would you...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 7, 2019:
@K9Kohle789 This sounds about right "You are intolerant of their ignorance and refusal to understand your point of view"... willful ignorance is such a pet peeve of mine tbh.
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
Happy_Killbot comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Arguing only for things that effect you isn't selfish, that's just logical. There is no reason to support or oppose anything that doesn't directly effect you, or could not effect you. I am strongly of the opinion that in order to care about something that doesn't concern you directly you have to ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 7, 2019:
@Happy_Killbot Okay then. I was just trying to emphasize it is not one more so than the other it is nature + nurture, not nature vs nurture. The funny thing about that critique of social science research is that much (not all) of census data is self-reported as well... as well as other government research.... and that research impacts policies and provides international stats on how each nation is doing... so if we throw out self-reported data/research, do we also throw out census data and govt reports? The research does mitigate this and tries to ensure it does not ask leading questions.... I have read very open-ended non leading questions in research addressing why people do not report crimes or workplace harassment. It is not realistic to assume everyone is lying either... why would they lie? What would they have to gain? Such research does not provide monetary incentives after all. The diversity quotas are a band-aid solution to hiring employers' unconscious biases... there is no way in hell the best hires for all the best jobs are white men.... I liked the studies done in this area in an orchestra where the hiring people could not see the interviewee and an even number of men and women were hired... but when the gender of the applicants were known, more men were hired. LOL okaaay then and you've never violated their guidelines? good for you I guess.
This is a rant about A frustrating situation that has arisen.
FlyingGodess comments on Nov 6, 2019:
If you didn’t want more children, why didn’t you use your own protection or have a vasectomy? You ignored her obvious references because why? Yes, unprotected sex feels great but is also the #1 cause of pregnancy. Yes, you’re a nice guy, so you’ll try to do the right thing. Be ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@Atheist3 Are they 99%? I thought it was lower... though admittedly I have not read a condom box recently.... okay I found this data online: "If you use condoms perfectly every single time you have sex, they're 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. But people aren't perfect, so in real life condoms are about 85% effective..."
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
yvilletom comments on Nov 6, 2019:
An important reality: wealth and sociopathy (lack of empathy) correlate positively. NOT SILLY OR FUN. While researching sociopathy, I spoke with a psychiatrist; she said so and explained. Some wealthy folk do the biological thing - have a kid - but are unable (their own lack of empathy) to do ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@yvilletom So it wasn't about where I chose to post this... you were literally just letting me know the following things are not silly or fun? :s I think that went without saying though! XD
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
K9Kohle789 comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Just a thought, if you choose to argue one side of a controversial topic like abortion, you are in favor of, what do you care what the arguers believe about you? You are in the right corner far as you know so if you had an abortion, or are POC (?) or gay wouldn't you say the same things or would you...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@K9Kohle789 With the same hostility they directed at me.... I cannot do that whole if someone slaps your cheek offer them the other one thing... if someone starts a fight with me, online at least, I will fight back. At least at this point in my life.... it may stop one day idk... though I cannot see that happening based on how the old(er) people in my family are like to this day XD Maybe it's a genetic personality trait XD
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
yvilletom comments on Nov 6, 2019:
An important reality: wealth and sociopathy (lack of empathy) correlate positively. NOT SILLY OR FUN. While researching sociopathy, I spoke with a psychiatrist; she said so and explained. Some wealthy folk do the biological thing - have a kid - but are unable (their own lack of empathy) to do ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@yvilletom no... you said that is neither funny or silly... were you not referring to the group I chose to post this in when saying that? :s
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
linxminx comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Maybe its the arguing in itself. Be confident in your stance and position without the arguing or trying to ram it down other's throats. Not that you do this, but when you use the word "argue" I'm assuming the discussion can get heated, and confrontational. So the natural defense is "your covering...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@linxminx I guess I want them to realize they are wrong but some people are a lost cause and a waste of time and effort.
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
Davesnothere comments on Nov 5, 2019:
"What's with this apathy and decreased empathy going on?" I don't think its decreased, or become more pronounced. I think you have become more socially aware, and that allow you to notice how it has always been. OR your previous life experience has somehow been in a rather nice bubble which got ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@Davesnothere @Davesnothere Because the atheists/agnostics I encounter or have heard about are intelligent or academics and so I guess I extrapolated that to all atheists/agnostics. :$
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
Happy_Killbot comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Arguing only for things that effect you isn't selfish, that's just logical. There is no reason to support or oppose anything that doesn't directly effect you, or could not effect you. I am strongly of the opinion that in order to care about something that doesn't concern you directly you have to ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@Happy_Killbot My point was that one can have genetic suffering (ie born with a mental disorder) or develop a mental disorder due to a toxic environment or traumatic situation in one's life. Or both. Actually the majority of people that did not report did not so do because they feared getting fired or nothing would be done to punish the perp so it is pointless to go through the whole process.... revictimization to people that report crimes against them is a very real and sadly, prevalent thing. In regards to this: how can you have any accountability with your support? In my sociology/criminology courses when we addressed systems of privilege, we learned just how important allyship is. So that, I would not speak for an oppressed minority, I would speak to members of my in-group that are prejudiced... an easy historical example is that slavery in the US was eventually ended due to the white politicians and white leaders and community members that opposed slavery.... also feminism and granting women equal rights was in part, thanks to male allies. There has even been research that frustratingly demonstrates a person is more likely to actually engage with or listen to someone like themselves.... so for example white people, particularily white racists, are way more likely to listen to me and consider my points opposing racism than they are to other visible minorities... similarily men, especially misogynistic men, are more likely to listen to other men when discussing womens' rights.... I have even seen it in action personally... I have a fake male fbook account... and when I made points about womens' rights, even in an angry tone, men would respond and listen to me seriously... whereas when I made the exact same points, be it with a pleasant or rude tone, I was dismissed... silly emotional woman. So I think allies need to use our voices and do our parts to help oppressed minorities.
This is a rant about A frustrating situation that has arisen.
FlyingGodess comments on Nov 6, 2019:
If you didn’t want more children, why didn’t you use your own protection or have a vasectomy? You ignored her obvious references because why? Yes, unprotected sex feels great but is also the #1 cause of pregnancy. Yes, you’re a nice guy, so you’ll try to do the right thing. Be ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
Did he state he did not use protection? :S It is important to remember condoms are not 100% protection against pregnancy... if they were I would not exist right now! heh
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
FlyingEagle1952 comments on Nov 5, 2019:
you make a great point, but then again.....who else do we really have? I remember when I was married my ex used to always say, 'All you think about is yourself!".....well, then when she took my kids and left......in order to move on, I had to forget about all of them......and start over. The quicker...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@FlyingEagle1952 yeaa me too... my OP was venting as well heh
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
yvilletom comments on Nov 6, 2019:
An important reality: wealth and sociopathy (lack of empathy) correlate positively. NOT SILLY OR FUN. While researching sociopathy, I spoke with a psychiatrist; she said so and explained. Some wealthy folk do the biological thing - have a kid - but are unable (their own lack of empathy) to do ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
Well this group also has the heading random in it and it was a random thought :)
I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?
demifeministgal comments on Oct 31, 2019:
It seems the seniors here are vehemently opposed to anyone taking a nude and think that a ruined reputation and ruined career are just punishments for making the foolish mistake of taking a nude... for me, the punishment is way too excessive and should not fit the stupidity... then there's the funny...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@Doraz Except that she said it is too late for me and too bad so sad my pics are out there... I mean we should all be equally sad then since all our clothed pics are out there. heh
I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?
demifeministgal comments on Oct 31, 2019:
It seems the seniors here are vehemently opposed to anyone taking a nude and think that a ruined reputation and ruined career are just punishments for making the foolish mistake of taking a nude... for me, the punishment is way too excessive and should not fit the stupidity... then there's the funny...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@AnneWimsey Because you literally said it is too late for me and my pics are already out there.... because you were SO SURE that the only way I could be against revenge porn or men sharing nudes without consent is because I have experienced this personally... here is a screenshot of YOUR words to me... at least have the integrity to admit you were wrong about me and apologize geeeze! It won't kill you to admit your assumptions were wrong. XD
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
ToolGuy comments on Nov 5, 2019:
How does the passion help in an argument or discussion?
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@ToolGuy okay so can you personalize it to my post?
This is a rant about A frustrating situation that has arisen.
Mofo1953 comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Perhaps shouldn't have ignored Tinder? DUH!?!? Somehow your predicament sounds a bit childish, though you claim being 31. Reading your bio shows you're no prize for any parent, death metal? You sure it was what you say the reason for your relationship end??
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
How ironic that you claim he is immature and no prize parent when you share nude selfies of women online, without explicit consent.... and how old are you exactly? That makes it worse. You should not throw rocks at someone's house when you live in a glass house yourself.
Many people like furry beasts, and dogs are nice too.
demifeministgal comments on Nov 5, 2019:
I am more drawn to the doggy... I love doggies.... dogs > humans... NOT sexually of course. :)
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@zesty I do not know enough about AI or robotics to say if there would be a consent issue... I would have to research that angle. And just because a being responds to stimuli or stimulation in a positive manner (ie orgasm) does NOT mean they were not or are not being raped... plenty of humans that were raped experienced orgasm.
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
JacarC comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Good post. Thank you. And: the correct acronym is LGB.. The rainbow is about sexual preference. "T" has nothing to do with sexual preference. It is about demanding special rights, not equal rights.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@Jacar No they are not... trans women just would like the same rights afforded to them as other women... just as trans men would like the same rights given to them as other men. It is quite simple really.
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
ToolGuy comments on Nov 5, 2019:
How does the passion help in an argument or discussion?
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
@ToolGuy Wait so I intimidate them so they have to use ad hom attacks to what? Feel better? I've seen the same people levy those accusations at the less passionate debating/discussing with them as well... so it goes beyond how passionate or not the messenger is.
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
Geoffrey51 comments on Nov 5, 2019:
You raise a very good point. A common position of empathy and an attempt at understanding the ‘other’s’ position is at the heart of being human I would suggest. Striving for the unattainable brings resentment and disregard for others. See Merton’s ‘Strain Theory’ It’s a sad ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
ooh wow it's a sociological concept... how have I never heard of it?! Darn... thanks for the info :D
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
FlyingEagle1952 comments on Nov 5, 2019:
you make a great point, but then again.....who else do we really have? I remember when I was married my ex used to always say, 'All you think about is yourself!".....well, then when she took my kids and left......in order to move on, I had to forget about all of them......and start over. The quicker...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
okaaaay.... I am not sure how your rant relates to my post at all since self-preservation to get past a breakup and extending equal rights or human rights to all marginalized groups are not the same or similar...
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
Storm1752 comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Well, HAVE you, or somebody you know, been a victim of "revenge porn?" Never heard that exact term before, but of course it'd be terrible
demifeministgal replies on Nov 6, 2019:
Nobody I know has been a victim of revenge porn... I learned about it in women's/feminist groups on facebook and have been disgusted/disturbed ever since.
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
indirect76 comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Well, part of the blame is on you. If you had not taken those nude pictures and given them away none of this would have happenedz
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
well then according to your own logic I am blameless here since I have never taken a nude in my life.... try again?
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
GomezSpock comments on Nov 5, 2019:
The lack of empathy is directionally proportional to the fact that arguments are made "passionately", rather than rationally, and that said passion becomes the barometer by which to measure its importance (or the merit of the argument). That is the standard that needs to change before the byproducts...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
I have seen the same people reply the same way to others making the same points in a purely logical way... I think it is just lack of empathy regardless of the tone taken with them. That as well as outgroup bias and religious "values"
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
JacarC comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Good post. Thank you. And: the correct acronym is LGB.. The rainbow is about sexual preference. "T" has nothing to do with sexual preference. It is about demanding special rights, not equal rights.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@Jacar I think trans women may claim to be pansexual rather than lesbian...
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
JacarC comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Good post. Thank you. And: the correct acronym is LGB.. The rainbow is about sexual preference. "T" has nothing to do with sexual preference. It is about demanding special rights, not equal rights.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@Jacar I am not a radical feminist (as per radical feminism) and their version of feminism is outdated and not as applicable in the 21st century.... They are not inclusive of too many populations of women... I am an intersectional feminist so will not refer to rad fems. :)
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
Happy_Killbot comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Arguing only for things that effect you isn't selfish, that's just logical. There is no reason to support or oppose anything that doesn't directly effect you, or could not effect you. I am strongly of the opinion that in order to care about something that doesn't concern you directly you have to ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@Happy_Killbot They may lead normal lives but many have unnecessary psychological or physical scars in the manifestation of mental illness or physical diseases because of it. They could have had normal upbringings and normal adult lives. No human genocide would not be logical because it tends to be carried out in violent measures by those in power, which does cause suffering. And other animals would still suffer in other ways so human genocide would not eliminate all suffering. Well I was specific by saying equity which is distinct from equality. Just because things are made illegal does not mean said laws are enforced or adhered to... just like workplace discrimination or harassment should not be a thing, since both are illegal, but countless studies and much research demonstrates both are still problems. There is the law and then there is the application, or lack thereof, of the law. What good are laws if they are not followed? Who's claims of autonomy am I violating? :S And why would you say that? Since when is being an ally to others violating peoples' autonomy? :s
Why is it that if you argue or defend a topic/issue passionately, you must be directly effected by ...
MissKathleen comments on Nov 5, 2019:
There is nothing one can do about idiots and their opinion of me is inconsequential. So, this is not an issue from my perspective.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@MarkiusMahamius I don't get it.... she was being ironic by commenting? :S
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Tinocca comments on Nov 5, 2019:
This reminds me of how the Reagans were against funding for AIDS research until their friend, Rock Hudson admitted he had it. Or politicians against same sex marriage or other LGBTQ rights right up until their child came out as gay, etc. “It’s not a problem if I don’t experience it.”...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
I agree... I also find it all those things.
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K9Kohle789 comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Just a thought, if you choose to argue one side of a controversial topic like abortion, you are in favor of, what do you care what the arguers believe about you? You are in the right corner far as you know so if you had an abortion, or are POC (?) or gay wouldn't you say the same things or would you...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
It is not that I think everyone thinks that.... I specifically am thinking about forced birthers that in their "debate" or discussion with me have just assumed I had one and eventually bring it up as some sort of point to prove something? It happens often enough for me to remember it. So it is not in my head it is out of the mouths of fools. XD
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linxminx comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Maybe its the arguing in itself. Be confident in your stance and position without the arguing or trying to ram it down other's throats. Not that you do this, but when you use the word "argue" I'm assuming the discussion can get heated, and confrontational. So the natural defense is "your covering...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
what if it gets heated from their end first and I just reply in the same tone? Why is the natural defense those things if they got confrontational first? :s
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Larry-new comments on Nov 5, 2019:
You need to hang with a better class of people. And ignore the rest, unless your mission is to educate the deplorables.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
I don't hang out with these people... I encounter them online in groups I am in and we get into arguments/debates XD
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JacarC comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Good post. Thank you. And: the correct acronym is LGB.. The rainbow is about sexual preference. "T" has nothing to do with sexual preference. It is about demanding special rights, not equal rights.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
Are you part of the LGB community to say what the correct acronym is? Because in universities we used LGTBQ+ but that is in Canada. Maybe it is different where you live? And what is correct for my context is not correct in your context.
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darthfaja comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Who cares what “they” think...? Perhaps they are playing devils advocate just to make you consider all sides or perhaps that lack empathy and/or kindness for our fellow humankind. Ultimately your answer is the same as to why we had to have the conversation in the first place. Ignorance...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@darthfaja I am not wasting anything... in fact for me to process my feelings it helps to vent or rant or get it out in the open... research has shown bottling up or shoving down emotions is NOT healthy and can lead to a breakdown down the line. So you do you mr stoic man. XD
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ToolGuy comments on Nov 5, 2019:
How does the passion help in an argument or discussion?
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@ToolGuy So there are people that are emotionally dead or devoid of emotions that are involved in causes that do not effect them or loved ones personally? Strange... but I suppose there could be humanistic sociopaths. I am not sure what point you had in mind... can you copy paste it here?
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Happy_Killbot comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Arguing only for things that effect you isn't selfish, that's just logical. There is no reason to support or oppose anything that doesn't directly effect you, or could not effect you. I am strongly of the opinion that in order to care about something that doesn't concern you directly you have to ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@Happy_Killbot There is also research depicting that one's environment can literally change the structure of one's brain and so that people growing up in consistent abusive environments or in a war zone can have enlarged amygdalas than the average brain... so what is your point exactly by saying that? Humans may be unequal aka different but that does not mean people should be denied human rights due to inherent traits out of their control.... mind you criminals need to have some rights infringed upon for the greater good of society, especially if they are violent criminals like serial killers.
Many people like furry beasts, and dogs are nice too.
demifeministgal comments on Nov 5, 2019:
I am more drawn to the doggy... I love doggies.... dogs > humans... NOT sexually of course. :)
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@zesty not conservative at all... beastiality is disgusting and it is against consent... idk maybe swingers consider consent a conservative viewpoint but it is important to me... and the doggy would not be able to consent. I mean comparing gay consensual relations with beastiality is literally a conservative religious talking point.
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Happy_Killbot comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Arguing only for things that effect you isn't selfish, that's just logical. There is no reason to support or oppose anything that doesn't directly effect you, or could not effect you. I am strongly of the opinion that in order to care about something that doesn't concern you directly you have to ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
ummm yes there is logical reasons... it is called human rights and justice and equity. Plus were I in their shoes I would want the same sympathy and compassion extended to me. I feel like there may be two (obviously more) groups of people: those that suffered and think others just need to get over it, like they did and those that suffered and do not want anyone else to suffer needlessly as they did. I have experienced various suffering in my lifetime and I am of the mind that I do not want others suffering needlessly for things out of their control, like race, gender, sexuality, etc. Why is that illogical? :s
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ToolGuy comments on Nov 5, 2019:
How does the passion help in an argument or discussion?
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@ToolGuy payback? For what? :s
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Geoffrey51 comments on Nov 5, 2019:
You raise a very good point. A common position of empathy and an attempt at understanding the ‘other’s’ position is at the heart of being human I would suggest. Striving for the unattainable brings resentment and disregard for others. See Merton’s ‘Strain Theory’ It’s a sad ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
I will have to look up strain theory... what do you mean by moral entrepreneurialism? :s
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Davesnothere comments on Nov 5, 2019:
"What's with this apathy and decreased empathy going on?" I don't think its decreased, or become more pronounced. I think you have become more socially aware, and that allow you to notice how it has always been. OR your previous life experience has somehow been in a rather nice bubble which got ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
No my bubble is filled with the so-called "loving Christian" bigots.. but I expect that from religious nutters... but I am not used to experiencing this same mentality from agnostics or atheists... I expect BETTER of this community, not less. Perhaps I need to lower my expectations. :/
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darthfaja comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Who cares what “they” think...? Perhaps they are playing devils advocate just to make you consider all sides or perhaps that lack empathy and/or kindness for our fellow humankind. Ultimately your answer is the same as to why we had to have the conversation in the first place. Ignorance...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
Well his quote is a bit diminished for me since there is no contemporary evidence of a jesus and so he most likely never actually took flesh/was real. I do not think so. You can tell if someone is playing devil's advocate... these are usually people that have opposite beliefs than me and assume the only reason I think/believe as I do is because I must be part of the demographic I am defending... actually it is projection on their part.
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ToolGuy comments on Nov 5, 2019:
How does the passion help in an argument or discussion?
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
I think you missed the point of my post. :S
Many people like furry beasts, and dogs are nice too.
demifeministgal comments on Nov 5, 2019:
I am more drawn to the doggy... I love doggies.... dogs > humans... NOT sexually of course. :)
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@zesty Neither have I... I would find that as disgusting as I do pedophilia though
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Sgt_Spanky comments on Nov 5, 2019:
We usually call those people republicans. Your empathy does you credit. It suggests you're probably a genuinely nice person.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
:)
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PBuck0145 comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Your post assumes a false premise. Most rational people are capable of enthusiastic support of a cause which does not directly impact themselves.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
So then the ones that cannot provide enthusiastic support of causes are not rational then? okay.
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genessa comments on Nov 5, 2019:
your characterization is not true of everyone. it is certainly true of republicans, though. g
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
OR conservaturds in my country XD
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demifeministgal comments on Nov 4, 2019:
Physically: A beautiful smile. Nice arms. The guy has to be bigger than me... I have not found skinny/lean men handsome since reaching adulthood. And POC are super sexy to me, especially if they are mixed :D Being my height or taller is good too... a tiny guy would make me feel like an older ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
I forgot to add, though it should go without saying, he cannot be sexist or misogynistic. And prefer hairless over hairy all day every day :)
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Deb57 comments on Nov 4, 2019:
There will always be people who make every issue all about themselves. I appreciate these people, because they are volunteering a whole lot of personal red flags, free of charge. I know what post prompted this poll, but I have no idea why the post disappeared. One would need to ask the person who ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@Deb57 There is a bit of that separation on google as well... try typing in google scholar and search for materials there... it is like the online science library :)
I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?
demifeministgal comments on Oct 31, 2019:
It seems the seniors here are vehemently opposed to anyone taking a nude and think that a ruined reputation and ruined career are just punishments for making the foolish mistake of taking a nude... for me, the punishment is way too excessive and should not fit the stupidity... then there's the funny...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@AnneWimsey I mean if you think it is sad that my fully clothed pics are out there, then you MUST feel sad for yourself as well since your pics are out there too. hmmm You know what else I am and defend? Women's right to have an abortion... yet I have never had one. LGTBQ+ rights yet I am not a member of that community. Black lives matter and the rights of visible minorities, yet I am white as a snowflake.... for you see, I can care about issues and causes that do not personally impact me... can you do the same? Seems not. :/
I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?
demifeministgal comments on Oct 31, 2019:
It seems the seniors here are vehemently opposed to anyone taking a nude and think that a ruined reputation and ruined career are just punishments for making the foolish mistake of taking a nude... for me, the punishment is way too excessive and should not fit the stupidity... then there's the funny...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@AnneWimsey So I thought I was being trendy by not taking a nude?? I think you need to take a nap or getting STRONGER prescription glasses if you think any of that. OR has senility hit you already? oh dear. And if you knew what my family was like you would not feel sorry for them at all... you would feel sorry for anyone that has to deal with them... so it is you that appears stupid by saying that. XD lol
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Deb57 comments on Nov 4, 2019:
There will always be people who make every issue all about themselves. I appreciate these people, because they are volunteering a whole lot of personal red flags, free of charge. I know what post prompted this poll, but I have no idea why the post disappeared. One would need to ask the person who ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@Deb57 Well that is like saying libraries are garbage because they have fictional books and frivolous magazine articles/newspapers based on falsehoods/half truths and therefore libraries are a fucksoup. It is not the medium which is crap, it is humans using it that are crap. The tool is as awesome as any other tool in history, even more so than things like the tv or radio, and its usefulness and awesomeness is not reduced by morons using the tool incorrectly. That's my opinion
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demifeministgal comments on Nov 5, 2019:
Which people do you mean? Religious people? Americans? British? Who are these people? :s Or the greedy super wealthy 1% that needs more and more and is never satisfied?
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@girlwithsmiles well then I disagree that it is everyone in the western world... probably there is a trend, particularily among your friends or people you associate with, but not everyone is preoccupied with abundance. It just seems that way because too many are.
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bobwjr comments on Oct 30, 2019:
Except that the feds have limited or fought proper trials to ascertain the effectiveness of it
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
I wonder if we can do some "proper trials" here in Canada now that it is legal here :)
Think sarcasm is funny? Think again.
MarkiusMahamius comments on Nov 4, 2019:
Post #782 on why we should admire your efforts to envision a world that only revolves around you.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
@LiterateHiker I think he was saying you have made 782 posts "on why we should admire your efforts to envision a world that only revolves around you."
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Deb57 comments on Nov 4, 2019:
There will always be people who make every issue all about themselves. I appreciate these people, because they are volunteering a whole lot of personal red flags, free of charge. I know what post prompted this poll, but I have no idea why the post disappeared. One would need to ask the person who ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 5, 2019:
Nah not anything on the internet... there is awesome peer reviewed, scientific journal articles available online... waaaay more important than cotton candy toilet bowl imo ;)
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Cherie4444 comments on Nov 4, 2019:
This is what I think - you dodged a bullet! This is as bad as the guy that sent me dick pics and got mad when I called him out, “You didn’t say not to send them”. Fuck those dimwits, yours too. 🙄
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
LMFAO are you kidding me?! OMG I would make that guy feel soo dumb for saying that. what a buffoon
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Stoic247 comments on Nov 4, 2019:
I would say that his dating strategy sucks. Whether he actually is or not, his response does make it seem as if he is part of the He Man Women Bashing club. I will admit that this is perhaps my own male bias, but I have seen females on dating sites mentioned qualities that a perspective suitor ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@Deiter that is not a solution either sadly.... I used to have very specific and detailed profile... but if 1 out of 100 guys read it before messaging me, what good was it really? XD
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Heartbroke comments on Nov 2, 2019:
The type that really make me wonder what some people are thinking are the ones who take the picture from such an extreme low angle that the dead center of the photo is looking directly up their noses. social media should have a nostril tag so when guys try to post pictures of their nose hair on ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@MichaelSpinler that would be a breach of trust and I would think if they lie about something like this, what else are they lying about... what I have experienced somewhat similar is a guy that posted a clearly photoshopped pic where he looked great but in real life he had bad skin and looked way different... I was disappointed but still went on with the date cuz I didn't mind sharing a meal over a good chat (what he lacked in looks he made up for in good conversationalist skills). But there was no sparks once I saw the real him... I actually do not mind if I make an actual platonic friend while online dating... it is the men that do not remain friends if we will not date XD so I don't feel it is a waste... I guess I am weird... most people probably don't think like me when online dating heh
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Heartbroke comments on Nov 2, 2019:
The type that really make me wonder what some people are thinking are the ones who take the picture from such an extreme low angle that the dead center of the photo is looking directly up their noses. social media should have a nostril tag so when guys try to post pictures of their nose hair on ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@MichaelSpinler wouldn't call it a study since there was no peer review... just a large sample of personal anecdotes :) cuz the sample was not randomized after all ;) The women I have seen in my age bracket tend to be lean or curvy... I think if I looked at the over 40 crowd it'd be a different story... something about age and slowed down metabolism ;) I think there are men that don't handle rejection well either or cannot accept a no as a no and go on to stalk, verbally abuse or kill the rejector... it is crazy.... but yea it is a learning process on our ends as we are socialized to wait for men to court us. I never minded stranger guys I was into not msg me back or not wanna date... it is rejection in a romantic long term relationship that I don't handle well... one day maybe it won't bother me either! ;) As for my types I am not into white or asian/south asian guys-- I am western biased for sure. So any guy outside of those groups, but definite preference for latinos, black or mixed guys. On my end, I had to learn to stop sending guys courtesy messages that I am not interested and good luck to them... some took ANY response as a sign they had a chance and then would not leave me alone until I blocked. XD
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Heartbroke comments on Nov 2, 2019:
The type that really make me wonder what some people are thinking are the ones who take the picture from such an extreme low angle that the dead center of the photo is looking directly up their noses. social media should have a nostril tag so when guys try to post pictures of their nose hair on ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@MichaelSpinler @MichaelSpinler okayy the ethnicity thing I am guilty of for personal reasons :$ that's why I joined an interracial dating group specifically... you'd be surprised how many white guys I pissed off by stating my preferences in my profile... how do I know I pissed them off? They messaged me to fight with me hehe
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Heartbroke comments on Nov 2, 2019:
The type that really make me wonder what some people are thinking are the ones who take the picture from such an extreme low angle that the dead center of the photo is looking directly up their noses. social media should have a nostril tag so when guys try to post pictures of their nose hair on ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@MichaelSpinler Just a random point, someone can have a fat butt and still be lean or not overweight... I never said fat was attractive, it is curvy that is attractive for my generation. I don't see how you owning a chat room is relevant at all :S you trying some sort of appeal to authority now? :S Also, do you not see how the person you responded to has a top-down picture... it honestly comes across as you making a random dig at her implying she is fat. XD
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Heartbroke comments on Nov 2, 2019:
The type that really make me wonder what some people are thinking are the ones who take the picture from such an extreme low angle that the dead center of the photo is looking directly up their noses. social media should have a nostril tag so when guys try to post pictures of their nose hair on ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@MichaelSpinler Actually no I am not suffering from that... my lack of ability to assess trends in online dating? In regards to the straight female population? But yea overweight or fat people tend to post more flattering pics of themselves... just like conventionally unattractive people post photoshopped and edited pics or take professional pics or use a ton of makeup. In fact, I was sick of the deception and mind games on the male side of the spectrum as well... I even put it in my profile at one point in frustration XD Online dating seems to bring out the worst in people just as social media can. oh well...
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Heartbroke comments on Nov 2, 2019:
The type that really make me wonder what some people are thinking are the ones who take the picture from such an extreme low angle that the dead center of the photo is looking directly up their noses. social media should have a nostril tag so when guys try to post pictures of their nose hair on ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@MichaelSpinler tv? who is watching tv shows? XD netflix and amazon prime exist. I was just letting you know generationally beauty standards have changed... it is a whole sociological topic in and of itself... but I am sure you knew that mr smarter than women guy. XD ;) I used to not post body pics and I was skinny when a frequent online dater... hated the objectification/sexualization and if a guy was gonna date me, I wanted it to be due to me as an entire person (I had a detailed profile that most dumbasses (notallmen) didn't bother to read, though some did and we had lengthy discussions which sometimes lead to dates). Though I never did wonder why I was single since I obviously had options but was just denying them. I didn't strike the OP as a woman blaming men for her singledom, but rather, as a woman making commentary on a trend in online dating sites male photos.
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LiterateHiker comments on Nov 1, 2019:
1. Wide-angle nostril shots are disgusting. 2. Making us play "Where's Wal-bro?" 3. Dog photos. I don't want to date your dog! 4. Forgot to clean your room. *Slob.* 5. If you're doing something stupid or looking goofy, we conclude you're hopelessly immature. And of course... 6. ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@PondartIncbendog you may be joking.... but in case you are not, I know what that feels like... senior men IRL are into me as well. :/
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LiterateHiker comments on Nov 1, 2019:
1. Wide-angle nostril shots are disgusting. 2. Making us play "Where's Wal-bro?" 3. Dog photos. I don't want to date your dog! 4. Forgot to clean your room. *Slob.* 5. If you're doing something stupid or looking goofy, we conclude you're hopelessly immature. And of course... 6. ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@PondartIncbendog aah.... Americans and their abbreviations.... y'all LOVE abbreviating words/terms... I've learned many over my years interacting with Americans online
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LiterateHiker comments on Nov 1, 2019:
1. Wide-angle nostril shots are disgusting. 2. Making us play "Where's Wal-bro?" 3. Dog photos. I don't want to date your dog! 4. Forgot to clean your room. *Slob.* 5. If you're doing something stupid or looking goofy, we conclude you're hopelessly immature. And of course... 6. ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@PondartIncbendog oh my... be sure to wear a hoodie and sunglasses when running errands or all the ladies will chase you down like a celebrity... looking like that you must be quite the ladies man! ;) :p
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demifeministgal comments on Nov 4, 2019:
Do claire and terry work together? :)
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@LiterateHiker no I know who he is... just the comment he made "People at work appreciate her. Claire talks with customers all day." made me wonder how he knew that.... unless they worked together. :S
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LiterateHiker comments on Nov 1, 2019:
1. Wide-angle nostril shots are disgusting. 2. Making us play "Where's Wal-bro?" 3. Dog photos. I don't want to date your dog! 4. Forgot to clean your room. *Slob.* 5. If you're doing something stupid or looking goofy, we conclude you're hopelessly immature. And of course... 6. ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@PondartIncbendog AF? :s
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LiterateHiker comments on Nov 1, 2019:
1. Wide-angle nostril shots are disgusting. 2. Making us play "Where's Wal-bro?" 3. Dog photos. I don't want to date your dog! 4. Forgot to clean your room. *Slob.* 5. If you're doing something stupid or looking goofy, we conclude you're hopelessly immature. And of course... 6. ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@PondartIncbendog you take your online anonymity much further than I ever had! And people say that I am too private online... I need to start referencing you and people like you to complainers :p gosh darn whiny millenials :p
As a Latino, I no longer feel safe in Trump's America. So I'm leaving it.
Cutiebeauty comments on Nov 2, 2019:
I'm part Hispanic .. I live in NYC. I haven't experienced any racial hatred..
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@Cutiebeauty That's a good thing then... it is very diverse in my city too but one still comes across the racists... though my city has ALOT of immigrants and SOMEtimes given groups are more comfortable being honest with their racism/biases with others than canadian citizens would be (our racism is more covert or subtle here than it is in the USA).
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Marcie1974 comments on Nov 1, 2019:
May I add to your list....guys making a kissy/duck face, using Snapchat filters, and scantily clad pictures
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@mentalinnuendo I assure you, young-ish guys (aka under 40, or between 20-40) do everything she has mentioned in dating bio pics.
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lerlo comments on Nov 1, 2019:
Based on the numbers so far, as expected, hot guys can get away with anything they want. Someone posted recently, would you rather be rich or good-looking and I picked good-looking because you get whatever you want, you have a chance at anything you want and if all else fails you can be a model ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@lerlo googles Lisa Rinna :s
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LiterateHiker comments on Nov 1, 2019:
1. Wide-angle nostril shots are disgusting. 2. Making us play "Where's Wal-bro?" 3. Dog photos. I don't want to date your dog! 4. Forgot to clean your room. *Slob.* 5. If you're doing something stupid or looking goofy, we conclude you're hopelessly immature. And of course... 6. ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@PondartIncbendog honestly... there have been times in the distant past where I would message a guy I was uninterested in just to tell him he had a cute doggy... I had to start blocking any guy I did that to cuz they figured me messaging them meant I wanted to date... Oops! :$
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freeman99 comments on Nov 2, 2019:
LoL I can't believe some of the pictures that women (I'm sure it's true for men too) put up on dating sights in hopes of getting a man to respond. Some have glamor shots that are years old, some look sour, or angry, or no makeup & hair's unwashed or unkempt... Yeah, um, no thanks. :)
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
How would you know if they were not wearing makeup though? Some of us wear light makeup that is undetectable, especially via photos... for example I wear concealer and eyebrow filler but you wouldn't guess that from a pic... and would wrongfully assume I am not wearing any... interesting thing how some straight/bi men are better makeup experts than women! :o
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girlwithsmiles comments on Nov 2, 2019:
Well it seems that most women feel the same as me. Some don’t, and have their reasons; which are interesting. The men have a bit to say too 😊 Good luck with the dating all.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@girlwithsmiles this motherfucker honestly went and accused you and this post of man-bashing and being sexist... yeesh sounds like an incel! Yikes! I guess the OP had to specifically state this is about this demographic of men, NOT ALL MEN! NOT ALL MEN! NOT ALL MEN! And yes multiple times in caps locks because the notallmen brigade are kinda slow and do not catch it if you say it once in lowercase letters... trust me I've tried. xD
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Heartbroke comments on Nov 2, 2019:
The type that really make me wonder what some people are thinking are the ones who take the picture from such an extreme low angle that the dead center of the photo is looking directly up their noses. social media should have a nostril tag so when guys try to post pictures of their nose hair on ...
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@MichaelSpinler you must be old... men love plump or "fat" asses nowadays... think of Beyonce or kim kardashian booty... if one were to hide any fat it would be stomach fat not boob or butt or thigh or hip fat... come on dude! You are seriously out of touch ;)
Poll: Can we not have questions directed at one group or another without the other non-requested ...
KKGator comments on Nov 3, 2019:
I saw the poll in question. I didn't respond because I'm not here for dating, but I didn't see anything wrong with the member's questions. It related to female reactions. I don't understand what the big hairy deal was.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@OldMetalHead thanks! I saw that thread but did not read the butthurt people... I shall go back and read the latest comments ;)
As a Latino, I no longer feel safe in Trump's America. So I'm leaving it.
Cutiebeauty comments on Nov 2, 2019:
I'm part Hispanic .. I live in NYC. I haven't experienced any racial hatred..
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@Cutiebeauty I am surprised you have never heard of the concept... it is specific to US history/sociology: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passing_(racial_identity)
As a Latino, I no longer feel safe in Trump's America. So I'm leaving it.
Cutiebeauty comments on Nov 2, 2019:
I'm part Hispanic .. I live in NYC. I haven't experienced any racial hatred..
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
Are you white passing? Because I have read accounts from white-passing people how their experiences tend to be much better than their visibly POC family members and friends... and until it comes out that they are hispanic... they are treated better.
Poll: Can we not have questions directed at one group or another without the other non-requested ...
KKGator comments on Nov 3, 2019:
I saw the poll in question. I didn't respond because I'm not here for dating, but I didn't see anything wrong with the member's questions. It related to female reactions. I don't understand what the big hairy deal was.
demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:
@OldMetalHead can you tag me in said poll?

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