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Are Atheists racist
Coffeeman comments on Oct 22, 2019:
Most atheists are college educated white males. There are exceptions. No, atheists are not racist.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 23, 2019:
In America you mean?? And college educated white women are not as often atheists? :s
I am shocked, shocked I say, that the bible belt of Canada mainly voted for cons in the advanced ...
ToolGuy comments on Oct 16, 2019:
People vote values not self-interest.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 23, 2019:
@ToolGuy I've only ever heard of the authoritarian con parent(s) and annoyingly, had/have those ones myself :/
Today, the elderly retired pastor that mentors the church some of my family attend, invited me to ...
mongo1977 comments on Oct 15, 2019:
It might be educational to go back for a service. Six years away will give you a fresh perspective on the tactics they use to control people. The lies and fallacies will be obvious. It'll make you a more informed atheist.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 19, 2019:
@mongo1977 If you have any understanding of mental illness, you would know that that is a silly question to ask... nobody just "gets over" or "recovers" from mental illnesses by maturing.... mental health problems are just like any other physical health problem that require treatment(s). You wouldn't tell someone with an amputated limb that it will get better with some maturation, same thing with PTSD.
How tiny was it?
CheshireWarcat comments on Oct 18, 2019:
Every time I see a half brain dead woman making duck lips thinking it’s ‘cute’ I feel a great urge to punch her in the face. :/
demifeministgal replies on Oct 19, 2019:
truly the ultimate edge lord.... your family must be proud. XD
Mansplaining
TheMiddleWay comments on Oct 16, 2019:
Don't see the mansplaining tbh...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 18, 2019:
@TheMiddleWay Those that are mansplaining will rarely, unless you push them far enough ;) admit they are overexplaining or talking down to you BECAUSE you are a woman. Which is why you have to be good at reading body language and tone and pay attention to how they talk to you.... I mean if a guy does not tell me he is talking to me a given way because I am a woman, but in every reply calls me sweetie, honey, sweet cheeks, dear, etc. which he would NEVER do when talking to a man, he may be a misogynistic mansplainer.
Mansplaining
bigpawbullets comments on Oct 16, 2019:
Spicy food has no correlation with anything beyond personal taste.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 18, 2019:
@bigpawbullets Same here... it is so bad pepper can be overdoing it! XD But I will still eat mild salsa cuz the veggies in it are delicious XD
Mansplaining
BitFlipper comments on Oct 18, 2019:
I do my best not to man-splain. There is such a thing as woman-splaining but it's far less prevalent and more specialized.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 18, 2019:
I think it is because women are socialized differently, to this day, and a confident man who knows what he is talking about is viewed more favourably than a similar woman. One can be admired, the other can be labelled as a know-it-all or arrogant or worse. Humans are silly
I just need to vent.
demifeministgal comments on Oct 18, 2019:
why did you get the piglet?? :s Is this some farming community or town thing? Or are you a vet/vet tech and took him home to care for him? :s
demifeministgal replies on Oct 18, 2019:
@Plainjane ahh okay... well may they both get better soon :)
I just need to vent.
demifeministgal comments on Oct 18, 2019:
why did you get the piglet?? :s Is this some farming community or town thing? Or are you a vet/vet tech and took him home to care for him? :s
demifeministgal replies on Oct 18, 2019:
@Plainjane oh I see. I cannot relate being a happy city slicker myself ;) Well hopefully he can get weaned soon and your son can help out more since his dental surgery is over... that post dental surgery phase of not eating solids is a pain in the butt I wish him well for that!
I’ve been feeling crippling loneliness lately.
BitFlipper comments on Oct 18, 2019:
Message me any time. I've been suffering from crippling anxiety for the last 2 days. It comes and goes.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 18, 2019:
@Marcie1974 That sounds like a them problem, not a you problem... as in you are a great friend and person and they are lousy, piss poor friends. Don't beat yourself up over being a good person.... It's hard finding the right people to invest time and energy into I keep finding that out the hard way. blegh :/ If only there was a simpler way to detect if someone was a ride or die type of friend.
95% of baby foods tested contain toxic metals, new report says
demifeministgal comments on Oct 18, 2019:
Okay but are those amounts in safe amounts? Because you would be surprised how much metals are in things like fish (mercury) and other foods you'd consider natural/organic. This reminds me of the fear people have regarding the toxins in vaccines, not knowing that the tiny amounts are safe for human ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 18, 2019:
Here is an informational article about mercury for example: https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/mercury-in-tuna#contamination
Brown face on PM stirs up controversy.
demifeministgal comments on Sep 19, 2019:
I am worried this is going to divide the liberal vote and usher in another CON government... the cons seem to have the mentality of vote conservative NO MATTER WHAT and so if the other parties are divided the cons will win again ffs. And yes what he did was fckd up and inexcusable and not a mistake ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
@graceylou I am a registration officer. :) Yea I plan on bringing many snacks/food and hopefully drinks... gotta ask my CPS whenever she decides to call -_- if the location has a fridge and microwave. Thanks
Brown face on PM stirs up controversy.
demifeministgal comments on Sep 19, 2019:
I am worried this is going to divide the liberal vote and usher in another CON government... the cons seem to have the mentality of vote conservative NO MATTER WHAT and so if the other parties are divided the cons will win again ffs. And yes what he did was fckd up and inexcusable and not a mistake ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
@graceylou I voted already as well after my training on monday... It is my first time working an election... any tips/advice you can provide for a newbie like me? :$
Today, the elderly retired pastor that mentors the church some of my family attend, invited me to ...
mongo1977 comments on Oct 15, 2019:
It might be educational to go back for a service. Six years away will give you a fresh perspective on the tactics they use to control people. The lies and fallacies will be obvious. It'll make you a more informed atheist.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
@mongo1977 No it literally requires therapy and/or medication... go tell army vets with PTSD that all they need is some emotional maturity and see what that gets you.... why must the ignorant like you talk out of their asses an chance you get?! -_-
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demifeministgal comments on Oct 9, 2019:
How did you come across such a shitty channel? Do you watch many parenting or family style youtube videos? Or was this recommended to you out of the blue? :s
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
@vjohnson51 IS dateline the show with chris hansen? Or someone else?
What are the TOP 5 ‘must have’ qualities that your potential partner MUST have before you would ...
demifeministgal comments on Oct 7, 2019:
Must be HONEST, trustworthy, intelligent, someone that can have intellectual/deep convos and someone that shares my values (ie non-religious, emapathetic/humanstic, liberal or left leaning, only believes in science and not woo or spiritual BS, doesn't want kids, etc.) :)
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
@Sealybobo I had that option with men (self proclaimed models tried to get me to date them) but a pretty face/body is not good enough.... if I was in the hookup culture or had a high sex drive and slept with or was sexually attracted to any handsome person, that would work. But I am none of those things and part of the bonding to another person, for me, is intellectual conversations :)
I am shocked, shocked I say, that the bible belt of Canada mainly voted for cons in the advanced ...
ToolGuy comments on Oct 16, 2019:
People vote values not self-interest.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
@ToolGuy yes they do tend to overemphasize/value money and profits... to the point that they do not realize they are not the rich class, so doing so is against their own well-being and they are nothing like, nor will they most likely never be, part of the 1% or CEOs of corporations/conglomerates. Idiots :/
I was just reminded of a story I have to tell.
AzVixen52 comments on Oct 16, 2019:
This was funny. I don't know if it's true, but some are taking it waaay too seriously!! Oy vey.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
@Heidi68 I made a joke today, even wrote "that's the joke" right afterwards and a guy got butthurt that I was making generalizations about men and shame on me for calling myself a feminist and I am the reason stubborn MRAs exist.... fckng hell XD So even if you explained, someone would get butthurt
I was just reminded of a story I have to tell.
AzVixen52 comments on Oct 16, 2019:
This was funny. I don't know if it's true, but some are taking it waaay too seriously!! Oy vey.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
I think anything can be analyzed, even jokes/comedy.... knowing that this was a joke I still analyzed it for the guy that was offended by it. ;)
Hi all im strughling just now i dont know how to get myswlf back on track.
girlwithsmiles comments on Oct 14, 2019:
It sounds like you’re seeking help, talk to your GP as soon as possible, if you’re not on fast track. It can take a while for referrals to happen. Mind and the samaritans can be useful in the mean time. https://www.mind.org.uk/ https://www.samaritans.org/ very best wishes and feel free to ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
@Residualspirit ah I see. I have family and friends like that... who will suffer through headaches and migraines and avoid taking tylenol or advil or aspirin for relief. I don't know how y'all do it! I have such a low pain tolerance level I wouldn't be able to do it. Y'all are way stronger than I ever was XD
The Science of How Our Minds and Our Bodies Converge in the Healing of Trauma
citronella comments on Oct 17, 2019:
I read the article but I still don't understand: what do my feelings about my body/my connection with my body have to do with my ability to make decisions? This article seems to make the claim that connection with one's body is essential to have control over one's acts. That doesn't make sense to...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
I wonder if they are referring to psychosomatization and how one's feelings, even towards one's body, can manifest into physical symptoms (ie eating disorders, addictions/substance abuse, stress, headaches, appetite problems, tense muscles, etc.). I learned about it in a psychology university course but I kept finding articles about somatization disorders >:/ But here is an explanatory link: http://wellbeingcenter.co/article.php?Psychosomatization-Mind-Body-Connection-5
Very many of us talk about the negativity in the media, in the public conversation such as it is, in...
Freedompath comments on Oct 16, 2019:
Nice idea, and in my everyday interactions with people I try and do just that, but the other half of my life is left to wonder when this president can be removed from ‘the people’s house,’ ...the police shootings of ‘blow joe/jane,’ because the officers are scared...thousands of people ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
@Freedompath I have recently heard the same assessment as you have mentioned... that training is very poorly done and cops are trained to shoot first and ask questions later and the whole system needs to be revamped.
Take the U.
DZhukovin comments on Oct 16, 2019:
This is ridiculous. Who fucking cares about these meaningless details about what secular people do or not? There is no way that this survey is meant for anything remotely intelligent. You know why surveys get so stupid, Julie? It's because most of them have stupid multiple choice options, and ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
@TheMiddleWay well social science research adheres to different research standards than the hard sciences do... so there is no control group needed in social science research. However I agree with your other critiques... the researchers should probably have used a professional market research company that tracks IP addresses or emails and only allows a person to do one survey and to be over 18. As for lying, that can happen in any research based on ideologies, because how do we prove what ideology a person has, short of reading their minds? Hell national census bureau data can all be false as much of it relies on self-reporting and in the hopes the person is being honest.
I am shocked, shocked I say, that the bible belt of Canada mainly voted for cons in the advanced ...
RoyMillar comments on Oct 16, 2019:
How would you know this info,are not those ballots also counted on voting day not ahead
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
@Lilac-Jade okay then this must be research based, not based on counting ballots but on surveying people and hoping they answered truthfully, who already voted.
I am shocked, shocked I say, that the bible belt of Canada mainly voted for cons in the advanced ...
ToolGuy comments on Oct 16, 2019:
People vote values not self-interest.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 17, 2019:
But cons have terrible values... too many say they would vote con no matter what the con candidate did... what kind of shitty value is that? Voting for your team no matter what? must be religious :/ -_-
I was just reminded of a story I have to tell.
St-Sinner comments on Oct 16, 2019:
I will hand fair justice only if I know both sides of the story. I am very fair. 1. We do not know his side yet 2. We do not know if he was caring and trying to give a helpful feedback 3. It is possible that he loved her and wanted her to be healthy, also look better 4. His weight of 175 lbs is ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@St-Sinner Is that the only type of story that needs to be taken with a grain of salt? Or does it work in reverse too? "A story reported by a woman criticizing a man must be taken with a grain of salt" I suppose just the opportunity to vent and share... although this is not a story... it is odd the OP would phrase it as such... it is a widely shared JOKE. I see it happen with men often on other social media or dating sites... to an obsessive extent of an entire profile being dedicated to criticizing women EN MASSE, and not just limited to the ONE woman in question, and having no personal details... like literally an online dating profile dedicated to lecturing and advising women how to act and date around men, but no details of themselves... unless the lecture is meant to act as an indirect sort of detail? Idk
I was just reminded of a story I have to tell.
St-Sinner comments on Oct 16, 2019:
I will hand fair justice only if I know both sides of the story. I am very fair. 1. We do not know his side yet 2. We do not know if he was caring and trying to give a helpful feedback 3. It is possible that he loved her and wanted her to be healthy, also look better 4. His weight of 175 lbs is ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@St-Sinner I am going based of what he said and he phrased things terribly... that much I know. If you care about someone and their feelings, as one should when dating someone, you can convey your concerns or worries in a tactful and respectful manner. And that phrase "you could stand to lose a few pounds" has it been rooted in having access to health records? :s Or is it purely based on appearances?
Posing with my shirt!! Thanks!
Redheadedgammy comments on Oct 13, 2019:
You look great! Did you get a pen too?
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@IrishTxJudy googles agnostic socks >.>
I was just reminded of a story I have to tell.
St-Sinner comments on Oct 16, 2019:
I will hand fair justice only if I know both sides of the story. I am very fair. 1. We do not know his side yet 2. We do not know if he was caring and trying to give a helpful feedback 3. It is possible that he loved her and wanted her to be healthy, also look better 4. His weight of 175 lbs is ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
wait, if he is doing it out of a place of caring, rather than sexual attraction, then he would not care IF she genuinely only could lose a few pounds. Also why phrase it as a problem? His communication style is crap if he ACTUALLY Genuinely cared about her weight from a health perspective... and even then, he is not a doctor. There are many overweight people that are healthy and in better shape than even slim people. His criticism seems purely shallow and not actually caring.
Very many of us talk about the negativity in the media, in the public conversation such as it is, in...
Happy_Killbot comments on Oct 15, 2019:
This is the most prosperous and most peaceful time in human history. There are more obese people than starving people, and everyone lives longer healthier lives. We have all but eliminated all major diseases, and as it currently stands the only things that pose a threat to us is ourselves and cosmic...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@Happy_Killbot okay then. Sounds good.
I am shocked, shocked I say, that the bible belt of Canada mainly voted for cons in the advanced ...
RoyMillar comments on Oct 16, 2019:
How would you know this info,are not those ballots also counted on voting day not ahead
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@RoyMillar If by your area you mean Ontario, then we have the same closing... if by your area you meant Trenton, then never mind! XD
Very many of us talk about the negativity in the media, in the public conversation such as it is, in...
Happy_Killbot comments on Oct 15, 2019:
This is the most prosperous and most peaceful time in human history. There are more obese people than starving people, and everyone lives longer healthier lives. We have all but eliminated all major diseases, and as it currently stands the only things that pose a threat to us is ourselves and cosmic...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@Happy_Killbot okay then they were contained? What word would you use?
Mansplaining
TheMiddleWay comments on Oct 16, 2019:
Don't see the mansplaining tbh...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
spelled Mcbain wrong XD
Mansplaining
TheMiddleWay comments on Oct 16, 2019:
Don't see the mansplaining tbh...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@MarkiusMahamius My attitude that doctors are smarter than you (and me)? hmm mmkay. Quite the ego ya got there. XD
My hip hurts when I lie down. It's going to be a very long night.
lookinhard comments on Oct 16, 2019:
tylenol and pot....it works for me so....?
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@Infoguy211 then best to keep away from CBD/THC as it can stay in the body for up to 6 months I think.
Mansplaining
TheMiddleWay comments on Oct 16, 2019:
Don't see the mansplaining tbh...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@MarkiusMahamius ooh sweetie I could not have made it more painfully obvious that I was joking if I slapped you in the face with a clown.... if you are feeling triggered by my joke, kindly move along to someone else's comment snowflake... LOL your condescension about me not knowing about adults is absurd.... do you honestly think that extra year of life has given you some extra knowledge? Or, have you lied about your age to try and trap the naive younger women to talking to you?? what is your modus operandi here dude? And MRAs are sexists/misogynists with a persecution complex, many of whom are also racist and homophobic to boot... you seriously want to equate the two while seemingly knowing nothing about either? That is your choice to make.
Mansplaining
MarkiusMahamius comments on Oct 16, 2019:
how is this mansplaining? it sounds like a pretty typical human interaction (like another poster said, people always think what works for them, might work for you). I thought the cultural idiom about mansplaining included interrupting, unsolicited advice, and minimizing of the female ability to ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@MarkiusMahamius definitely not know it alls, but way more knowledgeable about healthcare and treatments than you will ever be as a mere plebian... but I do not know doctors outside of medical practice... people my age bracket would not be doctors YET, but studying for it still. Also, a woman cannot be a mansplainer as it is a gendered term/concept, but can be obnoxious know-it-alls.
Ideally, should religious people be:
paul1967 comments on Oct 15, 2019:
I wouldn't stand for any policy that limits the right of religious people any more than I would stand for rights that gave religious people greater privileges. As it stands right now, religious people have a privileged status.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@Geoffrey51 don't forget straight and cisgendered... Murica is doing a heck of a lot trying to deny rights to LGBQ+ and trans people. :/ SHAME
Ideally, should religious people be:
Burner comments on Oct 15, 2019:
Ignored if theyre actively being religious, treated like everyone else if theyre not
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@Triphid OR the ones in public transportation terminals.... when I was travelling through Buffalo there was a whole bunch of religious proselytizers... it was annoying because I HAD to take the bus.... I am so "blessed" that proselytizers are not allowed on public transit in my part of Canada :D
Mansplaining
TheMiddleWay comments on Oct 16, 2019:
Don't see the mansplaining tbh...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
Men never do :p Mcbain voice *that's the joke*
Mansplaining
MarkiusMahamius comments on Oct 16, 2019:
how is this mansplaining? it sounds like a pretty typical human interaction (like another poster said, people always think what works for them, might work for you). I thought the cultural idiom about mansplaining included interrupting, unsolicited advice, and minimizing of the female ability to ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
I think the first two she classified as mansplaining and the doctor, obviously a medical professional, is not a mansplainer. I could be wrong though. :$
Take the U.
DZhukovin comments on Oct 16, 2019:
This is ridiculous. Who fucking cares about these meaningless details about what secular people do or not? There is no way that this survey is meant for anything remotely intelligent. You know why surveys get so stupid, Julie? It's because most of them have stupid multiple choice options, and ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
These types of surveys are conducted about religious people, so why not non-believers too? :S What's the harm in doing this type of research? And if you haven't read the research methodology or analysis or (null) hypothesis, why conclude it is dumb research?
I am shocked, shocked I say, that the bible belt of Canada mainly voted for cons in the advanced ...
RoyMillar comments on Oct 16, 2019:
How would you know this info,are not those ballots also counted on voting day not ahead
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
I got the information from the article and the organization Mainstreet Research Poll... I do not know when advanced ballots are counted :S
Today, the elderly retired pastor that mentors the church some of my family attend, invited me to ...
mongo1977 comments on Oct 15, 2019:
It might be educational to go back for a service. Six years away will give you a fresh perspective on the tactics they use to control people. The lies and fallacies will be obvious. It'll make you a more informed atheist.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@mongo1977 OR, if he has not dealt with or overcome the trauma yet, your advice will cause him to be needlessly triggered for no reason.... if you have never been triggered in your life, you do not know how debilitating or harmful it can be to your mental and physical health.
Very many of us talk about the negativity in the media, in the public conversation such as it is, in...
Freedompath comments on Oct 16, 2019:
Nice idea, and in my everyday interactions with people I try and do just that, but the other half of my life is left to wonder when this president can be removed from ‘the people’s house,’ ...the police shootings of ‘blow joe/jane,’ because the officers are scared...thousands of people ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
I don't think those trigger happy cops are actually scared.... I think that is a defense that is over used by cops and their buddy judges/prosecuters and others that work in the criminal "justice" system just take it as a legitimate defense. I think racial biases/stereotypes or outright racism causes such shootings.
Very many of us talk about the negativity in the media, in the public conversation such as it is, in...
Happy_Killbot comments on Oct 15, 2019:
This is the most prosperous and most peaceful time in human history. There are more obese people than starving people, and everyone lives longer healthier lives. We have all but eliminated all major diseases, and as it currently stands the only things that pose a threat to us is ourselves and cosmic...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
Don't forget diseases that were once controlled are making comebacks in the USA because of anti-vaxxers :/
Very many of us talk about the negativity in the media, in the public conversation such as it is, in...
bleurowz comments on Oct 15, 2019:
I think they tried to produce a TV news show once that only had good news. Then they pulled it off the air for low viewership. Sad. No, seriously.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@bleurowz someone posted this in the comments... perhaps the show just changed into an online format? https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/
My hip hurts when I lie down. It's going to be a very long night.
lookinhard comments on Oct 16, 2019:
tylenol and pot....it works for me so....?
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@Infoguy211 do they do random drug testing in your industry??! :o
Today would have been my Dad's 75th birthday. He died almost 8 years ago. Today sucks.
HippieChick58 comments on Oct 16, 2019:
I am envious that you miss your dad. I'm thankful mine is gone and that I moved far away from him where he could never hurt me or my children. I have very few good memories of my dad, but way too many WTF ones that I have finally allowed myself to remember. Celebrate your dad's life and the good ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
ditto with my female parental unit and whenever someone apologizes for her death I say that's okay, thank you.... but if society let me I would say the world is a better place and better off now that she is dead... but that mother as a saint myth continues to this day :( I also moved away from mine and went NC and then LC when she was dying of cancer... also have too few good memories. It's nice to talk to people that understand where I am coming from :)
Today would have been my Dad's 75th birthday. He died almost 8 years ago. Today sucks.
Freedompath comments on Oct 16, 2019:
I am so sorry...it is a dirty little trick of life, we must learn to carry the grief of our lost love ones. I just wish it didn’t happen in my old age! But, is there ever a good time...I think not! 😘
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
Trust me when I tell you, carrying the grief of lost loved ones at a young age, is not any easier either.... may even be harder what with trying to navigate the rest of life and other health issues. :( :$
Hi all im strughling just now i dont know how to get myswlf back on track.
girlwithsmiles comments on Oct 14, 2019:
It sounds like you’re seeking help, talk to your GP as soon as possible, if you’re not on fast track. It can take a while for referrals to happen. Mind and the samaritans can be useful in the mean time. https://www.mind.org.uk/ https://www.samaritans.org/ very best wishes and feel free to ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 16, 2019:
@Residualspirit ooh... for me I do a cost benefit analysis and never expect to take pharmaceuticals with no side effects.... so if they are helping with one major health problem and cause some side effects, I see if what they are helping is worth the side effects. The first one I tried gave me limited help and almost all the side effects... so it was pretty much a useless pain... then another one gave other somewhat serious side effects but again was limited help.... now the ones I am on have very minimal side effects and are helping. But, it sounds like your MDD may be one of those hard to treat ones or medication resistant kind.... I wonder if one day prescribing med according to one's biological markers (and they do test for such things nowadays) will improve the situation. Good luck in your journey and remember to practise self-care and compassion when the worst of it has passed. :)
Hi all im strughling just now i dont know how to get myswlf back on track.
girlwithsmiles comments on Oct 14, 2019:
It sounds like you’re seeking help, talk to your GP as soon as possible, if you’re not on fast track. It can take a while for referrals to happen. Mind and the samaritans can be useful in the mean time. https://www.mind.org.uk/ https://www.samaritans.org/ very best wishes and feel free to ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 15, 2019:
@Residualspirit ahh okay... sometimes it takes finding the right fit for your body to get the right medication.... I am not sure if you tried various pills or it was one and done... but if it was just one I think it is worth trying a different kind to make life easier to manage. But it is up to you.
I haven't felt a woman close to me in so long.
MissKathleen comments on Oct 14, 2019:
What are all y’all doing to meet women? Get out and DO something, dammit.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 15, 2019:
@ToolGuy ooh okay... well if you limit yourself to non believers in your town your prospects will be narrower and from a shallower pool.... good luck to you still.
What are the TOP 5 ‘must have’ qualities that your potential partner MUST have before you would ...
demifeministgal comments on Oct 7, 2019:
Must be HONEST, trustworthy, intelligent, someone that can have intellectual/deep convos and someone that shares my values (ie non-religious, emapathetic/humanstic, liberal or left leaning, only believes in science and not woo or spiritual BS, doesn't want kids, etc.) :)
demifeministgal replies on Oct 15, 2019:
@Sealybobo well I have had relationships with people I just got along with, but over time realized I needed more... maybe you are okay with dating simpletons but I no longer am. :) no skin off your back though, so no worries.
I haven't felt a woman close to me in so long.
MissKathleen comments on Oct 14, 2019:
What are all y’all doing to meet women? Get out and DO something, dammit.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 15, 2019:
@ToolGuy https://www.meetup.com/topics/senior-singles-get-together/
I haven't felt a woman close to me in so long.
MissKathleen comments on Oct 14, 2019:
What are all y’all doing to meet women? Get out and DO something, dammit.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 15, 2019:
@ToolGuy ahh that's the problem... the meetup site actually has single or dating groups and they host events dedicated specifically to dating... there are even groups catered to ages such as 50+ crowd.... at least in toronto... if you are willing to drive a bit you may find these meetups handy/beneficial ;)
Article below on what advertisements look like when women are replaced with men.
codycody comments on Oct 14, 2019:
how is this objectification?
demifeministgal replies on Oct 15, 2019:
@codycody The reply was meant in regards to what @photoelectric said:"I have more pressing issues in my life"
Article below on what advertisements look like when women are replaced with men.
codycody comments on Oct 14, 2019:
how is this objectification?
demifeministgal replies on Oct 15, 2019:
@photoelectric people can care about more than one issue at a time... in fact we can care about severe and more seemingly minor issues simultaneously... you should try it one day... I also have more pressing issues in my life than objectification yet it bothers me in addition to other things. Imagine that! :o And just so you know, #notallmen is a thing.
I haven't felt a woman close to me in so long.
BitFlipper comments on Oct 14, 2019:
Even the faint scent left by shampoo.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 15, 2019:
@BitFlipper Indeed I was just making light of your specific comment ;)
Hi all im strughling just now i dont know how to get myswlf back on track.
girlwithsmiles comments on Oct 14, 2019:
It sounds like you’re seeking help, talk to your GP as soon as possible, if you’re not on fast track. It can take a while for referrals to happen. Mind and the samaritans can be useful in the mean time. https://www.mind.org.uk/ https://www.samaritans.org/ very best wishes and feel free to ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 15, 2019:
@Residualspirit Are you not allowed to take one day off or even half a day to go to the doctor.... trust me it's a good investment in yourself to allot minimal time to see a doctor.
I haven't felt a woman close to me in so long.
MissKathleen comments on Oct 14, 2019:
What are all y’all doing to meet women? Get out and DO something, dammit.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 14, 2019:
@ToolGuy wait... is that a meetup hosted by plenty of f*ish? Or a meetup hosted by the meetup site? :S
Do you background check online dates prior to meeting in person?
Cutiebeauty comments on Oct 12, 2019:
I see no harm in it.. I checked out my current bf through my local police precinct.. They okayed him.. 😊
demifeministgal replies on Oct 14, 2019:
@Cutiebeauty do local precincts in the USA offer that service free of charge? :S
Hi Online Dating people, I just got a message from admin saying that I am now host of this group ...
MarkiusMahamius comments on Oct 13, 2019:
This group used to be the ProudMerrie sycophant club, its been awhile, so if the group now has enough other content to be self sustaining, thats awesome.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 14, 2019:
has ProudMerrie left the group or left agnostic.com?
I haven't felt a woman close to me in so long.
MissKathleen comments on Oct 14, 2019:
What are all y’all doing to meet women? Get out and DO something, dammit.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 14, 2019:
@ToolGuy well online dating is like wading threw sewage to find a pearl but one can join an activity group or go to single events that are hosted on meetup.
I haven't felt a woman close to me in so long.
BitFlipper comments on Oct 14, 2019:
Even the faint scent left by shampoo.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 14, 2019:
Just buy some fruity or female smelling shampoo to solve that issue ;)
Do you background check online dates prior to meeting in person?
Cast1es comments on Oct 12, 2019:
World wide , sex trafficing is raking in more income , than the vast majority of our biggest ligitimate companies combined . Sex trafficers aren't going to wait until the 6th date , before abducting someone . I'd strongly recommend checking out who a person is , before a meet AND if the photo on the...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 12, 2019:
I think she is in the clear as data shows those sex traffickers target kids, teens and young women... sex traffickers tend not to, if they ever do, hunt for middle aged or senior women.
Do you background check online dates prior to meeting in person?
Cutiebeauty comments on Oct 12, 2019:
I see no harm in it.. I checked out my current bf through my local police precinct.. They okayed him.. 😊
demifeministgal replies on Oct 12, 2019:
@Cutiebeauty Most people cannot afford attorneys to do that for them the cost alone would be ridiculous... so they need cost efficient options.
Do you background check online dates prior to meeting in person?
273kelvin comments on Oct 12, 2019:
I always invite any potential date to check out my FB page to show that I am legit
demifeministgal replies on Oct 12, 2019:
@273kelvin Not necessarily... I am very active online but I do not use my real name (have not since high school thanks to a deranged stalker) and so, were people to look me up online, they'd see no media presence. Just my university background and high school sports participation and a linkedin. Nothing to be suspicious of, if you know the reasons why people try to remain anonymous online.
I had a first meet with a new guy yesterday.
demifeministgal comments on Oct 12, 2019:
The ex thing would be a problem for me personally, I don't think I'd do well at open relationships XD And the PDA thing wouldn't matter either way unless he was averse to hand holding and pushed me away if I tried to hug him goodbye. I don't think I'd pursue it.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 12, 2019:
@moonmaid Well there was no time limit on the question, so I answered regardless of the outcome ;)
Dating sites.
MsAl comments on Oct 10, 2019:
I didnt really like the Facebook one. I got excited about it when it came out. I didn't like how you couldn't just see the profiles without declining or liking each one first. I like to think on it for a minute before I make a move or pass them up. It did inspire me to make a POF profile. Lots of ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 12, 2019:
DO IT! The more silly posts we share and get off of our chests, the better :D
This sounds alot like online dating. [businessinsider.com]
BitFlipper comments on Oct 11, 2019:
It looks like the women tended to react to the arachnid aspect of this story, rather than the mad-scramble-for-mates aspect.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 12, 2019:
Do not expect for someone with a phobia to react to the man scramble for mates aspect when a goddam filthy bug/insect is featured... blegh... aka that is why I reacted the way I did.
My Agnostic shirt finally arrived! (Bonus view with smile included!) EDIT: for those who want to ...
demifeministgal comments on Oct 10, 2019:
showoff... the lot of ya.... next time show your teeth in a smile pic ;) :p
demifeministgal replies on Oct 12, 2019:
@Paul4747 nah not natural or unnatural but learned or a trait of some spectrum disorder perhaps... I say this as someone who from childhood to adulthood despised smiling with my teeth and then started doing so in adult years more and more and learned to like it... as a kid some family members teased me with my smile (I was trying to replicate cartoons and make my top and bottom teeth align perfectly when smiling) and took it to mean I had an ugly toothy smile so stopped doing so for a looong time.
My Agnostic shirt finally arrived! (Bonus view with smile included!) EDIT: for those who want to ...
demifeministgal comments on Oct 10, 2019:
showoff... the lot of ya.... next time show your teeth in a smile pic ;) :p
demifeministgal replies on Oct 10, 2019:
@Triphid well it is only a sign of aggression when they do it a certain way... humans can present their teeth in an aggressive manner too... though we don't need to as our frowns convey enough.
If I am generally sick of North American narcissistic personality disorder as a national ...
SiouxcitySue comments on Oct 9, 2019:
This is very confusing. Although I have noticed a shift in the way young women present themselves, it appears that the young men are somewhat comfortable with that. As a woman who helped crack the glass ceiling in IT, back when it was called data processing, I am proud of my personal ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 10, 2019:
@SiouxcitySue I think we do a disservice to genuine trauma and water down that term if we use it for simple things such as being rejected by a potential date.... I am not one to give men that sound like sexists the benefit of the doubt though, so there's also that. It is a good thing you do not know what they are.... incels: a portmanteau of "involuntary celibates", are members of an online subculture[1][2] who define themselves as unable to find a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one, a state they describe as inceldom.[3] Discussions in incel forums are often characterized by resentment, misogyny,[4] misanthropy,[1] self-pity,[5] self-loathing,[6] racism,[4] a sense of entitlement to sex, and the endorsement of violence against sexually active people.[4][7][8][9][10] The American nonprofit Southern Poverty Law Center described the subculture as "part of the online male supremacist ecosystem" that is included in their list of hate groups.[11][12] At least four mass murders, resulting in 45 deaths, have been committed in North America by men who have either self-identified as incels or who had mentioned incel-related names and writings in their private writings or Internet postings. Incel communities have been criticized by the media and researchers for being misogynistic, encouraging violence, spreading extremist views, and radicalizing their members
I am extremely depressed.
demifeministgal comments on Oct 6, 2019:
If this is a family member, as hard as it may be, I would recommend going low contact or no contact with them... if that is not possible (due to living circumstances or financial dependency) then I would recommend using the gre rock technique... if it is a romantic partner I would seriously consider...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 10, 2019:
GREY** stupid site won't let me edit -_-
If I am generally sick of North American narcissistic personality disorder as a national ...
SiouxcitySue comments on Oct 9, 2019:
This is very confusing. Although I have noticed a shift in the way young women present themselves, it appears that the young men are somewhat comfortable with that. As a woman who helped crack the glass ceiling in IT, back when it was called data processing, I am proud of my personal ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 10, 2019:
@SiouxcitySue hell his situations did not even have to be traumatic but could have hurt his pride or he could have been rejected or mocked repeatedly by western women, which has lead to the bitterness... incels are a prime example of the latter phenomenon.
If I am generally sick of North American narcissistic personality disorder as a national ...
Marcie1974 comments on Oct 9, 2019:
“Women are the new men” So basically you’re saying women are treating men the way that men have been treating women??? So basically it’s ok for men to treat women poorly but not the other way around?
demifeministgal replies on Oct 10, 2019:
@St-Sinner LOL men barred women from contributing in wars (as soldiers/combatants) until very recently, women have helped build the world too, in fact the majority of unpaid labour to this day is done by women, men have STOLEN contributions to science and technology made by women or failed to mention a woman's contributions at all, and women have been great mother's, daughters, sisters, wives all while putting up with violent and/or condescending men our entire existence. But tell me and the others, just what RIGHTS are you being denied solely for being a man.... because all those thing you listed are not men being denied rights... so consult someone smarter than yourself who can help you understand what human rights are and then get back to us.
If I am generally sick of North American narcissistic personality disorder as a national ...
Marcie1974 comments on Oct 9, 2019:
“Women are the new men” So basically you’re saying women are treating men the way that men have been treating women??? So basically it’s ok for men to treat women poorly but not the other way around?
demifeministgal replies on Oct 9, 2019:
@St-Sinner that is the common misconception... you would not be giving them up, you would be SHARING them, it would be a truly meritocratic dynamic.... but some people suck at sharing and feel it means they are losing something... selfish :/
If I am generally sick of North American narcissistic personality disorder as a national ...
RonWilliam53 comments on Oct 9, 2019:
Trying to parse this. Are you saying women are becoming less nurturing and family-oriented (ie. more traditional man-like)? If you look at women as the traditional "lubricant" that allowed society to function-nest makers, situation de-fusers, family-focused allowing men to go "hunt" for success and ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 9, 2019:
It is not even about being non-traditional... young people in cities literally cannot survive on one income anymore. So being career-oriented is a matter of survival in a capitalistic society, where wages have not kept up with inflation and rising costs.
What are the TOP 5 ‘must have’ qualities that your potential partner MUST have before you would ...
1of5 comments on Oct 4, 2019:
That they don't have a list of "must haves".
demifeministgal replies on Oct 9, 2019:
@1of5 Kirby is 5 years old... and he started off as a little brown and black furball and grew into a creamy white adult... that is common for wheaten terriers so it's like having two doggies from puppyhood to adulthood ;) <3
After a solo retreat in a cabin in the woods off the grid, I have decided to not date right now.
AnneWimsey comments on Oct 8, 2019:
Just sayin', you don't need another person to "take care of yourneeds" now & then. Nobody knows you like You!
demifeministgal replies on Oct 9, 2019:
yea but not all intimacy is sex... it is pretty much impossible to cuddle with myself and even trying to get my giant teddy bear to cuddle with didn't work... so a human is needed for that.... also I imagine a robot would not be worth the investment just to cuddle/snuggle with ;) :p
[yahoo.com] Matt Lauer is accused of sexual assault in Ronan Farrow's new book.
AnneWimsey comments on Oct 9, 2019:
Facts? Charges filed? Seems odd a book would be the first place to find this out.........
demifeministgal replies on Oct 9, 2019:
Sexual assault/rape is one of the most underreported crimes out there... not surprising that there are no charges filed.
I suppose that after 14 years of being off and on dating sites and receiving many inappropriate ...
bobwjr comments on Oct 4, 2019:
And the guys who don't act like that get ignored trust me on that as many guys here can testify to
demifeministgal replies on Oct 8, 2019:
not true... many genuine decent guys do not get ignored... do not confuse and conflate douhcebagness with confidence now.
What are the TOP 5 ‘must have’ qualities that your potential partner MUST have before you would ...
1of5 comments on Oct 4, 2019:
That they don't have a list of "must haves".
demifeministgal replies on Oct 8, 2019:
@1of5 oh wow he looks so much like Kirby (soft coated wheaten terrier) in the pic you have up right now... I thought he was a labradoodle cuz those look very similar to wheatens :)
Reason 542 it sometimes sucks to be female. [bbc.co.uk]
bobwjr comments on Oct 6, 2019:
Why it's hard for nice guys to find good women most have been run over by these jerks
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
@larsatrg no need for hyperbole now... actually the safest approach is not putting the burden onto women and having women limit their actions... it is to educate and socialize boys into healthier models of masculinity and to teach them proper social skills and emotional intelligence so they will never feel the urge to, or even consider, taking courses from PUA scumbags. I would not say men are pigs, but the ones mentioned in the article definitely are, with the exception of the author, he's a gem and great ally. :)
Reason 542 it sometimes sucks to be female. [bbc.co.uk]
bobwjr comments on Oct 6, 2019:
Why it's hard for nice guys to find good women most have been run over by these jerks
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
@larsatrg I think our life experiences will just be different... I wager that I have encountered waaaay more fake Nice Guys in my life than you ever have.... and so our outlook will be different... you have the privilege of giving such guys the benefit of the doubt, whereas me doing so can lead to being in an abusive relationship.... meh that is life I guess. :/
Reason 542 it sometimes sucks to be female. [bbc.co.uk]
bobwjr comments on Oct 6, 2019:
Why it's hard for nice guys to find good women most have been run over by these jerks
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
@larsatrg the whole point of my comment was many self-proclaimed Nice Guys are not actually nice and provided the article as an example... then you agreed with me that those self-proclaimed guys are not nice so we are in agreement, but you are writing me paragraphs for some reason :s
What are the TOP 5 ‘must have’ qualities that your potential partner MUST have before you would ...
1of5 comments on Oct 4, 2019:
That they don't have a list of "must haves".
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
@1of5 what breed is he?
Reason 542 it sometimes sucks to be female. [bbc.co.uk]
bobwjr comments on Oct 6, 2019:
Why it's hard for nice guys to find good women most have been run over by these jerks
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
@larsatrg except there is not a sad pathetic trend of women complaining about how men never want the nice girl and how the nice girl gets stuck in the friendzone... there are not mainstream psychology websites or media articles or even research dedicated to the nice girl phenomenon as there is to the nice guy trope. So not the same thing AT ALL. Comparing apples with oranges there mate.
What are the TOP 5 ‘must have’ qualities that your potential partner MUST have before you would ...
TristanNuvo comments on Oct 4, 2019:
My 20 year old self, and my now 50ish self would disagree on what I look for. Well even my 30, and 40 yo selves would as well. I think at my age the one thing I really look for is stimulation. I don't just mean looks, although that has a tad to do with it. but I mean conversation, interests, sense...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
IT does and it is a version of the halo effect, the more one gets to know someone and likes the person the more attractive they become in your eyes. :)
What are the TOP 5 ‘must have’ qualities that your potential partner MUST have before you would ...
1of5 comments on Oct 4, 2019:
That they don't have a list of "must haves".
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
your doggie is super cute in his/her agnostic shirt :D
What are the TOP 5 ‘must have’ qualities that your potential partner MUST have before you would ...
JimG comments on Oct 4, 2019:
*Intelligent (not just very in depth knowledge of one subject) *Strong willed (not stubborn but confident). * Non-prejudiced (My first requirement should cover this, but it deserves its own spot.) *Rational (Not a believer, not spitlritual, no homeopathy, healing crystals, Himalayan salt ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
I like your definition of rational, but I wonder if all of those would fall under a person with good critical thinking skills.
Reason 542 it sometimes sucks to be female. [bbc.co.uk]
bobwjr comments on Oct 6, 2019:
Why it's hard for nice guys to find good women most have been run over by these jerks
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
Except that most self-proclaimed Nice Guys are not even actually nice guys... and maybe if they actually were nice guys they would not be single/rejected. https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/nice-guy-syndrome-dating-tactics-persona-men-women-relationships-a7476651.html
Completing a nagging chore is deeply rewarding. How about you?
Cutiebeauty comments on Oct 6, 2019:
Nagging chore? What is that? Things need doing.. it make sense to take care of business...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
you must enjoy chores and do em right away rather than procrastinate.... hence this post won't make sense to you and people like you (my sister comes to mind, always keeping busy always doing chores).
Completing a nagging chore is deeply rewarding. How about you?
ToolGuy comments on Oct 6, 2019:
One of the four important hierarchies in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Power which actually means a sense of accomplishment and achievement. NOT control over others.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
Soo are you placing completing one's mudane chores in the self-actualization section of the pyramid? Because there is no level of the pyramid which mentions power, I double checked to make sure.
For all of us that have built harmful or useless patterns or survival coping mechanisms.
Magister comments on Sep 8, 2019:
One should never forget that coping mechanisms usually have a valid basis for their existence and care needs to be exercised, if they are dismantled completely, lest it leaves one vulnerable to whatever these coping strategies were initially established to protect one from. It should always be ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
@Magister jeeesus christ dude so basically I would have put a disclaimer for you that: this meme only applies to those that have successfully identified and changed the motives that lead them into such toxic relationships and for those that are fairly sure no threats will present themselves anymore..... It is a brief meme and you are expecting WAYY too much nuanced introductions and explanations for it.... when the meme clearly stated THAT ARE NO LONGER SERVING YOU-- which to me and others implies that people have "successfully identified and changed the motives that lead them into such toxic relationships and for those that are fairly sure no threats will present themselves anymore" If anyone has an agenda here it is you and your over explanations on something I and others here know via first hand experience is annoying, unnecessary and stating the obvious.... but whatever helps your ego trip, mansplain on sir.
I am literally about to lose my cookies.
demifeministgal comments on Oct 6, 2019:
For crying out loud you live in bible belt Murica.... the amount of pushback and oppression LGTBQ+ still face in America, ESPECIALLY the bible belt, is disgusting and the reason some may speak out is to fight back in a sense or voice their existence/pride in an envt that would have them committed, ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 7, 2019:
@Bobsuruncle why do you need empathy for being straight? Does society overall discriminate against you? Are you denied any rights or opportunities for being straight? No and no. So what exactly should we be empathizing with besides your annoyance to listening to others sharing their gender or sexual orientation with you?
Hypothetically, how does someone who is not an expert in a field differentiate from "real science" ...
demifeministgal comments on Oct 4, 2019:
You read the methodology section and see which statistical methods they used and see if it seems legit... some research is of better calibre than others... but people are bloody lazy and skim texts instead of reading things in their entirety.... intellectually lazy people suck :p
demifeministgal replies on Oct 6, 2019:
@CrazyQuilter You are probably right... even if the social sciences at my university we had to take statistics courses... as did the hard sciences and business students.... so I'd hope it is not very few people but rather, only some people.
For all of us that have built harmful or useless patterns or survival coping mechanisms.
Magister comments on Sep 8, 2019:
One should never forget that coping mechanisms usually have a valid basis for their existence and care needs to be exercised, if they are dismantled completely, lest it leaves one vulnerable to whatever these coping strategies were initially established to protect one from. It should always be ...
demifeministgal replies on Oct 6, 2019:
@Magister And to live life continuously using said coping mechanisms just in case a threat comes back or reappears is often not healthy either.
Sex robots are here, but laws aren’t keeping up with the ethical and privacy issues they raise.
BitFlipper comments on Oct 4, 2019:
It may become my last option, unless I can pull off some miracle and find a human female partner. I'm still looking for that breathing, perspiring, clutching, messing-up-the-bed partner.
demifeministgal replies on Oct 4, 2019:
@St-Sinner that lists sounds more of an indication of the type of woman you are attracted to and drawn to than it does prove robot women are superior to real women... your picker is off mate be more picky!

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