Been pretty down.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 31, 2019:

Is it possible to go see a doctor or a specialist? Or would that cost you too much where you live?

Is searching for a person that checks off 6 out of 10 boxes in my book wrong?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 30, 2019:

define "so long". Sometimes one persons so long is another person's tiny blip on a screen. I would say it just makes things a bit more difficult for you trying to find most or all of your preferred traits in one individual. And perhaps those 6 traits are absolute dealbreakers for ya, you are not willing to do without. Doens't make it wrong to be picky, just may be more of a challenge for you to find that right person.

It's my little brother's senior prom tonight, and I'm kinda reminiscing about my proms.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 30, 2019:

Most of my friends did not go with dates. In fact, maybe one or two had a date and I did too. The only reason I had a date was because I asked my crush from the track and field team to go with me and he accepted heh. You look so different now. Somehow you look younger now in your photo than you did then! funny how that can work.

My younger half brother died overnight and Im not looking for sympathy but needed a place to put my ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 30, 2019:

It is very kind of you to consider her and them at this time. But nowhere in this post have you considered yourself. What do YOU need to process this death? Going to the wake? The funeral? I have read that people can regret what they haven't done more than what they have done. It may be good closure for you and to officially close that chapter in your life, so to speak. Since it seems she went NC mighty abruptly without warning. But figure out what YOU want to do for YOUR needs, and then do so. IT IS OKAY TO LOOK OUT FOR YOUR NEEDS SOMETIMES! It does not make you a bad or selfish person. Sorry for your loss.

Settle for moderate to boring sex?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 30, 2019:

I would say do what is best for yourself but be introspective and brutally honest with yourself. You need to create yourself a list of things that are important to you and dealbreakers. Maybe at the beginning you thought sex was not that important to you. But, as it turns out, you were mistaken and it does happen to be ONE OF the priorities for you in relationships. Not the most important, but one of the important points. But also keep in mind, it is not the positions that make sex boring. Most women cannot even climax from vaginal sex. If you want to incorporate spice into the sexual relationship, it can be done at the foreplay stage. Then, even if the actual act of intercourse is average, you've had lots of foreplay even kinky buildup to the act that it is no longer boring. I know for myself changing positions with no stimulating foreplay, would make sex shitty for me. IT is worth considering, to explore y'alls kinky side. ;) Good luck!

Just now read the article on modern dating terms listed above.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 30, 2019:

IF you don't mind my asking, which member was it? You can message it.

Why I Love Dogs, Reason 42:

demifeministgal comments on Mar 29, 2019:

<3 I should look into this for kirby

What do you say about near death experiences where the person claims they've seen heaven or hell?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 29, 2019:

That there's a scientific explanation for that. Please refer to this website: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-near-death-experience-isnt-proof-heaven/

Well .

demifeministgal comments on Mar 29, 2019:

Sometimes we do not actually grieve the relationship we had, but the one we never had. As long as they were alive there was a tiny chance or hope that things could be repaired or made decent. With death, that hope is killed along with the person. This scene from Bojack is very moving just replace mother with sister in your case. This hit me hard when I watched it so fair warning: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lDdmBKP2uvk

So some asshole in Rio De Janeiro, Brazil tried to use my debit card for $1200 and got my card ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 29, 2019:

Some jackass tried to use my credit card to make a purchase online at browns shoes. It was a hacking trend my bank noticed so the transaction did not go through. I had to call em and sort things out and they sent me a new credit card just to be safe. fck hackers and thiefs >:o

Things are going well with my new psychiatrist.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 29, 2019:

Yay a success story! Finally good to read one. I think we should share more of our little successes ever so often in group. :)

How do you feel about Friends With Benefits, whether your single or married?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 28, 2019:

I am okay with it. but there NEEDS to be open and honest communication among the partners to ensure neither is catching feelings. And, if feelings are caught, it is up to the one without feelings to either put a stop to things or see if the partner can continue. No leading them on! It is okay for singles and only okay for poly married or open marriage people.

Chewy watches over his big brother Ralphie like a champ. Talk about unconditional love.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 28, 2019:

daww those doggy eyes when he looks up at you... it's the eyes kirby makes when begging for my food.

It has been shown in a study that a woman’s intelligence is proportional to the size of her ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

Citations needed. Otherwise you are just talking out of your ass.

Giving money to panhandlers/homeless

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

In my city, were I to give every homeless person that asked me money on a daily basis I would be broke. But sometimes I will give someone some change if I have any and if there story is compelling. For example when we had a cold blast here and a woman was walking around without a jacket. I am generally a cold body temp person and looking at her walking in snow and heavy gusts in her tank top broke my heart. I gave her money because even if she used it for booze or drugs, the substances would keep her body warm-ish.

Usernames.... How did you choose your username for agnostic and what's the story behind it.... ?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

well when I used to do online dating I had the word fem in my username which was short for feminist. But people assumed it was short for feminine. And I wanted to stop being afraid to admit it, for the blowback it tends to cause among THOSE men and their handmaidens, and just wrote it out. The demi is short for demisexual and was meant as a deterrent to hookup guys contacting me. And the gal is pretty obvious. So that's the origins of my moniker creation story. ;)

Memes are spam... Or are they?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

I've seen informative memes produced and shared online with medical biological or political facts so I would not say they are all spam. Though some can be spam, others can be useful as conveyors of knowledge/info.

Am I doomed relationship wise being a minority in a minority?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

If you live in the states, the church was a very big deal to the black community for political protesting to garnering rights to gathering as a community. It was through the institution that so many black americans got their rights and connected with others. The sad after effect of the church being so heavily tied into the black and minority communities, is that black atheists become numerical minorities and isolated more. However, millenials are way more atheist these days. So give the AA community some time to catch up so to speak and shake the shackles of religion off of themselves.

Is it me or this app feels like a religion or govt?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

But how exactly are you being manipulated to acting? Is anyone forcing you to comment or like posts? Or, rather, is it that you actually seek and crave said points and are feeling down about the way you need to get said points? Some introspection would be good on your end. @latinstingray

Every so often, this particular topic comes up.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

I feel the same way. Not here for dating and also do not like taking pictures. Apparently, being a millenial against taking selfies makes me a pariah with low self-esteem or trying to scam guys. Scam into what exactly? I do not ask for money or support or anything from men. So what exactly am I scamming anyone out of? Couple of days ago some idiot messaged me about my faceless profile then accused me of animal abuse for posting a pic of my sister's dog. Honestly, such men are disgusting because it literally says to me they only think I am worth talking to if they deem me attractive enough to do so. And with a mentality like that, I don't want them talking to me anyways!

High School Girls Say Hell No to Boys Ranking Their Looks

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

Good for them! It's long overdue that young girls/women stopped being flattered by or drawn to boys/men that rank them as if we are all in some perpetual beauty contest with one another.

Nothing quite like waking up to voicemail on Messenger and he's singing to me...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

glad to read he is making you so happy. :)

I think I posted these before, in another group.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

aww they're so sweet and soft. I love soft dogs. <3

Anyone out there dealt with narcissistic abuse?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 27, 2019:

Used to. Not anymore. The best thing you can do is go LC (low contact) or NC (no contact). Until you can separate from the person, you should try the grey rock technique which is specifically designed to deal with narcs. Here ate two articles explaining it: https://themindsjournal.com/how-to-use-the-gray-rock-method-safely-in-dealing-with-toxic-relationships/ https://hackspirit.com/the-gray-rock-method-how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist-you-cant-avoid/ Hope this helps you. :)

I saw this on a dating site as a profile picture. I wonder if she is seeking a necrophiliac?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 26, 2019:

It is a weird and strange picture but what made you see this and jump to necrophilia exactly?? Lots of young women have pics with flowers as a frame, albeit looking directly at the camera heh

Are women aware of being played by a charming, subtle flirt?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 26, 2019:

I do not even know when I am being flirted with. :$ Except with old men or teenagers because both have no shame and are overt as fck about it. So if a guy is just being nice to me I assume he is just a well-mannered man. Though exes in the past thought I was naive. Jokes on them I just lack certain beliefs about myself. haahaa :p

My girlfriend and I are both transwomen, she knows that I still have viagra left over from before I ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 26, 2019:

I suppose I would liken it, in an analogy, to when straight or lesbian cis female partners use a dildo on their partners. It does not make them any less gay (for lesbians) or make them any less of a woman or turn the male partner into a gay guy for doing so. Unless you meant does taking viagara make you less of a woman? In which case, my mistake.

My babies.. KodaBear and Luna

demifeministgal comments on Mar 26, 2019:

Such gorgeous eyes of the white one. They are both so cute and look so soft. wanna pet em both

Cop out: "Spiritual But Not Religious" [google.com] Agree or disagree?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 26, 2019:

I think those that go from religious to spiritual have one more step to go in their journey away from pseudo-scientific and fairytale type thinking. They tend to be superstitious and believe things based on anecdotes and feelings just like the religious. I do hope they outgrow their spirituality the way they did their religion.

Does chocolate upset your stomach?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

Thankfully no. But citrus foods and alcohol can and/or does.

I am the opposite of suicidal.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

Honestly that sounds great. If I were you or in your shoes I would try to enjoy that fabulous life rather than worry about the distant future. Although, I do not fear death so perhaps my advice is not the best. I think if you get too preoccupied with the end, you may start to miss out on the great times that will happen or are happening now. Too many could only be so lucky to be in your shoes, do not take it for granted please. :)

As most of you know, I was otherwise occupied over the weekend but kept an eye on the group to see ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

Thanks for weeding out the trash and trying to keep this a positive space. :)

We are now at 121 members! Everyone needs to raise a glass to us this evening!

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

no booze, will eat junk food instead. mmm chocolate :D

What's one thing that a potential date might have in his/her profile that would get your immediate ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

Usually if they seem to have an interest or passion in the social sciences or are very big on volunteering and helping others and justice in general. Someone's profile that makes them seem self aware and selfless is a pull-in.

Let's switch yesterday's question around. What was your best online dating experience?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

I suppose it was the few dates with my rebound after breaking up with my ex of 5 years. We had been talking for many months while we were on a break but I did not feel okay to actually date until or unless I was broken up with. I didn't exactly do the whole break thing conventionally. heh. Going from a cynical pessimistic never wants to do anything new introvert to a lively, optimist and outgoing person was quite the shift. I enjoyed my brief time with him before he caught feelings and I had to breakup with him for his sake.

What was your worst experience with someone from an online dating site?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

guys picking fights with me over my feminist or SJW beliefs and then being like come over let's fck or the guy that in the first message literally asks me if I am into toilet training!! yughh. I told him to go to fetlife and he said he wasn't having luck there so is trying cupid and I told him he'll have less luck here than there! BYEEE

I'm a complete novice at this - and to be fair, I joined for intellectual stimulation more than ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

I know this is unrelated to your post, but I admire you for being a humanitarian relief worker. Truly impressive. Keep up the good work. I hope to get back into volunteering helping impoverished communities one day myself again. :$

Going to the movies. Does going to the movies on a date always involve the man's hands all over me?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

youngins in my area do it aka teens and youths in their 20s. But I think that is more of a "we both live at home and the only time we can comfortably make-out without parental eavesdropping or disapproval is at public places" thing.

Question. Do you avoid dating people with the same name as your ex or exes?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

No. I think I got lucky since my exes were often immigrants from various parts of the world and have no shared names, and some had quite unique names I had never encountered. Though if I did meet someone with the same name I may think of them as Good X-name compared to Bad X-name. heh

I think one thing that is hard about online dating is you're basically trying to convince other ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

I would list the bad just to be as up front and honest with potential mates as possible. But men never believe me or do not bother reading my profiles then are shocked when my flaws, that I forewarned about, come out. ughh men

Can you develop a friendship with an on line dating partner with whom you feel no chemistry?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

It is definitely possible but it has to start off as platonic from the beginning with strict boundaries in my experience. When I am platonic friends with a guy we never cuddle or hold hands or get physically intimate. So they know it will NEVER go that way or there is no possibility of it going so and our friendship maintains its platonic nature. I've never muddied the waters by trying to be friends with someone I tried to date though.

Just a little reminder that we need to be respectful of one another's experiences.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

Indeed. Such as being lectured by older member to not use emojis in my replies on this site. It's an informal forum not a goddam university lecture. FOH

What do you expect for the first date?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 25, 2019:

I am aware of the halo effect being possible, since it has happened to me with friends and can transfer over to relationships. The halo effect being where the more you get to know someone, the more attractive or good-looking they become in your eyes/mind. So I do not need an instant chemical spark physically, but I do need shared values and ideals or else it will not work in the long run for me.

Why do so many men include picture of themselves with small children on their dating profiles?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 24, 2019:

As someone who wants to remain childfree it repels me and my reaction is along the lines of: oh HELL NOOO I am NOT about to be some baby's momma. Nope.

Ok so we’re here because we’ve done online dating and had mixed experiences.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 24, 2019:

Some guy who's number I removed, so it must have either been a one date or no IRL date situation, messages me out of the blue asking how I've been saying he misses chatting with me. So I was like sorry who is this? And he's like wooow you don't remember me? That's how lil I meant to you? Like dude you are getting offended at me not knowing who you are when we were out of contact for so long as for me to remove you as a contact? GTFOH (get the fck out of here)

I posted a couple weeks ago about a guy I had a date with, and a second date planned.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 24, 2019:

Honestly, men like him and stories like this is why I always offer to go dutch. And if a guy tried the get desert from me, he would be starved out and it would be his own damn fault.

Being told how sexy you are in the first few messages. What do people think about this?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 24, 2019:

I disliked pet names so much I put it in my profile for guys not to call me a pet name in a first message. Like come on dude you don't know me like that, slow your roll. Some offended russian twat told me I needed to calm down and learn how to take a compliment soo naturally we got into a fight and I cussed him off and blocked him. As if I was just sitting around waiting for some guy to say hi hunny, deary, sweetheart, etc. No I was not. So I hate it myself.

Happy 100th birthday to Ms.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 24, 2019:

why hasn't she won a math award yet?? goddam sexist male dominated math award giving institutions. blah

What are you unashamed of?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 23, 2019:

These are things my toxic fam consistently tries to shame me about to no avail: ** I am unashamed about graduating from university or pursuing a higher education I am unashamed about graduating with honours from the social sciences I am unashamed of being agnostic I am unashamed of being messy and not a little neat freak housewife type I am unashamed of helping the downtrodden, including the homeless, or volunteering my time and efforts to help charities I am unashamed of being a feminist I am unashamed of having an opinion I am unashamed of stubbornly sticking to my core principles and values in life I am unashamed of spending my money on prepared food or junk food to survive I am unashamed that I am choosing to go childFREE I am unashamed that I do not believe in marriage for myself

Reunion By Len Hazell "What am, I doing here?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 23, 2019:

why was my comment deleted exactly? The first guy is abusive, so I was just stating a fact. :s

Job satisfaction.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 23, 2019:

I keep getting contract jobs and while I have helped people resolve their grievances in customer service related or information assistant roles, nothing has been my dream job yet. None of them gave my life purpose or meaning and if they were meaningful jobs or jobs where I help humanity, perhaps getting up early for them would not suck so much. heh

Searching Online on Job Applicants So what are your thoughts on companies who take applications ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 23, 2019:

I guess it was a good idea I never used my real entire name on social media, even in my teen years. Not that I had anything to hide, but given conservative or religious hiring employers may not like my swearing posts or, more recently, my anti-theistic views.

Calling Women "the Office Bunny"

demifeministgal comments on Mar 23, 2019:

ughh why do they ASSume that the only reason the woman got the job is cuz of her looks, breasts or sexual favours?! Could it be because in an actual meritocratic hiring process men are losing out on jobs because of BETTER qualified women, and the way to ease their egos is to blame nefarious reasons for the woman being hired? Methinks so.

I wanted to share a few thoughts and memes on dating.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 22, 2019:

LOL! manpons.... looove it! too many man-babies or man-childs out there need these. XD

Who was that masked man By Len Hazell “You are cordially invited?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 22, 2019:

this guy comes across as an abuser... perhaps a TW for domestic violence themes next time around? >.>

There are posters here who are depending on MSM for their opinions.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 22, 2019:

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I've been broken up with my ex for about 4 months now.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 22, 2019:

If I may ask, how long were you two together? were you in love?

Ok, this might start world war three, but I'd be interested to hear from this group members to sound...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 21, 2019:

well I have read from women that using a covering their babies will throw it off or refuse to eat under it. And the only way their baby seems to eat is with the full breast exposed. So, logically, those fussy lil sh_ts seem incapable of doing so while covered up. Now as for others where the baby is not a lil fussy thing, they could cover up, however should not have to, especially during humid summers/weather. I am made uncomfy by it too but I just look away, in this case it's my problem/issue not the mothers'.

I don't know if this topic is truly appropriate for this group, but the situation IS driving me ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 21, 2019:

Honestly I don't know how people do it, being friends with religious and/or conservative people, but especially ones so vocal about it. If I had a friend that for example was sick and thanked god for healing her/him I think I'd cuss them off and be like ooh really?! Because my devout, god-fearing mother and granny both put their hands and lives in God's hands and died. So clearly you god is a biased sack of shit. I personally do not have the patience to be friends with anyone that reminds me of my fam members, but that is just me.

For your entertainment, today's old folks online dating site "flirt" winner.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 21, 2019:

This legit made me LOL. He's is relocating to your city is he? heh

In my online (dating site) profile I have stated what I hope to convey is polite caution.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 21, 2019:

You put it much nicer than I ever did! heh

When you show a friend (and I use that term loosely now) a photo of your new beau and she tells you ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 20, 2019:

ughh what s superficial c_ntbag. I had dumbass female fam members that prioritized looks and appearance over the person's morals, values, character, personality, etc. and they ended up with abusive fckers or shackled to someone completely incompatible with them and always fighting. I used to be this way as a teen and early 20s myself but I have realized that shared values and open and honest communication and compatible temperaments trump empty pretty boys any day. Your friend needs to grow the fck up, her adolescence is showing! :/

Now I have a table and small loveseat.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 20, 2019:

Perhaps make peace with not ever knowing? Easier said than done, I know! OR that you MAY one day know but may need to wait until your deathbed to know. My sis kicked me out at a really shitty time in my life too. I had a psycho ex causing drama which caused me to spiral into a depression I hadn't had in 2 years, with suicidal thoughts cropping up again. It was the first time I experienced dissociation. And her attitude was all meh I am done helping you now. tough shit you are dealing with this. we gotta move. get out. So I feel your pain in a sense. *hugs*

What is your idea of a good death?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 20, 2019:

I will disagree that one needs to live a long life. But rather, one should live a fulfilling life in which all their needs, as per Maslow's hierarchy, are met. And any (realistic) goals or desires or dreams or wishes of theirs are met. And a pain-free death would me ideal for me. Were it not for my aversion to pain and fear of vomitting I may not be here right now. heh xD Also, to have closure before one dies and sort out all one's affairs and say one's goodbyes or farewells and make ammends. For me, closure is important and I would probably right all my loved ones letters.

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demifeministgal comments on Mar 18, 2019:

Probably the most memorable would be the first time my ex got me off with his mouth without any help. That may seem like no big deal but it took a long time for that to happen for us/me. :)

is your dog Irish?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 18, 2019:

I think his breed may be part Irish. He's a wheaton terrier :)

This is my tattoo guy.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 14, 2019:

honestly the ear extenders are gross to me. :/

[cbc.ca] From sacred to secular: Canada set to lose 9,000 churches, warns national heritage group

demifeministgal comments on Mar 12, 2019:

oh sweet. I didn't know this was happening here. Frign awesome :D

Has anyone tried marijuana with low THC and higher CBD for depression and anxiety?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 12, 2019:

I have tried just CBD oil and it did not do shit for me. It was such a tiny little bottle and so bloody expensive and i tried even using more drops than recommended or directly on my tongue and no less anxiety. fck it :/ But I was told by a pharmacist it does not work for everyone and yay me it does not work for me. blah

Got time for that?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 12, 2019:

You can have him! I never saw the appeal of mamoa myself but soo many people in my life, male and female, love him. heh

I haven't done one of these for a while. Be still my heart.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 12, 2019:

Love the arms... but the chest needs to be less hairy and a bit less bulgy ;)

To answer some questions Kinktionary Roles Dominant A person who consensually takes ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 9, 2019:

I didn't know that princess one was a thing. :o It sounds pretty nice. :)

I turned 50 in October 2018.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 8, 2019:

I do not know how to do what you are doing. I was very LC when my own mother was dying and my sister ended up taking up the brunt of the chores and emotional and physical labour. My subconscious just would not allow me to do it would give me terrible nightmares night before I had to see her and make it impossible to sleep. What my sister did is not what I would recommend you do; she drowned her sorrows in booze and weed and other drugs. But, she was also in therapy at the time so maybe she used that too idk.

Idris Elba to replace Will Smith as Deadshot in Suicide Squad 2 [comicbook.com]

demifeministgal comments on Mar 8, 2019:

both are yummy in different ways ;)

I haven’t been very active in this group but I’m really struggling tonight.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 7, 2019:

If that works for you, that is fantastic! Unfortunately for others we believe the negative we were taught and any new negatives thrown our way and disregard or do not believe the positives. Gotta love negative reinforcements :/

Is being self-sufficient only rewarded in “winning” people?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 6, 2019:

I think you have bought in to the stereotype of all or most women loving the bad boy or asshole and I would challenge you to develop some self awareness or introspection about the types of women you are chasing. It reminds me of the men that whine about all women being gold diggers as they go out of their way to only date materialistic women who expect lavish lifestyles. heh

Question for the ladies: If you had 5 men, all meeting your personal physical prerequisites for ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 6, 2019:

Pros: intelligence (particularily about our shared society, politics, social science and hard sciences), empathy and caring about helping others, able to maintain an intelligent conversation, sense of self awareness cons: if he remotely resembles or talks like a conservative or libertarian blegh If he is a proponent of pseudo-science or New Age foolishness and swears by it If he's an edgelord and doesn't give a fck what he says to others, even hate speech If he cannot maintain an intelligent convo and it is like pulling teeth to try and get him to talk

I encourage clients not to define “having sex” as intercourse, since there are so many paths to ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 6, 2019:

yea the way we tend to think of and conceptualize sex is very heteronormative. Though I would not personally describe masturbation as "having sex". But to each their own

I still get these abusive messages all the time:

demifeministgal comments on Mar 6, 2019:

almost every single one of these things is currently done by my breeder (he's not much of a father, nor has he ever been much of one, just less crazy than my narc breeder, but a different kind of crazy nonetheless).

So I need some advice.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 6, 2019:

You may need to go NC or LC with your family of origin. I have read stories from people with narc mothers and flying monkey (aka enabler family members like fathers) that had to cut off their parents once they had kid(s) for the protection of the kid(s). It can be done, but of course it is a difficult decision to make to cut off one's family and essentially live life as an orphan. Not everyone is strong enough to do so.

I cross posted in an online dating group.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 6, 2019:

ughhh what a bloody man-child! He brings up cost, again, and then he plays that teenage BS card of trying to make you jealous saying he has all these other options. FCK THIS GUY! You deserve better than this and than him. Let him return the book at low-cost and after that I'd be done with him. I hope he got bronchitis from being a cheap man-whore and paid the wrong sex worker for it. As in she was sick and didn't give a fck about getting clients sick. heh

I wanted to share an update on my "Romantic Situation" here at agnostic since it is This Site that ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 6, 2019:

Got any wedding pics? ;)

If you're poor, would you date?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 5, 2019:

It depends on your area and the expectations of women in your area. If y'all have a good public transportation system and the women do not expect to be picked up and dropped off it can work. That's how I dated when a poor student nobody picked up nobody and we met at halfway points along the subway or bus line. However, if you live in rural America or in an area with underdeveloped or shitty transit systems, then you may be shit out of luck with your dating prospects unless she is willing to drive to you/your area.

Although I fully anticipated a return of depression following the huge fire that took my home and ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 5, 2019:

https://www.verywellhealth.com/grief-and-mourning-process-1132545

Although I fully anticipated a return of depression following the huge fire that took my home and ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 5, 2019:

There are articles about when you need to distinguish regular grief and complicated grief. Feel free to read up about it: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/complicated-grief/symptoms-causes/syc-20360374

Got Mardi Gras Hunks?

demifeministgal comments on Mar 5, 2019:

left one has waaay too much hair for my liking.... my generation was not socialized in the hairy chest man envt, though I know previous generations were. ;)

Bwahahahaha

demifeministgal comments on Mar 2, 2019:

seems kinda slut-shamey for a deviant group... but whatever floats y'alls boats

I finally made it into the Growth Zone this year, but I occasionally get kicked back to the Fear ...

demifeministgal comments on Mar 1, 2019:

:( :$

I'm absolutely posting this pic of Ricky White (American Gods) for the cute puppy in it.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 1, 2019:

OMGGGG cuuuuute diggy and cute guy! Be still my beating heart! ;D

i got a rejection email today for that job as a peer counselor i put in for.

demifeministgal comments on Mar 1, 2019:

The fact you drive your daughter to work and support her employment endeavours already makes you more valuable than many breeders or abusive "mothers" out there. Not only would my mother (or father) never have done that, but the former actively psychologically abused me in relation to jobs to the point I needed counselling to get over her toxic shit. You are a great parent and should be proud of that imo :D

dr thomas szasz. dr carl hart dr john breeding they will all tell you the truth. what is the truth?

demifeministgal comments on Feb 22, 2019:

Your scientific illiteracy, ignorance and confirmation bias (3 quacks out of millions of doctors... great research there... NOT) are noted. I guess all those people in pharmaceutical studies and pharmacology are wasting their time cuz 3 docs said so... pfffft

Woohoo! Beefcake. ??

demifeministgal comments on Feb 22, 2019:

whenever I see veins bulging like that it skeeves me out... the muscles are fine the bulging veins not so much ;)

I need 6,649 more points to hit LEVEL 7.Should I offer sex or continue posting amazing questions?

demifeministgal comments on Feb 14, 2019:

What happens at level 7, that you are offering the sex?! Is that the t-shirt level? o.O

What’s the worst break up you’ve had?

demifeministgal comments on Feb 14, 2019:

In terms of relationships and dating I have done the breaking up.... in terms of talking and going to date I would say a guy just ghosting or disappearing is annoying or a first date where a guy treated me like I had some contagious disease and kept a firm distance on the subway as we went home were the worst. I know it's not what you asked but still wanted to contribute something! heh

Help! I need advice.

demifeministgal comments on Feb 14, 2019:

To be clear, how do you KNOW he is such a great guy?? I have found that people can devise online personas where they are this awesome loving nice guy, but in reality, they are not the nice guy their persona would have you believe. Is it not possible that you have fallen for his online presence/persona and the idea you have of him as a person? Rather than the undoubtedly flawed human being (all humans are flawed) that he is? Food for thought @nixjoiner

Love at first sight

demifeministgal comments on Feb 14, 2019:

I would say it would be lust or attraction to another's endorphins or pheremones at first site. Love is so much more than that. First sighting you know nothing about the person so you love the idea of the person or the fantasy in your head of them, not the actual person.

Can you be a close friends with someone who once your lover?

demifeministgal comments on Feb 14, 2019:

I think it can be done but both parties MUST be open and honest with one another and with themselves... and I think if either party starts catching feelings they need to tell the other party and either take some space apart or break off said friendship. Not everyone is capable of being just friends with a former lover.

[motherjones.

demifeministgal comments on Feb 11, 2019:

Apparently kamala is supporting for profit prisons and is a real detriment to minority communities based on her track record. I think she is a better option than kamala by a long shot.

My husband and I were cleaning the house earlier because friends invited themselves over to watch ...

demifeministgal comments on Feb 5, 2019:

I've never known what that is like. I would treasure and cherish what I used to have as it has shaped and helped build who you are today more than you will ever know.

Spotted on reddit.

demifeministgal comments on Jan 31, 2019:

Wow what a fckng Cuntbag. She sounds like an entitled narcissist. Terrible lesson for the sister to have learned that she cannot trust her using sister. Honestly, sometimes family is worse than strangers and will stab you in the back worse than any stranger could. fck this bich. If she ever comes back asking for help this sister should give a firm NO. Fck off.